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Age is just a number until you’re staring at a messy room, staying up way too late, and wondering when exactly you were supposed to outgrow all of this. This week, Jaci and Chelsey are reading listener submissions about the things we’re officially too old for. Some probably should’ve ended after college, while others are a little more niche, like overly sweet beverage concoctions. The Valley girl latte doesn’t count, obviously. Last minute plans and overused words like “slay” are also up for debate. Growing older may be inevitable, but growing out of your favorite little habits is apparently optional. Tune in to see what listeners said they're moving on from!!!! TIMECODES !!!CATCH UP: 0:08THINGS WE’RE TOO OLD FOR: 29:00// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Labcorp: Visit OnDemand.Labcorp.com/whatwesaid and use code “whatwesaid” to save up to 15% on select tests.Storyworth: Save up to $20 during Storyworth’s Holiday sale when you go to storyworth.com/whatwesaid! göt2be: Be slick with the göt2b Wax Stick! Visit got2b.us for more information.Anthropolgie: Shop must have holiday gifts at Anthropologie. https://www.anthropologie.com/all-gifts NOCD: If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/WHATWESAID. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

This week on the What We Said Podcast, Jaci and Chelsey are joined by Lauren and Chanler, the sisters behind The Pop Apologists Podcast. There’s so much that goes into recording a podcast with someone as close as your sibling or best friend, and with experience in both dynamics, the duos discuss what to consider before getting behind the mic with your closest girl. After all, disagreements about contracts or cover art are bound to happen. Lauren and Chanler also share their perspective on dating later in life than the Valley girls did before weighing in on listener submissions of “Who’s in the Right?” How should you approach venting about relationship issues with friends or coworkers, if it’s even appropriate at all? Do brides have dominion over their guests’ bodies before the wedding? Tune in for sisterly insight on these questions, and many more!!!! TIMECODES !!!NYC CATCH UP: 0:08POP APOLOGISTS: 19:52WHO'S IN THE RIGHT: 56:41// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Skims: Shop our favorites at www.skims.com/whatwesaid. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/WHATWESAID. Rocket Money: Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at rocketmoney.com/WHATWESAID. Salt & Stone: Try Salt and Stone’s discovery set to find your signature scent — Go to saltandstone.com/WHATWESAID and use code WHATWESAID at checkout for 15% off your first order.Warby Parker: Our listeners can buy one pair of glasses and get 20% off any additional pairs at WarbyParker.com/WHATWESAID — and using our link helps support the show. #WarbyParker #adLabcorp: Visit OnDemand.Labcorp.com/whatwesaid and use code “whatwesaid” to save up to 15% on select tests.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

 It wouldn’t officially be November without a new advice column! This week, Jaci and Chelsey are helping a listener whose husband saw a woman on the street, thought she was the most beautiful woman in the world, and DMed her just to confirm it, plus someone struggling to find the right mental health diagnosis and a first time mom in the depths of the newborn phase. There’s plenty more advice where that came from, so grab a cozy drink and let the girls talk you through it.!!! TIMECODES !!!CATCH UP: 0:08ADVICE: 25:01// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Sofie Pavit: Visit sofiepaviface.com and use code whatwesaid for 20% off your first purchase.Osea: Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code whatwesaid at OSEAMalibu.com.Nello: Right now, What We Said listeners can get 20% off their first order, and when you subscribe, the savings stack for up to 40% off. Head to DrinkNello.com/WHATWESAID and use code WHATWESAID. Ladder: Remove the guesswork with Ladder, and get a real coach in your ear telling you exactly what to do for every workout - no thinking, everything planned for you. If you have an iPhone, head to ladder.fit/WHATWESAID and take a quick quiz to find your perfect Ladder plan. Use my link and get a free 7-day trial with NO credit card, and $10 off your first month if you join.Anthropolgie: Shop must have holiday gifts at Anthropologie. https://www.anthropologie.com/all-gifts Lola Blankets: Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code WHATWESAID at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with Lola Blankets. Labcorp: Visit OnDemand.Labcorp.com/whatwesaid and use code “whatwesaid” to save up to 15% on select tests.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Celebrity crushes, Chelsey going blonde, twins, and H3 drama. That’s all before we even get into the main topic of today’s episode: HR nightmares. Kind of like what Ethan is going through, in a way. Listeners submitted their worst workplace stories involving the most universally lame department of them all. We’ve got raunchy audiobooks playing over a Bluetooth speaker in the office, wildly personal questions about surgeries, and coworkers hooking up in very risky places. These HR managers are breaking the very laws they swore to enforce. Who do you report HR to when HR is the problem?// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Tini Younger, Today We Are Cooking: Learn More and purchase here: hps://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/813472/today-we-are-cooking----by-tini-younger/?pdivflag=&ref=PRHC4A74B1BE579&aid=21 948&linkid=PRHC4A74B1BE579 Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch, squarespace.com/WHATWESAID to save 10% off your first purchase of a website or domain.Butcher Box: As an exclusive offer, new listeners can get their choice between chicken breast or top sirloin for a year OR ground beef for life, PLUS $20 off when you go to ButcherBox.com/whatwesaid. Chewy: Right now you can save $20 on your first order and get free shipping by going to chewy.com/whatwesaid.Betterhelp: Visit BetterHelp.com/WHATWESAID today to get 10% off your first month.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Chester and Jasper are back, funnier, better, and with more hair than ever. After a night out on the town, the boys sit down for a quick chat before Chester ties the knot with his lady, Cathy. However, the sins of last night come back to haunt them, leaving the big day in jeopardy. Things get even scarier with the segment you’ve been waiting for all October: scariest stories. Listeners submitted their most horrifying memories, including Ubers from the cemetery, mysterious phone calls from ghosts, and haunted classrooms. You’ve been warned, this episode has Halloween horror written all over it. Listen at your own peril!!!! TIMECODES !!!CHESTER & JASPER: 0:08GET SPOOKED: 21:14// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //göt2be: Be slick with the göt2b Wax Stick! Visit got2b.us for more information.Skims: Shop our favorites at www.skims.com/whatwesaid. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.Sofie Pavit: Visit sofiepaviface.com and use code whatwesaid for 20% off your first purchase.Old Navy: Shop jeans at oldnavy.comPerplexity Computer: Start your free trial of Perplexity Computer today at PPLX.ai/https://pplx.ai/whatwesaid and experience the next phase of AI. #adPlease note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to another episode of What We Said with special guests Noel Fielding and Alison Hammond, or at least Jaci and Chelsey dressed as them! This Halloween episode starts with an ode to one of the girls’ favorite comfort shows, The Great British Bake Off, before Jaci serves up a full recap of the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show. From the surprise Kylie Jenner appearance to Tate McRae’s performance, her incredible seats, and all the celebrities she rubbed shoulders with, the entire night was a total showstopper. Then it’s time for a little “Trick or Treat,” where the girls decide which Halloween and fall trends are perfectly baked and which ones need to go straight in the bin. Expect hot takes, seasonal debates, and absolutely no soggy bottoms. On your marks, get set, listen!// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Sofie Pavit: Visit sofiepaviface.com and use code whatwesaid for 20% off your first purchase.Ritual: Save 25% on your first month at Ritual.com/WHATWESAID. Nello: Right now, What We Said listeners can get 20% off their first order, and when you subscribe, the savings stack for up to 40% off. Head to DrinkNello.com/WHATWESAID and use code WHATWESAID. Labcorp: Visit OnDemand.Labcorp.com/whatwesaid and use code “whatwesaid” to save up to 15% on select tests.Old Navy: Shop jeans at oldnavy.comLadder: Remove the guesswork with Ladder, and get a real coach in your ear telling you exactly what to do for every workout - no thinking, everything planned for you. If you have an iPhone, head to ladder.fit/WHATWESAID and take a quick quiz to find your perfect Ladder plan. Use my link and get a free 7-day trial with NO credit card, and $10 off your first month if you join.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

New month, new what? That’s right, new favorites! Fall is the focus of this episode, with cozy recipes and book recommendations perfect for the season. Jaci and Chelsey also share the lip and facial products they’ve been loving lately, plus some Dancing with the Stars talk for good measure. There’s something to cover all your bases if you’ve been itching to switch up your routine this October. If you have something you can’t live without lately, let us know! We just might mention it when November rolls around.// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Thrive Market: Use our link ThriveMarket.com/whatwesaid to get $30 off your first two orders. You cannot get this deal on the website—it’s only through our link. That right there covers your membership fee, so sign up now before this exclusive offer ends. Salt & Stone: Try Salt and Stone’s discovery set to find your signature scent — Go to saltandstone.com/WHATWESAID and use code WHATWESAID at checkout for 15% off your first order.Old Navy: Shop jeans at oldnavy.comWhatNot: Download the Whatnot app today and get free shipping on your first order. Just search Whatnot in the app store and start scoring amazing deals.NOCD: If you're struggling with OCD or unrelenting intrusive thoughts, NOCD can help. Book a free 15 minute call to get started: https://learn.nocd.com/WHATWESAID. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

An all time favorite here at the What We Said Podcast, Jaci and Chelsey are back with more ghosting stories. Every story was submitted by listeners like YOU, and in a shocking turn of events for 2026, the Valley girls are just as guilty as the men! They’re reading about ghosting guys even when there was a spark and leaving them wondering where they went wrong, even when the excuse was a literal medical emergency. An out of town trip accidentally ends in a shared hotel room (which sounds like the start of a fun romcom) but actually ends in abrupt silence. There’s also a cheating man left stranded and waiting for a bus. Some of these disappearances were deserved and others were outright brutal, but they’re all equally scary when you’re the one left on read.!!! TIMECODES !!!CATCH UP: 0:08GHOSTING: 26:44// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Old Navy: Shop jeans at oldnavy.comQuince: Go to quince.com/whatwesaid for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Sam Edelman: Visit us at samedelman.com to explore everything you need for fall and get 15% off with code WHATWESAID15. Squarespace: Go to Squarespace.com for a free trial, and when you’re ready to launch, squarespace.com/WHATWESAID to save 50% off your first purchase of a website or domain.DripDrop: Go to dripdrop.com and use promo code WHATWESAID for 20% off your first order.Rocket Money: Let Rocket Money help you reach your financial goals faster. Join at rocketmoney.com/WHATWESAID. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you know Jaci and Chelsey, you know one of their favorite activities is cozying up to watch an episode of Catfished. This week, you can join them as they read never before shared stories from people who thought they knew who they were talking to, only to realize they’d been getting punked the entire time, sometimes for YEARS. There’s an innocent mother living out her Mamma Mia! dreams, only to have them crushed when she arrives in Europe. Snapchat friends turn into identity theft enemies, Facetune fueling a fake Instagram profile, and many more. Trust no one, reverse image search everything, and please FaceTime before booking the flight ladies.// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Old Navy: Shop jeans at oldnavy.comSam Edelman: Visit us at samedelman.com to explore everything you need for fall and get 15% off with code WHATWESAID15. Nello: Right now, What We Said listeners can get 20% off their first order, and when you subscribe, the savings stack for up to 40% off. Head to DrinkNello.com/WHATWESAID and use code WHATWESAID. Ladder: Remove the guesswork with Ladder, and get a real coach in your ear telling you exactly what to do for every workout - no thinking, everything planned for you. If you have an iPhone, head to ladder.fit/WHATWESAID and take a quick quiz to find your perfect Ladder plan. Use my link and get a free 7-day trial with NO credit card, and $10 off your first month if you join.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jaci and Chelsey kick things off with a recap of Jaci’s trip to Yosemite, followed by Chelsey’s latest Diamondbacks game and how hard it’s been to be an Arizona sports fan lately. The conversation then takes a serious turn as they discuss the tragic situation at Cornell University, where a group of fraternity brothers altered a young woman’s life forever. The girls reflect on what needs to change about the way we’re raising boys and the importance of holding all men accountable.If you know Jaci and Chelsey, you know one of their favorite activities is cozying up to watch an episode of Catfished. This week, you can join them as they read never before shared stories from people who thought they knew who they were talking to, only to realize they’d been getting punked the entire time, sometimes for YEARS. There’s an innocent mother living out her Mamma Mia! dreams, only to have them crushed when she arrives in Europe. Snapchat friends turn into identity theft enemies, and Facetune fuels fake Instagram profiles. Trust no one, reverse image search everything, and please FaceTime before booking the flight.// WHAT WE ARE WEARING/MENTIONING // https://shopmy.us/shop/whatwesaidpodcast SHOP OUR MERCH: https://shop.dearmedia.com/collections/what-we-said !!! FOLLOW US !!!INSTA: @WHATWESAID, @JACIMARIESMITH, @CHELSEYJADECURTISTIKTOK: @CHELSEYJADECURTIS, @JACIMARIESMITHYOUTUBE: WATCH WHAT WE SAID, CHELSEY JADE, JACI MARIE// SPONSORS //Labcorp: Visit OnDemand.Labcorp.com/whatwesaid and use code “whatwesaid” to save up to 15% on select tests.Osea: Get 10% off your first order sitewide with code whatwesaid at OSEAMalibu.com.Butcher Box: As an exclusive offer, new listeners can get their choice between chicken breast or top sirloin for a year OR ground beef for life, PLUS $20 off when you go to ButcherBox.com/whatwesaid. Square: Get up to $200 off Square hardware when you sign up at square.com/go/WHATWESAID. Skims: Shop our favorites at www.skims.com/whatwesaid. After you place your order, be sure to let them know we sent you! Select "podcast" in the survey and be sure to select our show in the dropdown menu that follows.Cash App: Download Cash App Today: https://click.cash.app/ui6m/livjpll3 #CashAppPod. Cash App is a financial services platform, not a bank. Banking services provided by Cash App’s bank partner(s). Prepaid debit cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC. Cash App Visa® Debit Flex Cards issued by Sutton Bank, Member FDIC, and The Bancorp Bank, N.A., pursuant to a license from Visa U.S.A. Inc. See terms and conditions for the Sutton prepaid card, Sutton debit flex card, and Bancorp debit flex card. Cash App Green features, Savings, Direct deposit, Round ups, Overdraft coverage and Discounts provided by Cash App, a Block, Inc. brand. Visit cash.app/legal/podcast for full disclosures.Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct or indirect financial interest in products or services referred to in this episode.Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.