Episode 7: Reassurance Is Not Intimacy

Send us Fan MailGay men don’t hate monogamy. We hate admitting we want something other gay men might laugh at.We respect every kind of relationship—until someone says he wants one person, exclusivity, and the security of being chosen. Then he’s called insecure, naive, heteronormative, or apparently…a Disney adult.Maybe gay men didn’t destroy monogamy.Maybe we just made wanting it embarrassing.In the first episode of SAY IT, I’m asking what happens when performing detachment becomes safer than admitting what we actually want.If nobody could judge your answer, what kind of relationship would you choose?SAY IT with DorianGay culture, masculinity, and the truths we keep editing out.

Send us Fan MailGay men survived the world telling them who they were was wrong. And some of them turned around and said the same thing to their own community. In this episode, Dorian gets into femme shaming, masc culture, drag, and the internalized homophobia we still haven't fully confronted — even with each other.

Send us Fan MailMost people don’t get hurt because they didn’t see it.They get hurt because they saw it… and stayed anyway.Those lines aren’t confusion.They’re clarity.You just have to decide if you’re going to listen to it.Stop trying to turn potential into reality.The right person won’t make you guess where you stand.Be honest… which one have you ignored before?

Send us Fan MailBetter bodies.Better faces.More attention.One swipe away.So instead of choosing,we keep browsing.In this episode of Unbuttoned,I talk about how endless options rewired our brains,why stability feels boring now,and what real connection actually requires in a world addicted to “better.”This isn’t about blame.It’s about awareness.🎧 Full episode out now.

Send us Fan MailA lot of people don’t actually want intimacy.They want reassurance.In this episode of Unbuttoned, Dorian breaks down the difference between emotional comfort and real closeness, why reassurance gets mistaken for connection, and how people stay emotionally nearby without ever stepping forward.This conversation is about presence, responsibility, and learning to stop negotiating with inconsistency.Calm clarity isn’t cold.It’s information.

Send us Fan MailToday on UNBUTTONED, we’re getting brutally honest.Not about sexuality — but about behavior.Why do so many gay men come off as cold, judgmental, competitive, or straight-up mean?Not because they’re gay…but because they’re unhealed.In this episode, I break down the difference between hurt men and healed men — the ego, the armor, the insecurities, the body hierarchy, the dating games, and the emotional survival strategies that shape our entire community.If you’ve ever felt judged, dismissed, ghosted, compared, or misunderstood…or if you’ve ever wondered why gay spaces can feel both empowering and exhausting at the same time…You’re not imagining it.There is a pattern — and today, we unbutton it.This episode is for the men who have healed, the men who are healing, and the men who are finally ready to stop performing and start belonging.Let’s talk about the truth everyone feels… but nobody wants to say out loud.

Send us Fan MailThe Gay Body Standard: Confidence or Conditioning?We call it confidence — but most of the time, it’s conditioning.From gym culture to social media validation, here’s the truth about how the gay community shaped our self-worth.Because being fit is great — but being free? That’s power.🎙 Unbuttoned — new episode out now.

Send us Fan MailDating in the gay community isn’t easy.Apps made meeting easy — but connection harder than ever.We chase validation, perfection, and three-second attention spans… but what about depth?In this episode of Unbuttoned, I get real about why modern dating feels so broken —from ghosting and hookup culture to the pressure to perform masculinity and hide softness.Because at the end of the day, we all want the same thing:to be seen, safe, and loved for who we are — not how we look.🎧 Full episode out now on Spotify + Apple.#UnbuttonedPodcast

Send us Fan MailMonogamy isn’t boring.It’s  strength. It’s  discipline. It’s being chosen every single day.I tried open… and I ended up crying in the bathroom while my partner brought another man into our bed. That’s when I realized: this isn’t love. This isn’t partnership.We don’t talk about how messy open really is. The jealousy. The emptiness. The way it chips away at intimacy until you feel more like roommates than lovers.I’m not here to shame anyone — I’m here to tell the truth. And if you’ve ever felt pressured to accept less than what you deserve… this episode is for you.🎙 Full episode on Unbuttoned — Spotify & Apple Podcasts. Link in bio.

Send us Fan MailEpisode 2: Pride — Protest, Party, or Politics?Pride began as resistance, a fight for visibility and the right to exist. Today, it’s parades, parties, and political stages. But what happens when you don’t fit the mold? In this episode of Unbuttoned, I share my experience as a bisexual conservative — from the peer pressure of my first Pride in West Hollywood, to the erasure of bi voices, to the silencing of anyone who doesn’t follow the “approved” script. Pride is supposed to be about inclusion, yet so many feel like outsiders. This isn’t about division — it’s about reclaiming space for all of us, and unbuttoning the hard questions we’re too afraid to ask.