#FT: Why Are You Single? Celibacy

Welcome to Day 7! It’s important to set a plan early on for how you’re going to walk out purity. Why?  Because when you and your special someone are in the car late at night with R&B music playing in the background, that is not the time to come up with a plan.  Any plan you come up with at that point will not be good.  So today, we encourage you to decide what your boundaries are ahead of time.

It is important to establish deal breakers in your dating relationships.  These are set in place to keep you from moving forward in your relationship if there is an issue that would eventually make you miserable in the future and could potentially ruin a marriage. It’s also important to know which areas or issues you can compromise without resentment. A lot of people misunderstand what deal breakers are and how they are meant to help you and not harm you. A deal breaker is something you establish as an individual before you get too emotionally connected to someone you’re dating before you’re head-over-heels in love. All too often, people get involved so quickly they forget to pay attention to the signs and issues or red flags that could potentially destroy the relationship. Or worse, they see them but ignore them altogether. A deal-breaker is black and white; it leaves no room for compromise. It is the one thing (or multiple things) that you will not allow into your relationship. Deal breakers can consist of both spiritual and practical matters, and they must be established while you are in a sober state of mind, before you become too emotionally connected to another person. Those who have a tendency to ignore deal breakers have what we call “emotional blinders.” They are willing to compromise in an area that has the potential to ruin something in their future. This is also another good reason to have accountability partners while dating; they’re not prone to the emotional blinders that you are. Take some time today to write down your deal breakers so you can use them as a reference in your dating relationships. It’s important to determine what your deal breakers are, as your deal breakers are going to be unique to you. You also need to know that if you encounter a deal-breaker, you have the strength to walk away from the relationship and not settle. Don’t let the fear of never finding someone cause you to settle for the wrong one. Yes, it can be an upsetting and difficult choice to make, but you will be much happier in the long-run when you can stand up for yourself. If you are single, take some time right now and list the things that are very important to you that you will not compromise in a relationship. If you are already dating someone, evaluate your relationship and make sure you aren’t making allowances for any deal breakers. Scripture Reading A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls. Proverbs 25:28 Remember, it is sin to know what you ought to do and then not do it. James 4:17 Just say a simple, ‘Yes, I will,’ or ‘No, I won’t.’ Anything beyond this is from the evil one. Matthew 5:37 Today’s devotional is culled from the Dating In Black & White: Boundaries, Sex & Reality in the YouVersion Bible App and has been slightly modified

What are your triggers? Have you ever given it a thought, to know exactly what made you slip? Do you know that Slip-Ups in Purity are not random? Something led you there. Slip-ups follow a pattern. Today, we learn about paying attention to your triggers.  There is an exercise for you to carry out ( this exercise is really helpful). Tonight is going to be a fun time learning and conversing. See you at 8:00 PM!

How do you meet the needs of your spirit? Has it somewhat been a struggle?  Today's podcast speaks to meeting the needs of your spirit. It breaks down the importance of having a personal relationship with God and knowing Him as a Father.

Day 3! We hope you are having a really good time? Wondering what your soul has to do with this sexual purity matter? Well listen and find out how. I go personal in today's podcast and share my journey on meeting the needs of my soul and how it has helped. See you at 8:00 PM!

Do you know Sex isn't a physical need as we are made to think or believe. Understanding your body and paying attention to how it functions is very important in getting it right on the journey of purity. Listen to the podcast, catch up with the devotional and let's discuss further at 8:00 PM. Thank you!

Welcome to Day 1 of the 9th Cohort of  The Purity Journey Community Today, we will know God's mind concerning sex and why we even have a sex drive in the first place (it's not evil).  We also understand why purity is a journey and not a destination in itself. Purity is genderless and I hope by the time you are done with this cohort, you understand your role in ensuring you live a pure life. This cohort is built to just equip you to walk your journey of purity with a healthy body, liberated mind and a free spirit that's more in tune with God's plan for your life. Listen to the podcast, read the devotional and let's meet at 8:00 pm to discuss what we gleaned from the materials. Thank you for deciding to walk this journey of freedom.

On today's episode of Feature Tuesday, still in our ongoing series 'Why Are You Single?' We delve into letting go of the hurts and pain from your past and starting afresh. Believe it or not, this is one of the major reasons so many of us are still single or keep stepping into relationships with the wrong people. Marriage exposes the real you. Marriage is really 1+1=1 Are you whole? It's possible to have baggages and not even be aware of it, because you are so blinded by the pain and hurt you've been through or currently going through. All of these are addressed in today's podcast. And even more will be shared during our conversation later today at 8:00PM (WAT & EST).  Do have a splendid day!  Oluwatoyin A.

As we continue on the series Why are you single? We dive into celibacy. As a single, what does celibacy mean to you? Why should you be celibate? For those who already are, how has the journey being? Is it really possible to be celibate after being sexually active? Toni, helps us in answering these questions in today's podcast. Listen and let's discuss over dinner at 8:00 pm WAT. Thank you!

Don't worry you can ignore the elephant. Lol. But I guess you get the point. This month of April, we are delving into living a life of purpose aka Insightful living, and today, we will be discussing living a balanced life.  Listen and enjoy! Here are the scriptures quoted on the podcast Isaiah 40:12 Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8 2 Timothy 1:7 2 peter 3:17 Psalm 127 :2 See you at 8:00pm WAT. The next Cohort starts on the 23rd of April. Please invite a friend to join http://bit.ly/TheJourneyCohortVI