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How to balance structure with acting on creative inspiration, how to not take things so personally, a sty in the eye, and Bethany Mota. We can’t explain it either. 0:00 Gaby has been emotionally placating Meadow7:21 How to structure a spark12:40 How to stop taking things personally18:15 What are some ways to get over anxiety around uncontrollably situations (specifically in relationships)24:10 How to deal with nostalgia all the time 29:32 What are you looking forward to in the fall Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! Use code THOUGHTS for 15% off all CLEARSTEM products https://glnk.io/rqop/thoughtsSHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL: https://www.thoughtsmayvary.com/the-tmv-shopDiscount codes, extra unpackings, journal prompts, vlogging (+more!) all happening with our familia over on Patreon. Come hang out — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary🎙️ Listen anywhere you get your podcasts 🎙️🎥 Watch episodes: https://www.youtube.com/@thoughtsmayvary  🫠 Follow along, we're funny on the internet sometimeshttps://www.thoughtsmayvary.com/https://www.instagram.com/thoughtsmayvarypodhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thoughtsmayvarypodThreads @thoughtsmayvarypodMeadow: https://www.instagram.com/itsmeadowlarkGaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

We’re back from summer break! The first 12 minutes, M+G discuss the way in which the movie, It Ends With Us, has been promoted. Trigger warning: domestic violence is discussed. There are resources below and if that feels activating to listen to, feel free to skip to 12:23 to dive into a classic unpacking. M talks emotion regulation and creative expression while G plays fruit ninja with her intrusive thoughts. 0:00 Catching G up with It Ends With Us drama (TW: Domestic Violence)12:23 M’s unpacking25:17 G’s unpackingDV ResourcesCall 800-799-7233 Text BEGIN to 88788https://www.thehotline.org/ for more information on nationwide and local resources, tools, etcBooks: ‘Trauma Bonding’ by William Avers and ‘I Don’t Want To Talk About It’ by Terrence RealDon’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode! Use code THOUGHTS for 15% off all CLEARSTEM products https://glnk.io/rqop/thoughtsSHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL: https://www.thoughtsmayvary.com/the-tmv-shopDiscount codes, extra unpackings, journal prompts, vlogging (+more!) all happening with our familia over on Patreon. Come hang out — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary🎙️ Listen anywhere you get your podcasts 🎙️🎥 Watch episodes: https://www.youtube.com/@thoughtsmayvary  🫠 Follow along, we're funny on the internet sometimeshttps://www.thoughtsmayvary.com/https://www.instagram.com/thoughtsmayvarypodhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thoughtsmayvarypodThreads @thoughtsmayvarypodMeadow: https://www.instagram.com/itsmeadowlarkGaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.

Welcome back to another Q+A! From getting over repetitive stories that are holding you back and healing a trauma bond, to anticipatory grief and alternate universe career paths, M+G answer your questions. Plus, G is feeling good (yay!) and M talks about her working out to manifestation pipeline. Mentioned: Ram Dass on Death & Dying https://www.ramdass.org/death-dying/Don’t forget to DM us on IG or submit a question on thoughtsmayvary.com to have your question or theme unpacked on a future episode!New skincare routine dropping! Use code THOUGHTS for 15% off all CLEARSTEM products. https://clearstem.com/ SHOP “CO-CREATE” TMV’S MANIFESTATION JOURNAL:https://www.thoughtsmayvary.com/the-tmv-shopDiscount codes, extra unpackings, journal prompts, vlogging (+more!) all happening with our familia over on Patreon. Come hang out — https://www.patreon.com/thoughtsmayvary🎙️ Listen anywhere you get your podcasts 🎙️🎥 Watch episodes: https://www.youtube.com/@thoughtsmayvaryFollow along, we're funny on the internet sometimeshttps://www.thoughtsmayvary.com/https://www.instagram.com/thoughtsmayvarypodhttps://www.tiktok.com/@thoughtsmayvarypodThreads @thoughtsmayvarypodMeadow: https://www.instagram.com/itsmeadowlarkGaby: https://www.instagram.com/gabyulloa_DISCLAIMER: We are not licensed professionals. If you are seeking licensed and professional mental health support, please reach out to 741-741 (The Crisis Text Line) or The NAMI Helpline or The Trevor Project or reach out to us for more resources.Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Welcome back! Join us this week as we dive into our favorite topics: wellness routines, personal revelations, and pop culture. Meadow drops her skincare routine and Gaby for lack of better words, is absolutely glowing after getting into her groove. We unpack the fear of success and how to find joy, fulfillment and inspiration in the day-to-day.  New skincare routine dropping! Use code THOUGHTS for 15% off all CLEARSTEM products https://clearstem.com/

Welcome back! In this episode, we dive deep into the pursuit of happiness and wellbeing with Karen Guggenheim, author, social entrepreneur, wellbeing advocate, and founder of the World Happiness Summit—a comprehensive platform to bring awareness about the benefits behind the science of happiness and wellbeing. Today, Karen shares with us her research-backed insights on wellbeing while sharing her transformational grief journey. This conversation sheds light on the power of choices, resilience, and community. Don't miss this impactful discussion on how to become an active participant in your life!  Pre-Order your copy of Karen’s book, Cultivating Happiness, here: https://karenguggenheim.com/ Sign up for the 2025 World Happiness Summit here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/world-happiness-summit-2025-tickets-905516693807?aff=oddtdtcreator

Join us for an incredible discussion this week with relationship therapist Dené Logan; MFT, author, spiritual teacher, and co-host of the podcast 'Cheaper Than Therapy'! In this episode, we dive into the collective core wounds of masculine and feminine energies, how a wounded patriarchy has hurt men's mental health, and why there is an epidemic of women having performative sex. Dené gives her words of wisdom on navigating love, motherhood and personal growth. Get your copy of the TMV book club must, Sovereign Love: https://denelogan.com/book

This week we are absolutely thrilled to be speaking with Kamie Crawford!Kamie is the host of MTV's 'Catfish', ‘Are You The One’, as well as the 'Relationsh*t' podcast.In today’s episode, Kamie dives into her journey from pageant life to Sports Illustrated, advocating for body positivity and diversity along the way. We also chat about relationships, creating your dream career, healing past traumas, beauty standards, self-love, and more. Head over to our Patreon for extra “anything but mental health” content with Kamie!

This week, Gaby went viral in a hilarious way and we needed to unpack it! Plus, we're back with another exciting Q&A session, where we dive into your questions about maintaining friendships, facing mental health challenges, and navigating the tricky dating scene. Don't forget to follow us at @thoughtsmayvarypod and submit your questions for our next Q&A.

Everyone keeps calling for community but no one wants to learn conflict resolution; this week we try to figure out why! Join us as we explore how genuine human connections often come from moments of friction. We cover how to navigate relationships, understand different perspectives and share stories that connect us all. Bear with us as we get a little spicy this week - disagree with us, it’s okay!

With Father's Day just behind us, we wanted to provide a safe space for all of the mixed emotions that come with this holiday and give you a rundown of where we are mentally. “Shout out to all my gals with dead dads!” - Meadow. This is a good time to reflect on our parents as humans and what they've taught us. Join us to unpack it all!