237: How to Stop Negotiating on Yourself

You already know what you said you were going to do. So why does your brain suddenly have 47 very convincing reasons not to do it? For overachievers, inconsistency often isn't a discipline problem. It's what happens in those tiny moments when we start negotiating with ourselves. We think about whether we should start tomorrow, whether today is too busy, whether we need to feel more motivated first, and before we know it, we've talked ourselves right out of the action that would move us forward. In this episode, I'm breaking down why negotiating is so normal, how it quietly drains your mental energy, and the skill that can help you follow through even when part of your brain would really rather not.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/237 Get the Body Reset Mini Course: burnstressloseweight.com/bodyreset

What if the scale froze today and never moved again? Would you still want to eat, move, sleep, and take care of yourself the way you are right now? For overachievers, it's easy to bring transactional energy into our health goals. We follow the plan, put in the effort, and expect the scale to pay us back. And when it doesn't happen on our timeline, resentment, frustration, and "why bother?" can quickly creep in. In this episode, I'm exploring what happens when we stop keeping score with our bodies and start paying attention to a different kind of return. The kind that may never show up on a scale, spreadsheet, or tracker, but can completely change the way you experience taking care of yourself.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/236 Get the Body Reset Mini Course: burnstressloseweight.com/bodyreset

What if time isn't actually the reason you haven't reached your goal? As high-achieving women, it's easy to believe that we simply need more time, a calmer season, or fewer responsibilities before we can finally follow through. But in this episode, I'm challenging that idea and sharing a clip from a recent coaching call inside The Unstoppable Group about what actually creates results. We're talking about the difference between letting time pass and intentionally putting in high-quality reps, especially on the days when you don't feel motivated, excited, or perfectly on track. If you've ever told yourself, "I'll start tomorrow," this episode might change the way you think about your timeline entirely.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/235

The TEDx talk is officially done. After months of preparing, rehearsing, getting rejected, trying again, and thinking about those 12 minutes on the Red Circle, I expected to wake up afterward feeling completely different. But that's not exactly what happened. In this bonus episode, I'm sharing what surprised me most on the other side of accomplishing an "impossible" goal, including the patterns that showed up right before I stepped on stage, what helped me stop performing and start connecting, and why the biggest transformation often happens long before anyone else can see it. We're also talking about the people and environments we surround ourselves with, and how much they can shape what we believe is possible for us. Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/234 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress

This is the final chapter of my TEDx story before I step onto the stage, and this time, I'm not telling it from the other side. I'm recording it in real time, just days before the talk, while the nerves, perfectionism, and overthinking are very much alive. In this episode, I'm sharing what surprised me about getting close to a big goal, why success can sometimes make our stress patterns louder instead of quieter, and the shift that's helping me stay grounded as the red circle gets closer. Because sometimes the hardest part isn't starting. It's letting yourself arrive. Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/233 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress  

This week, I'm sharing part three of my TEDx journey, and the part that I believe matters most when you're going after a big goal: what happens when you get rejected. As an overachiever, rejection can feel like so much more than a simple "no." It can quickly turn into questioning whether you're good enough or whether the goal was ever meant for you in the first place. In this episode, I'm sharing what my TEDx rejections brought up for me, how my 60-pound weight loss journey prepared me for these moments, and the skill I believe every overachiever needs if they want to create a bigger life. Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/232 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress

This episode starts with a surprising realization: making the decision to chase a big dream isn't actually the hardest part. The real challenge begins after the excitement fades. In part two of my TEDx journey, I'm sharing the mindset shift that helped me move forward when motivation disappeared, and why this lesson changed not just my TEDx experience, but my weight loss journey too. If you've ever wondered why you procrastinate on the goals that matter most, or found yourself waiting to "feel motivated" before taking action, this episode will help you see those moments in an entirely new way.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/231 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress

A few years ago, I had a dream that felt way too big, and I almost talked myself out of it before I ever took the first step. In this episode, I'm sharing a milestone I've been waiting months to announce and the mindset shift that finally helped me stop dismissing my own dreams. This is the first episode in a four-part series that takes you behind the scenes of my TEDx journey. If you've ever had an idea that excited you only to immediately convince yourself it probably wasn't for you, this episode is for you.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/230 Take the Stress Quiz: https://burnstressloseweight.com/stress

We're wrapping up the six-part summer series with the mindset pattern I see most often in the smartest women I work with: wanting to feel completely certain and in control before you take action. It sounds responsible. It even feels productive. But if you've ever spun through every "what if" scenario, you already know what this really is: a time machine that takes you out of the only moment you can actually control, which is right now. In this final bite-sized episode, I'm sharing the exact process I use to get myself out of the loop.   Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/229 Loving the series? A big announcement is coming to my email list first: http://burnstressloseweight.com/email

If you've ever made a plan on Sunday and thought, "But what if I don't feel like eating that way by Thursday?" and then quietly made no plan at all, this one is for you, friend. In Part 5 of the Success Mindset summer series, I dig into the mindset that keeps so many of us overachievers stuck: the fear of feeling boxed in, and the way that fear quietly hands your most important decisions to the most depleted version of you. Here's the uncomfortable truth underneath it. The freedom you think you're protecting by "staying flexible" is the very thing draining your time, your energy, and your results. This is a short and sweet episode with a concept that gave me hours of my life back, and it reaches far past the plate. Resources:  Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.burnstressloseweight.com/228 Loving the series? A big announcement is coming to my email list first: http://burnstressloseweight.com/email