108. Being People-Pleased

Do you ever find yourself stuck in confusion, spinning your wheels and making no progress? You're not alone. Confusion is an uncomfortable emotion that many of us avoid, but learning to work through it is a game-changing skill.     Discover how to become more decisive, take action faster, and achieve better results by embracing confusion instead of running from it. I break down the process step-by-step and share real-life examples so you can put it into practice immediately.      Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/116

Do you ever find yourself feeling frustrated and unsure of how to handle it? Whether it’s in your personal or professional life, frustration is a common emotion that we all experience from time to time. However, while frustration can be super uncomfortable, it doesn't have to control us or dictate your actions.   Tune in this week to discover how to stop frustration from running the show. I share how to clearly identify the thoughts that are creating your frustration, and you’ll learn how to focus on what you can control, in spite of any uncomfortable emotion you’re currently going through.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/115

When something doesn't go our way, it's easy to get stuck in victim mode, dwelling on the negativity and arguing with reality. But what if there was a better approach? Today, we explore how to shift into problem-solving mode by focusing on what's within your control and taking intentional action.   Tune in this week to for a step-by-step process for gaining perspective, replacing unhelpful thoughts, and making a game plan to productively move forward when life throws you a curveball. I show you how to see what’s really in your control, what you need to let go of, and how to make an action plan for next time something “bad” happens in your life.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/114

While there is pleasure to be gained in instant gratification, there’s also displeasure in it. It’s not all upside. When you pay close attention, you’ll see that choosing temporary pleasure often leads to more negative emotions in the moment and afterwards. However, when you go through the short-term discomfort of making responsible choices, you set yourself up for success.   Join me this week as I dive into the displeasure of instant gratification and how focusing on the negative aspects of avoidant behavior can help you make better choices. You’ll learn how to make instant gratification less attractive, and practical strategies for overcoming the urge for temporary pleasure so you can achieve your goals with more ease.   Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/113

Do you ever feel paralyzed by the pressure to make the right decision? In this episode, we explore why there's actually no such thing as a universally correct choice, and how you can make your decisions right for you, instead of looking for reasons why you don't like your choices.     Tune in this week to discover how to make your decisions right for you. By focusing your mind on the reasons you decided the way you did, rather than second-guessing yourself, you can prevent regret, build lasting confidence in your judgment and revolutionize your approach to making decisions, from career moves to relationships and beyond.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/112

As lawyers, our time is our most valuable asset. But too often, we let tasks drag on longer than necessary, eating up precious minutes and hours that could be spent on more important work or enjoying our personal lives. By learning how to maximize our efficiency, we can take back control of our schedules and achieve better results.     In this episode, you'll learn practical strategies for streamlining your work processes, eliminating distractions, and making the most of every minute. Whether it's responding to emails, drafting documents, or managing your daily tasks, I help you work smarter, not harder. Get ready to boost your efficiency and take your productivity to the next level.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/111

Do you feel like you're working around the clock just to keep up with client demands and stay on top of your workload? Want to know the secret to finally working less without sacrificing your productivity or client service? This episode has all the answers.     Join me as I walk you through the exact strategy I teach my clients to reduce their hours, reclaim their free time, and still excel in their legal careers. It may feel counterintuitive at first, but I promise this approach is a game-changer. Get ready to say goodbye to the endless grind and hello to a more balanced life.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/110

One of the biggest things lawyers struggle with is being unrealistic with their schedules. You might think it makes sense to cram as much as possible into every day, but planning inaccurately and unrealistically is actually leading to procrastination. So, it's time to stop lying to yourself about what you can really get done.     Tune in this week to discover the problem with being unrealistic when it comes to scheduling, and how to fix it. I discuss the massive impact that having an unrealistic schedule is having on your life, I show you how to see the ways you're being unrealistic around your schedule, and you'll learn how to start being realistic about how time works and what you can actually achieve.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/109

How do you feel when others try to please you excessively? While being a people-pleaser can be uncomfortable, dealing with someone else's people-pleasing behavior often leads to frustration. How can recognizing and understanding the people-pleasing tendencies in others help you manage your own?     Tune in this week for a fresh perspective on people-pleasing, viewed through the lens of being on the receiving end. You know how uncomfortable it can be to be people-pleased, so let's unpack this experience from the recipient's viewpoint. By understanding this dynamic, you can better avoid falling into people-pleasing habits in the future.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/108

If you identify as a perfectionist, chances are you’re falling victim to all-or-nothing thinking often. Perfectionists tend to look at the world in extremes and see things as binary, black or white, this or that with no room for the grey, and this rigidity brings with it a lot of unnecessary emotional suffering.     Join me on this episode to learn examples of how all-or-nothing thinking may be showing up in your life and what happens when you habitually indulge in it. I’m showing you how to begin identifying where all-or-nothing thinking comes up for you, what the opposite of all-or-nothing thinking looks like, and the long-term benefits you’ll experience when you stop this cycle.     Get full show notes and more information here: https://thelessstressedlawyer.com/107