134. When the Prophetic Becomes Harmful in Relationships

It’s been 4 weeks since our precious daughter arrived, and I’m finally finding the space to sit down and process my labor and delivery experience.Going into birth, I truly had no idea what to expect. Like many women, I had heard plenty of stories that left me feeling uncertain about what my own experience would be like. But what unfolded was such a beautiful, peaceful, and positive birth experience.From the moment my water broke to finally holding our sweet girl in my arms, I’m sharing the entire story in this episode.My hope is that this can be one more positive birth story that brings you hope, encouragement, and peace as you prepare for your own birth experience one day. 🤍✨ Links:Get our Silence the Noise Course:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkoutJoin our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout👉🏾 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignolJoin our email list:https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/pownm5otq3Other resources:https://stan.store/joyrossignol

In part two, I’m answering the questions so many of you sent in about labor, delivery, and postpartum. I’m also sharing what postpartum has looked like for me so far, what has surprised me, what has been challenging, and the things that have been most helpful as we’ve adjusted to this new season of life.Whether you’re currently pregnant, hoping to be one day, or simply curious about the experience, I hope these conversations leave you feeling informed, encouraged, and a little less alone.

So many Christians approach dating asking:“How do I know this is the right person?”But rarely do we stop and ask:“Am I learning how to love someone well?”In this episode, we’re talking about how fear of choosing wrong can fuel relationship anxiety and keep people stuck overanalyzing feelings, doubts, attraction, and “signs” instead of actually building a healthy relationship.We discuss:• Why dating can feel so high stakes• The difference between wisdom and fear• Why certainty is not the foundation of a healthy relationship• How relationship anxiety keeps people trapped in overthinking• What actually creates healthy, lasting relationshipsIf you’ve ever felt pressure to be 100% sure before moving forward in your relationship, this episode is for you.✨ Links:Get our Silence the Noise Course:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkoutJoin our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout👉🏾 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignolJoin our email list:https://joyandmathieu.myflodesk.com/pownm5otq3Other resources:https://stan.store/joyrossignol

“If I just do this right, God will approve of my relationship.”Of course as Christians, we want to please God. That’s a good thing. But for a lot of people, that desire quietly turns into something else… the feeling that you have to earn His approval, His love, His acceptance.In this episode, we’re talking about how that mindset shapes your dating life more than you realize. When your relationship with God feels like performance, dating starts to feel like pressure. You question every decision, overanalyze your feelings, and feel anxious about getting it wrong.That doesn’t mean something is wrong with your relationship.In this episode, we break down how religious perfectionism and fear-based faith can affect the way you date, why it creates so much anxiety, and how it spills into your daily life. We also talk about what it looks like to move from trying to earn from God to actually walking with Him.If you’ve ever felt like you need to get your relationship “right” to stay in God’s will, this episode is for you.✨ Links:Get our Silence the Noise Course:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkoutJoin our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkoutOther resources:https://stan.store/joyrossignol👉🏾 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol

“If it’s not a 100% yes, then it’s a no.”It sounds like solid relationship advice, until you’re someone with an anxious, analytical brain.In this episode, we’re talking about why that mindset can be so harmful for people who struggle with relationship anxiety. If your mind is always searching for certainty, analyzing your feelings, and looking for signs that you’re making the “right” choice, you may never feel the kind of 100% clarity you think you need.That doesn’t automatically mean you’re in the wrong relationship.In this episode, we dive into what it looks like to stop chasing certainty, accept how your brain may be wired, and let go of the belief that doubt always means something is off. We also talk about what it can look like to choose your relationship in the midst of uncertainty and move forward without needing your mind to fully calm down first.If you’ve ever felt stuck because you’re waiting to feel completely sure before moving forward, this episode is for you.✨ Links:Get our Silence the Noise Course:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkoutJoin our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkoutOther resources:https://stan.store/joyrossignol👉🏾 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol

So many people with relationship anxiety are focused on the wrong things in their relationship.We can get so caught up in chemistry, certainty, and whether we feel “enough” all the time… that we overlook the traits that actually matter most.And honestly, I think we assume the good traits we’re seeing are more common than they really are.Kindness. Safety. Consistency. Good character.We can treat those things like they are just the bare minimum, when in reality, they are not as common as we think.If you are with someone who is kind, good, and safe, that matters more than your anxious mind may want to admit.In this episode, we are talking about why relationship anxiety can cause you to focus on the wrong things and how to start valuing what actually matters in a healthy relationship.✨ Links:Get our Silence the Noise Course:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkoutJoin our membership Relationship Anxiety Academy:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkoutOther resources:https://stan.store/joyrossignol👉🏾 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol

If you’ve ever felt a sudden “voice” telling you to break up, and it came with guilt, fear, or shame, this episode is for you.In this conversation, we’re responding to a message that deeply moved us. A man shared that after hearing a sermon, he felt what seemed like conviction telling him he was in the wrong relationship and needed to leave, even though he loves his girlfriend and wants to serve Christ with her.So how do you know if something is truly from God?In this episode, we talk about the difference between conviction and anxiety. We unpack how God actually leads His children. And we share why we do not believe He randomly asks someone to leave a relationship as a test of obedience or trust.If a thought feels urgent, condemning, and heavy, it may not be the Holy Spirit. God’s voice brings clarity and peace, even when it challenges us. It does not trap you in shame or constant second-guessing.If you struggle with relationship anxiety or constantly question whether you should stay or go, this episode will help you slow down and discern what is really happening beneath the fear.Links-Podcast EXCLUSIVE 3-Masterclass Bundle:https://stan.store/joyrossignol/p/3masterclass-bundleIf you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join.Join Silence the Noise Course:https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkoutWant to dive deeper? 1:1 Relationship Anxiety Intensive:https://stan.store/joyrossignol/p/11-relationship-anxiety-intensivePayment plan for 1:1 Intensive: https://stan.store/joyrossignol/p/11-relationship-anxiety-intensive-payment-planMost intimate way to work with me-1:1 Coaching Mentorship (3-months): https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTyOther resources: https://stan.store/joyrossignol👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol

👉 If you struggle with relationship anxiety or ROCD, one of the hardest questions is: “How do I tell my partner what’s going on in my head… without scaring them, hurting them, or damaging the relationship?”In this episode, we’re talking about how to have the conversation and how to know when you’re actually ready to have it. Because sharing your anxiety isn’t about confessing every intrusive thought. And it’s definitely not about offloading your anxiety onto them. In this conversation, we cover:    •    How to explain relationship anxiety to a partner who doesn’t experience it    •    What your partner actually needs to know — and what they don’t    ​    How to talk about anxiety without making your partner responsible for managing it    •    Common mistakes that accidentally fuel more anxiety in the relationshipIf you’ve ever worried that being honest about your anxiety might push your partner away, this episode is for you.👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now!If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join. https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol👉 Work with us: https://stan.store/joyrossignol👉 Relationship Anxiety Academy: https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/55SFX2at/checkout👉 1:1 Coaching: https://gz43pjtl2nc.typeform.com/to/nRp3NRTy?typeform-source=lnk.bio

The prophetic is often presented as a reliable way to discern relationships — but for many people, it becomes a source of fear, control, and harm.In this episode, we talk about spiritual abuse that took place in the context of prophetic language and relationships, and why relying on prophetic words to make dating or marriage decisions can be deeply unsafe.We unpack how “God told me” has been used to override consent, silence discernment, and create anxiety — and why this approach doesn’t reflect how God actually leads His people.This conversation is honest, grounded, and necessary for anyone who has been hurt or confused by spiritual authority in relationships.👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now!If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join.https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol

What do you do when spiritual advice about your relationship leaves you feeling anxious, confused, or afraid of getting it wrong?In this episode of When You Don’t Know, we talk about the tension many Christians experience when church leadership doesn’t support their relationship — not for biblical reasons, but because of feelings, preferences, or a perceived “lack of peace.” For many, this creates deep relationship anxiety and the fear that disagreeing with leaders means disobeying God.We explore:• The difference between spiritual guidance and spiritual control• Why anxiety often shows up when obedience to leaders is confused with obedience to God• How God actually leads His people — and why fear, pressure, and urgency aren’t part of His voice• What healthy spiritual leadership looks like in dating and relationshipsIf you’ve ever felt torn between your faith, your relationship, and your own discernment, this conversation is for you.You’re not rebellious. You’re not faithless. And you’re not broken for wanting clarity and peace.👉 Our course Silence the Noise is officially out now!If you’re ready to finally quiet the noise and feel grounded in your relationship again, now is the perfect time to join.https://joy-dima.mykajabi.com/offers/Te3uYz2J/checkout👉 Follow me on Instagram: @joyrossignol👉 Work with us: https://lnk.bio/joyrossignol