Psychologist Explains: Why Menopause Isn’t Making You Crazy

Hot flashes aren’t the problem—gaslighting is. Hilary takes aim at the menopause conversation and asks the question no one else is asking: What if this isn’t your downfall, but your awakening? In this episode, she breaks down the cultural scripts, conditioning, and quiet misogyny wrapped in every “crazy menopausal woman” meme, and replaces it with truth, clarity, and power. This is not a hormonal crisis. This is your moment.   Episode Highlights: Why blaming hormones keeps women stuck The myth of the “crazy menopausal woman” What really causes women to question their marriage at midlife Why losing your cool isn’t the issue—losing yourself is The gift of finally putting yourself first (and meaning it)   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Challenging the Menopause Narrative [01:05] The Gaslighting of Women's Health [02:10] Menopause and Divorce: What’s Really Going On [05:05] Midlife Awakening vs. Hormonal Blame [07:04] Cultural Conditioning and Losing Ourselves [08:06] Why the “Crazy Menopausal Woman” Trope is So Dangerous [11:11] Menopause Isn’t a Crisis—It’s a Revolution [12:32] Reclaiming Your Power in Midlife   💥 Midlife isn’t the end. It’s the turning point. Ready to stop tolerating and start owning it? Hit play. 💫 Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab Hilary’s FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!): https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @hilarysilver 🚀 What’s been your biggest midlife realization? Drop it in the comments!

For too long, women have been told that power belongs to men. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary Silver flips that script and names the truth out loud: women already hold the power—society just taught them to forget. Centered around a bold, taboo-breaking metaphor, Hilary dives deep into how patriarchy was built to control what it couldn't fully possess: female power, autonomy, and sexuality. Drawing from over 6,000 interviews with women over 40, she exposes how even the most outwardly successful women are still battling invisible chains of unworthiness and self-sacrifice.   Episode Highlights: What men really want more than money or power How patriarchy is built on controlling what it can’t possess Why high-achieving women often secretly struggle with self-worth The emotional labor and silence women have been conditioned to accept The first steps to reclaim your worth—without asking for permission Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:57] The Power Women Forget They Have [04:15]  How Girls Are Taught to Shrink [06:12] When Success Masks Low Self-Worth [09:24] Women’s Sacred, Untapped Power [10:06] Stop Seeking Approval and Start Owning It [10:27] How to Reclaim Your Power, Starting Now [12:03] Join the Self-Centered Movement This isn’t about blame—it’s about reclaiming. Hilary calls on women to stop asking, stop apologizing, and stop shrinking. Instead, she challenges listeners to rise, lead, and live unapologetically, with power and presence. Because pussy power? It’s real. And it’s time women stopped pretending it isn’t. 👑 Want in on the movement? Tap the link in the show notes to get Hilary’s free video training and step into your self-centered era—for real this time.

If you’ve ever been told you’re too loud, too confident, too opinionated, or too ambitious—this episode is for you. Hilary’s not here to help you soften your edges. She’s here to remind you why you grew them in the first place. In this unapologetic episode, she calls out the centuries-old conditioning that taught women to shrink, stay agreeable, and prioritize everyone else’s comfort over their own truth. Spoiler: you’re not “too much.” You’re just too powerful for the people who benefit from you being less. Hilary shares the signs that you’ve internalized the myth of “too much” and breaks down the shift that happens when you stop minimizing yourself and start standing fully in your power. This episode isn’t about being polite. It’s about being self-centered—and no, that’s not selfish. It’s revolutionary.   Episode Highlights: How "too much" is just rebranded control Why being self-centered is your power move—not a personality flaw What happens when you stop dimming your light for someone else's comfort 3 shifts you can make today to stop apologizing and start expanding   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Myth of Being “Too Much” [00:54] Why Women Shrink Themselves to Fit [02:06] The Real Cost of Playing Small [03:42] You’re Not Too Much—They’re Just Uncomfortable [04:24] What It Really Means to Be Self-Centered [05:28] How to Break Free from People-Pleasing [06:31] Stop Apologizing. Start Leading. [07:35] Who Would You Be If You Weren’t Shrinking?   👑 Ready to stop chasing approval and start living for you? Watch Hilary’s free training This Changes Everything—linked in the show notes.

You’ve spent your whole life making sure everyone else is okay—but what about you? This episode is for the women who are exhausted, overextended, and quietly wondering when it’ll finally be their turn. Hilary is breaking down the deep conditioning that taught us to believe being selfless equals being worthy, and why that’s total BS. If you’ve ever felt guilty for wanting more, for needing space, or simply saying no… this one’s going to hit. Because the truth is, no one is going to magically give you permission to rest, breathe, or be a priority. You have to choose it. And when you do? Everything changes.   Episode Highlights: Why self-sacrifice won’t earn you the love or respect you deserve The hard truth about how you’re teaching people to treat you The 3 steps to stop people-pleasing and start living for you How to be self-centered (in the best possible way) And why this shift is your ticket to freedom   Episode Breakdown: [00:00]  How You Were Conditioned to Be Selfless [01:32] Why You Feel Undervalued and Exhausted [02:03] The Guilt of Prioritizing Yourself [03:06] The Truth About Self-Sacrifice [04:00]  Setting Boundaries: Teaching Others How to Treat You [05:04] What It Means to Be Self-Centered [05:57] 3 Steps to Start Prioritizing Yourself [07:01] What to Expect When You Start Saying No [07:22] Why You Need to Choose Yourself Now [07:54] Start Living for You Nobody’s coming to save you. It’s your turn—right now. Tune in, then grab Hilary’s free video training This Changes Everything to start making yourself a daily priority without apology. You’ll never look back.

She’s successful, impressive, accomplished… and secretly miserable. If that hits a little too close to home, this episode is for you. Hilary is calling out the high-achieving hamster wheel that so many women are stuck on—working their asses off, racking up accolades, and still feeling like something’s missing. Sound familiar? That’s because you’ve been chasing a version of success that was never meant to satisfy you, just the people clapping from the sidelines. In this episode, Hilary breaks down the real reason success isn’t scratching the itch—and why being self-centered (yes, self-centered) is the antidote. Not the selfish kind. The sane, grounded, peaceful, fulfilled kind.   Episode Highlights: The lie high-achieving women are sold (and why it keeps you stuck) How to recognize when you’re chasing validation instead of real joy The myth of “I'll be happy when...” and how to break it 3 real steps to start living life on your terms—today   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why High-Achieving Women Still Feel Empty [02:06] How to Break the Burnout Cycle  [03:54] Two Choices: Keep Performing or Prioritize Yourself [04:15] What Self-Centered Really Means [05:30] Step 1: Audit Your Life [06:24] Step 2: Redefine Success for You [06:55] Step 3: Start Making Self-Centered Decisions [07:37] Why People Might Not Like the New You (and That’s Fine) [08:09] Choose to be happy, NOW. If you're tired of being exhausted, overextended, and secretly questioning if this is all there is—Hilary’s here to say: hell no, it’s not. It’s time to stop chasing and start choosing you. Because you’re not too much. You’ve just been aiming at the wrong finish line. Hit play. It’s time for a self-centered glow-up.

Let’s get one thing straight: aging isn’t something to fear—it’s when the real magic begins. In this unapologetically honest episode, Hilary drops the five signs that you’re officially stepping into your Wise Woman Era—where your confidence is unshakable, your boundaries are bulletproof, and your “no” comes with zero explanation. After 25 years working inside the minds of ambitious, accomplished, but still unfulfilled women, Hilary’s here to tell you: the glow-up you’re craving doesn’t come from the outside. It comes when you stop shrinking, apologizing, and people-pleasing—and start trusting, honoring, and liking yourself. Wild concept, right?   Episode Highlights: Why confidence that depends on applause is fake confidence The quiet power of making your time, peace, and energy non-negotiable How to stop apologizing for existing (seriously, stop it) What happens when you finally stop waging war with your reflection The surprising key to becoming unshakably magnetic   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] The Wise Woman Era [00:44] Sign 1: Shifting Confidence from External to Internal [02:10] Sign 2: No Longer Negotiating Your Time, Peace, or Power [05:09] Sign 3: Stopping Apologies for Taking Up Space [06:02] Sign 4: Embracing Your Appearance and Energy [08:00] Sign 5: Developing a Loving Relationship with Yourself [09:46] The Power of Being Self-Centered [10:28] What Will You Do Differently? This isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about returning to who you were before the world told you to be polite, quiet, small, and nice. So let’s burn the rulebook, reclaim your place at the center of your life, and make “wise” the new sexy. 👉 Ready to stop performing and start leading? Hit play. Your era has arrived.

Are you the fixer? The one who always steps up, saves the day, and keeps everything running smoothly? Yeah, that might sound noble, but here’s the truth—you’re not helping. You’re enabling. Hilary is here to break down why over-functioning is actually a trap—for you and everyone around you. You think you’re keeping things together, but what you’re really doing is creating dependence, burning yourself out, and blocking others from stepping up. And let’s be real—you kind of love being the one everyone relies on, don’t you? 👀   Episode Highlights: Why “helping” is keeping everyone stuck (including you) How over-functioning leads to exhaustion, resentment, and crappy relationships The sneaky reason you can’t stop fixing everything How to back off without guilt and let people handle their own mess The magic of actually receiving for once (yes, you deserve it)   Episode Breakdown: ​​00:00 Are You Over-Functioning? 02:00 Five Reasons Over-Functioning is Bad 02:32 Reason 1: Training People to Rely on You 03:24 Reason 2: Robbing Others of Their Wins and Lessons 05:08 Reason 3: Getting Something Out of It 08:08 Reason 4: Hogging the Joy of Giving 09:53 Reason 5: Blocking the Flow of Reciprocity 12:22 The Hard Truth & Simple Fix It’s time to drop the superhero cape and let people solve their own damn problems. Because the less you do, the more you actually get. 🎧 Listen now & start unburdening yourself! 💫 Subscribe to Hilary’s YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver 💬 Which one is harder for you—saying “no” or asking for help? Spill in the comments!

Starting over? Again?! If the thought of making a major life change sends you spiraling, it’s time for a reality check—starting fresh isn’t scary, staying stuck is. Hilary shares the six biggest lessons she’s learned from reinventing herself—multiple times. She’s built and walked away from thriving businesses, started fresh, failed fast, and bet on herself—again and again. And now? She’s giving you the real talk on what it actually takes to start over (and make sure it pays off).   Episode Highlights: Get clear on what you actually want (spoiler: most people aren’t). Why being half in, half out is a guaranteed way to stay stuck Failure isn’t a thing. Not trying? That’s the real failure. Why betting on yourself is the safest investment you’ll ever make   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Starting Over Feels So Hard [03:52] The #1 Mistake People Make When Reinventing Themselves [05:06] How to Fully Commit to Your Next Move [07:04] The Power of Mindset [09:55] Burnout, Fear & the Power of Letting Go [12:13] Redefining Failure: What You’ve Been Getting Wrong [14:08] Betting on Yourself is the Secret to Lasting Success [16:14] Starting Over (Again) & Why It’s Worth It [19:25] You Have Nothing to Lose 💥 Ready to bet on yourself? Hit play.   💫 Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab Hilary’s FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!): https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver   🚀 What’s your biggest reinvention lesson? Drop it in the comments!

Being your best self sounds great, but what does that actually mean? In this episode, Hilary calls out the vague, feel-good self-help fluff and lays out five daily habits that actually move the needle. If you’ve been winging personal growth and hoping for the best, it’s time to get intentional. Hilary breaks down how to define your ideal self, bridge the gap between who you are now and who you want to be, and make small shifts that add up to massive transformation. Plus, she’s sharing the one magic question that will help you make better decisions, stay aligned, and step into your power every day.   Episode Highlights: Why your ideal self isn’t a finish line—it’s a way of being The power of sacred morning time (no chaos, no distractions—just you) How movement, music, and self-check-ins shape your energy and mindset The one magic question that will keep you aligned and making better choices   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Being Your Best Self [05:04] Habit 1 [06:00] Habit 2 [08:08] Habit 3 [10:08] Habit 4 [11:55] Habit 5 [13:20] The Magic Question   🔥 Ready to embody your best self? Let’s make it happen. 🎧 Listen now & start the shift! 💫 Get my curated playlist: hilarysilver.com/playlist 📲 Follow me on Instagram: @hilarysilver 🎥 Watch my Five Core Concepts of the Self-Centered Movement playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0RHQvSfQrdhYziTx1PqymciC0EQLC9cl 💬 Comment below: What’s one habit that helps you show up as your best self?

Everything you’ve been told about managing anxiety? It’s probably making it worse. In this episode, Hilary is tearing up the mainstream advice playbook—because counting backwards, meditating through a full-blown panic spiral, or just “getting more sleep” isn’t going to cut it. Anxiety isn’t the real problem—it’s a symptom. A flashing red warning light. And until you fix what’s actually going on underneath, you’ll be stuck dealing with it forever. The good news? You are both the problem and the solution. Which means you don’t have to keep living with this.   Episode Highlights: Why symptom-focused anxiety hacks don’t work (and what does) The real root cause of anxiety that no one talks about How self-betrayal, avoidance, and ignoring your gut are fueling your anxiety The mindset shift that will actually eliminate anxiety for good A simple but powerful way to turn anxiety into self-trust and inner peace   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Everything You’ve Heard About Anxiety Is Wrong [04:48] The Real Cause of Anxiety (Hint: It’s Not What You Think) [09:02] Game-Changing Questions to Calm Anxiety Instantly [09:55] How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust & End Anxiety for Good   This isn’t about managing anxiety—it’s about eliminating it at the source. No fluff, no gimmicks, just the truth that no one else is telling you.   💫 Listen now & step into your power! 🎧 Subscribe & watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @iamhilarysilver 💡 Want more? You’ll love the Five Core Concepts of the Self-Centered Movement playlist → https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0RHQvSfQrdhYziTx1PqymciC0EQLC9cl&feature=shared   💬 Drop a comment: What’s the worst piece of anxiety advice you’ve ever heard? Let’s laugh (and unlearn) together! 👇🔥