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313. Confidence is a skill, not a trait

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What makes someone “the one”? There is so much pressure tied into that question. Instead, it might be better to ask: how can we focus on recognising the key pillars of long-lasting, fulfilling love? In today’s episode, we explore some fundamental characteristics so you can discern whether they are “the one” for you, while also acknowledging that our soulmates are often built, rather than found.

We explore:

  • Unpicking the “one” narrative
  • The difference between initial spark and lasting connection
  • Love as a mutual, ongoing choice
  • The fundamental pillars of long lasting relationships - shared values, emotional proximity, and reciprocal effort
  • The role of intuition vs anxiety
  • The need for authenticity and growth within a partnership

If you’re feeling the pressure to pick the ‘right’ person, or want to learn about the fundamentals of deep connection, this episode is for you.


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