Biology Behind It: Why the Mind & Body Can't Heal Without Oxytocin

Have you or your clients ever felt exhausted, anxious, or even physically ill after a therapy session? Or wondered why emotional breakthroughs sometimes leave you feeling worse before you feel better? In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie answers EDMR therapist Rebecca's question about why people sometimes get physical symptoms after making progress in therapy, and shares simple strategies to help prevent this from happening. She goes into the biology behind how your nervous system is constantly deciding whether you're safe or in danger, and why digging into painful memories or feelings can make your body think it's under attack, even when you're actually healing. You'll learn more about: Why your body thinks feeling emotions is dangerous How your "energy bank account" affects what you can handle in therapy Why you might feel sick AFTER therapy sessions How things like poor sleep and processed food make therapy harder on your body Why your nervous system is always checking if you're safe or in danger Two simple things you can do after therapy to feel better Want to learn more? Listen to Episode 129: to find out more!

Many people get stuck on their healing journey. They feel lost and confused. They've spent years in therapy, tried meditation, read all the books but still feel like they’re just surviving instead of truly living. This is way more common than we would like to believe, and quite discouraging for those dealing with stress, burnout, or old emotional wounds. Even when you know you're safe, your body might still feel like it’s in danger.  That’s because healing isn’t just about mindset, it’s about your nervous system. And most healing methods skip the steps your body actually needs to feel safe at the nervous system level. In this episode, Dr. Aimie explains why one often gets stuck and what the nervous system really needs to move from overwhelm and a functional freeze into calm aliveness. You’ll learn how the body experiences a trauma, why it holds on even for years after, and the step-by-step roadmap to give it what it needs to engage its own healing mechanisms. You’ll learn more on: [1:46] Why many people avoid connecting with their body and stay “in their head” [4:05] How to tell if you’re disconnected from your body [5:48] What happens in your body during a trauma response (and how it can get stuck) [8:48] Why just telling yourself “you’re safe” doesn’t make your body believe it [12:49] The hidden equation your nervous system uses to decide if you’re still in danger [15:49] The surprising trait that can block healing   [18:16] Common signs you’re in shutdown mode [21:51] The 3 major roadblocks that can slow down healing [22:52] Why you need cycles of stress and rest to heal [27:36] The 3-phase healing roadmap [29:32] How emotional healing works just like physical healing—and why skipping steps keeps you stuck Whether you're working on your own healing or helping others, this episode gives you the missing piece to understand what’s really going on in the body and how to finally move forward.   Helpful Links Related To This Episode: Steps to Identify and Heal Trauma - A Roadmap for Healing - Find out what trauma is, how to recognize it, and get simple steps to help you heal in this 23-page guide. It’s great for anyone who wants to understand trauma better or support others on their healing journey. Biology of Trauma book - how the body experiences and holds fear, pain and overwhelm, and how to heal. Pre-order now and, at the time of this recording, you’ll get over $400 in bonuses included! Those bonuses are only for the pre-order window which goes until Sept 22, 2025. When you’ve already pre-ordered it on Amazon head over here to receive your bonuses. The 21 Day Journey - If you're ready to create a felt sense of safety in your body and experience the benefits of 26% decrease in daily physical pain, 28% decrease in sleep issues and digestive issues, 30% decrease in anxiety, depression, or want to learn how to do this for those you help - join me for your 21-Day Journey, a structured sequence of gentle, somatic-based self-practices walking you through The Essential Sequence to safely open up stored trauma in the body.    Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 31: Am I Tired, Or Is This Trauma? With Dr. Evan Hirsch Episode 116: The Body Keeps Score: How Trauma Rewires Your Nervous System with Bessel van der Kolk Related Youtube Videos:  What is the first thing we need to address to release stored trauma? | Dr. Aimie Apigian Disclaimer:By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use or misuse of the content provided in this podcast.

What if the autoimmune condition you're dealing with today was actually programmed into your immune system decades ago during childhood? In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie answers a listener’s question about the biological mechanisms connecting early attachment trauma to autoimmunity, and most importantly, what to do about it. She goes into the biology behind how childhood fear literally programs your immune system at the cellular level, creating a biological foundation for autoimmune conditions that can emerge years or decades later, often triggered by additional stressors like accidents, infections, or major life events. You’ll learn more about:  Why fear causes inflammation How early fear creates overactive brain immune cells (microglia) that cause symptoms like brain fog and decision fatigue  The three key immune system pathways that determine whether your body stays in "inflammation mode" or switches to "repair mode" Practical actions you can take to rebalance your immune system Whether you're a practitioner working with autoimmune clients or someone with your own autoimmune journey, this episode reveals the hidden biological connections between early life experiences and immune dysfunction and offers hope through practical interventions that work at the cellular level. Listen to Episode 128: How Attachment Drives Anxiety, Autoimmunity and Chronic Illness to explore the six core attachment pains and their biological impacts. Don't forget to pre-order my new book, Biology of Trauma! 

Many people push others away while desperately craving connection. Others battle chronic pain, digestive issues, or autoimmune conditions that seem to have no clear cause. But why is this? The answer often lies in unresolved childhood attachment trauma, specifically the experiences we had before we had words to make sense of them. This is why someone can have what looks like a good childhood but still struggle with anxiety, digestive problems, chronic pain, or autoimmune issues as an adult. The body remembers what the mind has forgotten. In this episode, Dr. Aimie breaks down the biology of early emotional pain and how it becomes stored in the body as chronic symptoms later in life. You’ll discover the six core attachment wounds, why the body learns to stay in survival mode, how unresolved early trauma shapes your nervous system, immune system, and relationships in adulthood,  and most importantly, how to become your own safe person. You'll learn: [2:08] Why babies need to be held to survive and what happens when they're not [8:45] How to recognize if "it's not safe to relax" is your core attachment pattern [11:35] The health impacts of early attachment trauma [15:20]How fear becomes stored in the body as inflammation and chronic illness [20:49] The six core attachment wounds that shape our nervous system and relationships [25:30] How childhood wounds create the belief "I'm not capable" and lead to chronic overwhelm [30:08] The surprising link between people-pleasing and chronic pain [32:45] How brain fog, histamine intolerance, and depression can stem from attachment wounds [37:50] The three-phase roadmap to safely heal stored trauma in the body Whether you're someone living with unexplained chronic health issues or a practitioner supporting clients who seem stuck, this episode will help you understand the deep connection between childhood trauma, nervous system dysregulation, and adult symptoms and what it really takes to heal.   Helpful Links Related To This Episode: Biology of Trauma book - how the body experiences and holds fear, pain and overwhelm, and how to heal. Pre-order now and, at the time of this recording, you’ll get over $400 in bonuses included! Those bonuses are only for the pre-order window which goes until Sept 22, 2025. When you’ve already pre-ordered it on Amazon head over here to receive your bonuses. The 21 Day Journey - If you're ready to create a felt sense of safety in your body then join me for your 21-Day Journey, a structured sequence of gentle, somatic-based self-practices walking you through The Essential Sequence to safely open up stored trauma in the body.  Attachment Trauma Roadmap - Learn how your nervous system affects your ability to form secure attachments. Discover simple steps to rewire your nervous system for better relationships and overall health   Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 71: Understanding the Trauma Connection Between Attachment, Autoimmunity, and Fatigue To Find Our Way Out Episode 77: Attachment Styles: Impact on Relationships, Health & Healing with Dr. Diane Poole Heller Related Youtube Videos:  Why Attachment Is the Future Of Health | Dr. Aimie Apigian   Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use or misuse of the content provided in this podcast.  

Your nervous system’s main job isn’t to make you happy. It’s to keep you safe. That’s why, even after the danger is over, your body can still act like it’s under threat. In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie goes into the biology behind how trauma gets stuck in the body and why it’s so hard to “just move on.” You’ll learn how something called the body trauma loop keeps your system in survival mode, and how the brain’s ability to learn (neuroplasticity) can actually lock in trauma patterns over time. In this episode, you’ll hear about: The 3 trauma survival responses: shutdown, disconnection, and freeze Why your body keeps flipping between stress and shut down How your brain and body learn to repeat trauma patterns automatically How things like inflammation and oxidative stress keep your nervous system stuck Why just saying “you’re safe” isn’t enough A step-by-step process to help your body shift out of survival and into safety Simple, body-based tools (somatic practices) you can use daily to calm your nervous system Whether you're a practitioner or someone who's tired of feeling anxious, frozen, or burned out, this episode will help you understand what’s happening in your body and how to start changing it. 👉 Want the full breakdown? Listen to Episode 127: Why the Body Is Wired for Danger – Understanding Trauma’s Impact on the Nervous System for a deeper look at trauma and nervous system healing.

When was the last time that you truly felt so safe that you had no anxiety, no fear, or insecurity for the future? Many people feel like they're always waiting for disaster to strike. Their body stays stressed even when nothing bad is happening.  If this sounds like you or those you help, here's why it happens and what you can do about it. The answer lies in understanding how early life experiences wire our nervous system for survival rather than safety.  When we get overwhelmed and can't find our way back to feeling okay, it’s a sign our bodies get stuck in danger mode. This mode can last for years or even decades, affecting everything from our health to our relationships.  In this episode, Dr. Aimie dives into why the body might feel constantly on edge and explains the 3 key factors that make past experiences stick with us.You'll discover simple methods to calm the nervous system and start feeling more secure in life. You'll learn more on: [2:01] The three key elements that create overwhelming experiences: feeling overwhelmed, powerless, and in disbelief [11:54] Understanding the critical line of overwhelm and why we cross it daily  [15:30] How early childhood experiences and generational trauma patterns contribute to nervous system wiring [18:45] The difference between "too much, too fast" and "too little, too long"  [21:54] How to recognize survival patterns versus safety patterns  [25:12] The first essential step to rewiring the nervous system [28:30] Why creating safety must come before processing difficult emotions [32:15] Practical somatic tools you can use immediately when you notice stress and overwhelm Whether you struggle with constant worry, can't seem to relax, or feel like you're always bracing for impact, this episode will help you understand what's happening in your body and give you practical steps to change it.   Guides, Tools & Resources: Biology of Trauma book - how the body experiences and holds fear, pain and overwhelm, and how to heal. Pre-order now and, at the time of this recording, you’ll get over $400 in bonuses included! Those bonuses are only for the pre-order window which goes until Sept 22, 2025. When you’ve already pre-ordered it on Amazon head over here to receive your bonuses. The 21 Day Journey - If you're ready to create a felt sense of safety in your body and experience the benefits of 26% decrease in daily physical pain, 28% decrease in sleep issues and digestive issues, 30% decrease in anxiety, depression, or want to learn how to do this for those you help - join me for your 21-Day Journey, a structured sequence of gentle, somatic-based self-practices walking you through The Essential Sequence to safely open up stored trauma in the body.    Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 26: Doing Trauma Work Safely: The One Thing You Need To Do Before Processing Your Past Episode 72 What We Have Missed With Trauma-Informed Care: Boundaries, Attachment and Generational Impact   Related Youtube Videos:  Body Adapts to Dysregulation: Survival Mechanisms | Dr. Aimie Apigian   Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use or misuse of the content provided in this podcast.  

Even if you’ve done years of therapy, learned to manage your emotions, and built self-awareness, your nervous system might still be stuck in survival mode. But why is this? In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie dives into the biology behind how oxidative stress at the cellular level can keep your body trapped in a trauma response. No matter how much mindset work you’ve done! She breaks down how unresolved biological stress sends ongoing danger signals to your nervous system, fueling anxiety, overwhelm, and chronic dysregulation. You’ll hear more about: Why trauma isn’t just stored in your mind but in your mitochondria and DNA How oxidative stress acts like “rust” inside your cells and blocks emotional regulation The link between oxidative damage and PTSD, depression, and chronic illness Why your body needs energy, not willpower, to heal from trauma What actually helps repair oxidative damage and stabilize your nervous system How to use food, supplements, and sleep routines to support deep biological healing Whether you're supporting others on their healing journey or navigating your own, this episode reveals the hidden cellular barriers that can keep the nervous system stuck and offers practical ways to work with the body’s biology to create real progress. 🎧 Want the full picture? Listen to Episode 126: Neuroception Explained: How Your Nervous System Decides What’s Safe (and Why It Matters for Healing)

"Neuroception is what determines our response to everything in any moment of our life. It is not based on reality. It is based on one's perception.” – Dr. Aimie Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to stick to healthy habits, even when you know they'll help you feel better? Or why those you help can’t seem resistant to their treatment plan?   The truth is, it's not about willpower or motivation. Deep inside the body, there's an invisible security system constantly asking one question: "Am I safe right now, or am I in danger?" This system is called neuroception, and it's been quietly running your life without you knowing it. When this internal alarm system thinks you're in danger, even when you're perfectly safe, it can make your body reject the very things that would help you heal. Supplements feel overwhelming. Diet changes seem impossible. Exercise feels like too much. Your body isn't being difficult. In fact, it's actually trying to protect you! In this episode, Dr. Aimie breaks down neuroception and shows you exactly how to work with your nervous system instead of against it. You'll discover why some days you feel motivated and capable, while other days everything feels overwhelming, and most importantly, what you can do about it. You'll learn: The simple equation your body uses to decide if you're safe or in danger Why your body sometimes rejects healthy changes (Hint: it's not your fault!) The three different states your nervous system operates in How to tell which state you're in right now Simple body-based techniques to shift into a state of safety Why addressing oxidative stress is crucial for lasting change How to create an environment where healing actually feels possible And more! Whether you're someone struggling to maintain healthy habits or a practitioner working with people who seem "resistant" to treatment, this episode will completely change how you understand behavior, motivation, and the healing process.   Helpful Links Related To This Episode: Biology of Trauma book - how the body experiences and holds fear, pain and overwhelm, and how to heal. Pre-order now and, at the time of this recording, you’ll get over $400 in bonuses included! Those bonuses are only for the pre-order window which goes until Sept 22, 2025. When you’ve already pre-ordered it on Amazon head over here to receive your bonuses. The 21 Day Journey - If you're ready to create a felt sense of safety in your body and experience the benefits of 26% decrease in daily physical pain, 28% decrease in sleep issues and digestive issues, 30% decrease in anxiety, depression, or want to learn how to do this for those you help - join me for your 21-Day Journey, a structured sequence of gentle, somatic-based self-practices walking you through The Essential Sequence to safely open up stored trauma in the body.  Related Podcast Episodes: Episode35: When trauma Has Made It Unsafe To Feel Safe, What Do We Do? with Dr. Stephen Porges Episode 73: The Impact of Early Attachment Shocks: How Unexpected Stressors Can Cause Developmental Trauma & What To Do   Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use or misuse of the content provided in this podcast.   Timestamps: [01:51] What is this invisible security system in your body? [06:09] The simple math your body does every second: Can I handle what's happening to me? [12:10] The three modes your nervous system switches between (and how to recognize them) [15:00] Why anxiety and depression might actually be your nervous system trying to protect you [20:00] How past experiences get "stuck" in your muscles and keep you feeling unsafe [25:00] Body language clues that reveal which mode someone is in [27:01] Why you need to heal your cells, not just your mind [29:51] The hidden cellular damage that keeps you stuck in "danger mode" [33:46] The three-level approach that actually works: Mind, body movement, and cellular health [36:42] Why "self-sabotage" is actually your body trying to keep you safe    

Why is it that sometimes the things that are supposed to help us feel calm actually make us feel more anxious instead? In this mini-episode, Dr. Aimie explores why this happens, expanding on her conversation with Dr. Sue Carter from Episode 125. She answers therapist Sarah's question about why some people struggle with relaxation techniques and reveals the surprising science behind it. You'll hear more on: Why oxytocin is called "nature's fire extinguisher" and how it helps you heal How oxytocin and vasopressin work together (not against each other!) Why past difficult experiences can make your body think "quiet time" is dangerous How your brain's control center decides if you're safe or not Simple ways to feel safer in your body before trying relaxation techniques If you're a practitioner working with clients who struggle with calming techniques or if you've ever wondered why meditation or mindfulness makes you feel worse instead of better, this episode explains what's happening in the body and gives practical ways to work with it instead of against it. To hear the full episode and learn more about how stress hormones affect healing, head over to Episode 125: Why the Mind & Body Can't Heal Without Oxytocin with Dr. Sue Carter.

Many people spend years in therapy and still struggle to feel truly safe in relationships. But why is this? The answer lies in the body. You can understand your trauma, but still feel unsafe. Oxytocin helps turn that understanding into actual feelings of safety in your body. Known as nature’s most powerful anti-inflammatory, oxytocin plays a vital role in regulating the nervous system, forming secure connections, and shifting the body out of survival mode. In this episode, Dr. Aimie is joined by world-renowned oxytocin expert Dr. Sue Carter to discuss how this hormone holds the key to healing trauma, creating genuine safety, and forming secure connections. Dr. Carter has studied oxytocin for over four decades and reveals why this hormone is essential for moving from survival to thriving. In this conversation you hear why traditional talk therapy alone often falls short, how early life experiences program our capacity for connection, and practical tools for naturally increasing oxytocin to create a felt sense of safety in your body. You’ll learn more about: How early attachment experiences shape your nervous system and relationships The difference between vasopressin and oxytocin in the stress response How trauma and chronic stress disrupt your ability to feel safe, even in loving relationships Why oxytocin is nature’s “fire extinguisher” for inflammation and chronic illness Practical tools to support healing and regulate your nervous system And more! Whether you're a practitioner or someone navigating your own healing journey, this episode offers evidence-based insights into how your body creates its own pharmacy of healing hormones and why safety in relationships is the biological foundation for all healing   Helpful Links Related To This Episode: Want to know more about the Safe and Sound Protocol mentioned in the episode? Go here to find out more. Biology of Trauma book - how the body experiences and holds fear, pain and overwhelm, and how to heal. Pre-order now and, at the time of this recording, you’ll get over $400 in bonuses included! Those bonuses are only for the pre-order window which goes until Sept 22, 2025. When you’ve already pre-ordered it on Amazon head over here to receive your bonuses. The 21 Day Journey - If you're ready to create a felt sense of safety in your body and experience the benefits of 26% decrease in daily physical pain, 28% decrease in sleep issues and digestive issues, 30% decrease in anxiety, depression, or want to learn how to do this for those you help - join me for your 21-Day Journey, a structured sequence of gentle, somatic-based self-practices walking you through The Essential Sequence to safely open up stored trauma in the body.    Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 69: How Attachment Shapes Our Biology and Behavior Episode 77: Attachment Styles: Impact on Relationships, Health & Healing with Dr. Diane Poole Heller   Timestamps: [02:21] How Early Life Affects Oxytocin and Building Strong Bonds [06:07] How Oxytocin Helps People Feel Safe and Connected [07:51] What PTSD and Trauma Do to Oxytocin Levels [09:59] Why Vasopressin, Not Cortisol, Is the Main Stress Hormone in Trauma [12:29] How the Body Shuts Down During Trauma and Dissociation [14:05] Why Loving Early Relationships Are Important for Emotions [16:48] The Difference Between Fake Safety and Real Safety for Growth [20:02] Simple Ways to Increase Oxytocin [30:58] The Hypothalamus: How It Controls Oxytocin and Safety Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use or misuse of the content provided in this podcast.