Service with a Smile

Halloween is coming up, so we decided to talk about fear… of rejection! Fear Fluctuations | Self-Soothing | Vulnerability Points | Pandemic Changes | Building Resiliency | What Are We Afraid Of? | Scarcity Mindset | “Hey, Fuck You!” | Rejecting vs. Rejected | “Beggars Can’t Be Choosers” | Guilt vs. Shame | Non-Monogamy | Rejection-Sensitive Dysphoria | Vote for Making Magic! Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Sadists get a bad rap sometimes, so this week we’re discussing some of the things we love about them. Stigma | Consent | Emotional Complexity | Intimacy & Vulnerability | Fantasy vs. Desire | Empathy & Understanding | Trust & Holding Space | Communication Tools | Joy Over Normalcy | Comedy vs. Psychodrama Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week Billy chats with his partner, Dee Darkholme, about their shared love of cannibalism kink. Cannibalism Is Romantic | Obsession & Limerence | Butchering & Preparing | Silence of the Lambs | Primal Mauling | Vore & Tinies | Media | Cannibalism: A Perfectly Natural History Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Friend of the show Mx. Nillin Lore has a new book out called How Do I Sexy?: A Guide for Trans and Nonbinary Queers, so this week we spoke with them about trans sexuality, furries, body modifications, and more! How Do I Sexy? | ‘Own Voices’ Trans Art | I Saw the TV Glow | Beacons of Permission | Trans Joy | HRT | Don’t Have to Hate It to Change It | Good vs. Bad Doctors | Body Mods | Disturb the Comfortable | Furryism | Video Games Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

This week, we discuss how we’d prepare for a first date, a threesome, a first sex/kink conference, and a new crush, in honor of National Preparedness Month. Why Prepare? | Managing Anxiety | Neurodivergence | First Dates | Conversation Topics | Sex on the First Date | Condoms & Vibrators | Threesomes | First Con | Oncoming NRE Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Can people-pleasers be into service kink? This week, we’re discussing our evolving relationships to providing and receiving service (sexual, domestic, and otherwise) within kink dynamics. Trauma & the Past | Explicit Instructions & Praise | Defining Service | Intentionality | Anxiety & Neurodivergence | Misdirected Service | Turn-On vs. Love Language | Purpose & Meaning | Intimacy & Being Seen | Caretaking & Attachment | Receiving Service | Self-Service | Achievement | Cleaning | Praise Without Service Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Can you believe we’ve done 400 episodes?! This week, we look back at some of our old “hot takes” and see whether we still agree with them. Vulnerability | Categories | Friendship | Things We Hate | New Crush Energy | LGBT | Kate’s Favorite Episodes | Dating Vanilla People | Scheduling Sex | Growth Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Vore is one of the most interesting and fantastical kinks out there, and this week we’re doing a deep-dive on it while continuing to discuss animated porn.Devil’s Cookie | Vore | Horror | Genital Transformation | Cis Men Writing Women | Swallowing | Cock Vore | Death By Pussy | Gender Politics | Cute Aggression | Spit | Stigma & “Weirdness” Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Is animated porn as hot as “the real thing”? Sometimes it’s even hotter! This week we’re discussing what animated porn can do that live-action porn can’t, and the elements we most love to see in these clips. Curating Porn | Why? | Wet Dreams | Authenticity vs. Acting | Neurodivergence | Cartoonishness | “Oopsie” Series | Campiness | Sexting with an A.I. | Stuffed | Stuffed 2 | Tentacles | Mime and Dash | Voice Actors Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.  

Ghosting may not be the most mature way to end things with someone, but it does happen – so this week we’re discussing the ethics of ghosting, and offering our best advice for people on both sides of this practice. Defining “Ghosting” | Expectations of Availability | How to Not Ghost | Meta-Communication | When Is It OK? | Emotional Self-Care | Asking What’s Up | Coming Back & Apologizing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.