BDSM: pain play and how to not leave marks

Today’s episode is inspired by the amazing answers to the Sissy Pageant questions. If you are not interested in feminization, this podcast might still resonate with you because this is about staying true to yourself and balancing that with the ‘rest’ of life and personal responsibilitiesHere’s the background. Enchantrix Empire, our free adult social networking site, was the recent location for our Sissy Pageant. Participants sent in 3 photos and then answered 4 questions about their feminization journey. Mistress Daphne is today's guest because she is the first one to publicly say what the Mistress judges were thinking. Here’s what Ms Daphne said: “Is anyone as stunned as I am at these answers?! I find myself weeping with their stories and confessions! I am just so honored to listen to them. I want to give every one of them a giant hug for an hour! Just wow.”This ends up being a conversation about vulnerability, desire and connection touching on:** Fear of rejection when thinking about telling a partner about fantasies, desires and needs.** Hiding feminization desires from a partner who won’t understand or accept them.** How to have a conversation about erotic desires at the start of a relationship (in a perfect world).** Balancing the desire to be a sissy with the responsibility to others in your life.** Ideas for how to feel femme without being en femme (dressed in women’s clothes).This is a really tender episode, almost a love letter to our girly gurls and all of us who are kinky.Mistress Daphne:  https://enchantrixdaphne.com/Mistress Olivia:  https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika: https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/Enchantrix Empire free adult social networking site:  https://enchantrixempire.com/

What do you do if you love pain, impact play, discipline, CBT, and/or bondage but you can’t have marks on your body?  How do you hide the marks when you love being on the receiving end of the S/m dynamic?That’s the topic today and it’s the result of a listener question to the previous episodes about many aspects of pain play.Topics include:Training for a submissive versus a kinky scene with a pain slutThe role of stress positions to enhance kinky scenesPhysical pain, mental pain and the role of an intense mindfuckThe role of suffering in submission to a beautiful Femdom MistressOf course, there is always a lot of emphasis on the role of communication in BDSM. The ladies talk about BDSM negotiation, what to ask your Mistress and why it’s important that you answer her questions honestly (so she can plan the play effectively).This is BDSM education:Thuddy versus stingy impact playThe role of warmup in impact playHow bondage affects the skin for CBT Electrosex and what to look for an a tens unit for kinky usesWax play and safety concernsTemperature play and a wicked use of ice waterThe importance of aftercareThese creative Femdoms talk about workarounds for those who crave S/m pain but need to keep this part hidden.Remember if you hear something in the podcast and you have a followup question, send an email.Olivia AT enchantrixempire.comErika AT enchantrixempire.comMs Olivia’s blog: https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Ms Erika’s blog:  https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/

This episode is inspired by Sissy Kylie who says she wants to get a more feminine body and wants sissy workout tips. Mistress Erika begins the episode talking about body image. Mistress Olivia says, it’s normal to want to change things about your physical body to be more of the feminine ideal in your mind.Many feminized people want workout tips and exercises to target specific areas like ass, hips and stomach. Both ladies talk about exercises they do and recommend for any sissy workout.Ms Olivia talks about how she gets a cute round yoga ass with squats, walking lunges and donkey kicks (among other exercises). Ms Erika adds in a suggestion to do bridges. Working core muscles help to slim the tummy and a tight lacing corset and give that feminine hourglass shape.These Femdoms love feminization and sissy training. They talk about how to combine legitimate exercises with kinky inspiration to make sure these get done! For example, a way to strap a dildo onto the long part of a couch cushion to get a thigh and ass workout while perfecting the sissy cowgirl position!You’ll hear specific exercises suggestions, behind the scenes stories, general naughtiness and so much more.Mistress Olivia’s blog: https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika’s blog:  https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/

Today’s episode is inspired by several pets who acted surprised to hear that Mistress Olivia likes pain play and rough kink.  It starts with this quote from one submissive:“You are just such a nice person. And you have a sweet natural demeanor. Even though you can turn into a firm Domme in the blink of an eye, I didn’t think pain play was a fun thing for you.”Both ladies talk about being a Femdom and a sensual sadist.  You’ll hear answers to these questions from another treasured pet and listener who wants to hear more about sadism and masochism. Michael asks:How common is it for a sensual dom to also have a little bit of a sadistic streak?andIs it typical for this to be a frequent activity in a loving and nurturing relationship? Topics include:Sharing experiences with the S/m part of BDSMVarious expectation of a MistressHow do you know you’re correct about your assumptions of her, who she is and what she likes?How can you tell if a sensual Femdom also enjoys rough kink?How does consent work with risk aware BDSM and kink?This is a peek behind the scenes as each Femdom talks about BDSM scenes gone awry when a sub doesn’t obey, how each lady feels when that happens and how it changes her feelings towards the bratty sub. By the end of the episode you'll know that in scene domination is different from the podcast and both ladies love delivering an intense kink session that includes pain play.Mistress Olivia’s blog:  https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika’s blog:  https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/

What happens when a Dominant Woman decides to feminize a submissive? Sometimes the subby is coerced into sissy training, maybe even before realizing what’s going on and then it’s really too late because full on sissy training is underway.How does a Femdom Mistress train a sissy submissive? Listen to feminization Mistresses talking about how they do coerced feminization, sissy training and use a combination of praise, punishment, pain and pleasure to ensure the creation of the best sissy!This episode is inspired by comments from various listeners. And, while the ladies start off talking about sissification and coerced feminization - much of the conversation about using pain and punishment on a submissive applies to crossdressers and transwomen who are submissive but might not be sissies.The role of discipline to enforce who is in charge is always a favorite topic and an opportunity to talk about the paradox of BDSM where pain is pleasure.Mistress Olivia's blog:  https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika's blog:  https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/

The conversation starts out with the enduring fascination with “bad girls” - the women who are non-traditional, often sex workers or women that claim their social and/or sexual autonomy. Jane talks about the role of sex and sex workers in shaping the culture … especially in terms of fetish wear going mainstream with leather and latex being featured in couture lines. Fashion is never “only” about covering the body. The ladies all talk about how their personal and professional experiences with kink have changed them.Conversation includes:** the Paradox of BDSM: pain is pleasure, bondage is freedom, etc.** dominant or powerful women who tend to have a thirst for knowledge and want to grow as people** the very particular skills of a Pro Domme, whether as an in person Dominatrix or Distance Domination (and phone sex).** the relationship between submissive and Dominant** consent ** merging the personal and professional in erotic spaces** the role of money - in society, in relationships, as a symbol of power** and so much more.This episode uses quotes from the BDSM book, Edge Play to explore the nuances of culture, societal roles, and more. Edge Play by Jane Boonhttps://www.janeboon.com/Twitter:  @JaneEBoonMistress Olivia’s blog:  https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika’s blog:  https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/

This is called the Sissy Pageant because it’s a short title but the hosts want you to know that the Pageant is open to anyone interested in feminization and femme style: crossdressers, transwomen, pantybois, and, of course, sissies!Goddess Skylar is today’s guest because she’s the one that sort of resurrected the Sissy Pageant. The ladies go over the Sissy Pageant rules and details. The short version is: submit 3 photos, answer 4 questions and boom you’re in the running! Now, how do you DO all that?Sissy Pageant details:** Join EnchantrixEmpire.com if you’re not already a member. EE is our free adult social networking site. ** There is a Sissy Pageant Group in the Enchantrix Empire. Join the group.** Upload three photos for the competition. (Include your EE name on a paper in the photos).** After uploading your contestant photos, you’ll get access to the four questions to answer.** HAVE FUN!LDW Mistresses will judge the Pageant and pick the top three winners.The judges will be evaluating for best: ** legs/ass** sex appeal** style** and your answers to four questions about your feminization and/or sissy journey.In today’s podcast, the ladies will answer the pageant questions so you’ll hear the questions and our answers.Important dates:By June 15th:  photos and answers submittedFriday June 28th at 8pm eastern: Celebration and winner announcements in the chatroom at communitykink.com.  The celebration is also free and will have lots of Mistresses and general shenanigans. Goddess Skylar will put a link in the chat room that you can click to actually hear the show.What do the winners get? Free time with the Mistress of your choice!** 2nd runner up 20 free minutes.** 1st runner up, 30 free minutes.** Sissy Pageant Grand Prize winner: 60 free minutes.There will be lots of fun leading up to the Pageant, community and conversations, the celebration party and then free phone sex with the Mistress of your choice!Are you ready?  Let’s have some fun!Enchantrix Empire:  https://enchantrixempire.com/Mistress Olivia’s blog:  https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika’s blog:  https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/Goddess Skylar’s blog: https://yourkinkadvisor.com/

How in the world did a PhD in industrial engineering end up on The Weekly Hot Spot talking about BDSM and the world of Pro Dommes? In addition to professional experience in engineering and journalism, today’s guest, Jane Boon, is the author of Edge Play.This episode description is actually difficult to write because what do you say about someone who is able to effortlessly blend the worlds of unethical investment banking bro culture and the BDSM learning curve of an accidental Pro Domme?  Both cultures deliver a fantastic ass fucking but only the Femdoms do it after getting consent. Jane jokes that her novel Edge Play is Fifty Shades of Grey meets The Big Short.Edge Play is a fantastic read – it’s an exciting financial thriller - add in the “learning to be a Dominatrix” element and you have one of the best fiction books ever written about Femdom, kink culture and one element of sex work. This novel about an accidental Pro Domme rings true for the Femdom hosts. The conversation explores profound shifts in understanding about men, power, control, what it means to be a woman in an area where men dominate, what it means to be a woman who dominates men and the evolution of a woman who comes into her own power.Enjoy this fascinating conversation with Jane Boon, a brilliant woman who embraces the motto “more please.”Get. The. Book. ….. now.Edge Play by Jane Boonhttps://www.janeboon.com/Twitter:  @JaneEBoonMistress Olivia’s blog:  https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika’s blog:  https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/

It’s Masturbation Month and time for the girly girls to celebrate with a sissygasm! This episode is inspired by several conversations and emails about this distinct kind of orgasm. Your Femdom hosts touch on various aspects of this sexy topic, including:** Why is it called a sissygasm?** How is a sissygasm different from a male orgasm?** What to expect with a sissygasm.Many feminized friends aren’t sure how to have a sissygasm or even if they have experienced one.Mistress Olivia and Ms Erika have some specific suggestions about:** How to mentally prepare** Using chastity as feminization and sissy training** Suggestions for different positions that are popular for sissygasm success.** How and where to find you P spot ** What is prostate milking and how does that work with sissy training?All this an more. Enjoy and tell us about your sissygasms!Mistress Olivia’s blog:  https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika’s blog: https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/30 day sissy challenge: sissy training assignmentshttps://phonesexassignments.com/product/30-day-sissy-challenge-bundle/How to masturbate like a girl: Pillow Humping Instructions: https://phonesexassignments.com/product/how-to-masturbate-like-a-girl-pillow-humping-by-mistresses-olivia-and-erika/

Are you ready for Masturbation Month? Your Femdom hosts love this month-long celebration of self love. Today’s podcast is all about cock stroking instructions or JOI, jerk off instructions.  What are some of the ways to spice up your masturbation? Check out the Month of Femdom Guided Masturbation Calendar in the First Class Erotica Store. Click on the phone sex assignments section and look for Ms Erika and Ms Olivia.In this podcast, you’ll hear discussion about new ways to stroke including:Hand position or gripStroking speed or variability of stroking speedWet or dry strokingLube recommendations for cut or uncut cocksWeird lube flavors: cum flavored or bacon flavored lubeDIY masturbation ideasRemote controlled sex toys for even more funAs always, the ladies go off on quirky tangents. For example, did you know that there are masturbate-a-thons? — that’s where participants masturbate to raise money for charity and increase public awareness about masturbation.That seems to be a: STROKE of genius!Ending with a BANG!So we can give the participants a hand!The puns just write themselves!There are also weird sex facts and Guinness Book of World records entries for sexual trivia. Who holds the world record for the largest number of orgasms in a 24 hour period? Enjoy the podcast, check out the Month of Femdom Guided Masturbation Calendar in the First Class Erotica Store and get a JUMP on your celebrations for Masturbation May!First Class Erotica Store:  https://firstclasseroticastore.com/A Month of Femdom Guided Masturbation: https://phonesexassignments.com/product/a-month-of-femdom-guided-masturbation-with-mistresses-erika-olivia/Mistress Olivia:  https://www.experiencedmistress.com/Mistress Erika:  https://intelligentphonefantasy.com/