When Talking About Sex is Difficult as a Couple | Ep. 172

Many women I talk to struggle enjoying physical touch during sex. They don’t know their experience can be any other way so they continue trying to enjoy things they don’t like and then label themselves as “non-sexual”. In our conversation, my husband and I discuss:• why so many women push themselves to initiate or say yes even when their body is clearly uncomfortable • why discomfort is so often normalized through culture, media, and silence • the real fears women carry about speaking up and the consequences they’re trying to avoid • why this can feel shocking or confusing for men when the truth finally comes outIf having a closer, more connected and joyful sex life is something you want in your relationship, this episode is an important one to listen to.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

In today’s episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most important elements of moving towards freedom in your relationship and that is…a reset from sex.It’s something that you may have heard many times on the podcast in interviews with alumni of Doing It Together but it’s the first time I’ve addressed it directly.If you are tired of the mental energy sex is taking up in your life right now, I highly encourage you to listen to this conversation.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Today on the podcast I recorded a short and sweet solo episode for you but really it’s a love-letter to my former self. Anxiety (just a different term for “fear”) is telling you something and if you are feeling it around sex, there is something to learn. And I promise you, it’s not that you are broken and that nothing will ever work. I used to believe that too but that thought will only keep you stuck.Listen and trust yourself and please, please, please get some support for this. It’s not going to change on it’s own.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Since we’re headed into a time of the year where there may be some extra space as a couple, I thought it would be a good idea to talk about expectations around sex and special occasions. I know this happens more often with birthdays and vacations but it’s possible that in the lull between Christmas and New Years some pressure could creep in.In this short episode, we discuss why this happens, the harm it can cause and what to do instead. Plus we talk about what gifts husbands should never get their wives 🙂.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

The idea that men are so simple to please and women are a difficult maze of sensitive knobs and dials, often leaves female pleasure forgotten about.But what if something else was happening? What if our culture has only taught men and women about men’s bodies and pleasure? What if women’s genitals and orgasms felt impossibly difficult because we are all trying to approach them like men’s? This is what we discussed on the podcast this week- sharing openly our current challenges with my partner learning my body as well as the common feeling amongst women that we don’t work properly or that we’re broken.And to make it practical, we also included some basic concepts to understand when approaching the clitoris.We didn’t hold anything back in this 30 minute episode and I hope you can find a quiet, private moment to join the conversation.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna and her husband discuss the ins and outs of talking about sex as a couple- why so many people struggle with it, their personal challenges with communication, and what they're currently experimenting with to try to improve.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

It’s been a dream of mine to be able to chat with my daughter on the podcast and get her take on some of the concepts we discuss here.In this episode, we touch on what she is learning in her class about consent and rape culture, her take on what’s happening in teen relationships, and a bit of advice for parents thinking about teaching consent to their own kids.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Over the last 8 years Janna has specialized in helping women with low libido, she frequently hears them share about how difficult it is to talk with their husbands about personal hygiene.“My husband always has bad breath.”“I wish he would shave before coming to bed.”“Is it too much to ask to wear clean boxers?”In this episode, Janna and her husband, Dwayne, discuss the trends she's been seeing, the cultural messages that impact this topic, his experience as a pre-teen learning about personal care, his current routine, and advice for talking to your husband about this.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

If you’ve ever felt emotionally disconnected during sex, you’re not alone. Janna and her husband Dwayne talk through the common reasons this can happen (for both men and women), how to recognize when you’re feeling out of sync, how to share that with your partner, and the steps you can take to make those moments feel more connected more often.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.

Janna shares a major life update with her listeners and introduces a very special guest.In early October, she married her new partner, Dwayne. Together, Janna and Dwayne openly and courageously reflect on the past few years — including Janna’s divorce, how they met, and what sparked their connection.They also give listeners a candid look into their intimate life and explain how the principles of Doing It Together have shaped their relationship from the very beginning.Sign up for Janna's brand new workshop on Jan. 15. Your Desire Blueprint: 3 Steps to a Sex Life You Actually Want (Even if That Means None)Learn about the Doing It Together program. Next round runs Feb./Mar. 2026.Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration. Learn more and join here.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.