You Cannot Write a Resume About a Stranger

Send us Fan MailSay you're a perfectionist. Never bring up pay. When they ask if you have questions, say no. If you're landing interviews but not offers, one of these rules might be why.In Week 3 of Unlearn It, Lauren Deats crosses out five interview rules that sound safe but quietly cost you the job. You'll learn The Note Test, what the interviewer writes down after you leave, how to answer the weakness question for real, and the Now, Then, Next formula for "tell me about yourself." Plus a Horror Story of the Week where the front desk had the final say, a Listener Mailbag on bringing notes into an interview, and the Five Story Bank.In this episode:- The framework: The Note Test- Rule 01: Say your weakness is perfectionism- Rule 02: Never be the one to bring up pay- Rule 03: A firm handshake seals the deal- Horror Story of the Week: The Front Desk Was Taking Notes- Rule 04: "No, I think you covered it"- Rule 05: "Tell me about yourself" means your life story- Mailbag: "Is it okay to bring notes into an interview?"- Tip of the Week: The Five Story BankThis week's homework: Record yourself answering "Tell me about yourself," play it back, and keep it under 90 seconds.Links:- Free download, The Unlearn It Interview Rulebook (Friday): https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/resources- Read this week's blog: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/blog- Practice with Lauren, monthly coaching plans with mock interviews: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/career- Get The Weekly Bloom every Tuesday (and enter to win a free resume review by Nov 30): https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/#newsletter- Send a mailbag question: [email protected] Follow along: @lonestarflower on TikTok and Facebook, @lonestarflower_careerbestie on Instagram Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan MailApply to everything. Only apply if you check every box. Don’t follow up or you’ll look desperate. If you’re working harder than ever and your inbox is still empty, one of these rules might be why.In Week 2 of Unlearn It, Lauren Deats crosses out five job search rules that feel like hard work but are quietly wasting your time. You’ll learn the difference between Motion and Momentum, why five tailored applications beat fifty generic ones, and how to follow up the right way for a big company versus a small business. Plus a Horror Story of the Week, a Listener Mailbag on whether anybody really hires during the holidays, and the 5-1-1 Week to run your search on purpose.In this episode:The framework: Motion vs. MomentumRule 01: Apply to everythingRule 02: Only apply if you check every boxRule 03: Search your current job titleHorror Story of the Week: The Follow-Up From the Wrong DecadeRule 04: The big job boards are where the jobs areRule 05: Don’t follow up, you’ll look desperateMailbag: “Should I pause my search until after the holidays?”Tip of the Week: The 5-1-1 WeekThis week’s homework: Count how many applications you sent this month, then count how many you actually tailored.Links:Free download, The Unlearn It Search Rulebook: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/resourcesRead this week’s blog: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/blogMonthly coaching plans: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/careerGet The Weekly Bloom every Tuesday (and enter to win a free resume review by Nov 30): https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/#newsletterSend a mailbag question: [email protected] along: @lonestarflower on TikTok and Facebook, @lonestarflower_careerbestie on Instagram Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan MailOne page or bust. Open with an objective. "References available upon request." If you learned it in a career class, it might be costing you interviews.This week kicks off Unlearn It, a six-week series where Lauren Deats crosses out the career advice everybody swears by, one set of rules at a time. First up: the resume. You'll learn why these rules made sense in the Paper Era, why they backfire in the Parser Era, and what to do instead. Plus a Halloween Horror Story of the Week, a Listener Mailbag question, and the How Many, How Often, How Well formula for turning duty bullets into results.In this episode:The Paper Era vs. the Parser Era: why the old rules stopped workingRule 01: Keep it to one pageRule 02: Open with an objectiveRule 03: List every duty you ever hadHorror Story of the Week: the four-page, two-column resumeRule 04: "References available upon request"Rule 05: Use a creative template so you stand outMailbag: "If I drop the objective, how will they know what job I want?"Tip of the Week: How Many, How Often, How WellThis week's homework: Find one thing on your resume that is only there because someone told you it had to be. Rewrite it for the job you actually want.Free download, The Unlearn It Resume Rulebook (drops Friday): careerbloomsolutions.com/resourcesThe Bloom Blog: careerbloomsolutions.com/blogThe Weekly Bloom newsletter: careerbloomsolutions.comBook a consultation: careerbloomsolutions.com/booking-calendar/consultationsTikTok and Facebook: @lonestarflowerInstagram: @lonestarflower_careerbestieNext week: Unlearn the Search Rules. Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan MailShe ordered a large coffee and then apologized for ordering a large coffee.That is the part I remember. Eighteen months into a job search, and the thing she felt she had to apologize for was the size of her drink.She was not underqualified. She was not lazy. She was up at six, she was applying, she had a system.She was following a map for a city that had been rebuilt.This week I am starting something I have never done on this show. Not topics. A curriculum. Six weeks, one subject, and by the end you will understand the job market you are actually standing in instead of the one somebody described to you in 2015.Week one is where the market really is, and the four places it got rewritten underneath you.In this episode:- What the 2026 numbers actually mean, and why the news and your inbox can both be right- THE FOUR REWRITES: the front door, the tools, the timeline, and the posting itself- Why volume stopped working, and what replaced it- The pop quiz that tells you exactly where your search is leaking, in three questions- Office Hours with D, five months out after eleven years at one company, and the nine minute rejection that was never about her- The Curve: you are allowed to not have knownTHE SYLLABUS:Week 1, the market. Week 2, resumes. Week 3, the search itself. Week 4, interviews. Week 5, salary and the offer. Week 6, career development, so the next search is a choice instead of an emergency.New episode every Thursday. Blog posts Monday and Wednesday going deeper on the same week. Newsletter Tuesday with the assignment. It is all one thing now.THIS WEEK'S HOMEWORK: Write down two numbers. The date you sent application number one, and how many you have sent since. On paper. Somewhere you will see it.Blog: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/blogCoaching plans: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/careerFree consults: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/free-consultationsFriday freebie: https://linktr.ee/LoneStarFlowerCome hang out:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lonestarflowerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lonestarflower_careerbestie/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lonestarflower/reelsYour business, your career, in full bloom. Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan MailEvery dollar you have ever earned was a number somebody else picked. Your starting offer came out of a range you never saw, and every raise since has been a percentage of it.This week Lauren gets into why your first offer is still setting your pay five years later, the three numbers you need written down before anybody asks you anything, and where to find real salary data for free using pay transparency states. Plus the two words that cost one candidate twelve thousand dollars. Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan MailSeason 8 starts today, and I want to start it with a confession.I have spent almost twelve years deciding whether other people's resumes were worth ten more seconds. And there was a stretch of my own career where, if you had asked me what I actually did all day, I would have read you my job description. Out loud. Like that was an answer.It was not an answer. It was a costume.This season is about the stuff nobody covers, because everybody is busy teaching execution. How to format. How to answer. How to negotiate. All of that is fine. All of that assumes you already know your own facts.You do not. Almost nobody does. That is not an insult, it is a hiring manager telling you what she sees.Episode one is the pre-work before the resume.In this episode:- The reason a resume rewrite does not fix a resume problem- THE INTAKE: the four things you gather before you open the document, and why writing without them is why it took you nine drafts- THE DUTY / DEED SPLIT: how to tell what you were assigned from what you actually did, and which one gets you hired- The candidate with a fifteen year career whose resume was a job posting I wrote in 2021- Whether eleven years at one company really means you "have nothing to put on there" (it does not, and I will prove it)- The Receipts Doc, and the twenty minutes a month that make every future job search shorterThe whole month in one sentence: you cannot write a resume about a stranger, and right now, you are the stranger.Free consult, no pitch, no pressure: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/free-consultationsMonthly coaching plans: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/monthlyplanCome hang out:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lonestarflowerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lonestarflower_careerbestie/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lonestarflower/reelsYour business, your career, in full bloom. Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan Mail"Lauren. Is it going to get better?"I have dodged that question for about a year. I've given the diplomatic answer, I've given the data answer, and both of those were a coward's way out.So here is the honest one. No, I don't think "better" is coming, not the way you're picturing it. And no, I don't think you need it to.This one is less of a lesson and more of a conversation. I'm not teaching anything for the first ten minutes. I'm just going to talk to you, and some of it you are not going to like.What we get into:The 410 applicants nobody could hire, and the sentence from that hiring manager I still cannot shakeWhy almost every piece of job search advice you have been given assumes the exact opposite of what is actually happeningThe thing some of you are doing that you're calling persistence, and what it actually isWhy unemployment went DOWN this year and why that is not good newsWhether five months of no is evidence that it's you (it is not, and I explain exactly why)The single move that removes the most reasons to say no, and it costs you one sentenceEverything from four episodes comes down to one idea:They are not looking for a reason to say yes. They are drowning, and they are looking for a reason to say no.Take away their reasons. That is the whole season.FREE: The Offer Closer Kit. All of Season 7 in one place, plus the closing sequence for the last mile nobody writes for you. 14 pages, fillable. https://linktr.ee/LoneStarFlowerAND: the new site goes live August 1. New everything, including a quiz that routes you where you need to go instead of making you guess, and Bloom VIP at $5.99 a month.See you next week for a bonus episode... see you then! Work with me: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/free-consultationsCome hang out:TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lonestarflowerInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/lonestarflower_careerbestie/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lonestarflower/reelsYour business, your career, in full bloom. Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan MailWage growth just slid to 3.5% over the past year, down from the 3.7% to 4.0% range it held from mid-2025 through February. Translation: the automatic raise you used to get just for switching jobs is gone. You have to ask for it now. On purpose. Out loud. So today we're decoding the offer stage. I spent nearly twelve years on the hiring side before I ever coached anybody, and I'm telling you what I know from that chair: the first number is not their best offer. It's a question.And the question is "how much do you know?" In this episode: - Why one client lost $12,000 to four seconds of silence, and why the guy who started the same Monday got it instead - THE FULL BOUQUET: the five stems of every offer (Cash, Calendar, Ceiling, Coverage, Culture) and why staring at the salary means you're negotiating the one lever that's hardest to move - THE GRATEFUL PAUSE: the four beats to run in the thirty seconds after they say the number (Gratitude, Silence, Paper, Time) - How to fix it if you already lowballed yourself in the phone screen - Whether it's worth negotiating "only" a few thousand dollars (spoiler: that few thousand is a car) - The word-for-word counter script, and what to say when the answer is no Plus: the thing nobody tells you, which is that in twelve years on the hiring side I have never once seen an offer rescinded because somebody politely asked for more money. Not once. That fear is not real. It's just loud. FREE DOWNLOAD: Salary Scripts. Every one of these conversations written out word for word, including what to say when they ask your expectations first and what to say when they say no. https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com Next week: the Season 7 finale. We put the whole system together and I tell you the truth about what this market is doing for the rest of the year. Work with me: https://www.careerbloomsolutions.com/free-consultations Come hang out: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lonestarflower Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lonestarflower_careerbestie/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lonestarflower/reels Your business, your career, in full bloom. Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan MailEvery interview question has a subtitle, the thing they actually want to know. This week, Lauren teaches the Read the Subtitles framework, decodes the seven questions you will hear in almost every interview, and flips the table so you can read the interviewer right back. Plus a Horror Story of the Week for the ages, and a mailbag answer for anyone whose brain goes blank in the room.Start with a free consult: careerbloomsolutions.com/free-consultations (Career · Interview Skills · Resume)Send your horror stories and mailbag questions through the website.Free download: The Interview Translation Guide, all seven questions plus a printable prep checklist, at careerbloomsolutions.com.Next week, Part 3: The Offer. Support the show@lonestarflower

Send us Fan MailA job description is not a description. It is a code. In the season opener of The Job Market, Decoded, Lauren pulls back the curtain on job postings and hands you the dictionary.You will learn a simple three-move framework called Read the Room on Paper, hear what phrases like "wears many hats," "self-starter," and "competitive salary" are usually hiding, and find out why what a posting leaves out tells you as much as what it says. Plus a Horror Story of the Week you have to hear to believe, a Listener Mailbag on "entry level" jobs that ask for five years of experience, and a Tip of the Week that turns any posting into your own interview prep.Grab this week's free download, The JD Decoder, a translation guide and worksheet for reading any posting before you apply. Free consults and downloads at careerbloomsolutions.com. Support the show@lonestarflower