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Are You Lying to Yourself at Work? with Jane Greer

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Being patient and being in denial are two different things. It’s okay to be patient, but when your patience and kindness ends up getting abused by those around you, then it might be time to draw the line. Denial comes in many ways, and you first need to be aware for it to stop.

Dr. Jane Greer is a Marriage and Family Therapist, psychotherapist, author, radio host, and creator of “SHRINK WRAP”, the popular commentary on what we can learn from the trials and triumphs of not only celebrity, but all relationships. Dr. Greer is recognized as a leading national expert in love and relationships through her media collaborations and professional insights. She is the author of six books, including her latest, Am I Lying To Myself? How to Overcome Denial and See the Truth.

In this episode, Jane talks about what denial looks like in the workplace and how you can deal with it to overcome freeloaders and stay-stuck complainers. She also shares some of her amazing tips on how you can effectively set boundaries. 

 

What you will learn from this episode: 

  • Discover what denial looks in the workplace and why you need to establish boundaries
  • Learn what  stay-stuck complainers are and what you can do if you’ve come across them
  • Understand why you need to trust your gut and take action on what you see

 

“Coming out of denial is seeing the reality. We stay in denial in order to feel safe and secure, but it's a big price.” 

- Jane Greer

 

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Topics Covered:

01:29 - What does denial look like in the workplace?

02:57 - Is workplace denial more prevalent in women than men?

04:50 - How can you know if you’re actually lying to yourself in the workplace?

08:15 - How do you deal with the denial of others?

11:57 - Once you’ve acknowledged denial, what do you do?

15:15 - What are stay-stuck complainers and how does it look in the workplace?

18:24 - Why is it important to set boundaries?

20:40 - Do the stay-stuck complainers eventually get the message?

22:35 - What is whistleblowing in the workplace?

25:04 - Dr. Greer’s top tip: Trust your gut. Seeing is believing. If you're seeing it, believe it. Write it down. 

27:54 - What is the ”going nowhere” relationship and what are their “watch out” signs?

 

Key Takeaways: 

“If you're not dealing with denial and seeing things clearly, you're making a bad situation better.” - Jane Greer

“People have expectations of you. And without having clarity, in terms of what your own expectations are, you attempt to meet those expectations.” - Jane Greer

“You need to take care of yourself because they are not going to take care of you. It's just that simple! They'll take care of you if your needs don't interfere with their needs.” - Jane Greer

“You need to figure out what it means to you to have your clarity… because then you'll be able to handle the other person's angry reaction and disappointment.” - Jane Greer

“Setting the boundaries is tricky because it means you've got to be clear how much you're going to listen.” - Jane Greer

 

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