Financial Planning Mistakes: The Most Risky Moves Aren’t What You Think

Bruce said something on the show that stuck with me because it’s so honest: Everyone thinks they’re an aggressive investor… until they lose money. And it’s true. Most people don’t even realize the biggest financial planning mistakes they’re making until the moment something “unexpected” happens: a market drop, a job change, a medical curveball, an opportunity they can’t jump on because their money is locked away. https://www.youtube.com/live/wp4PzmsvzFQ Bruce also joked that when people go to casinos, nobody ever admits they lost. They either “won” or “broke even.” But those crystal chandeliers weren’t paid for by winners. That’s exactly what happens in real life with money. In the good years, we feel smart. In the up markets, we feel confident. And when everyone around us is sharing their “wins,” it’s easy to believe the biggest risk is simply not being invested enough. But then the market drops. A business hits a slow season. A medical issue shows up. Interest rates shift. Taxes rise. Or the opportunity you’ve been praying for appears—and your cash is locked up, waiting on someone else’s permission. That’s what today’s conversation is about: the sneaky, everyday financial planning mistakes that create real risk—often more than the stock market ever will. What Most Financial Planning Mistakes Really Look LikeFinancial Planning Mistakes Start With Misunderstanding “Risk”Risk tolerance vs risk capacity (and why it matters)Financial Planning Mistakes: Chasing Returns vs Long-Term Financial SecurityThe hidden cost of FOMOThe Safety, Liquidity, and Growth FrameworkHow to balance safety, liquidity, and growth in a portfolioLiquidity Risk in Financial Planning: Locking Money Away Without Realizing ItFinancial Planning Mistakes: Outsourcing Control and Financial Thinking1) Relying on assumptions instead of strategy2) Giving up access and permissionRetirement Planning Mistakes: Why the “Way Down the Mountain” Is HarderWhat is sequence of returns risk in retirement?How to reduce sequence of returns riskTax Risk: Required Minimum Distributions and the Inherited IRA 10-Year RuleRequired minimum distributions tax planningInherited IRA 10-year rule taxes (SECURE Act)How to Minimize Risk: Whole Life Insurance Cash Value - Liquidityand Legacy ProtectionWhole life insurance as a volatility bufferA personal note on why this mattersWhat to Remember and What to Do NextListen to the Full Episode on Financial Planning MistakesFAQWhat are the most common financial planning mistakes?What is sequence of returns risk in retirement?How do you define risk tolerance vs risk capacity?Why is liquidity important in financial planning?How do required minimum distributions create tax risk?How does the inherited IRA 10-year rule affect heirs?Can whole life insurance reduce portfolio risk? What Most Financial Planning Mistakes Really Look Like When most people hear the word “risk,” they immediately think of market volatility. The stock market goes up and down. Inflation eats purchasing power. Taxes change. Interest rates rise. Those are real risks. But they’re not the only risks—and for many families, they’re not even the biggest ones. Some of the most risky moves in financial planning are the ones that feel “normal”: Chasing returns because you don’t want to miss out Locking money away without liquidity Relying on assumptions instead of strategy Outsourcing too much control and decision-making Ignoring tax risk until required minimum distributions force your hand Building retirement plans without accounting for sequence of returns risk This post is designed to help you identify the financial planning mistakes that quietly erode your financial strength. You’ll also learn a simple framework—safety, liquidity, and growth—that makes decisions clearer, and helps you reduce risk in ways most financial conversations never touch. If you want more control, more flexibility, and more confidence in your future, this is for you. Financial Planning Mistakes Start With Misunderstanding “Risk” Risk is a subjective word. What feels risky to you might feel normal to your friend, your neighbor, or even your spouse. People in the same family can interpret “risk” in completely different ways. That’s why generic risk questionnaires often miss the point. They may score your “risk tolerance,” but they can’t fully capture how you’ll actually respond when real money is on the line and emotions show up. One of the clearest ways to surface what risk truly means to you is to compare two types of risk most people don’t realize they carry: The risk of losing money (or seeing your account value drop) The risk of missing upside (watching the market rise while your portfolio lags) Here’s a simple question that cuts through the noise: If the stock market goes up 20% and you only go up 5%, does that make you feel worse than if the market goes down 20% and you go down 20%—but you could have only gone down 5%? Both matter. Both affect behavior. Both can lead to costly decisions—especially if your plan was built without understanding which kind of risk you actually can live with. Risk tolerance vs risk capacity (and why it matters) Another layer that’s often overlooked is the difference between risk tolerance and risk capacity. Risk tolerance is emotional. It’s how you feel. Risk capacity is structural. It’s whether you can absorb a financial hit without changing your life, your timeline, or your goals. Someone might feel “aggressive” in theory—but if they can’t open their investment statements during a downturn, that’s a signal. If a portfolio drop would force them to delay retirement, sell assets at the wrong time, or sacrifice lifestyle essentials, that’s a signal too. Many financial planning mistakes happen when confidence is treated as a plan. Financial Planning Mistakes: Chasing Returns vs Long-Term Financial Security One of the most common risky financial planning moves is chasing returns without thinking through the cost of the downside. It’s easy to get pulled into what looks like success—especially when you’re only seeing the highlight reel. People talk about the big win: The stock that exploded The crypto run The rental property that doubled The syndication that paid great returns for a few years What you don’t hear as often is the full story: the losses, the near-misses, the stress, the deals that didn’t work, the years where returns were negative, or the moment one major downturn wiped out a decade of progress. There’s also a common belief that causes people to justify risky moves: “More risk means higher returns.” That’s not what higher risk means. Higher risk means higher potential for loss. Sometimes you win big. Sometimes you lose big. And it only takes one major loss to erase years of steady gains. This is why chasing returns vs long-term financial security is such an important conversation. The goal isn’t to catch every upside. The goal is to build a system that lets you keep moving forward—regardless of what the economy does. The hidden cost of FOMO Fear of missing out isn’t just emotional—it changes behavior. It can push you to: Abandon a sound plan for a trendy one Overconcentrate in one asset class Take on leverage you wouldn’t normally take Move money too quickly without understanding what you’re buying FOMO convinces you that the risk is “not being in.” But sometimes the real risk is being in something you don’t understand, can’t control, and can’t exit cleanly. The Safety, Liquidity, and Growth Framework There are three primary attributes that matter in every financial decision: Safety Liquidity Growth Most people have been taught to focus almost exclusively on growth. That’s why financial planning mistakes are so common—because growth is only one part of the equation. You generally can’t maximize all three attributes in one place. Each asset carries trade-offs. That doesn’t mean you avoid growth. It means you assign each bucket of money a purpose—and then choose the asset that does that job best. How to balance safety, liquidity, and growth in a portfolio A better question than “What’s the best investment?” is: What is this money supposed to do? Different dollars have different jobs. Some dollars are meant to be stable and accessible (emergency reserves, opportunity funds, tax buffers). Some dollars can take on long-term growth risk (true long-term capital). Some dollars are meant to create income, serve as a legacy tool, or act as a stability anchor. When every dollar is forced into a growth-only mindset, families create unnecessary vulnerability. Liquidity Risk in Financial Planning: Locking Money Away Without Realizing It Liquidity risk is one of the most underestimated financial planning mistakes. It shows up when you can’t access your money without: penalties approvals delays forced timing market losses gatekeepers It might be your money, but it isn’t in your control. This can happen in many places: retirement accounts with early withdrawal penalties strategies that require “qualifying” to access cash equity trapped in assets that can’t be sold quickly products that take months (or longer) to unwind investments that require perfect conditions to exit A real example: someone retiring from a school system is offered a pension decision—take a higher monthly payment, or reduce it to take a lump sum. The lump sum sounds like “freedom,” but if it must be rolled to an IRA and the person is under 59½, access is restricted without penalty. That’s a liquidity problem. And it’s a control problem. “Locking money away without liquidity” is often disguised as “being responsible” Many people make decisions that look responsible on paper—max out accounts,

A Hospital Room Reminder About What Really Matters When Bruce recorded this episode, I was in the hospital. He carried the podcast solo while I was headed into yet another surgery connected to pregnancy complications—a storyline some of you know has been part of our family’s journey for years. https://www.youtube.com/live/Fbq412_k_mU That day was a harsh reminder: life is fragile, the future is never guaranteed, and your family’s financial stability cannot depend on “hoping it all works out.” It has to be built on purpose. And that’s exactly what cash flow vs accumulation is really about: not numbers on a statement, but whether the people you love will be equipped, protected, and provided for—no matter what happens to you. A Hospital Room Reminder About What Really MattersWhy Cash Flow vs Accumulation Matters More Than a NumberWhy Cash Flow vs Accumulation: How to Build Multigenerational Wealth Matters NowWhat Is the Difference Between Cash Flow and Accumulation Investing?How to Shift from Accumulation to Cash Flow in Personal FinanceHow to Manage Cash Flow Like a Business in Your Personal FinancesHow to Create a Personal Cash Flow Strategy That Supports Your LifeCash Flow vs Accumulation: How to Build Multigenerational Wealth in PracticeBest Cash Flowing Assets for Families and Business OwnersShould You Use a HELOC to Fund Life Insurance Premiums and Cash Flow Investments?From a Pile of Money to a Living Financial SystemGo Deeper With the Full Cash Flow vs Accumulation EpisodeFAQ – Cash Flow vs Accumulation and Multigenerational WealthWhat is the difference between cash flow and accumulation investing?How can I shift from accumulation to cash flow in my personal finances?How do I create a personal cash flow strategy that supports my lifestyle?What are the best cash flowing assets for families and business owners?How can focusing on cash flow vs accumulation help build multigenerational wealth? Why Cash Flow vs Accumulation Matters More Than a Number Most financial conversations revolve around a number. “How much do I need to retire?”“What should my net worth be at this age?”“What’s my freedom number?” Those questions all assume one thing: that a bigger pile of assets automatically equals security. But it doesn’t. A big balance that doesn’t produce reliable cash flow can disappear quickly. You start selling assets, paying taxes, and hoping the market cooperates. That’s not peace of mind. That’s pressure. In this article, I want to walk you through a different way of thinking: cash flow vs accumulation and how to build multigenerational wealth with a system instead of a guess. You’ll see: What is the difference between cash flow and accumulation investing in real life How to shift from accumulation to cash flow in your personal finances How to manage cash flow like a business in your personal economy The role of cash flowing assets, Infinite Banking, and trusts in building multigenerational wealth How Secure Act 2.0 and current tax rules affect inherited accounts and cash flow My goal is not to make you feel behind, but to help you feel equipped. You can design a personal cash flow strategy that supports your lifestyle now and continues to bless your family long after you’re gone. Why Cash Flow vs Accumulation: How to Build Multigenerational Wealth Matters Now At the simplest level, accumulation is about growing a balance; cash flow is about growing an income stream. Most people are taught the accumulation mindset from day one. Work hard, spend less than you make, and stash the difference in a 401(k), IRA, or brokerage account. You watch the balance grow over time and hope it’s enough. Cash flow asks a different set of questions. Instead of “How much do I have?” it asks, “What is this money doing? How much sustainable income does it produce? How easily can my family access it? And how long will it last?” Accumulation is about mass; cash flow is about motion. Mass can look impressive on paper. Motion is what pays the bills, funds opportunities, and supports your heirs without forcing them to sell assets at the worst possible time. When you start thinking this way, your focus shifts from chasing the biggest number to designing the strongest system. What Is the Difference Between Cash Flow and Accumulation Investing? Let’s make this practical. Accumulation investing looks like this: your paycheck comes in, your bills go out, and whatever is left—if anything—gets swept into a savings account, retirement plan, or investment account. You might reinvest dividends automatically, but you’re mostly watching the line go up and down on a graph and hoping the long-term trend is favorable. Cash flow investing is more intentional. You still earn income, still pay expenses, but you do one crucial thing differently: you give that surplus a job. Instead of leaving it to drift, you send it into assets that are designed to pay you on a regular basis. That might be a rental property, a share in a business, a private lending fund, a dividend-paying stock portfolio, or a policy loan strategy built on whole life insurance. The key is that these assets put money back into your personal economy as a dependable stream, not just a fluctuating account value. Accumulation is “I hope this is enough someday.”Cash flow is “I know what this produces every month, and I can plan around it.” How to Shift from Accumulation to Cash Flow in Personal Finance The shift doesn’t happen with one dramatic move; it happens through a series of decisions. The first step is awareness. You need to see your personal economy the way a CFO sees a business. That means tracking not just your balance, but your flow. How much truly comes in? Where exactly does it go? What is the consistent surplus? Once you know the surplus, you can stop letting it evaporate. This is where Bruce’s idea of a Wealth Coordination Account becomes powerful. Instead of leaving extra money in the same checking account that pays your groceries and subscriptions, you move it to a separate, dedicated account. That account becomes the home base for your cash flow strategy. It’s where you hold cash temporarily while you decide: do we pay down a debt that’s draining us? Do we fund a life insurance premium that will expand our long-term options? Do we step into a strategic rental, a business partnership, or a dividend-focused portfolio? Shifting from accumulation to cash flow is less about wild new investments and more about refusing to let surplus be accidental. You become intentional about directing it toward assets that feed you back. How to Manage Cash Flow Like a Business in Your Personal Finances Bruce shared a simple but powerful idea: Run your personal economy the way a healthy business runs its economy. A good business watches: Revenue in Expenses out Profit (cash flow) How quickly profit is redeployed to either increase revenue or decrease expenses You can do the same at home. Track your cash flow clearlyDon’t just “check your balance.” Know exactly what’s coming in, what’s going out, and what’s left. Increase income where you canSide business, consulting, a raise, better pricing in your current business—anything that adds more revenue to your personal economy. Decrease unnecessary expensesLook at both:Discretionary spending (the “nice to haves”) Non-discretionary spending (insurance, utilities, groceries) where you can shop, renegotiate, or restructure. Capture the surplus in a separate “Wealth Coordination Account”This is something Bruce and I teach often:Create a separate account for excess cash flowDon’t let it disappear into your normal spending Use this account to fund your cash flow strategy, pay premiums, and invest in new opportunities This is the heart of cash flow planning—directing every dollar on purpose. How to Create a Personal Cash Flow Strategy That Supports Your Life A personal cash flow strategy isn’t just a budget. It’s a design for how money moves through your life: Income sources W-2 income Business income Rental income Dividends and distributions Core expenses Lifestyle (home, food, transportation, education) Taxes Debt payments Surplus (profit) This is what flows into your Wealth Coordination Account Redeployment planYou decide in advance: What percentage goes to debt reduction What percentage goes to cash flowing assets What percentage goes to premiums on your whole life policies What percentage stays liquid for opportunities This is how you manage your cash flow instead of reacting to it. Over time, this system builds stability for you and creates a foundation for multigenerational wealth planning. Cash Flow vs Accumulation: How to Build Multigenerational Wealth in Practice So how do we make cash flow vs accumulation truly multigenerational? Bruce and his wife use a simple repeatable framework: Cash flowing assets (businesses, rentals, funds) send income into a Wealth Coordination Account. That account pays premiums for permanent life insurance policies. As cash value grows, they borrow against policies to purchase more cash flowing investments. The new cash flow goes back to: Repay policy loans Rebuild the Wealth Coordination Account Fund additional opportunities Rinse and repeat. On the legacy side: Trusts are structured so that death benefits and cash flowing assets pass in an organized, tax-aware way to nieces, nephews, and charities. The trust language gives guidance and guardrails for how the next generation should use policy loans, pay them back, and take out new policies on their own lives and their children’s lives. This is how building generational wealth with cash flow becomes a repeatable family system, not just a one-time event.

The Couple With $8.5 Million… and One Salad “Bruce, I’m afraid we’re going to run out of money.” He had over $8.5 million across different accounts. They were in their early 70s. On paper, they were far ahead of where most people ever get. https://www.youtube.com/live/L4phmdaJydw But his fear was so real that when they went out to dinner, his wife shared a salad instead of ordering her own—because he was afraid they “couldn’t afford” it. This is what we see over and over again. People obsess over the question “how much do I need to retire?”They chase a number.They hit that number—or get close to it.And still feel anxious, fragile, and uncertain. The problem isn’t just the money.The problem is the model. The Couple With $8.5 Million… and One SaladWhy “How Much Do I Need to Retire?” Is the Wrong First QuestionHow Much Do I Need to Retire? Why That Question Is MisleadingRetirement Cash Flow vs Nest Egg: What You Really NeedSequence of Return Risk in Retirement: Why Timing Matters More Than AveragesBuilding a Retirement Buffer Account to Protect Your PortfolioHow a buffer account protects your retirement portfolio:The LIFE Acronym for Retirement Planning: Liquid, Income, Flexible, EstateProblems With Traditional Retirement Planning and the 4 Percent RuleRedefining Retirement: Gradual Retirement vs Traditional “Out of Service”Cash-Flowing Assets and Alternative Investments for Retirement Cash FlowUsing Whole Life Insurance in Retirement for Guarantees and FlexibilityHow Much Do I Need to Retire? Rethinking the Real QuestionListen to the Full Episode on How Much Do I Need to RetireBook A Strategy CallFAQ: How Much Do I Need to Retire?How much do I need to retire comfortably?How do I know if I have enough to retire?What is sequence of return risk in retirement?What is a retirement buffer account?Is whole life insurance good for retirement income?How can I create guaranteed income in retirement without a pension?How much income do I need in retirement each month?How can my retirement plan serve future generations? Why “How Much Do I Need to Retire?” Is the Wrong First Question If you’ve ever typed how much do I need to retire or how much money do I need to retire into Google, you’re not alone. The financial industry has trained us to believe that the right “number” equals security. But that question is incomplete. It ignores: How long you’ll live How much you’ll actually spend How many emergencies will show up What taxes and inflation will do What sequence of returns your investments will experience In this article, Bruce and I will help you: Understand why “how much do I need to retire” is the wrong question to start with See the difference between retirement cash flow vs nest egg Grasp sequence of return risk in retirement with simple examples Learn how a retirement buffer account can protect you Use the LIFE acronym for retirement planning (Liquid, Income, Flexible, Estate) Explore cash flowing assets, alternative investments, and whole life insurance in retirement Rethink retirement itself—from an “out of service” event to a purposeful, gradual transition My goal is to empower you to take control of your financial life with clarity, not fear. How Much Do I Need to Retire? Why That Question Is Misleading The classic commercial asked, “What’s your number?” People walked around carrying a big orange figure that supposedly represented what they needed to retire. Here’s the problem: That number assumes: A set rate of return A set withdrawal rate No major disruptions And that you won’t touch your principal But real life is not a straight-line projection. When you ask how much do I need to retire, you’re usually really asking: “How can I have enough cash flow for as long as I’m alive, without living in fear?” The issue is not just how much you have—it’s how that wealth behaves under stress and how it converts into dependable income. Retirement Cash Flow vs Nest Egg: What You Really Need Traditional planning focuses on accumulation: “If I can just get to $X million, I’ll be fine.” But what you actually live on is cash flow, not the size of your account statement. You need to know: How much income do I need in retirement each month? Which part of that income is guaranteed and which part is variable How that income will behave if markets drop or inflation spikes If you have $2 million but no idea how to turn that into reliable, sustainable cash flow, you will feel fragile. If you have a mix of guaranteed income in retirement plus flexible cash flowing assets, even a smaller nest egg can feel much more secure. The question isn’t just how much money do I need to retire, but how do I design cash flow that will last? Sequence of Return Risk in Retirement: Why Timing Matters More Than Averages The industry loves to tell you that “the market averages 10% over time.” That’s nice trivia—but it’s not how your life works. If you’re accumulating, you can ride out the ups and downs.If you’re retired and pulling money out, the sequence of returns can make or break you. Here’s a simple illustration: Start with $100,000 Year 1: -20% → now you have $80,000 Year 2: +20% → now you have $96,000 The average return is 0% (-20 + 20 / 2).But your actual money is down $4,000. Now imagine that on top of the losses, you’re pulling out 4–6% per year to live. Suddenly, the portfolio has to recover the market loss and everything you withdrew. That’s sequence of return risk explained with examples—and why relying solely on averages is dangerous. Building a Retirement Buffer Account to Protect Your Portfolio One of the most powerful ways to address sequence of return risk in retirement is using a retirement buffer account. The idea is simple: When markets are down, you do not take distributions from your volatile assets. Instead, you live off a separate, safe buffer of liquid capital. This buffer could be: Cash in the bank CDs or other stable vehicles Cash value in a well-designed whole life insurance policy How a buffer account protects your retirement portfolio: It gives your market-based assets time to recover It reduces the risk of selling low during downturns It lowers emotional stress when headlines scream “market crash” You’re no longer forced to sell when everything is on sale. The LIFE Acronym for Retirement Planning: Liquid, Income, Flexible, Estate To make this practical, we often walk clients through the LIFE acronym for retirement planning: L – LiquidHow much “15-minute money” do you need to feel comfortable? This is money you can access quickly for emergencies or peace of mind—not dependent on your cash flow plan. I – IncomeHow much income do you need each month? How much of that would you like guaranteed? This is where retirement income planning really happens. F – FlexibleThis is liquid money that’s not earmarked for emergencies or core living expenses. It’s for things like trips, special projects, and helping kids or grandkids. It’s the “I can do this without stress” bucket. E – EstateHow much do you want to leave behind, and in what form? This is where how to make your retirement plan serve future generations becomes part of the design. A well-designed mix of cash, whole life insurance, and other assets can touch every part of LIFE: Liquid, Income, Flexible, and Estate. Problems With Traditional Retirement Planning and the 4 Percent Rule Traditional planning often rests on: A withdrawal rule (4% or 5%) Market-based portfolios Historical averages and Monte Carlo simulations But as Bruce mentioned: A 100-year average doesn’t matter if you’re retired for 20 years Inflation erodes real purchasing power Market volatility plus withdrawals increase fragility Focusing only on accumulation creates emotional anxiety This is why cash flow vs accumulation in retirement planning is such an important shift. When you’re not dependent on markets going up every year just so you can eat, your whole experience of retirement changes. Redefining Retirement: Gradual Retirement vs Traditional “Out of Service” Nelson Nash used to remind us: Retirement, by definition, means “taken out of service.” Most of us don’t want to be taken out of service; we want to stay useful, engaged, and purposeful. Instead of a hard stop at 65, consider redefining retirement as a gradual retirement vs traditional retirement: Negotiating part-time work or consulting Reducing hours instead of walking away completely Staying in the game mentally, physically, and relationally We’ve seen engineers move to 10 hours a week, seasoned professionals mentor younger staff, and business owners step back from daily operations while still contributing. Purposeful work, even part-time, can: Supplement your retirement income Reduce pressure on your portfolio Keep you sharp and connected Retirement doesn’t have to mean being benched. Cash-Flowing Assets and Alternative Investments for Retirement Cash Flow Another powerful way to support retirement is shifting some focus from growth-only assets to cash flowing assets for retirement. Examples include: Dividend-paying stocks Real estate (direct ownership or funds) Private lending Certain alternative investments for retirement For accredited investors, there are a variety of alternative investments for retirement cash flow: Multifamily apartment funds Industrial and distribution center funds Certain energy or infrastructure programs Technology and telecom infrastructure (like tower or data assets) These are not guaranteed and require careful due diligence, but they’re often backed by real underlying assets and designed with yield in mind.

The Day a Cookie Business Changed How My Daughter Saw Money After watching a kid biz launch challenge our eight-year-old decided she wanted to start a cookie business. She figured out recipes, canvased the neighborhood, and delivered her first batch of cookie dough. By the end of the day, she had a stack of cash in her hand and stars in her eyes. https://www.youtube.com/live/yzjkVUl38HM Then we sat down at the table. “Okay,” I said, “you didn’t just make $100 you made $100 of income. Now we’re going to give, save, and spend.” Suddenly, that pile of money shrank. Ten dollars to giving. Forty to saving. Fifty left to spend. And right there, without a textbook or a classroom, she began to understand what real money management feels like: choices, trade-offs, and the realization that dollars follow value. That’s a picture of how to teach kids about money in real life—not as an abstract idea, but as something they can see, touch, and live. Table of ContentsThe Day a Cookie Business Changed How My Daughter Saw MoneyWhy Learning How to Teach Kids About Money Matters More Than EverHow to Teach Your Kids About Money From a Young AgeHow Early Money Experiences Shape Your Child’s Financial MindsetTeaching Kids Delayed Gratification With Money: Saving First, Spending LaterTeaching Kids About Saving and Spending: The Pain of a Bad PurchaseHow Chores and Earning Money Teach Kids ResponsibilityHelping Kids Develop a Wealth Mindset, Not a Consumer MindsetTeaching Teens About Debit Cards and Digital MoneyHow to Talk to Adult Children About Money and Financial HabitsTeaching Children Financial Literacy Is Your Job, Not the School’sHow to Teach Kids About Money in a Way That Actually SticksGo Deeper on How to Teach Kids About MoneyBook A Strategy CallFAQ: How to Teach Kids About Money (For Parents, Teens, and Adult Children)What is the best way to teach kids about money from a young age?How can I teach kids to save money and not spend it all?How do chores and earning money teach kids responsibility?How can I help my child develop a wealthy mindset, not a consumer mindset?How should I talk to my teen about debit cards and digital money?How do I talk to adult children about money habits without starting a fight?What is the three jar system for kids? Why Learning How to Teach Kids About Money Matters More Than Ever When parents ask us how to teach kids about money, they’re not really asking about dollars and cents. They’re asking: How do I raise financially responsible kids? How do I help them avoid the money mistakes I made? How do I give my child a wealthy mindset, not a consumer mindset shaped by social media and advertising? In this article, we are going to walk with you through: How to teach your kids about money from a young age Simple money lessons for kids that start before they earn their first dollar How chores, jobs, and entrepreneurship help kids understand that dollars follow value How to teach kids about saving and spending, delayed gratification, and lifestyle choices How early money experiences shape your child’s financial mindset, from little kids to teens to adult children By the end, you’ll have practical scripts, examples, and frameworks you can start using today—whether your kids are 6, 16, or already out of the house. How to Teach Your Kids About Money From a Young Age If you ask us, there is no such thing as “too early” when it comes to teaching children financial literacy. From the moment they see you tap a card at the store, they’re forming beliefs about money: Is money scarce or abundant? Is it something we talk about, or something we avoid? Does it control us, or do we steward it? We live in a world that constantly pushes kids toward consumption—commercials, YouTube, TikTok, billboards. A child who has never seen a Barbie Dream House commercial would be perfectly happy playing with pots and pans in the kitchen. The ad didn’t just sell a toy; it told them what “ happiness” should look like. If we’re not intentionally teaching kids good money habits, the culture is. That’s why the earlier you start, the more “normal” healthy money habits feel. It’s not a lecture—it’s just how our family does life. How Early Money Experiences Shape Your Child’s Financial Mindset Bruce often shares how his grandparents saved ration tickets from World War II on the windowsill for decades. They washed plastic forks and cups after every big holiday meal. Those early experiences created a deep, almost subconscious scarcity mindset. Later, his parents went through the inflation of the 1970s and the loss of a family business. All of that shaped how he views risk, saving, and spending even today. Your kids are also absorbing your story right now: How you react when an unexpected bill comes in Whether you complain constantly about money Whether you live in chronic anxiety or quiet confidence You don’t have to be perfect. But you do need to be honest, consistent, and intentional. That’s how parents can model healthy money habits for their children—far more powerfully than any lecture. Teaching Kids Delayed Gratification With Money: Saving First, Spending Later One of the most important money habits for kids that starts before they earn their first dollar is simply this: Save first, then spend what’s left. It’s the marshmallow test with dollars. Do I eat the one marshmallow now, or wait and get two later? With our kids, we use a simple three jar system for kids: give, save, spend. 10% to giving 40% to saving 50% to spending We started this when they were very young with transparent jars, so they could see money growing in each category. Anytime they earned money—from chores, business, or gifts we chose to include—we walked through the same process: Give first (generosity as a default, not an afterthought) Save second (for long-term wealth building and investing) Spend last (on wants and short-term goals) Over time, this shifted their thinking: “If I want $50 to spend, I have to earn $100.” “My savings isn’t just future spending; it’s capital for making more money.” That’s teaching kids the difference between saving and spending in a way they can feel—not just understand intellectually. Teaching Kids About Saving and Spending: The Pain of a Bad Purchase For one of our daughters, the biggest teacher has been buyer’s remorse. She’s our spender. She’ll get $25 and want to spend it immediately. Then, the next day, she sees something else she wants more, or realizes Christmas is coming and she wants to buy gifts for family—and that same $25 is gone. We don’t shield her from that discomfort. We want her to feel: “Every dollar I spend here is a dollar I cannot spend there.” “My choices today affect my options tomorrow.” That’s how to help your child avoid lifestyle creep and overspending later in life. It starts with small, low-stakes decisions that train their decision-making muscles long before those decisions involve cars, houses, and credit cards. How Chores and Earning Money Teach Kids Responsibility We don’t pay our kids for basic chores. Chores—like cleaning your room, helping with dishes, cleaning up toys—are simply part of contributing to the family. That’s how to raise financially responsible kids and emotionally responsible kids. But we do pay for above-and-beyond work that creates extra value: Vacuuming the whole house Cleaning all the bathrooms Larger projects we’d otherwise pay someone else to do That’s when we start teaching kids that dollars follow value. Money is the result, not the cause. Bruce grew up mowing lawns, returning baseballs at the ball field, and collecting bottles for deposit money. No one handed him an allowance; he learned that if he wanted something, he had to figure out what value he could create in the world to earn it. That’s also how chores and earning money teach kids responsibility: They recognize needs around them They see the connection between effort, value, and income They start to think entrepreneurially You’re not just teaching kids about money management. You’re teaching them how to think like producers, not just consumers. Helping Kids Develop a Wealth Mindset, Not a Consumer Mindset One of the biggest tensions today is balancing scarcity and abundance. On one side, there’s fear-based scarcity: “We can’t spend anything.” “We can never enjoy life.” “We must hoard every dollar.” On the other side, there’s consumption-based scarcity: “If I don’t buy the trip, the car, the concert, I’m missing out.” “I’m not enough unless I have more, do more, go more.” Both are fear-based. A wealth mindset says: I can enjoy life within wise limits. I choose meaningful experiences, not constant upgrades. I build a cash-flowing asset base that funds my lifestyle. This is where using Robert Kiyosaki’s Cashflow game to teach kids about money can be powerful. It shows them: Income vs Expenses Assets vs Liabilities The goal of building cash-flowing assets until passive income exceeds expenses In other words, how to give your child a wealthy mindset not a consumer mindset—by showing them a bigger vision for money than just “get paid, then spend it.” Teaching Teens About Debit Cards and Digital Money Today, money is more invisible than ever. Tap your phone. Click a button. Apple Pay, Google Pay, one-click checkout—no pain, no pause, no counting cash. For teens, that can be dangerous. Teaching teens about debit cards and digital money means pulling back the curtain: Show them their bank statement regularly. Connect each purchase to the actual hours of work it took to earn it. Talk about overdrafts, fraud, and security—not to scare them, but to equip them. With our 14-year-old,

The Day the “Emergency Fund” Met Real Life Rachel here. Many tell us the same story: “I saved the emergency fund, but I’m worried I’m losing ground to inflation and missed opportunities.” https://www.youtube.com/live/T7O8abZDKw8 Because for most people, the “emergency fund” is a lonely pile of cash—stuck in a corner doing next to nothing. It feels safe, until inflation and opportunity cost quietly erode it. Today Bruce and I want to reframe that pile into something far better: emergency fund alternatives that give you liquidity and momentum. What You’ll Get From This Guide If you’ve ever wondered how to stay liquid for the unknown without parking money in low-yield accounts, this is for you. We’ll show you how to: Design liquidity that protects your family and keeps compounding intact Think “emergency and opportunity,” not either/or Decide how much liquidity you actually need Compare storage options (banks, brokerage, HELOCs, and emergency fund alternatives like cash value life insurance) Understand policy loans, interest, IRR, and why control and flexibility often beat chasing the “best rate” By the end, you’ll have a practical blueprint to keep cash ready for life’s surprises—without stalling your long-term growth. The Day the “Emergency Fund” Met Real LifeWhat You’ll Get From This Guide1) Why Most People Misunderstand “Emergency Funds”Emergency Fund Alternatives vs. Cash-in-the-Bank2) How Much Liquidity Do You Actually Need?Emergency Fund Alternatives for Real Estate Investors3) Liquidity from Cash-Flowing Assets4) Where to Store Liquidity: A Practical Comparison5) Cash Value as an Emergency–Opportunity FundEmergency Fund Alternatives Using Whole Life Insurance6) “But What About Loan Rates vs. Policy IRR?”7) Real Estate, HELOCs, and Policy Loans—How They Compare8) Early-Year Liquidity & Design Reality9) The Two Big Mindset ShiftsEmergency Fund Alternatives That Keep You in Control10) Implementation Steps You Can Start This WeekWhy This MattersListen In and Go DeeperFAQWhat’s the best place to keep an emergency fund?Are whole life policies good emergency fund alternatives?How much liquidity should real estate investors keep?Do whole life policy loans hurt compounding?Policy loan rate vs. policy IRR—what matters most?HELOC or whole life policy loan for emergencies?Book A Strategy Call 1) Why Most People Misunderstand “Emergency Funds” Most picture a rainy-day stash: a fixed dollar amount “just in case.” The problem? That mindset narrows your field of vision to only bad events. You end up over-saving in idle cash, under-preparing for real opportunities, and missing compound growth. The better frame is liquidity for emergencies and opportunities—capital that can pivot quickly, without losing momentum. Emergency Fund Alternatives vs. Cash-in-the-Bank Savings accounts provide easy access but pay little, expose you to inflation, and interrupt compounding when you withdraw. Emergency fund alternatives aim to keep liquidity and let your money continue working. 2) How Much Liquidity Do You Actually Need? Rules of thumb (3–6 months) don't account for your real situation: expenses, income volatility, business ownership, real estate cycles, and your emotional comfort. Bruce and I coach clients to answer three questions: Cash flow cushion: If your income paused, how long until you’re back on track? Asset mix & access: Where is your capital now, and how liquid is it (including taxes/penalties)? Personal margin: What amount helps you sleep at night without freezing progress? The right number blends math and emotion. Peace of mind matters because you’ll only stick with a plan you believe in. Emergency Fund Alternatives for Real Estate Investors Great operators earmark a percent of rents for vacancies, repairs, and cap-ex—plus a broader, flexible reserve. Emergency fund alternatives make that reserve productive while keeping it accessible. 3) Liquidity from Cash-Flowing Assets One overlooked “emergency fund” is consistent cash flow. If assets deposit $5K–$20K/mo. into your checking account regardless of your job, you may need less static cash. Let the monthly stream cover life’s bumps—while your capital base keeps compounding. Cash flow accumulates → periodically deploy to premium (more on that next) Short-term bank buffer exists, but money doesn’t linger there You stay positioned for both emergencies and deals 4) Where to Store Liquidity: A Practical Comparison VehicleLiquidityGrowth/DragTaxes on AccessProsConsBank savings/HYSAInstantLow; inflation dragNo capital gains on principalSimplicity, FDICOpportunity cost; interrupts compoundingBrokerage (cash/short-term)High–moderateVariesPossible gains taxesOptional yieldMarket risk; sale can trigger taxesHELOCOn-demand (if open)House appreciates regardlessLoan (not income)Flexible; common for investorsBank approval; can be frozenCash Value Whole Life3–5 days via policy loansUninterrupted compoundingLoan (not income)Control, guarantees, death benefitMust qualify; early-year liquidity is lower Bottom line: Banks are fine for swipe-ready cash. But for meaningful reserves, emergency fund alternatives that preserve compounding and add optionality often fit better. 5) Cash Value as an Emergency–Opportunity Fund This is where Infinite Banking principles shine. Premium dollars build cash value (guaranteed growth + potential dividends) and a rising death benefit. When you need liquidity, you borrow against cash value. Your cash value keeps compounding uninterrupted while the insurer’s general fund provides the loan. Result: Capital keeps working; you gain flexibility Mindset: Be both the producer and the banker in your life Governance: Treat loans like a bank would—repay with intention to restore capacity Emergency Fund Alternatives Using Whole Life Insurance Liquidity in days (not months) Access via loan documents—not a bank underwriter If you pass away with a loan outstanding, it’s simply deducted from the death benefit; your heirs still receive the net 6) “But What About Loan Rates vs. Policy IRR?” Bruce said it well: I care less about a single rate and more about the system—control, flexibility, and volume of interest over time. IRR reflects long-term, policywide performance. Loan rate is what you pay while capital continues compounding inside the policy. Volume matters: The faster you repay, the less interest volume you pay—at the same rate. Meanwhile, rising death benefits and dividends work in your favor. Chasing the perfect spread can stop you from using a system designed to keep your compounding intact and your options open. 7) Real Estate, HELOCs, and Policy Loans—How They Compare A helpful analogy: a policy loan works like a HELOC on your house—the property can keep appreciating whether a lien exists or not. With cash value, your “property” is the policy: growth continues by contract, and you place a lien to access cash. Differences: Access: Policy loans are paperwork-simple; HELOCs require bank re-approval and can be frozen. Speed: Policies often fund in 3–5 business days; HELOC timing varies. Control: With a policy, you set repayment terms; with banks, they do. For investors, combining a small bank buffer, a HELOC, and cash value creates layers of redundancy—plus uninterrupted compounding. 8) Early-Year Liquidity & Design Reality Honest trade-off: in the first year(s), you won’t have access to 100% of premium dollars. That early drag buys you guarantees, long-term compounding, and a growing death benefit. Design matters (base + paid-up additions) and expectations matter. Ask: Do I really need every dollar back in 30 days? Most don’t. By years 3–4, well-designed policies are commonly close to dollar-for-dollar access on new premium—and rising. 9) The Two Big Mindset Shifts From Emergency to Emergency–OpportunityStop saving only for the worst. Start storing capital that can respond to anything—repairs, vacancies, investments, giving, tuition, tithing, trips. From Saver to BankerDon’t just hold capital; govern it. Design rules. Repay loans. Value your capital at least as much as a bank would. This shifts you from scarcity to stewardship. Emergency Fund Alternatives That Keep You in Control The aim isn’t a magic product; it’s a governed system that preserves compounding, widens options, and serves your family for decades. 10) Implementation Steps You Can Start This Week Clarify your true liquidity need. Calculate 90–180 days of net cash flow needs, not just expenses. Segment reserves: Keep a thin swipe-ready bank buffer; move the rest to emergency fund alternatives (e.g., cash value). Document loan rules: When you borrow, how will you repay? From what cash flow? On what rhythm? Automate funding: Set recurring transfers to build capital consistently. Review quarterly: Check buffer size, upcoming premiums/PUAs, deal pipeline, and family needs. Think generationally: Policies on multiple family members expand access, diversify insurability, and strengthen your long-term plan. Why This Matters Your “emergency fund” shouldn’t be a deadweight expense. With emergency fund alternatives, you can keep liquidity, protect your family, and maintain uninterrupted compounding. Cash-flowing assets provide monthly cushion. Cash value provides controlled access, contractual growth, and a rising death benefit. Together, they create a resilient system that handles storms and seizes sunshine. Listen In and Go Deeper Want the full conversation—including examples, loan mechanics, and our candid takes on rates, IRR, and real-world trade-offs? Listen to the podcast episode on Emergency Fund Alternatives to hear how we actually apply this with clients and in our own families.

Many people make more money and somehow feel more afraid. Afraid to decide. Afraid to lose. Afraid to look foolish. Afraid to miss out. https://www.youtube.com/live/00ErZ7MiuEM This isn’t a fringe problem. It’s everywhere.And it’s solvable. Bruce and I recorded this episode to hand you a simple tool you can use to reframe fear and build the kind of financial life that runs on clarity, certainty, and stewardship. Overcoming financial fear starts hereWhat Financial Fear Really IsMake Financial Fear Work For YouScarcity vs Abundance With MoneyWhy Typical Financial Planning Fuels AnxietyTraditional Planning Builds CertaintyPut Money Back In Its PlaceHow Media and Culture Feed FearThe Practical System To Overcome Financial FearTypical Planning vs Traditional PlanningTypical PlanningTraditional PlanningOvercoming Financial Fear: From scarcity to abundance – your next stepBuild certainty, not anxiety – listen in and take your next stepBook A Strategy CallFAQ – Overcoming Financial FearWhat causes financial fear?How do I overcome financial fear fast?What is the abundance mindset with money?Is money good or evil?Why does typical retirement planning increase anxiety?How do cash flowing assets reduce financial fear?How does whole life insurance help with financial fear?What is traditional financial planning? Overcoming financial fear starts here If you’ve ever hesitated before a money decision, second guessed yourself after signing the paperwork, or stayed stuck because the “what ifs” grew louder than your purpose, you’ve met financial fear. This article will help you: Understand what financial fear really is, and why even high net worth families feel it. Swap a scarcity mindset for an abundance mindset without pretending fear disappears. See why typical planning fuels anxiety and how traditional planning builds certainty. Put money back in its place as a neutral tool and elevate stewardship. Take practical steps today to move from reaction to intentional design. If fear has been in the driver’s seat, it’s time to move it to the passenger side and make it serve your mission. What Financial Fear Really Is Let’s start at the root. Fear is not your enemy.  It’s a God-given alarm for imminent danger. As Bruce says, fear can save your life when a car barrels toward you. You don’t want to pause and philosophize. You jump. The problem is when that same survival response starts running your money decisions. You either freeze and hoard, or you sprint from shiny object to shiny object because you’re afraid to miss out. Different behaviors. Same scarcity. I’ve watched fear show up in two common ways: Fear of running outThe miser mindset. White knuckles. No generosity. No strategic investment. Just “hold on or else.” Fear of missing outThe constant upgrader. Bigger house, better boat, newer thing. Always chasing, never satisfied. Both are scarcity. Neither is abundance. Abundance isn’t reckless. It’s not denial. It’s a settled conviction that value creation is limitless, and that you can make wise, long range decisions because you are a producer, not just a consumer. Make Financial Fear Work For You The most successful people don’t lack fear.They refuse to let fear set the agenda. They put emotions under the leadership of a renewed mind. They use fear as a prompt to prepare, to do the work, to practice courage, and to move anyway. Here’s a quick loop Bruce and I use: Name the fear. Say it out loud. Interrogate it. What’s the real risk, the real timeline, the real magnitude? Reframe it. What productive action can this fear fuel today? Act. Small, specific steps beat ruminating every time. Review. Talk to yourself like you talk to a friend. Record wins. Build evidence. Courage is a muscle.Train it. Scarcity vs Abundance With Money I like to picture a continuum with scarcity at the bottom and abundance at the top. On both ends of the bell curve, scarcity looks different but feels the same. On one end, scarcity hoards and hides. On the other, scarcity spends to soothe and signal. Abundance sits at the top and does something else entirely. It designs a system where money can be saved, used, enjoyed, replenished, and directed toward a bigger mission. It recognizes that money follows value, and value flows from serving people well. Abundance knows this truth: Money is neutral.It’s a magnifier of the soul. Put money in the hands of a wise steward and it multiplies blessing. Put money in the hands of a fool and it multiplies damage. Money did not change the heart. It revealed it. This is why character formation, family culture, and clear guidance are not side notes in finance. They are the engine. Why Typical Financial Planning Fuels Anxiety Typical planning was built to end your productivity.Work until X. Stop. Spend down the pile. Hope you don’t outlive it. Because the goal is “stop,” the math has to guess a thousand variables. Guess your lifespan. Guess returns. Guess inflation. Guess taxes. Run a Monte Carlo and call it “certainty.” It’s not certainty. It’s a string of guesses. When your entire strategy rests on projections you can’t control, you feed fear. You start managing to the simulation instead of managing to your mission. You also fragment your financial life into compartments that don’t talk to each other. Save a little here, speculate a little there, and pray it nets out. No wonder so many feel anxious. Traditional Planning Builds Certainty Traditional planning doesn’t ask, “When can I stop being productive?”It asks, “How do I keep producing, stewarding, and compounding value for generations?” That one shift changes everything. Traditional planning prioritizes: Cash flowing assets over pure appreciationThink businesses and investments that spin off usable cash today and tomorrow. Liquidity and control so you can seize opportunitiesDry powder matters. Optionality reduces fear. Properly designed whole life insurance as a foundational assetGuaranteed cash value, contractual certainty, and a death benefit that refills the family bucket. This is family banking and a reliable backstop that turns risk setbacks into recoverable chapters. Integrated estate design that includes guidanceA will and trust are the shell. A string family culture, Memorandum of Trust, clear roles, and love letters are the substance. Don’t just transfer assets. Transfer wisdom and intent. A producer mindsetWe don’t retire from purpose. We refine it. We build the family enterprise and train the next generation to steward it. Traditional planning removes guesswork where you can and embraces guarantees where they exist. That is how you replace fear with confidence. Put Money Back In Its Place Many people carry a hidden belief that money is bad. Movies preach it. Social feeds imply it. And if you’ve absorbed “money is evil,” you will sabotage your own success and feel guilty about every win. I love the picture Bruce learned on the football field. Football didn’t build character. It revealed it. Money is the same. It shows what is already true in your heart and in your habits. When money is your god, it runs your life and ruins your relationships. When God is first and people are second and you include yourself in the command to love your neighbor as yourself, money becomes a powerful means to bless, build, and multiply good. Order brings peace. Peace calms fear. How Media and Culture Feed Fear Fear sells. Whether it’s the markets, politics, or the latest doom headline, your attention is the product. If you feed fear 24 hours a day, fear will set your financial thermostat. We do something very simple in our family. We curate inputs. We stay informed without bathing in anxiety. Perspective is your most valuable asset. Guard it. The Practical System To Overcome Financial Fear Let’s translate this into steps you can take this week. Audit your mindset.Write down three places fear is currently driving your decisions. Name whether it’s fear of running out or fear of missing out. Clarify your long-range vision.Lift your eyes. Where do you want your family to be in 25, 50, 200 years? What values do you want embedded in your lineage? Your vision pulls you forward better than fear pushes you around. Strengthen liquidity and cash flow.Increase savings. Build or acquire cash flowing assets. Stop relying solely on appreciation and projections. Add guarantees where they belong.Evaluate properly structured whole life insurance as part of your base. Use it to store capital, access liquidity, and provide a guaranteed death benefit that refills the bucket and de-risks the plan. Integrate your estate design with guidance.Build or update your will and trust. Write your Memorandum of Trust. Clarify roles. Draft love letters to your heirs. Do not leave interpretation to chance. Build producer habits.Study. Create. Serve. Keep solving real problems. Producers attract opportunities. Opportunities expand options. Options reduce fear. Practice the self-talk you’d give a friend.Review wins. Document what worked. Speak to yourself with the same encouragement you offer others. This widens your capacity to choose faith over fear. Typical Planning vs Traditional Planning Use this quick contrast to evaluate your current path. Typical Planning End date focus Spend down a pile Reliant on projections Fragmented accounts Rate of return obsession High anxiety, low control Traditional Planning Ongoing production Cash flow focus Guarantees where possible Integrated system Value creation obsession High certainty, higher control Choose your operating system. Choose your outcomes. Overcoming Financial Fear: From scarcity to abundance – your next step

A few weeks ago our 14-year-old daughter ordered a $30 item online with her own hard-earned cash. She was proud of herself—until a notice popped up: the product was coming from overseas and a tariff of roughly $30 would be due at delivery. She looked at me, stunned. “Wait… I have to pay double to get it?” She paused, thought, and said, “I still want it.” https://www.youtube.com/live/gV_EvvpiXww That tiny moment shows a big reality: taxes aren’t just something you deal with in April. They show up everywhere, often without warning, and every one of them is a leak in your wealth bucket. It’s also a simple picture of why taxes and wealth creation are tied together in ways most families never see. The Real Link Between Taxes and Wealth CreationTaxes and wealth creation: Why taxes are the biggest wealth leakThe compounding cost of taxesTaxes and wealth creation: 95% of the tax code is about how not to pay taxes“Is this deductible?” vs “How do I make this deductible?”Taxes and wealth creation: Tax planning is not tax preparationTaxes and wealth creation: The SECURE Act and a silent inheritance taxThe 10-year inherited IRA ruleTaxes and wealth creation: Roth conversions as a legacy moveTaxes and wealth creation: Positioning money where compounding can keep workingReal estate incentivesCharitable givingWhole life insurance for tax-efficient legacyTaxes and wealth creation: Thinking past your lifetimeHere’s the point: taxes and wealth creation rise and fall together.Book A Strategy CallFAQWhat is the connection between taxes and wealth creation?Why do taxes feel invisible to most families?What did the SECURE Act change for inherited retirement accounts?Are Roth conversions a good strategy for generational wealth?How does real estate help with tax-efficient wealth building?Why is tax planning different from tax preparation?How does whole life insurance fit into tax-efficient legacy planning? The Real Link Between Taxes and Wealth Creation This topic matters because taxes quietly take more from most families than any other expense. Not your mortgage. Not your lifestyle. Taxes. In this article we’re going to pull taxes out of the “yearly chore” box and put them where they belong—in the center of your wealth plan. You’ll see why taxes are such a drag on compounding, how the tax code rewards certain behaviors, what the SECURE Act changed for retirement accounts and heirs, and why Roth conversions and other strategies can protect wealth for your lifetime and beyond. The goal is simple: help you keep more dollars in your control so they can grow and bless your family for generations. Taxes and wealth creation: Why taxes are the biggest wealth leak Most people think about taxes as a single event: file your return, see if you owe or get a refund, and move on. But Bruce made a point that changes everything: we pay taxes on almost every transaction. Federal and state income taxes are just the obvious ones. Add sales tax, gasoline taxes, property taxes, and the taxes baked into your phone and internet bill—and the true cost is enormous. Even when you don’t see it, you pay it. And the dollars you lose to taxes don’t just disappear today. You lose what those dollars could have become after decades of compounding. Once money leaves your control, the future of that money is gone forever. The compounding cost of taxes I love pictures, so here’s one we used. Imagine your money as water in a five-gallon bucket. If there are leaks in the bottom, you don’t arrive anywhere with a full bucket. Taxes are one of the biggest leaks. You can earn more and work harder, but if you don’t seal the leaks, your progress is always slower than it should be. Think about the penny-doubling example. A penny doubled daily for 30 days becomes millions, but for the first week it still feels tiny. That’s why people underestimate compounding. Taxes interrupt that curve. They pull dollars out before they ever reach the steep part of growth. Wealth isn’t only about what you earn. It’s about what you keep and control long enough for compounding to do its job. That’s why taxes and wealth creation are inseparable. Taxes and wealth creation: 95% of the tax code is about how not to pay taxes Bruce shared something that shaped his whole view. A former IRS auditor once told him: only about 5% of the tax code explains how you pay taxes. The other 95% explains how you don’t have to pay taxes. That surprised me at first, but it’s true. Congress uses the tax code to steer behavior. If they want more housing, they reward people who provide housing. If they want investment in certain industries, they create incentives there. The incentives exist on purpose. If lawmakers didn’t want people to use them, they wouldn’t be written into law. “Is this deductible?” vs “How do I make this deductible?” Tax strategist Tom Wheelwright says the wrong question is, “Is this deductible?” The right question is, “How do I make this deductible?” Example: if you travel to evaluate real estate deals and your primary purpose is legitimate business, documented properly, the tax code may allow deductions. The key isn’t being clever. The key is following the rules clearly. We never recommend gray areas. Good tax strategies are black-and-white and well documented. Taxes and wealth creation: Tax planning is not tax preparation The tax code is thousands of pages long and changes constantly. Many CPAs are overloaded with compliance work—paperwork, deadlines, filing logistics. So a lot of families get tax preparation, not tax planning. Preparation reports what happened and tells you what you owe. Planning helps you shape what you owe before the year ends. If you want to build wealth, you can’t treat planning like an afterthought. You may need a professional whose mindset is: “My job is to help your family pay the least amount of tax legally possible.” Not because taxes are bad, but because every dollar saved is a dollar that can compound, be invested, or be given with purpose. Taxes and wealth creation: The SECURE Act and a silent inheritance tax If you have tax-deferred retirement accounts—401(k)s, IRAs, 403(b)s, SEP IRAs, deferred annuities—you need to understand what changed. Older rules required minimum distributions (RMDs) at age 70½. The SECURE Act pushed that age to 75. That sounds like a gift, but it has a catch: more years of growth means a larger account, which often leads to larger taxable withdrawals later. But the bigger change hits your heirs. The 10-year inherited IRA rule If a tax-deferred account passes to a spouse, they can keep deferring. If it passes to your kids or grandkids, most beneficiaries must empty the account within 10 years. Picture a 45-year-old inheriting a $1 million IRA. Under old stretch rules, they could take small withdrawals over a lifetime. Now many will take around 10% per year—about $100,000 annually—stacked on top of their working income, often in their highest-earning years. That pushes those inherited dollars into their top tax bracket. So the SECURE Act didn’t remove taxes. It concentrated them. If you do nothing, your children may pay far more tax on your retirement savings than you ever expected. Taxes and wealth creation: Roth conversions as a legacy move This is where Roth conversions come in. We’re not giving advice here—your personal facts matter—but the principle is powerful. A Roth conversion means paying tax on some tax-deferred dollars now so they move into a Roth account. Later withdrawals are tax-free. When the Roth passes to heirs, they still follow the 10-year rule, but distributions are generally income-tax-free. When we run numbers with families, we often find that paying some tax earlier can reduce the total tax bite over two lifetimes—yours and your kids’. For families who care about legacy, that’s a big deal. Taxes and wealth creation: Positioning money where compounding can keep working Bruce listed several straightforward ways families can keep more dollars compounding without needing complex structures. Real estate incentives Real estate is a clear example of Congress rewarding behavior. The U.S. needs more housing, so the tax code offers depreciation and, in some cases, bonus depreciation for certain investments. Those deductions can offset taxable income and free up cash flow for more investment. The rules are specific, so strategy and documentation matter. Charitable giving If generosity is already part of your family culture, don’t ignore how charitable strategies can lower taxes while letting you support what matters most. Whole life insurance for tax-efficient legacy This is a place where our work often connects the dots. Properly designed whole life insurance has a unique tax profile: cash value grows tax-deferred, you can access it through policy loans without triggering income tax, and the death benefit passes to heirs income-tax-free. We like to say that every tax dollar you save is another dollar you can reposition into assets that serve generations. Whole life often becomes a family gold reserve—liquid in your lifetime, leveraged at death, and protected from future tax surprises. Taxes and wealth creation: Thinking past your lifetime During the episode I shared a golf analogy. Your wealth plan is like a golf swing. Most people only focus on the backswing—everything that happens until you hit the ball. In life, that’s “my lifetime.” But legacy is the follow-through. Where does the ball go after contact? What trajectory does your wealth take after you’re gone? When you plan only for your life, you miss the biggest multiplier in tax planning: time across generations. When you plan with follow-through, you make different choices today—like paying some taxes sooner—because you see how that can protect your children from a heavier burden later.

We went live, the chat exploded, and a listener voiced what so many feel but rarely say out loud: “I’ve followed the rules—so why doesn’t my Retirement Plan feel safe?” https://www.youtube.com/live/gFQYEJWlWpI Bruce gave me the look that says, “Let’s tell the truth.” Because we’ve seen it over and over: neat projections, tidy averages, and a plan that works—until the world doesn’t. Markets don’t ask permission. Inflation doesn’t use a calendar. Life throws curveballs, blessings, and bills. If your Retirement Plan only survives in a spreadsheet, it’s not a plan—it’s a hope. Today, let’s trade hope for structure and anxiety for action. What You’ll Gain From This GuideYour Retirement Plan Isn’t Just Math—It’s LifeRetirement Planning Risks You Can’t IgnoreSequence of Returns RiskInflation and the Cost-of-Living SqueezeTaxes (The Leak You Don’t See)Is the 4% Rule Still Useful? The 4% Rule Is a Guide, Not a GuaranteeThe Cash-Flow ToolkitFoundations — Guaranteed Income in RetirementFlexibility — Cash Value Life InsuranceDiversifiers — Alternative Income InvestmentsRetirement Plan Buckets Liquidity / “Free” Bucket (safety net)Income Bucket (essentials)Growth / Equity Bucket (long-term engine)Estate / Legacy Layer (optional)Taxes: Design for Control, Not SurpriseBehavior, Purpose, and Work You LoveInfinite Banking—Where It Fits in a Retirement PlanWhat Makes a Strong Retirement Plan?Take the Next StepBook A Strategy CallFAQWhat makes a strong retirement plan?Is the 4% rule safe for my retirement plan?How do taxes impact my retirement plan?Can whole life fit into a retirement plan?What are retirement income buckets?How can I protect my retirement from inflation?What’s the role of annuities vs bonds in a retirement plan?Who qualifies as an accredited investor? What You’ll Gain From This Guide In this article, Bruce and I break down what actually makes a strong Retirement Plan for real families: Why accumulation-only thinking creates a false sense of security—and how to pivot toward reliable income. The big retirement planning risks to plan for: sequence of returns risk, inflation and retirement, and taxes. Why the 4% rule retirement guideline is a starting point, not a promise. How to use retirement income buckets—in the same language we used on the show—to avoid selling at the worst time. Where guaranteed income in retirement, cash value life insurance, and (when appropriate) alternative income fit. How Roth conversions, withdrawal sequencing, and structure put you back in control. You’ll walk away with a practical framework to move from “big balance” thinking to a Retirement Plan you can live on—calmly. Your Retirement Plan Isn’t Just Math—It’s Life Static models vs dynamic lives.As Bruce said, no family is static. Monte Carlo averages over 50–100 years don’t describe your next 20. Averages hide timing risk. If poor returns arrive early while you’re withdrawing, “average” performance won’t save the plan—cash flow will. From accumulation to income.Most of us were trained to chase a number. But the goal of a Retirement Plan isn’t a pile—it’s predictable cash flow you can spend without gutting your future. That shift—from “How big?” to “How dependable?”—changes the tools you choose and the peace you feel. Use the LIFE purpose filter.We run every dollar through a purpose lens: Liquid, Income, Flexible, Estate. When each bucket has a job, decisions get simpler and outcomes get sturdier. Retirement Planning Risks You Can’t Ignore Sequence of Returns Risk How Your Retirement Plan Avoids Selling Low Sequence risk is the danger of bad returns showing up early in retirement. If your portfolio drops while you’re taking income, you must sell more shares to fund the same lifestyle. That shrinks the engine that’s supposed to recover—and can cut years off a plan. Your protection: hold dedicated reserves and reliable income so market dips don’t force sales. (We’ll detail our buckets in a moment—exactly as we discussed on the show.) Inflation and the Cost-of-Living Squeeze Build Inflation Awareness Into Your Retirement Plan Prices don’t rise politely. Even modest inflation, compounded, squeezes fixed withdrawals. Bond yields, dividend cuts, and rising living costs can collide. Your protection: blend growth and income that can adjust, avoid locking everything into fixed payouts that lose purchasing power, and review spending annually so your Retirement Plan keeps pace with reality. Taxes (The Leak You Don’t See) Retirement Plan Tax Strategy & Withdrawal Sequencing Withdrawals from tax-deferred accounts are ordinary income. That can: Push you into higher brackets Trigger IRMAA Medicare surcharges Increase the taxation of Social Security Complicate capital gains planning Your protection: design taxable, tax-deferred, and tax-free buckets; use Roth conversions in favorable years; and sequence withdrawals to manage brackets and RMDs—not the other way around. Is the 4% Rule Still Useful? The 4% Rule Is a Guide, Not a Guarantee Stress-Test Withdrawal Rates You Can Actually Live With We don’t hate the 4% rule; we just refuse to outsource your life to it. Yields, inflation, fees, and timing change the math. When low-yield years pushed chatter toward “2.8%,” it proved the point. A better approach: Stress-test 3%–5% withdrawal rates. Add non-market income (pensions, annuities vs bonds, business/real-asset cash flow). Keep dedicated reserves so you don’t sell at the bottom. Turn a rule of thumb into a plan. The Cash-Flow Toolkit Foundations — Guaranteed Income in Retirement Cover Essentials, Then Take Prudent Risk A predictable floor is priceless. Pensions, Social Security, and income annuities can cover core expenses so volatility doesn’t dictate your grocery list. You trade some upside for contractual certainty—and many families prefer sleeping well to chasing every basis point. Flexibility — Cash Value Life Insurance Downturn Buffer, Tax-Advantaged Access, and Legacy Backfill Done properly, this can strengthen a plan: Downturn buffer: use cash value to fund spending during market slides—avoid selling equities at a loss. Tax-advantaged access: policy loans/distributions (managed correctly) can supplement income without spiking taxable income. Legacy backfill: the death benefit protects a spouse and replenishes assets for heirs, letting you spend with confidence. This is one reason infinite banking retirement thinking resonates: control and optionality matter when life isn’t linear. Diversifiers — Alternative Income Investments Accredited Investor Rules, Liquidity, and Position Size For those who qualify under accredited investor rules, private credit, income-oriented real estate, or operating businesses can provide alternative income investments with lower correlation to public markets. They’re not risk-free and often lack daily liquidity—so size positions prudently. The draw is simple: steadier cash flow vs accumulation. Retirement Plan Buckets We didn’t frame them by time horizons on the episode; we framed them by purpose. Here’s the exact structure we discussed and use with families: Liquidity / “Free” Bucket (safety net) Cash, money market, CDs, cash value life insurance.Purpose: fund spending and surprises without touching equities during a downturn; bridge timing gaps so sequence risk doesn’t bite. Income Bucket (essentials) Social Security, pensions, annuity income, bond ladders, durable dividend payers.Purpose: dependable monthly cash flow for core lifestyle needs so markets don’t control your paycheck. Growth / Equity Bucket (long-term engine) Broad equity exposure and other long-term growth assets.Purpose: outpace inflation and periodically refill income/liquidity buckets. Estate / Legacy Layer (optional) Life insurance death benefit, beneficiary designations, trusts.Purpose: protect a spouse and pass values + capital with clarity. Taxes: Design for Control, Not Surprise Roth conversions:Convert slices of tax-deferred money when brackets are favorable to grow your tax-free bucket. Withdrawal sequencing:Blend taxable/Roth/tax-deferred withdrawals to target bracket thresholds, manage IRMAA, and soften RMDs later. Give with intention:If charitable, consider appreciated assets or bunching strategies; align with your estate plan. We also coordinate tax buckets—taxable, tax-deferred, and tax-free (Roth/cash value)—so your Retirement Plan controls brackets, IRMAA, and RMDs rather than the other way around. A tax-smart Retirement Plan can add years of sustainability without asking for more market risk. Behavior, Purpose, and Work You Love Clarity about why the money matters anchors behavior when markets wobble. Travel with grandkids? Fund ministry? Launch a family venture? Purpose steadies the hand. And one more lever: if you enjoy your work, consider delaying full retirement. Each extra year can improve the math dramatically—more contributions, fewer withdrawal years, and potentially higher Social Security benefits. Infinite Banking—Where It Fits in a Retirement Plan Lenders profit from your lifetime financing. Strengthening your family’s “bank” can keep more control in your hands: Finance major purchases through your system rather than outside lenders—recapture more interest. Maintain cash value as a volatility buffer. Use the death benefit to protect a spouse and fund legacy goals. It’s not magic. It’s discipline and design—complementary to the rest of your Retirement Plan. What Makes a Strong Retirement Plan? Built for dynamic lives, not static spreadsheets. Prioritizes cash flow you can spend, not just a big balance. Plans around sequence risk, inflation, and taxes—on purpose.

Why the Indexed Universal Life lawsuit is a wake-up call The headlines about the Kyle Busch vs Pacific Life indexed universal life lawsuit sparked the same question I hear from thoughtful families: is my policy designed to serve me, or to serve a sales incentive? This isn’t tabloid noise. It’s a real-world reminder that choices around products, product design, and behavior determine outcomes. When insurance gets framed like an investment, confusion wins—and families pay for the confusion later. https://www.youtube.com/live/3aLnzmv2dlc Behind the headlines is a deeper issue many families face: when insurance starts getting pitched as an investment, people get hurt. This indexed universal life lawsuit isn’t just celebrity drama. It’s a cautionary tale about design choices, incentives, and behavior—three ingredients that make or break outcomes. Why the Indexed Universal Life lawsuit is a wake-up callWhy this Indexed Universal Life lawsuit matters to you1) What actually happened in the Kyle Busch vs Pacific Life case2) What Indexed Universal Life is designed to do (and why the moving parts matter)3) Why Indexed Universal Life is usually a poor fit for Infinite Banking4) The commission conversation: what really matters5) Red flags to spot in any IUL illustration6) The behavior factor: decisions drive outcomes7) Where IUL can make sense—and where it doesn’t8) How to review your current policy or a proposal in 20 minutesWhat this Indexed Universal Life lawsuit teaches usListen to the full episode on the Indexed Universal Life lawsuitBook A Strategy CallFAQWhat is the Kyle Busch vs Pacific Life indexed universal life lawsuit about?Is an indexed universal life policy a good fit for Infinite Banking?Are whole life policies safer than IUL for building cash value?How do agent commissions affect IUL performance?What red flags should I look for in an IUL illustration?Can IUL still make sense for estate planning?What’s the simplest way to protect myself before buying?Is life insurance an investment?What should I do if I already own an IUL? Why this Indexed Universal Life lawsuit matters to you Here’s the premise: The Kyle Busch vs Pacific Life indexed universal life lawsuit is shining a bright light on how certain policy designs and sales incentives can set people up for disappointment. Our goal in this article is to unpack what happened at a practical level, explain why it happened, and give you a simple framework to evaluate your own policy or a policy you’re considering. What you’ll get: A clear understanding of indexed universal life (IUL) mechanics—caps, participation rates, floors, and charges Why IUL is often a poor fit for Infinite Banking, and where it can make sense How agent compensation and death benefit decisions impact performance The difference between marketing hype and durable guarantees A short checklist of questions to ask before you sign anything We’ll speak plainly. We’ll respect your intelligence. And we’ll give you steps to protect your family and your capital. 1) What actually happened in the Kyle Busch vs Pacific Life case Bruce here. Based on the widely discussed analysis from respected product designer Bobby Samuelson, the policy at the center of this story was a complex indexed universal life contract. The pitch focused on future “income.” The design featured a very high death benefit, which increases internal charges and agent compensation. It also appears the early-year cash value was constrained by both high expenses and allocation choices, and that funding didn’t match the schedule the clients initially expected. The result: heavy costs, lower-than-expected performance, and ultimately a policy lapse after substantial premiums were paid. Rachel again. Two principles jump out. First, when life insurance is positioned as an investment promising tax-free income, the conversation gets blurry fast. Second, the higher the initial death benefit, the higher the internal costs—especially for a client with added risk factors. Costs matter most in the early years. If they consume the lion’s share of premiums, policy cash value will suffer, and a lapse risk can rise. Takeaway: A policy can look good on a spreadsheet and still be fragile in real life if the design incentives and assumptions don’t align with your actual goals. 2) What Indexed Universal Life is designed to do (and why the moving parts matter) Bruce here. IUL ties crediting to an index such as the S&P 500 with caps and participation rates. You don’t get the full index return. You get a portion, limited by the carrier’s rules. You also don’t take index losses; there’s usually a 0% floor for crediting. But there’s a critical nuance: while the index credit can’t go below zero, charges—cost of insurance, policy expenses, riders—still come out. A zero-crediting year can still set you back if expenses outpace gains. That’s why illustrations are tricky. They show a hypothetical average crediting rate over time. Real markets don’t move in averages, and caps, participation rates, and expenses can change. If early-year charges are high, the policy needs time, consistent funding, and sufficiently strong credited returns to catch up. Rachel here. I love simplicity and transparency. That’s why, for Infinite Banking, I prefer whole life. You get contractual guarantees on cash value and death benefit, plus the long history of dividends. Is it flashy? No. Is it dependable? Yes. 3) Why Indexed Universal Life is usually a poor fit for Infinite Banking The Infinite Banking Concept relies on stable, accessible cash value, simple mechanics, and predictable loan behavior. Here’s where IUL struggles for banking use: Volatility in crediting. Caps and participation rates can shift. Policy loans can stress the design. Loan interest plus uneven crediting can turn small missteps into big problems. Moving parts multiply complexity. If you want banking simplicity, fewer moving parts beat more every time. Could IUL fit some estate-planning use cases? Sure, for certain objectives where the focus is death benefit and there’s no plan to rely on policy loans or income. But for banking—using policy cash value as your family’s capital base—whole life’s guarantees create the clarity and control most people actually want. 4) The commission conversation: what really matters Bruce here. Let’s talk compensation without the drama. In any life insurance policy, there are upfront costs. Over long horizons, those upfront costs spread out and matter less if the policy is designed and funded well. But design still matters a lot in the early years. A very high base death benefit can push up the target premium and the commission. It can also raise internal charges precisely when you need cash value efficiency. Rachel again. Ask this one question: How does this design minimize commissions and early-year drag while keeping the policy MEC-safe? In and IUL, like the one mentioned in the lawsuit, that means using a blend structure and, when appropriate, term riders like ART to support premium without bloating long-term costs. If an agent can’t explain—in plain English—how they’re minimizing commissions and internal drag, press pause. 5) Red flags to spot in any IUL illustration A few practical signals you can use immediately: The illustration calls life insurance an “investment” or implies market-like returns with no meaningful discussion of costs and moving parts. Year-1 cash value is tiny relative to premium with no clear rationale. The design amps the death benefit far above what’s needed to keep the contract non-MEC, without using low-cost term blending when available. Income projections look aggressive while early-year charges eat most premiums. Allocations default to a fixed account for years while the pitch centers on index crediting. The plan depends on perfect behavior—no missed funding, no changes, no down years—for it to work. 6) The behavior factor: decisions drive outcomes Bruce here. Nelson Nash reminded us: your behavior matters more than the policy. If the plan assumes consistent premium funding, or specific timing for loan repayment, those behaviors must be realistic for your family. A design that only works in a perfect world isn’t a plan; it’s a hope. Rachel again. Behavior plus guarantees is where confidence grows. I want you to be able to look at your numbers, understand them, and know what to do next—especially when life happens. 7) Where IUL can make sense—and where it doesn’t We’re not absolutists. IUL can be used intentionally in estate planning when: The primary goal is death benefit, not banking or policy loans Funding is reliable and stress-tested You’re comfortable with moving parts and the absence of whole life guarantees You’ve pressure-tested outcomes under lower caps and participation rates For Infinite Banking—where the priority is guaranteed, steadily compounding cash value with simple loan mechanics—whole life wins on clarity, control, and durability. 8) How to review your current policy or a proposal in 20 minutes Use this mini-checklist: Purpose: Is this for death benefit, banking, income, or estate planning? Guarantees: What’s guaranteed vs projected? Look at guaranteed cash value and death benefit. Early cash value: What percentage of the premium shows as cash value in years 1–3? Does it make sense? MEC safety: How is MEC testing handled? Is an ART or blend used to control costs? Commission drag: How is the design minimizing commission and internal charges while meeting your goal? IUL Allocation: Where is the premium allocated in years 1–3? Fixed vs indexed? Why? IUL Stress tests: What happens if caps/participation rates fall or a funding year is missed? Loan modeling: If banking or income is the goal, are loan assumptions conservative and clearly explained?

“It’s not the math. It’s the mindset.” When Bruce recorded this episode solo, he opened with something we’ve learned after thousands of client conversations: the biggest Infinite Banking mistakes aren’t about policy illustrations or carrier choice. They’re about us—our habits, our thinking, and the quiet patterns we bring to money. https://www.youtube.com/live/tvSGb9GkRG4 I remember Nelson Nash repeating, “Rethink your thinking.” That line annoys the part of us that wants a clean spreadsheet answer. But it’s also the doorway to everything you actually want—control, peace, and a reservoir of capital that serves your family for decades. In today’s article, I’m going to unpack those human problems—Parkinson’s Law, Willie Sutton’s Law, the Golden Rule, the Arrival Syndrome, and Use-It-or-Lose-It—and connect them to the most common Infinite Banking mistakes we see. Most importantly, I’ll show you the behaviors that fix them.  “It’s not the math. It’s the mindset.”What you’ll gain (and why it matters)Infinite Banking Mistakes #1 — Treating IBC like a sales system, not a lifelong conceptInfinite Banking Mistakes #2 — Short-term policy design (and base vs. PUA confusion)Infinite Banking Mistakes #3 — Misunderstanding uninterrupted compoundingInfinite Banking Mistakes #4 — Ignoring the five human problems Nelson taughtParkinson’s Law: “Expenses rise to equal income”Willie Sutton’s Law: “Money attracts seekers”The Golden Rule: “Those who have the gold make the rules”The Arrival Syndrome: “I already know this”Use It or Lose It: “Habits decay without practice”Infinite Banking Mistakes #5 — Forgetting that illustrations aren’t contractsInfinite Banking Mistakes #6 — Not paying policy loans back (on purpose)Infinite Banking Mistakes #7 — No written strategy or scorecardListen To the Full EpisodeBook A Strategy CallFAQsWhat are the most common Infinite Banking mistakes?Should I prioritize PUAs or base premium to avoid Infinite Banking mistakes?Do I have to repay policy loans in Infinite Banking?How does Parkinson’s Law cause Infinite Banking mistakes?Are policy illustrations reliable for Infinite Banking decisions?What did Nelson Nash mean by “think long range”?How do taxes relate to Infinite Banking mistakes? What you’ll gain (and why it matters) If you’re new here, I’m Rachel Marshall, co-host of The Money Advantage and a fierce believer that families can build multigenerational wealth with wisdom, not stress. The primary keyword for this piece is “Infinite Banking Mistakes,” and we’re going to name them, explain why they happen, and give you practical steps to get back on track. You’ll learn: Why behavior beats policy design over the long term How short-term thinking shows up in base/PUA decisions The right way to think about uninterrupted compounding How to use loans and repay them without sabotaging growth The five “human problems” Nelson warned us about—and how to overcome them If you can absorb the mindset, the math becomes simple. If you skip the mindset, no design hack will save you. Let’s go there. Infinite Banking Mistakes #1 — Treating IBC like a sales system, not a lifelong concept The mistake: Looking for a quick fix—“set up a policy, borrow immediately, invest, done”—and calling it Infinite Banking. Why it happens: Our culture loves shortcuts. We’re used to products, not principles. But IBC isn’t a product; it’s a way of life. Nelson was explicit: it’s not a sales system. When we treat it like a gadget, we ignore the behaviors that made debt a problem in the first place. What to do instead: Adopt a long-range view. Commit to capitalization for years, not months. Build rhythms. Premium drafting, policy reviews, loan repayment schedules. Measure behavior. Not just cash value growth; also repayment habits, added PUAs, and opportunity filters. Infinite Banking Mistakes #2 — Short-term policy design (and base vs. PUA confusion) The mistake: Designing a very small base with heavy PUAs purely to juice early cash value, or, conversely, insisting on an all-base design without considering your funding capacity and behavior. Why it happens: Short-term thinking. People want maximum day-one access or fear they “won’t be able to fund later,” so they underbuild the foundation. On the other side, some rigidly push all-base as a rule rather than a fit. Bruce says that behavior is more important than design. He’s seen small-base policies work when owners think long range, repay loans, and continue capitalization. He’s also seen all-base work beautifully when owners behave like bankers—disciplined repayments and consistent additions. What to do instead: Design for you, not a trend. Balance base and PUAs to match your cash-flow reliability, target capitalization, and intended uses. Think in decades. Will this design still serve you when the economy changes? Stress-test with loans. Don’t just stare at year-by-year illustrations. Model loans, repayments, and changing rates. Illustrations aren’t contracts; they’re snapshots. Infinite Banking Mistakes #3 — Misunderstanding uninterrupted compounding The mistake: “I’ll borrow against my cash value, toss it into an investment, and because it’s ‘my money,’ I don’t need to pay it back.” Why it happens: People grasp the idea that dollars can continue compounding inside the policy while you borrow against them—but miss the second half: policy loans have a cost, and not repaying them has a bigger cost. Fix the thinking: Opportunity cost cuts both ways. Spending cash has a cost; taking a loan has a cost; not repaying has a compounding drag. Repay like a banker. Principal + interest. Treat added PUAs as “extra interest to yourself.” Match loan terms to asset behavior. Shorter paybacks for consumptive uses; structured, documented paybacks for productive investments. Infinite Banking Mistakes #4 — Ignoring the five human problems Nelson taught Nelson’s “human problems” aren’t theory; they show up in daily decisions. Let’s link each one to your IBC habits. Parkinson’s Law: “Expenses rise to equal income” Three expressions Bruce highlighted: Work expands to the time allowed. A luxury enjoyed once becomes a necessity. Expenses rise to equal income. How it breaks IBC:You design a policy to capitalize, then lifestyle creep absorbs the margin that was supposed to repay loans and fund PUAs. Loan repayments “can wait,” and soon the policy feels like a burden instead of a bank. Actions: Ring-fence capital. Automate premiums/PUAs the day income lands. Name the luxuries. Write them down. Decide which remain luxuries. Give raises a job. Allocate a percentage of every raise to capitalization before you see it. Willie Sutton’s Law: “Money attracts seekers” Willie Sutton robbed banks “because that’s where the money is.” Today, the biggest “robber” is taxes—completely legal and entirely predictable. The more efficient you become, the more attention your dollars attract—from marketers, litigators, and the tax code. IBC response: Be tax-intentional. Coordinate with your CPA before year-end. Where can after-tax dollars be channeled into assets that grow efficiently and can be accessed strategically? Protect liquidity. Keep capital where it is visible to you and less vulnerable to others. Say “no” more. High-income earners are targeted with “shiny” offers. Your bank gives you patience to wait for the right opportunities. The Golden Rule: “Those who have the gold make the rules” With cash, you negotiate better, move faster, and sleep deeper. Bruce calls this the awareness effect: once you hold capital, you see opportunities others miss—and you’re not forced to take them. IBC response: Accumulate patiently. Opportunities find cash. Price from strength. Ask for discounts, better terms, or favorable contingencies. Use cash as a filter. If the deal doesn’t clear your bar, keep compounding. The Arrival Syndrome: “I already know this” This one is rampant. When you think you’ve “arrived,” you stop learning, stop imagining, and start defending yesterday’s views. In IBC, Arrival Syndrome shows up as rigid design rules (“only this company,” “only this base/PUA ratio”), or dismissing Nelson’s “think long range” as old-fashioned. IBC response: Be a student, always. Re-read Becoming Your Own Banker. Review your policy annually. Ask better questions each year. Invite challenge. If a practitioner says “only X works,” ask why and request proofs across cycles. Protect imagination. IBC is an exercise in imagination—fund it. Use It or Lose It: “Habits decay without practice” People fund policies for a few years, never borrow, compare to a market chart, and conclude “this isn’t working.” They forget the purpose: to control the banking function—store cash, deploy it, repay it, repeat—without external permission. IBC response: Create usage plans. What will you fund? What will you finance? How will you repay? Build cadence. Quarterly loan reviews, monthly repayments, annual PUA targets. Measure the right thing. Compare to your prior debt/interest outflows, not a naked index. Infinite Banking Mistakes #5 — Forgetting that illustrations aren’t contracts The mistake: Treating the illustration as a guarantee, especially in loan scenarios. Fix it: Pre-commit behaviors. If X happens, I’ll reduce PUAs by Y, increase repayment by Z, or pause deployments for N months. Document the banking policy. Yes—write a one-page “family banking policy” with usage rules, repayment schedules, and review dates. Infinite Banking Mistakes #6 — Not paying policy loans back (on purpose) The mistake: “It’s my money; I’ll let the interest ride.” Or, using loans for consumptive items without a repayment plan. Why it matters: Banking is a system—inflows, outflows, and disciplined loan cycles.