27. I Am Enough

Did you know there is a whole world of people out there who have discovered what some people call persistent fundamental well-being or in spiritual circles being awakened or enlightened? A collective movement is underway and has been since the advent of the internet creating greater access to this phenomenon around the world.  Through 16 years of research the book, The Finders by researcher Dr. Jeffrey Martin has discovered that people who have transitioned to this state often feel free of distress, fear, angst, and judgment - those pervasive and challenging aspects of the mind.  There is a renewed and often persistent feeling of peace, stillness, compassion, gratitude, presence, and loving-kindness. Listen in as Dr. Lauren and Alana explore Dr. Lauren's journey into this world. Resources  https://www.amazon.com/Finders-Dr-Jeffery-Martin/dp/1572425563

It’s almost impossible to miss the multitude of psychological and coaching classes addressing people’s self-love and worthiness issues these days. All around us people want to heal their core feelings of unworthiness and unlovability. There is finally a deep understanding of its psychological impact on our sense of self and potential. In this episode, Alana and Dr. Lauren take a deep dive into the why and how this happened, specifically looking at it from a Western Culture perspective. They also look at particular psychological tools that can help change the way these issues impact us. References:  By Adyashanti (Author) Healing the Core Wound of Unworthiness: The Gift of Redemptive Love ***Episode Correction: Black Lives Matter was founded in 2013 in response to the acquittal of Trayvon Martin’s murderer.

What happens when you have figure out your relationship issues and are able to create a healthy, loving and safe relationship with someone only to find out your desire for sex with them waines over time. It is usually quite surprising and disappointing especially when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other in the beginning. Do we have to trade comfort and stability for life-long passion? Thankfully, no! Tune in as Dr. Lauren and Alana explore this topic using Esther Perel’s best-selling book, Mating in Captivity and Dr. Lauren’s years of work with love addiction, relationship issues, womxn, lesbians and queer women. https://www.amazon.com/Mating-Captivity-Unlocking-Erotic-Intelligence/dp/0060753641 http://lesbianloveaddiction.com/ https://bit.ly/amazonesbianloveaddictionbook

Our Never Ending and Sometimes Faulty Relationship with Food. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/candida-overgrowth. https://www.amazon.com/Edge-Effect-Longevity-Balanced-Advantage/dp/1402722478

Go on an unusual ride with Dr. Lauren and Alana as they explore Inner Child Work together.  The third part of their Self-Discovery series, they discuss why creating a relationship with one’s  Inner Work helps us get in touch with those most vulnerable and open parts of ourselves. Often hiding in our unconscious because of core wounding, creating this relationship helps one begin to find out what they need in order for them to feel seen and heard - an effective healing modality in and of itself. Through a modified resourcing exercise, Dr. Lauren helps Alana meet her Inner Child so listeners can see an example of how helpful this kind of relationship can be. Resources: EMDR/Resourcing Training - https://parnellemdr.com/laurel/

In the second part of their Self-Discoveries series - Alana and Dr. Lauren continue their deep dive into life-changing shifts and life-sustaining discoveries they have had during this radically transitional time. From finding more permission to creating more balance, how The Human Design Method played a part, and how personal and career priorities changed when the world changed. Lastly, how this reflective time informed the ways they look at their life purpose, how this helps their clientele and the people they love.  Resources: The Human Design Method: https://www.jovianarchive.com/ https://www.instagram.com/ayceebrown/ Projector: http://livingfromyouressence.com/human-design-projector/ Manifestor: http://livingfromyouressence.com/human-design-manifestor/

Join Dr. Lauren and Alana Roshay as they take a deep dive back into their beloved podcast after needing to take long break during the pandemic. In this episode they take a look back at 2020 including honoring the suffering experienced by so many while also acknowledging the much-needed healing from a life in overdrive including their own journey into self-discovery. They also process the overarching themes of learning how to sit with uncertainty, how to help heal a country full of racial injustice, the problems of capitalism and the patriarch. Lastly, they examine tools and resources everyone can use to help them navigate the crises of CoVid19 and find the psychological and spiritual opportunities meant to aid in their own self-discovery process. Resources: Justice LA COVID-19 Response jlacovid19.org The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness by Michelle Alexander and Cornel West

Dr. Lauren and Alana Roshay explore the stages of racial justice and how to be a white ally. The reckoning is upon us! Black communities have been systemically oppressed since the U.S. was founded. White communities can no longer plead ignorance. The time is now to create sustainable and concrete change to do whatever it takes to eradicate the institutional racism. Starting with internal and external reconciliation, this episode looks into the ways we can look at our own racism and how we unconsciously and consciously collude with this country’s deep anti-black systems. Secondly, the show goes over tools and action items our listeners can use to aid in their own internal and external allyship through education, learning how to speak up, and take decisive legislative action. Including grassroots movements and conscious voting this coming November 3rd 2020. RESOURCES 4 EPISODE 4 Steps to White Allyship - a psychological perspective https://drlaurencostine.com/white-ally/ Anti-Racism Materials https://linktr.ee/theboundaryboss AWARE LA Alliance of White Anti-Racists Everywhere-LA Guide to Allyship https://guidetoallyship.com/ Ending Qualified Immunity Act https://pressley.house.gov/sites/pressley.house.gov/files/Ending%20Qualified%20Immunity%20Act%20One%20Pager.pdf

Have you been watching The L Word and having lots of thoughts and feelings about it? Tune as Dr. Lauren and Alana discuss the revamped show and the fantastic and not so fantastic parts of it while also inviting their suprise guest, Rita Gonzales, pioneer in women’s and lesbian activist talk about her gender expression. They also get into Dr. Lauren’s experience as playing Drag King Barnaby Wild at “Out Your Inner Star.” https://www.michaelshouse.com/finding-freedom-lgbtq-symposium/ https://www.desertaidsproject.org/ https://www.sanctuarypalmsprings.org/ https://promohomo.tv/ https://www.kpfk.org/on-air/the-out-agenda/ https://twitter.com/trevorproject/status/918176244050432000

In service of Domestic Violence Month, Dr. Lauren and Alana focus on the way it impacts both the straight and LGBTQ communities.. Interviewing creators, Renee Sotile & Mary jo Godge, of I Remember Nicole Project - a non-profit that seeks to empower women who are experiencing domestic violence FIND THEIR voice -  who discuss making the music video about Nicole and their experiences when interviewing celebrities who have been impacted by intimate partner violence. They all also discuss the myths, misconceptions and psychological ramifications regarding DV in the LGBTQ community. Resource tools I Remember Nicole Video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Haaod5xqXIw Signs you might be experiencing abuse https://nationaldaycalendar.com/national-domestic-violence-awareness-month-october/ LGBT+ Statistics intimate violence https://ncadv.org/blog/posts/domestic-violence-and-the-lgbtq-community Safe horizon - https://www.safehorizon.org/ Domestic Violence Hotline - https://www.thehotline.org/ The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV)'s -  http://www.ncadv.org/ Cycle of Abuse paradigm & diagram https://www.whiteribbon.org.au/understand-domestic-violence/what-is-domestic-violence/cycle-of-violence National Center for Transgender Equality https://transequality.org/know-your-rights/survivors-violence If you are looking for immediate assistance call National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1−800−799−7233