12. The Final Chapter-Finding My Identity

This episode talks about how I rebuilt my identity after the divorce.   It is the last episode for the podcast.   

 Ben and Randi join me again to answer questions that have been received by listeners.  Thank you to everyone who sent questions for this episode!

My sister joins me in this episode to talk about how I moved from a place of pain to a place of peace.  There were a variety of strategies I tried. For example, one that was outside of the norm for me was Wreck-A-Room, which I share in this episode.  We talk about the healing journey and offer suggestions for people who are going through a difficult time. 

This episode is about me uncovering that there was a third woman, putting the pieces together, and connecting with her. Prior to this, I had thought there was only a long term affair and a double life. With the discovery of the third woman, I realized there was a triple life. This episode covers the impact this discovery had on my healing journey.

This episode is about my experience through the divorce process.  It is a heavier topic, but I feel it is important for me to include. This podcast is about my experience of being with my husband for 12 years, 7 years of which we were married. I found out I was 1 of 3 women and that he was leading a triple life.  I created this podcast as part of my healing journey. In this episode I reference a book called Ask for More: 10 Questions to Negotiate Anything by Alexandra Carter which was a good resource. 

I have gotten a lot of questions from listeners so I wanted to take a break from heavier topics for this episode.  Ben and Randi join me as we talk through what people are asking as they have listened to previous episodes.  

This episode will go into the research (not in a boring way:) on if a pathological liar can change and ideas on how to deal with one.   Resource: Book by Lillian Glass: The Body Language of Liars: From Little White Lies to Pathological Deception—How to See Through the Fibs, Frauds, and Falsehoods People Tell You Every Day Mental Health Resources: SAMHSA’s National Helpline- 1-800-662-HELP (4357) (also known as the Treatment Referral Routing Service), or TTY: 1-800-487-4889 is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year, information service, in English and Spanish, for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders. This service provides referrals to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations.https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline. National Alliance for Mental Illness- https://nami.org/Home PsychologyToday.com-to find a therapist in your area.

This episode is about pathological lying.  We explain the definition, characteristics, and give examples as it applies to my relationship.  Mental Health Resources:  SAMHSA’s National Helpline- 1-800-662-HELP (4357) (also known as the Treatment Referral Routing Service), or TTY: 1-800-487-4889 is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year, information service, in English and Spanish, for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders. This service provides referrals to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations.https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline. National Alliance for Mental Illness- https://nami.org/Home PsychologyToday.com-to find a therapist in your area.

This episode is about how to be a friend to someone going through a difficult time.  My friend Amy joins me to talk about ideas for people who have friends going through a hard time and the importance of sitting with someone in their pain.   There is also quite a bit of humor as we talk through this topic. 

This episode goes more in depth to understand brainwashing and it's impact on the relationship.