172. WE MARRIED THE SAME MAN

Dating is full of options, but that doesn't mean we're choosing wisely. In this episode, Josh sits down with Megan Davies for an honest, funny, and occasionally uncomfortable conversation about dating with intention after divorce.From first-date safety and screening potential partners before meeting to knowing your non-negotiables, Megan shares her personal dating checklist, why a phone call can tell you more than weeks of texting, and how to stop confusing chemistry with compatibility.They also get into rebuilding confidence after divorce, the relationship between aesthetics and self-worth, setting boundaries, and recognizing when someone is actually showing up for you.Because getting someone's attention is one thing. Figuring out whether they're worth your time? That's a whole different game.More of Megan

What if finding the right person isn’t the problem… but becoming the right partner is?Josh sits down with executive dating coach and matchmaker Amari Ice to unpack why chemistry isn’t enough, how to stop repeating the same dating patterns, and the four areas of relationship readiness that can make or break your love life.Because wanting love and knowing how to build it are two different things. Are you ready for the relationship you keep asking for?🎧 Tune in to The Not So Bad Bachelor Pad for an honest conversation about dating smarter, building connection, and becoming a better partner.

What if better sex has less to do with technique and more to do with how well you know yourself?Joshua is joined by Olivia Dydyna to explore the connection between sexuality, emotional healing, and deeper intimacy. Drawing from her own journey, Olivia shares how she went from navigating codependency and seeking external validation to helping men, women, and couples reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems, and experience pleasure without shame.Together, they unpack why so many people treat sex like a performance, how unresolved wounds influence attraction, and why the chemistry that drives you wild isn't always the connection that's good for you. From orgasm and emotional safety to tantra, body awareness, and the pressure to get it right, this conversation challenges what we think we know about pleasure.Because sometimes, the biggest thing standing between you and better sex isn't your partner. It's you.To watch the full conversation head on over to our YouTube

What if the stories we consume are shaping the way we love?Writer, actor, and NFTease creator Niki Borger joins Josh for a candid, funny conversation about dating patterns, sexual confidence, family baggage, and how the stories we tell can influence what we believe about love, consent, and relationships.They get into why we keep dating the same person in a different body, when being a good partner becomes self-abandonment, and whether sexual confidence always means emotional availability. Plus, Niki shares how her personal experiences and work in entertainment inspired her to challenge stereotypes and turn familiar narratives inside out with her upcoming sitcom, NFTease.In this episode:Are you attracted to them—or just familiar with their dysfunction?When does compromise become losing yourself?Can you be sexually confident but emotionally unavailable?How do family patterns influence who we choose?What does a healthy relationship look like without codependency?🎬 Find Niki & NFTease:Instagram & TikTok: @NFTeaseSeriesWebsite: filewolfent.com/NFTeaseIf your “type” has a suspiciously consistent résumé, send this episode to the friend who needs to hear it. Because chemistry is great, but compatibility pays the rent.

Are you really in love, or are you just getting better at keeping the peace?Joshua Jones sits down with Eva Levina to unpack how love can slowly turn into control—and how patience, loyalty, and “being a good partner” can become self-abandonment.They get into subtle red flags, financial control, criticism disguised as concern, chemistry vs. compatibility, and what happens to trust, dating, and sex after you finally leave.Eva shares what it took to rebuild her identity after more than two decades of marriage, while Josh asks the uncomfortable question: Are you choosing love, or just avoiding conflict?If you've ever wondered whether you're truly happy or just maintaining the status quo… this one's worth thinking about.

What happens when the man you married turns out to be living a double life?Deana and Lizzie both married the same man—at different times—and eventually discovered a pattern of deception, emotional abuse, manipulation, and overlapping relationships.But this story gets even crazier: after connecting and comparing notes, they tracked down another woman who was unknowingly dating the same man.In this episode, Josh and the gals get into the red flags they missed, why charm can hide bad character, how love bombing and manipulation actually work, and why even smart, self-aware people can find themselves questioning their own instincts.Because sometimes the biggest red flag isn't what someone does.It's how often you find yourself explaining it away.

What if the reason you keep having the same relationship problems has less to do with the people you choose—and more to do with the way you show up? Joshua Jones sits down with Dr. Allison Brenner, psychotherapist, industrial-organizational psychologist, and founder of InnerVue, to explore the uncomfortable gap between who you think you are and how other people actually experience you. From dating the “same person” in different bodies to being misunderstood at work, Dr. Brenner breaks down how blind spots, overused strengths, and the difference between intent and impact can keep us stuck in patterns we don't even realize we're repeating.We get into why your friends and partners may not tell you the real stuff, how to separate useful feedback from someone's personal opinion, why curiosity beats confrontation, and how getting honest perception data can turn self-awareness into real change. If you've ever wondered “Why does this keep happening to me?” this conversation might leave you asking a much more uncomfortable question: “What is it actually like to experience me?”If you want to see how you impact others get your InnerVue assessment 20% off with CODE: bachelor20tiktok/@thenotsobad

What if the relationship you’re trying so hard to move on from is still shaping who you’re attracted to today? Joshua Jones sits down with healer and meditation teacher Ben Oofana for a raw conversation about heartbreak, attachment, ghosting, closure, and why we can keep repeating the same relationship patterns with a different face. Ben shares the unconventional path behind his work—from a deeply dysfunctional childhood in Southeast Texas to training with Native American elders, completing vision quests, and studying practices designed to help people move through grief rather than simply think their way past it. We get into why understanding your pain isn't always the same as actually processing it, how attachment wounds influence who we choose, why ghosting can hit so deeply, and what it really takes to let go when part of you still doesn't want to.Joshua and Ben also explore why we sometimes romanticize emotional unavailability, how dating apps and screen addiction can make genuine connection harder, and how breathwork, meditation, body awareness, and sustained practice can change the way we experience emotional pain. Most importantly, they ask what happens when you stop trying to escape the feeling and finally learn how to sit with it. If you've ever said "I'm over it" while secretly knowing you're still carrying the relationship, this episode is for you.TikTok

What do heartbreak, 30 years of dating, and two sticks of butter have in common? Julie Seyler.Julie joins Joshua Jones for a funny, honest conversation about dating, heartbreak, being single at 59, and what happens when you stop chasing the life you were told you were supposed to want. From ignored red flags to questionable romantic decisions, Julie proves that sometimes the best stories come from the relationships that didn't work out.In this episode, we get into:The biggest dating lies women tell themselvesHow many red flags Julie ignored for the "storybook ending"Heartbreak at 25 vs. heartbreak at 55Whether being single feels freeing, lonely, or a little bit of bothWhy chemistry and compatibility aren't the same thingWhat dating apps hide beneath the surfaceWhat 30 years of dating taught Julie that relationships never couldHow heartbreak became a memoir—and somehow involved 40 dessert recipesBecause sometimes healing requires perspective.And sometimes it requires two sticks of butter.Listen now—and tell us: what's the biggest lesson dating ever taught you?

Do you constantly put everyone else first, avoid conflict, and wonder why you feel exhausted or disconnected from yourself?In this episode of The Not So Bad Bachelor Pad, Kori Strobel breaks down one of the most overlooked relationship killers: self-abandonment. What looks like kindness, selflessness, or being "easygoing" is often rooted in anxiety, fear of rejection, and the belief that keeping everyone else happy is the only way to stay connected.Kori shares her own journey from chronic people-pleasing to authentic self-trust and explains why boundaries alone aren't enough if you haven't developed the emotional tools to support them. We also explore how social media has intensified our need for external validation, making it even harder to recognize who we are beneath everyone else's expectations. In this episode, we discuss :The hidden difference between healthy compromise and self-abandonment.Why people-pleasing is often driven by fear—not kindness.The subtle signs you've lost touch with your own needs.Why boundaries can actually increase anxiety if the inner work isn't there.How childhood experiences shape people-pleasing patterns.Practical ways to regulate your emotions instead of shutting down or checking out.How grieving old wounds helps you build healthier relationships today.If you've ever struggled to say no, felt responsible for everyone else's emotions, or found yourself chasing approval instead of peace, this conversation will give you practical tools to reconnect with yourself without sacrificing the relationships that matter. Connect with Kori StrobelWebsite: koristrobel.comInstagram: @koristrobelFacebook: Kori StrobelLearn more about her coaching and courses on recovering from people-pleasing at her website.If you enjoyed this episode, be sure to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to stop living for everyone else and start showing up authentically.