Our 500th Episode!

When you change the way you look, you also change the way you feel and the way you’re perceived. This week, we discuss our favorite ways we’ve modified our appearance, from tattoos to haircuts to gender-affirming surgeries.Surgeries | Gender Euphoria | Tattoos (Pink Bows) | “Cool Enough” | Hair | Femininity | Partners’ Influence | Committing to an Idea | Threshold for Change | Fear & Apprehension | Criticism | Use Code DILDORKS20 for 20% Off Kate’s Audiobook Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Can you believe that we’ve done this 500 times?! This week, we reflect on the past decade in our sex lives, reminisce about our favorite guest interviews, and help a listener stock a hanky-code-themed piñata!Biggest Changes | Lists of Sexual Partners | Being a Slut | Surprise Developments | Dominance & Submission | Punny Titles | What We Were Wrong About | Titillation | Ratings & Rankings | Trust & Attraction | Guests | Effects on Our Sex Lives | Hanky Code Prizes | Use Code DILDORKS20 for 20% Off Kate’s Audiobook Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

If you’ve ever craved a spanking (as a receiver or a giver), what was it that you were craving, exactly? This week we discuss some of the psychological motivations behind our love of impact play, among other things.Primal vs. Careful | Something to Prove | Casual Swats vs. Spanking Scenes | Pain vs. Pleasure | Embodiment vs. Overthinking | Connection | Quality of Pain | Implements | Face-Slapping | Standing Up | Warm-Up vs. None | Bruises & Hickeys | Pain Processing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Do you like sleeping with people – not having sex, but literally sleeping? This week, we discuss the joys and annoyances of co-sleeping, and how to navigate sleepovers if you’re polyamorous or live with your parents.10 Years! | Insomnia & Noise | Rain Sounds | Morning Conversation | Separate Bedrooms | Temperature | Conflict | “The Done Thing” | Sleep & Sex | Consensual Non-Consent | Scent | Aftercare | Sleepover Energy | Hotels & Airbnbs | Cuddling & Alternatives | Romantic Feelings | Long-Distance | Intimacy & Vulnerability | “No Sleepovers” Rule | Sleepover Logistics | 3 People, 1 Bed | Parents | Biosphere (2022) and In the Cut (2003) Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Why is it so hot sometimes to take things slow? This week, we discuss the joys of sexual and romantic “slow burns”!What is a Slow Burn? | Denial | Pandemic | Sustained Attention | Fun, Painful, or Both? | Non-Monogamy | Letting Things Build | Bad at Flirting – Please Be Blunt | Demonstrating Interest | Making a Move | Long-Term Relationships | Chastity & Cuckolding | Disappointments | “Yes, And”-ing | The Ick | Demisexuality | Savoring Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

This week we’re discussing interesting fetishes from the internet, including extra-large Fleshlights, opening Magic cards naked, a straight couple roleplaying Heated Rivalry, and more! Sex with Strangers | Fraysexuality | Anticipation & Flirting | “Hotdog in a Hallway” | Loose Fleshlights | Opening Card Packs | Guys Doing “Girl Voices” | Heated Rivalry Roleplay | Prone Masturbation | Breast Against Dick Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Does group sex hit different in your thirties? This week, we reflect on our evolving relationships to threesomes, foursomes, orgies, etc.   Party Trick | Popular Fantasy | The Invite (2026) | Why Is It Hot? | Essay on Spectatoring in Teenage Sex & Death at Camp Miasma (2026) | Through Their Eyes | Desirability & Self-Worth | Pleasure Distribution | Who’s In Charge? | Co-Bottoming | A Different Perspective | Negotiation | Aftercare | Limits | Safer Sex | Feeling Left Out | Finding People | Unicorn-Hunting Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

How do you maintain a vibrant sex life when tired and in pain all the time? This week Billy interviews Kate about her chronic illness, and the ways she’s used kink to manage it and feel better about it.   Fainting & POTS | Caretaking & Bottoming | Kneeling | Adaptive Products | Chronic Pain | Weed | Flexibility & Muscle Strength | Queening Chairs | Risk vs. Reward | Laundry | Energy Budgeting | Self-Blame | Fatigue & Sleepy Sex | Broken & Lucky | Dominance | Princess Treatment | Hell on Wheels & Kneeling in Spirit | Resentment & Guilt | Service | Chastity & Denial | Bondage & Pressure | Sadomasochism | Good Pain vs. Bad Pain | Disclosing | Intoxication Concerns | Excessive Caution Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

Why are we so drawn to sexuality as a discussion topic and field of study, and how are people in our industry treated differently than those with more “vanilla” jobs? This week, we examine the intersections of sex and professionalism! Why Sex? | Self-Discovery & Freedom | Frivolity & Familiarity | Projection | Professionalism | Beacon of Permission | What Do You Want? | Traits | Poker Face | SAR (Sexual Attitude Reassessment) | Know Thyself Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.

What is “competence kink,” and why is someone being good at things such a common turn-on? This week, we discuss our favorite competencies in others and in ourselves, and what makes them so hot.   Is It a Kink? | Confidence | Our Favorite Competencies | Passion | Quickness & Focus | Planning | Our Competencies | Emotional Intelligence | Soft Skills & Bottoming | Bravery of Vulnerability | Transferrable to Sex? | Listening & Paying Attention | Being Bad at Things | Kink Scenes | Distraction Play | Confident Headspace | Competency Wishlist | Dancing Credits:Music by PROTODOMEArtwork by Addison FinchBecome a patron to support the show and get access to our private Discord, monthly bonus episodes, and your name mentioned on the show.