How to Talk About Sex Without Fighting: She Found Her Voice, He Learned to Listen - with Carrie and Ryan | Ep. 208

What really happens when couples commit to eight weeks of Doing It Together?At the end of every round, Janna brings the couples together for a farewell call and asks one simple but powerful question: What surprised you most about your journey?In this episode, you’ll hear directly from couples who just completed the program. They share what they discovered about themselves, their partners, and their relationships—including the things they didn’t expect to uncover along the way. Their honest stories offer a glimpse into what can happen when couples get curious, challenge old patterns, and learn new ways of connecting.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

On today’s podcast episode I’m offering the audio version of my popular free class, "The Truth About Women’s Libido: Why Everything You’ve Tried Hasn’t Worked and What To Do Instead." Listen to understand the steps required to co-create a sex life that both partners can look forward to.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Talking about sex can be hard—especially when you’re worried that saying what you really want will hurt your partner’s feelings or start an argument. In this episode, Janna talks with Carrie and Ryan about the communication patterns that kept them stuck for years and what finally helped Carrie find her voice and Ryan learn to listen without reacting.After 32 years together, they’re learning how to talk openly about sex, needs, and intimacy in their marriage. They share what it takes to speak honestly, listen with curiosity, and create a safer, more connected relationship where both partners can be heard.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Motherhood, changing family dynamics, and midlife transitions can change much more than your daily routine—they can change your identity, your marriage, and your sexual desire. In this conversation, Janna and Mindy talk about the enormous transition into motherhood, what happens when your kids need you less, and why becoming an “empty nester” doesn’t automatically mean you’re ready for more sex.They also explore how to figure out what you actually want after years of taking care of everyone else, and why your intimate life doesn’t have to stay the same forever. Instead of forcing yourself to want the sex you think you’re supposed to want, you can learn how to create a sex life that changes and grows with you.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

When Ben asked his wife of 31 years how often she actually wanted to have sex, her answer — “almost never” — completely shocked him.In this conversation, Ben shares what he couldn’t see before Doing It Together, what happened when he chose curiosity over defensiveness, and how he’s learning to create a more mutually enjoyable intimate life with his wife. It’s an honest conversation about good intentions, unexpected blind spots, and what can happen when both partners are willing to keep learning.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

In this episode, Sara shares the powerful journey of realizing that much of what she believed she was supposed to want sexually wasn’t actually what she wanted. She opens up about feeling inadequate, questioning what was wrong with her, and the relief that came from learning to recognize a “no” in her own body.Sara and Janna also explore what changed in her relationship when they took intercourse off the table, including the surprising ways their connection shifted outside the bedroom. At the heart of her story is a simple but profound realization: “It feels so much lighter in here. Like the relationship is so much lighter.”Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

Katie spent years believing her sex life was good enough, until she began questioning how much she was actually enjoying it and how much she was simply tolerating. In this conversation, she shares how marriage, children, menopause, and cultural messages gradually disconnected her from her own desires.Katie and Janna explore why so many couples follow a formula for sex instead of discovering what genuinely feels good to both people. Katie shares how learning that she was allowed to have preferences changed the way she communicates with her husband and transformed her approach to intimacy.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

What if your anger isn't the problem—but a sign that something finally makes sense? In this episode, Janna sits down with Renee to explore the surprising emotion that surfaced as she began unlearning decades of harmful messages about women, sex, and marriage. What she once believed was a personal failure turned out to be something much bigger, and that realization changed everything.Together, they discuss why anger can be a healthy response to injustice, the cultural lies that keep both women and men disconnected from authentic intimacy, and the unexpected insights that transformed Renee's marriage. From a comment made by a teenage boyfriend to a surprising perspective on menopause, this conversation is full of hope for anyone ready to see their story through a new lens.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

What if sex was never meant to create connection—but to celebrate the connection that's already there? In this episode, Janna sits down with John for a thoughtful and honest conversation about one of the most common dynamics in long-term relationships: when one partner looks to sex for closeness while the other needs closeness before they desire sex.John shares how he came to realize that he was asking sex to do a job it was never meant to do. Together, they explore the emotions hiding beneath sexual rejection, the cultural messages that shape our expectations around intimacy, and the powerful shift that happened when he stopped focusing on how to get his wife to want sex and started building genuine emotional connection instead.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.

When Penny began questioning the messages she'd received about sex, she uncovered something far deeper than a lack of desire. For years, she'd been taught that sex was something she owed her husband rather than an experience she was allowed to enjoy herself. Penny shares how those beliefs shaped her marriage, her sexuality, and her sense of self—and what finally helped her begin experiencing intimacy in a completely different way.Together, Janna and Penny explore the cultural and religious messages that disconnect women from pleasure, why "more foreplay" wasn't the solution, the hidden pressure Penny didn't realize she was carrying, and how emotional safety became the turning point in her relationship. If you've ever wondered whether you're the problem—or struggled to understand why sex feels more like a responsibility than a source of joy—this episode is for you.Ready to learn as a couple? Registration is open for Janna's coaching program for couples, Doing It Together. Next round runs Oct./Nov. 2026. Deadline to register is Sept. 29.Looking for where to start? Get Janna's Intro Videos for men and women.Ready to learn on your own? Janna's Wanting It More Foundations self-paced course for women is always open for registration.