#46 Non-monogamy FAQ

Aaaand just like that, we're wrapped (in leopard print). This has been a wild few years, and we're so grateful to have had you along for the ride. In this episode, we discuss the end of the W***e Rapport era, where we were versus where we are, and the problem with pumpkin spice. Ta-ta for now. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

It's about time for an update! We haven't disappeared, we're coming back, and things are changing.  This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

In our third and final episode in this series, we answer some questions including: how can sex heal when I think the problem is that we’re not having enough sex; does the cultural pressure around sex make the process of sexual healing harder to work through; and, can sex help heal the pain from cheating? As usual, these listener questions provided texture and depth to the discussion.  Song featured: Sexual Healing by Ben Harper & The Innocent Criminals Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

For part two we’re joined by our brilliant friend Caroline, an intimacy coach who works with clients to explore topics such as embodiment, desire, dating, attachment, boundaries, inner-child work, and pleasure. We discuss sexual healing as a practice, and its varying modalities; the inherent, and culturally imposed limitations of these practices; the value of vulnerability in a coach-client dynamic; and the far-reaching power of connection. To book a session with Caroline go to: shadowdanceintimacycoaching.as.me/schedule.php Follow her at https://www.instagram.com/shadowdanceintimacy/ Song featured: Righteously by Anna Ash Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

We’re kicking off another three part series! In this episode we begin by discussing the nature and breadth of sexual healing, as well as the ways in which we’ve come to understand it. We venture slightly into the relationship between trauma and healing, and we delve more deeply into the power of sex as a growth and healing modality. There’s much to explore with this topic, and we’re just getting started. Song featured: Ayo Technology - Live with Orchestra by Milow Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

We’ve danced around this one, even discussed it explicitly once or twice, but we all know it deserved its own episode. This is a conversation about a culturally imposed lens that has done nothing but distort and obscure. Over the course of this conversation we discuss: the ways in which Freud’s madonna-w***e complex has tainted our views of modern sexuality and relationships; why so many women struggle with the notion of “having it all,” and what to do about it. Song we tried to feature: Positions by Ariana Grande Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

In this episode we talk about talking. Specifically, we discuss the nature and importance of discernment; the ways in which communication styles can vary relationship to relationship and person to person; and what happens when these styles don’t blend well, and things break down. Not surprisingly, we have a lot to say about the things we say. Song featured: Goddamn by Deva Mahal Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

We could have titled this episode “sexual dysfunction,” but we don’t believe in ghosts. This is a discussion about the ways in which we perceive and address so-called dysfunction, as it pertains to sexuality. Over the course of this basement conversation we explore the cultural impact of the wellness industry; the ways in which social media perpetuates shame; some root causes of sexual dysregulation; and tennis, sort of.  Song featured: Fire for You by Cannons Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

Welcome to the kiosk, aka part three of our first ever series, dedicated to the topic of ethical non-monogamy. We’re back to answer literally all of your questions, even the ones you didn’t know you had. This final part in the series addresses frequently asked questions and covers topics including: fear, trust, three-way dynamics, and whether or not non-monogamy is easier than monogamy. Spoiler alert: it’s not. Song featured: 3 by Britney Spears Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com

Welcome to part two of our first ever series, dedicated to the topic of ethical non-monogamy. In this one we continue with your thoughtful questions, and cover a range of topics including: jealousy and imagination; the ways in which polarity can play into our dynamics, and the true (neutral) nature of power, privilege, and equality; judginess; as well as what non-monogamy can potentially teach us about other relationships. We really “succame” to this one. Song featured: In The Middle by dodie Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: instagram.com/erinleighgs Anya: instagram.com/anya.kaats Email Us: [email protected] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit whorerapport.substack.com