#45 How a LDR changes you!

Join Abe and Elaine for the final episode of Love Is in the Air, a podcast that began in 2020 and has spent five years encouraging couples through long-distance relationships and commuter marriages . Together, we’ve shared research-based tools, created hundreds of creative date ideas❤️, offered hope during the lonely nights, and even made real friendships with many of you along the way.We’re not leaving…just shifting. After 8 years and 9 months of long-distance love ourselves, this podcast became a lifeline for us, and we hope it’s been one for you too. Thank you for listening, sharing your stories, and walking this road with us.Please share this episode with anyone in a long-distance relationship who needs encouragement.✨ Stay with us!We’re continuing the journey on our other podcast: Marriage Is a Joke — relationship advice for married couples and for couples still in the distance. Follow us on Instagram at @marriage.isajoke.Let’s keep growing, laughing, and loving…together!❤️

❤️✈️After 8 years and 9 months of managing love across time zones, video calls, and countdowns, Abe and Elaine finally closed the distance! In this episode, we’re telling the whole story of those last days of distance and the first days together. From the sweet moments to the unexpected bumps, we share what it’s really been like to go from a long-distance relationship to daily life together.We talk about the pros (more cuddles, fewer dropped calls), the cons (did someone say dish duty?), and the moments that had us laughing, learning, and re-learning how to do life as a couple under the same roof.Plus, we’re giving you practical tips if you’re planning your own transition from long-distance to close-up and personal. Whether you’re weeks away from moving in or just dreaming about that day, this episode is packed with stories, laughs, and encouragement to help you feel ready.This is the second-to-last episode of our long-distance journey podcast—don’t miss it.❤️✈️

Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss more LDR killers🔪🔪💀🩸 that can kill your LDR relationship if you don’t WATCH OUT! They discuss quite a few you wouldn’t necessarily think about… like mini- masking, fantasy projection, communication fatigue and more!! You don’t want to miss hearing about these little assassins! With a few minor tweaks you can protect yourselves from them! 🩸🔪🔪💀BUHAHAHAHAHAAAA!!!!! 

Join Elaine and Abe as they discuss how being in a LDR or commuter marriage changes you for the worse and for the better! Ultimately if you push through the worse it all becomes a positive change and strengthens you anyway! ❤️The book Elaine referenceshttps://amzn.to/42JjPmo

Join Abe and Elaine as they dive into the everyday sacrifices that define life in a long-distance relationship (LDR). Celebrate the resilience, commitment, and growth that come from navigating love across the miles. Whether you're in an LDR or simply curious about what it takes, discover how these sacrifices not only strengthen your bond but also enrich your character and relationship in ways you never imagined. Be proud of the love story you’re creating—one challenge at a time!

Join Elaine and Abe as they interview awesome guests ❤️Jaime and Lisa❤️who have closed the distance in the US! Hear what they have to say to inspire and motivate you to hang on in distance. Their input inspired  Elaine to make an exhaustive list of what to take care of before you close your distance when you move from state to state. Get ready to take some notes but we will also post these lists on our IG support page: @ instagram.com/commutermarriagesupport. In the future Elaine and Abe will interview couples closing the distance from country to country.

Join Abe and Elaine for a 6th episode on Creative Dates in distance! It’s so important when you are in a long distance relationship that you aren’t just excited about being together (of course that’s the best) but also for your dates while in distance! This episode has some fun new ideas! Also listen to the WHOLE episode and you’ll receive a discount code to buy an awesome conversation starter card kit made for couples in long distance relationships by an awesome couple in a long distance relationship!! Enjoy! Countdown app - https://apps.apple.com/us/app/countdown/id1456997268Trivia night - https://www.britannica.com/quiz/browse#recent-quizzesSpa night - link to masks on Amazon: I DEW CARE Sheet Mask Pack - Let’s Get Sheet Faced | 14-Day Intense Skincare Makeover with Collagen, Tea Tree Oil, Eucalyptus, Lotus Flower, Glass Skin, 14 Count https://a.co/d/jksgZOdVision board night Canva- https://www.canva.com/Udreamer- Vision Board Creator | Guided Templates | Free Shipping | Udreamr™udreamr.comPicmonkey.com https://www.picmonkey.com/Paint and Sip Night Michelle the Painter https://youtu.be/kqNIHtRzois?si=raW74XxBMof131PEPicasso Baby https://youtu.be/or9lsNPHo2c?si=RwiXA-HFOXYiHPLRAdult coloring pages Print out- https://mondaymandala.com/adult-coloring-pages/Online- mombooks.comSpotify Jam Party https://support.spotify.com/us/article/jam/Wine Tasting Dates: To order Wine Tasting Kit- https://vinebox.com/products/monthly-subscription?sscid=61k8_bdjk9Virtual Wines tasting videos and tasting and learn about types of wine from a sommelier-https://www.wine.com/content/landing/virtual-tastings#closePromoModal 12 famous museum tours:https://www.travelandleisure.com/attractions/museums-galleries/museums-with-virtual-toursNate and Lolo’s Long Distance Conversation Starter Card Decks! Link to Order the Cards: https://shop.lastingthedistance.com/discount/AIR10/?redirect=/pages/long-distance-questions-couples-card-gameDiscount Code for Love is in the Air listeners! AIR10Thank you Nate and Lolo! Nate and Lolo’s Instagram page-Lasting The Distance (@lastingthedistance) • Instagram photos and videosinstagram.com

Join Abe and Elaine in the ongoing series to discuss LDR killers! 🔪🩸In this episode they talk about three of many dangers to your long distance relationship. Having no plan, jealousy, and unresponsiveness. Over time they will address additional killers so we can all continue to thrive in long distance relationships!!

We are on a unique journey being in a LDR or commuter marriage. ❤️✈️Sometimes it’s like driving a bus 🚌down a bumpy road! We all know we want to be with our person and the distance won’t stop our love! However there are parts of us that struggle with the distance, parts that hate the distance and there are even parts of us that enjoy time apart. At different times ….different parts of us are driving that LDR bus.🚌 Why? Why do we vacillate from one part to the other?  Join us for a fascinating discussion about these parts of us from the modality of Internal Family Systems with our guests Tammy Sollenberger, LCMHC & Henry D. Beckwith, Psy.d.Tammy and Henry are not only in a long distance relationship themselves, but are also licensed psychotherapists who specialize in the IFS model. You will be shocked to learn how helpful it is to look at how we cope with distance through this lens! ❤️✈️If you would like to learn more about our guests or check out Tammy’s book or podcast you can find out more at these links!Tammysollenberger.comhttps://www.familysolutionsnewbern.com/henrydbeckwith (https://www.familysolutionsnewbern.com/henrydbeckwith)

Longing for your partner is a huge part of coping with distance! The good news about longing? Longing is two-sided! It’s sometimes hard to long for your person but it also builds an awesome anticipation that makes the relationship hot, hot, HOT! Join Abe and Elaine as they discuss the different sides of LONGING and how to cope!