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Everything you’ve been told about managing anxiety? It’s probably making it worse. In this episode, Hilary is tearing up the mainstream advice playbook—because counting backwards, meditating through a full-blown panic spiral, or just “getting more sleep” isn’t going to cut it. Anxiety isn’t the real problem—it’s a symptom. A flashing red warning light. And until you fix what’s actually going on underneath, you’ll be stuck dealing with it forever. The good news? You are both the problem and the solution. Which means you don’t have to keep living with this.   Episode Highlights: Why symptom-focused anxiety hacks don’t work (and what does) The real root cause of anxiety that no one talks about How self-betrayal, avoidance, and ignoring your gut are fueling your anxiety The mindset shift that will actually eliminate anxiety for good A simple but powerful way to turn anxiety into self-trust and inner peace   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Why Everything You’ve Heard About Anxiety Is Wrong [04:48] The Real Cause of Anxiety (Hint: It’s Not What You Think) [09:02] Game-Changing Questions to Calm Anxiety Instantly [09:55] How to Build Unshakable Self-Trust & End Anxiety for Good   This isn’t about managing anxiety—it’s about eliminating it at the source. No fluff, no gimmicks, just the truth that no one else is telling you.   💫 Listen now & step into your power! 🎧 Subscribe & watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @hilarysilver 💡 Want more? You’ll love the Five Core Concepts of the Self-Centered Movement playlist → https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL0RHQvSfQrdhYziTx1PqymciC0EQLC9cl&feature=shared   💬 Drop a comment: What’s the worst piece of anxiety advice you’ve ever heard? Let’s laugh (and unlearn) together! 👇🔥

You want love, success, confidence, the dream body—because obviously. But what if I told you that the way you’re going after it is exactly why it keeps slipping through your fingers? Yeah, it’s not the goal that’s the problem. It’s how you’re wired to chase it.   In this episode, Hilary drops the truth bomb you didn’t know you needed: The constant grind for external validation—whether it’s from a relationship, your bank account, or the number on the scale—only reinforces the idea that you’re not enough without it. And that? That’s keeping you stuck.   Episode Highlights: Why your biggest desires might be rooted in old insecurities (Hint: Your childhood is probably involved.) The exhausting cycle of proving your worth (and how to break it) Why desperate energy pushes away exactly what you want How shifting your mindset flips the script on love, success, and happiness The magic of deciding you're already worthy—before you have the “proof”   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:16] The Belief-Proof Paradox [03:03] The Powerlessness of External Validation [06:04] The Addiction to External Proof [07:07] High Achievers and the Need for Approval [09:03] The Inherent Nature of Self-Worth [10:06] Choosing to Believe in Yourself [11:19] Worthiness Precedes Achievement [12:00] The Importance of Self-Relationship [12:32] Conclusion   This isn’t about sitting back and manifesting your dream life with good vibes alone. It’s about rewiring your beliefs so that you stop blocking yourself from everything you’re meant to have.   🎧 Listen now & step into your power! 💫 Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab Hilary’s FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!): https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @hilarysilver   💬 What’s one belief about success or self-worth that you’re ready to let go of? Drop it in the comments! 👇🔥

They told us aging meant fading into the background—HA, not a chance. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary is flipping the script on what it really means to be a powerful woman over 50. After her viral episode “How I Turn Heads Over 50”, the internet had a lot to say—some women embraced the message, others questioned the need for attention, and plenty misunderstood the real point. But she’s here to set the record straight: this isn’t about validation, and it’s definitely NOT about seeking male attention.   Episode Highlights: The straight-up LIES you were fed about aging, beauty, and self-worth Why your value has NOTHING to do with male attention (seriously, let’s retire that nonsense) The myth of the “invisible woman” and why YOU get to decide if you fade into the background How to walk into any room like the queen you are—without seeking validation from anyone The three mindset shifts every badass woman over 50 needs to make yesterday   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [03:19] External Validation and Self-Worth [04:01] Aging and Societal Perception [05:57] Claiming Personal Power [07:01] Becoming Rejection-Proof [09:09] Turning Heads with Energy Referenced Episode: “Forget Invisible Woman Syndrome - How I Turn Heads Over 50” : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000676193898   Hilary is dropping truth bombs, dismantling outdated beliefs, and handing you the permission slip to become the most magnetic, self-assured version of yourself—on your terms.   Ready to ditch the old narratives and claim your space? Listen in, take notes, and start showing up like the powerhouse you were born to be.   🎧 Listen now & step into your power! 💫 Subscribe to Hilary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 🔥 Grab my FREE training, This Changes Everything (and other free resources!) at : https://hilarysilver.com/guides/ 👉 Follow Hilary on Instagram: @hilarysilver 💬 What’s one outdated belief about aging you’re DONE with?

People are shocked when they find out Hilary is 52. They see the abs, the energy, and the glow, and immediately want to know the secret. Well, in this episode, she’s spilling it all—the workouts, the mindset, the aesthetics, and yes, the cosmetic procedures she’s done (and proud of). Because here’s the deal: taking care of yourself isn’t vain, it’s self-respect.   This is not about fighting aging—Hilary loves getting older. But embracing aging doesn’t mean just rolling over and accepting every wrinkle and change if it doesn’t feel good to you. It’s about choice. Confidence. Owning what makes you feel powerful. And not giving a damn about what anyone else thinks.   Episode Highlights:  Why loving yourself and getting cosmetic work aren’t opposites The truth about Botox, fillers, and why she stays very picky The brutal reality of post-baby body changes—and the surgeries that changed everything Why cruelty-free skincare is a must (no excuses) The real key to looking and feeling amazing at any age—spoiler: it’s not just lasers and serums   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [02:09] Loving Aging and Self-Confidence [03:02] Pro Being Your Best, Not Anti-Aging [05:09] Making Choices for Yourself [06:02] Self-Love and Cosmetic Procedures [07:39] Personal Transformation Journey [08:00] Pregnancy and Body Changes [12:02] Physical and Emotional Impact [14:08] Non-Surgical Maintenance [14:28] Botox and Fillers [15:10] Invisalign and Dental Care [16:14] Skincare and Animal Cruelty-Free Products [17:17] Lasers and Microneedling [17:39] The Real Secret to Looking and Feeling Your Best [18:00] Conclusion   So whether you’re Botox-curious, all-natural, or somewhere in between—this episode is a reminder that it’s your face, your body, your rules. Do what makes you feel amazing and own it unapologetically.   🎥 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/w81LQ0cqSqQ 💬 Comment: What’s one beauty or self-care choice you’ve made just for you? 👇 🎁 Grab my free training, This Changes Everything: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/

Hilary is diving into your questions, and as always, she’s keeping it real. In this Q&A episode, she tackles some of the biggest struggles high-achieving women face—from owning your confidence to battling that nagging loneliness even when your life looks great on paper. If you’ve ever felt unseen, stuck, or just plain over it, this episode is your wake-up call.   Episode Highlights: Confidence isn’t about approval, it’s about presence. When you feel valuable, you become magnetic—no validation required. Overwhelmed by personal growth? Forget the mile-long to-do list. Master your thoughts first, and everything else will follow. Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. It’s about whether you’re truly seen in your relationships. Here’s how to deepen the connections you already have.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction and Listener Questions [00:47] Turning Heads Over 50 [01:41] Addressing Male Attention Assumptions [05:56] The Importance of Being Self-Centered [07:09] Managing Your Mind and Thought Patterns [08:24] Feeling Lonely Despite Having It All [10:00] Situational vs. Existential Loneliness [12:21] Authenticity and Deepening Connections   Ready for real transformation? Start reprogramming your thoughts with Hilary’s Daily Journal: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/ —a simple but powerful tool designed to shift your mindset and attract the life you actually want.   💬 Got a question? Send it in for a future episode! And don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it.

So, you’ve hit a new phase in life—kids don’t need you as much, work feels like a never-ending rerun, and suddenly, you’re left with space. But instead of feeling free, you’re stuck wondering, "What the hell do I actually want?" Don’t worry, Hilary is here to drag you out of the “what now?” spiral and help you find your spark again.   In this episode, Hilary tackles that “I don’t even know what I want” dilemma with practical tools and a hefty dose of real talk. If you’ve been so busy playing all the roles—mom, career badass, caretaker—that you’ve forgotten who you are outside of them, this one’s for you.   Episode Highlights: Jealousy isn’t a vibe killer; it’s a clue. Start paying attention to what makes you envious—it’s pointing you toward your desires. You don’t have to overhaul your life in one go. Experiment, try stuff, and ditch what doesn’t fit (looking at you, Airstream). Forget practicality for a second—what would you do if you had no limits?   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Finding What You Truly Want [03:11] Exercise 1: Become a Master Observer of Yourself [05:17] Exercise 2: Use Jealousy and Envy as Clues [06:00] Exercise 3: The Magic Wand Question [07:14] Exercise 4: Experiment Without Commitment [08:27] Exercise 5: The Life Zone Exercise [09:31] Exercise 6: Focus on Your Feelings [10:55] Honoring Your Feelings in Daily Life [12:10] Self-Satisfied Program and Conclusion   Ready to put yourself back at the top of your priority list? Check out Hilary’s Self-Satisfied Program: https://hilarysilver.com/shop/ for guided exercises (like the life zone!) and actionable steps to reclaim your time and energy.   👉 Subscribe, rate, and share this episode with someone who’s also stuck asking, "What do I want?"

Think manifesting is just for the hippie crowd? Think again. In this episode, Hillary  breaks down the science behind manifesting and shows you why it’s not magic—it’s mindset. From neuroscience to universal laws, Hillary reveals how to stop blocking your blessings and start becoming an unstoppable magnet for everything you want. No crystals or vision boards required (unless you’re into that).   Episode Highlights: Why manifesting works (and why you’ve been doing it wrong). The two universal laws that govern manifesting—and how to hack them. How your thoughts, beliefs, and energy shape your reality. The sneaky ways you’re subconsciously sabotaging your desires. Five simple, practical steps to become a manifesting powerhouse.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Introduction [01:35] Universal Laws of Manifestation [02:07] The Law of Vibration [06:00] The Law of Attraction [08:28] Conscious and Subconscious Thoughts [10:26] Neuroscience and Universal Laws [15:01] Visualization Techniques [15:56] The Daily Journal Tool   Ready to Manifest Like a Boss? If you’re tired of wishing and ready to start receiving, grab The Daily Journal, Hillary’s signature tool that combines neuroscience and manifesting practices to rewire your brain for success.   Hit play, vibe high, and start creating the life you actually want. Let’s do this. 💫   👉 Subscribe to Hillary's YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@HilarySilver?sub_confirmation=1 👉 Get The Daily Journal at https://hilarysilver.com/journal/ 👉 Follow Hillary on Instagram: @hillarysilver

Resentment is toxic AF. It’s the sneaky little emotion that quietly poisons your mood, relationships, and maybe even your skin. In this episode, Hillary peels back the layers of resentment, exposing it as the blend of hurt, anger, and judgment that keeps you stuck in victim mode. Feeling overlooked or undervalued? It’s time to face the real truth: resentment is a YOU problem. It’s time to stop blaming others, own your role, and set yourself free from the soul-sucking cycle of stewing and simmering.   Episode Highlights: The toxic cocktail of emotions that make up resentment—and why it’s a joy killer. The uncomfortable but liberating truth: you’re responsible for your resentment. How passive-aggressive behavior is resentment’s messy, toxic cousin. Hillary’s no-BS three-step process to let it go, for good. Why being unapologetically self-centered is your ultimate superpower against future resentment.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Resentment [00:30] Meet Hillary! [01:05] Understanding Resentment [02:09] The Insidious Nature of Resentment [04:05] Why We Hold On to Resentment [05:55] The Harsh Truth About Resentment [07:07] Taking Responsibility for Resentment [09:03] The Power of Authenticity [10:48] Three-Step Process to Release Resentment [13:15] Moving Forward and Letting Go [14:07] Conclusion   💻 Ready to become Self-Devoted, Self-Satisfied, and Self-Made? Check out Hillary’s new programs: hilarysilver.com/shop.

Tired of your own BS thought loops? Let’s fix that. In this episode, Hilary reveals the game-changing power of thought habits—the deeply ingrained patterns of thinking that shape your actions, your mindset, and ultimately your success.  Drawing from her personal journey of reprogramming her mind, Hilary spills the tea on how she rewired her own mindset to become a more positive, unstoppable, self-led powerhouse—and how you can too. Trust us, adopting even ONE of these high-vibe thought habits will level up your life faster than your morning coffee.   Episode Highlights: Discover why thought habits are the secret sauce to shaping your life. Learn how the "rule of the golden nugget" transforms disappointments into growth moments. Celebrating small wins daily is a game-changer for staying motivated. Unlock the magic of believing "everything always works out in my favor" and how it can quiet your anxiety.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00]  Introduction to Thought Habits [01:55]  Personal Transformation Journey [03:09]  Self-Leadership and Empowerment [03:31]  Forming New Habits [05:07]  The Rule of the Golden Nugget [09:13]  Celebrate Every Day [12:01]  Everything Always Works Out in My Favor   Hillary’s not just teaching theory here—she’s sharing the exact thought habits that turned her life around, from rewiring her brain to becoming a fearless leader in every area of her life. Ready to try them for yourself? Pick one habit and make it yours.   💻 Ready to become Self-Devoted, Self-Satisfied, and Self-Made? Check out Hillary’s new programs: hilarysilver.com/shop.

Setting big goals is easy. Staying on track when life inevitably throws you a curveball? That’s the real challenge. In this episode, Hillary Silver shares seven game-changing tools to help you stay committed to your goals—even when you mess up (because you will, and that’s okay). Forget perfectionism; it’s about showing up for yourself, learning from setbacks, and making progress every day. Hillary dives into the practical and mindset shifts needed to turn your resolutions into realities, without the self-sabotage or endless restarts. From getting crystal clear on your goals to forgiving yourself when things go sideways, this episode is packed with no-BS advice to keep you moving forward—even if you fall off the wagon a time or two.   Episode Highlights: Get Clear AF on your goals—it's non-negotiable. Break it down into bite-sized objectives and baby steps. Celebrate mess-ups—they’re not failures, they’re feedback! Reframe Success: Focus on effort and self-pride over external results. Step into the identity of the future you who’s already achieved it. Check Yourself! Are these goals really yours, or someone else’s expectations? Forgive the mess-ups, recommit, and love yourself through it all.   Episode Breakdown: [00:00] Overcoming Goal Setbacks [01:44] The Reality of Messing Up [02:05] Tool 1: Clarify Your Big Goal [03:18] Tool 2: Differentiate Goals and Objectives [05:00] Tool 3: Celebrate Daily Progress [07:00] Tool 4: Accept Imperfections and Mess-Ups [08:24] Tool 5: Celebrate the Mess-Ups [10:09] Tool 6: Talk to Yourself as Your Future Self [12:27] Tool 7: Check Your True Motivation [15:14] Tool 8: Forgive Yourself and Reconnect to Your Why [16:27] Stay Committed to Your Goals   If you're tired of restarting the same goals and ready to finally show up for yourself with love and clarity, Hillary's got you covered. Check out her free mini training, This Changes Everything, and her programs designed to help you crush your goals with confidence. Grab them (and free resources!) at hilarysilver.com/guides. Let’s make this your year! 🌟