249. “I’ve never been in a relationship. Are men going to see that as a red flag?” Live coaching session

Today on The Late Bloomer Show, I’m coaching Dana. Dana is a badass who’s never been in a relationship—and she came to our session asking the question so many late bloomers carry: “Are men going to see that as a red flag?” In this episode, we go deep and get tactical. 💎 We create her Essence-Based Preferences in real time (including the exact words she’ll use to vet potential dates) 💎 Build a clear vetting plan so she never has to waste a weekend on a “blah” date again 💎 Make over her dating profile so it reflects who she actually is: adventure traveler, joyful weirdo, emotionally aware, deeply feminist We also talk through how to show up confidently when you feel behind, how to stop apologizing for your inexperience, and how to date like you’re not dead yet. 💥 Work with Lily: → Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist → Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook → Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book Follow Lily everywhere: 📲 Tiktok 📸 Instagram 📺 YouTube Channel

“I’ve never had a relationship last a year. It feels like I missed my window.” That’s what Jennifer told me at the start of this session. She felt behind. Like it was too late to have the love story she wants. Like she had somehow run out of time. And if you’ve ever looked around and thought, Everyone else got the memo on how to do this. I didn’t, this episode is going to speak directly to you. Together, we work through: – The fear that your best love story is already off the table – The weight of “Nobody picks me” – What happens when old thoughts make new dating hope feel impossible – How to use the SOFT method to feel your feelings and rewire your beliefs, without bypassing the hard stuff By the end, Jennifer says: “It’s not over. I’m worth it.” And she means it. 🎧 If you’re a late bloomer who’s still hoping it’s not too late, press play now. 💥 Ready for more support? Start here: → Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist → Free Essence-Based Preferences workbook: datebrazen.com/workbook → Read Thank You More Please: datebrazen.com/book Follow Lily everywhere: 📲 Tiktok 📸 Instagram 📺 YouTube Channel

When I renamed the podcast The Late Bloomer Show, some of you may have wondered: “What if I don’t feel like a late bloomer — is this still for me?” I recorded a mini podcast episode talking about exactly that:) Listen here. Here are my hot takes: 🌱 "Late bloomer" to me means feeling "behind" in any way. To me, late bloomer isn’t about the amount of experience or inexperience— it’s about the feeling of being behind where you thought you “should” be. That feeling is so real, and this community, podcast, and movement is here to remind you: you are right on time. 🌱 If you do identify as a late bloomer, I'm right there with you, I did, too. I'm so excited to usher in this new era of the podcast. 🌱 And if the phrase "late bloomer" doesn’t resonate with you, that’s okay too. Because if you’ve ever felt pressure, shame, or that nagging sense of being “too late, too much, or not enough” — then this space was built for you, too. ✨ This mini episode dives into exactly what The Late Bloomer Show is for — and why it’s for you, whether or not you use that label. 💜

Are you afraid that raising your standards means you’ll be alone forever? Today on The Late Bloomer Show, I’m coaching Marissa, who stayed long after she knew her relationships were over—because she thought starting from scratch would be worse than settling. In this episode, we dig into: ✨ Why we shrink our needs to keep relationships ✨ The guilt that keeps us stuck for years ✨ How to believe what you want in love actually exists ✨ The exact shifts helping Marissa trust herself and ask for more If you’ve ever worried you’re “asking for too much,” this conversation will help you see your love life—and your worth—in a whole new way. Work with Lily: 🔗 Learn about her signature program, Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist Get the book, “Thank You More Please”: datebrazen.com/book 💻 Learn how to work with Lily: datebrazen.com Let’s connect: 📲 Tiktok 📸 Instagram 📺 YouTube Channel  

“More is possible than you currently realize.” ✨ Big news ✨ The Date Brazen Podcast is now The Late Bloomer Show 💜 This change is for every late bloomer who’s ever felt behind, too much, or too late. For anyone who’s been told to shrink or settle. For everyone who needs to hear: 🌱 You are not alone. 🌱 You are not too late. 🌱 What you want is possible. In this vulnerable episode of The Late Bloomer Show, Lily opens up about the rebranding of her podcast and what it truly means to embrace the late bloomer identity. This conversation is more than just a name change, it’s about creating a space where late bloomers can feel seen, supported, and empowered. Lily shares why community matters so deeply, how self-compassion changes the journey, and why feminist perspectives are essential in reframing what it means to be “behind.” Work with Lily: Download the free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: datebrazen.com/workbook Get the book, “Thank You More Please”: datebrazen.com/book 💻 Learn how to work with Lily: datebrazen.com Let’s connect: 📲 Tiktok 📸 Instagram 📺 YouTube Channel

“Why do I have to do all this work just to be given a chance?” In this deeply moving live coaching session, Lily talks with Caleigh—a brilliant late bloomer feeling burned out and heartbroken after years on dating apps. On the surface, it’s dating fatigue. But underneath, they uncover how internalized misogyny shows up in dating: feeling like you have to be less intense, less emotional, or hide your anger just to be seen as desirable. In this episode, you’ll hear: ✨ Why dating can feel like Groundhog Day, especially for late bloomers ✨ How grief and shame linger around never having had a serious relationship ✨ The truth about anger—and why feeling it might change everything in your love life ✨ How perfectionism sneaks into dating and keeps you stuck ✨ Concrete tools to raise your standards without giving up hope If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels like so much work, or worried that your big feelings make you “the problem,” this episode will make you feel seen—and give you practical ways to keep going without losing yourself. Work with Lily: Download the free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: datebrazen.com/workbook Get the book, “Thank You More Please”: datebrazen.com/book 💻 Learn how to work with Lily: datebrazen.com Let’s connect: 📲 Tiktok 📸 Instagram 📺 YouTube Channel

If rejection makes you want to hide under the covers and never date again—this episode is your roadmap back to brave action. Lily shares one of her most painful rejections from her dating life, how it nearly derailed her belief in love, and the five-step Rejection Resilience Side Quest she created to help late bloomers build the skill of shooting their shot without spiraling. Inside this episode: ⚡️ Why rejection feels so dangerous (and why that makes total sense) ⚡️ A 5-step framework to depersonalize “no” and take bold action anyway ⚡️ A rejection aftercare protocol that actually helps you recover faster ⚡️ How building resilience leads to getting more of what you want in love and life This is the most essential skill in dating that no one teaches—until now. 💥 Want more support? Work with Lily: 🔗 Learn about her signature program, Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist 🔗 Book: Thank You More Please 🔗 YouTube Channel 🔗 Tiktok 🔗 Instagram

Ever catch yourself thinking: “Why would they like me? What’s wrong with them for wanting me?” This sneaky belief keeps so many late bloomers stuck in self-doubt, playing small, and avoiding the very love they crave. In this episode, Lily gets personal about how this thought showed up in her own love life—even when she met her now-husband—and shares the powerful mindset shifts and tools you need to bust through this myth for good. Inside: ✨ Why this belief is so common for late bloomers ✨ How it blocks you from trusting healthy connection ✨ The ACK tool to start rewiring your brain for worthiness ✨ Real-life reframes to help you believe, “Of course they like me!” Listen now and start stepping into your main character energy—for love, dating, and beyond. Work with Lily: 🔗 Learn about her signature program, Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist 🔗 Book: Thank You More Please 🔗 YouTube Channel 🔗 Tiktok 🔗 Instagram

Think dating apps are the only way to find love—but secretly hate them? Same, friend. In this episode of the Date Brazen Podcast, I’m sharing my complete, no-BS guide to using dating apps in a way that protects your sanity and increases your chances of finding the right relationship. Inside, you’ll learn: → Why deleting and re-downloading apps keeps you stuck → The exact rules for stress-free swiping (hint: 20 minutes a day) → How to write a profile that qualifies the right people—and filters out the wrong ones → Why you should never, ever try to be “chill” in your dating bio Plus, I’m revealing my personal photo rubric and conversation starters that actually spark connection. Dating apps are flawed—but with this episode, you’ll know how to make them work for you. Work with Lily: 🔗 Learn about her signature program, Main Character Dating: datebrazen.com/waitlist 🔗 Book: Thank You More Please 🔗 YouTube Channel 🔗 Tiktok 🔗 Instagram

Dating can feel like a rollercoaster of emotions—excitement, hope, fear, and sometimes, pure panic. In this episode, we’re tackling the fear that keeps so many incredible people stuck on the sidelines. If you’ve ever thought, What if I get rejected? What if I say the wrong thing? What if I’m not enough?—this one’s for you. I’ll walk you through how to move through dating fear with self-compassion, community, and a whole lot of self-trust. Because here’s the truth: fear is normal, and it doesn’t have to be in the driver’s seat. You don’t have to be fearless to find love—you just have to be willing to take messy, brave action toward what you want. Hit play, and let’s reframe your fear into power. Takeaways: ✨ Self-compassion isn’t just nice; it literally helps your body handle stress better. ✨ Feeling afraid to date? That’s human. You’re not alone. ✨ Messy action beats overthinking every time. ✨ The right person won’t need you to perform or say the perfect thing. ✨ If you desire more, it’s because it’s possible for you. Let’s go get you what you want. 💫 Get your free Essence Based Preferences Guide ​here​. Work with Lily: Get Lily’s Book, Thank You More Please HERE.   Follow Lily on Instagram and Tiktok.   Subscribe to Lily’s Youtube channel HERE.