#89 BDSM as Therapy: Breaking Shame and Finding Freedom

Send us a textDivorce hits men particularly hard, doubling their suicide risk while offering them fewer support resources than women typically receive. Dr. Eran Magen, Assistant Clinical Professor at Yale School of Medicine, draws from both professional expertise and personal experience to address this crisis through his work at DivorcingDads.org.The conversation explores why men struggle so profoundly after divorce - often isolating themselves rather than seeking support, feeling like failures, and facing challenging custody situations. Dr. Magen breaks down his comprehensive approach built on four essential pillars: navigating legal matters (especially custody arrangements), developing effective co-parenting strategies, strengthening practical parenting skills, and rebuilding a fulfilling personal life.We dive deep into the complexities of dating after divorce when children are involved. When should you start dating again? How do you introduce new partners to your children? What conversations should you have with kids of different ages? Dr. Magen offers thoughtful, practical guidance grounded in child development and relationship psychology.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhat if the path to healing your deepest wounds lies in unexpected territory? Mistress Mia Payne, a professional dominatrix and certified therapeutic BDSM practitioner, reveals how controlled power exchange can unlock profound emotional release where traditional therapy falls short.Beyond Hollywood's misrepresentations, therapeutic BDSM creates safe spaces for processing trauma, anxiety, and depression through physical experiences that engage the body where emotions are stored. For some clients, it's about reclaiming power after abuse or trauma. For others—particularly high-achieving professionals—sessions provide rare moments of mental quiet when they temporarily surrender the burden of constant responsibility. From age regression therapy that nurtures the inner child to sensation play that triggers healing neurochemical releases, these modalities address needs as unique as the individuals seeking them.Shame emerges as the silent barrier to personal growth and intimate connection. Whether rooted in religious upbringing, strict parenting, or societal judgment, shame creates what Mistress Mia calls "a ribbon that runs through everything." By creating environments where all aspects of self are accepted, clients learn to integrate both shadow and light—a crucial step toward authentic living. "When we fully accept ourselves in all our parts," she explains, "then we can fully accept other people."Having recently completed certification with the Therapeutic BDSM Collaborative Network, Mistress Mia now partners with therapists to design customized experiences for clients who feel stuck in traditional healing approaches. She emphasizes finding skilled practitioners who understand not just techniques but human psychology, as this vulnerable work requires trustworthy guidance. For those curious about exploring this cutting-edge healing modality, visit paynewithpurpose.com to learn more about her self-development dungeon and services.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textRelationship conflicts often seem to revolve around surface-level issues—unwashed dishes, someone coming home late, or disagreements about money. But what if these everyday arguments are actually symptoms of something deeper? Nick Brancato, personal development coach and author of "Prioritize Us," joins Tamara to reveal how most relationship tension stems from misaligned priorities that remain invisible until deliberately examined.Nick's journey to relationship coaching took a fascinating path through careers as a Microsoft systems engineer, high school teacher, and professional poker player. While coaching high-stakes poker players, he discovered that relationship troubles significantly impacted their decision-making abilities during tournaments. This insight, coupled with his own experience navigating his wife's schizophrenia diagnosis, led to a breakthrough realization: when priorities align, relationships thrive even through extreme challenges.The conversation delves into Nick's innovative system that identifies ten core life priorities and measures alignment between partners. He explains the crucial difference between values (long-term beliefs) and priorities (what matters now), offering practical examples of how couples can bridge their differences. Through compelling case studies, Nick demonstrates how simple rituals around shared priorities—like morning meditation or nightly device-free check-ins—create anchors that help navigate misalignments in other areas.Most powerfully, Nick reveals how his Total Difference Score (TDS) serves as a "relationship credit score" that objectively quantifies alignment. He emphasizes that successful relationships don't require identical priorities—in fact, moderate differences allow partners to complement each other—but they do require understanding, intentional conversations, and meaningful adjustments.Ready to transform your relationship? Download Nick's free ebook at nickbrancato.com or follow him on Instagram @personaldevcoach to learn how making the invisible visible can prevent unnecessary conflict and deepen your connection.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textYour gut isn't just about digestion—it's the command center for your entire wellbeing. What if those "normal" symptoms like heartburn, bloating, or irregular bathroom habits are actually signals that something deeper needs attention?As a functional medicine certified health coach, I've seen how transformative proper gut health can be. When your digestive system thrives, everything improves—from mental clarity and skin appearance to your effectiveness in relationships. This episode breaks down the fundamentals of gut health that conventional medicine often overlooks but that could revolutionize how you feel every day.I share my personal journey with gut healing, including how an elimination diet helped me lose 10 pounds (twice!) and finally understand my digestive patterns. You'll learn about powerful testing options like the GI Map that can reveal hidden parasites and bacterial imbalances, why shopping the perimeter of grocery stores matters, and how to decode nutrition labels to avoid the 65 different names for sugar that might be sabotaging your health.The connection between gut health and seemingly unrelated issues like ADHD, unexplained weight gain, and even mold exposure might surprise you. Whether you're struggling with specific symptoms or simply want to optimize your health, these practical approaches can help you build a foundation for overall wellness.Curious about your own gut health? Try the simple elimination protocol outlined in this episode, or explore the testing options mentioned. Your body might be trying to tell you something important—and finally listening could change everything. Text me using the number in the episode description with your questions, and don't forget to share this episode with friends who might benefit from this information too.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDiscover the keys to building healthy, fulfilling relationships with insights from our conversation with Sonnet Daymont, a seasoned marriage and family therapist. Gain a deep understanding of the complexities of toxic relationships and learn to spot harmful patterns that can impede personal growth. Sonnet shares her journey from working with children to specializing in complex trauma and abuse, offering a wealth of knowledge on the "dark triad" of personality traits often linked to abusive behaviors. We emphasize the importance of self-awareness and identifying personal needs to ensure consistent kindness from partners, guiding you toward relationships that uplift and empower.Our discussion doesn't shy away from the challenges of online dating, especially for older adults. Drawing from Anderson's revelations in "Love Fraud" and "Senior Sociopaths," we highlight the ongoing risks posed by individuals with dark triad traits. Recognizing manipulative tactics like "love bombing" and understanding their roots in past trauma form a crucial part of our conversation. We also explore therapeutic avenues like bibliotherapy and trauma-informed massage therapy, providing actionable steps for healing and growth. With a focus on reparenting and self-care, this episode aims to equip you with the tools to transform your relationship landscape and nurture self-love.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDiscover the groundbreaking insights of Dr. Elliot Justin, the visionary CEO and founder of FirmTech, as he challenges long-held assumptions about male sexual health and its link to cardiovascular wellness. This episode promises to transform your understanding with revelations about nocturnal erections being more than just a quirky phenomenon—they're a potential early warning system for heart health. Say goodbye to outdated views and embrace a new era where technology and personalized care redefine sexual health for men and their partners.Prepare to be enlightened as we explore how data-driven approaches are revolutionizing our grasp of sexual wellness across genders. Dr. Justin unpacks how FirmTech's wearable technology offers a more nuanced and accurate assessment of erectile health compared to traditional methods. Learn about the surprising stability of nocturnal erections post-40 and why this metric is a vital yet overlooked indicator of men's health. Through a wealth of data, we advocate for a shift towards personalized care that accounts for lifestyle, medication, and other contributing factors to erectile dysfunction.In an engaging conversation, we dive into the transformative power of technology and therapies in enhancing intimate relationships, especially for long-term couples. We discuss the significant benefits of using rings to boost men's confidence and sexual performance, while also highlighting how hormone replacement therapy can redefine sexual health for postmenopausal women. This episode is a treasure trove of practical advice, urging listeners to set clear goals and measure outcomes for a more fulfilling sex life. Tune in for a thought-provoking session with Dr. Justin, filled with expert insights that promise to elevate your sexual wellness journey.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textHave you ever received excessive flattery from a stranger online and wondered if it was too good to be true? Join us as we sit down with Hilsy, who bravely shares her harrowing experience of falling victim to an online romance scam. Her candid account of emotional upheaval and the psychological manipulation she endured serves as a vital reminder of the importance of self-awareness and vigilance in the digital dating world. We promise you'll walk away with practical tips to spot red flags and protect yourself from similar heartbreak.Setting boundaries and understanding the tactics scammers use can mean the difference between a genuine connection and a devastating scam. Hear about the ingenious ways scammers weave their webs, from sophisticated video impersonations to elaborate excuses for avoiding face-to-face meetings. We'll explore the necessity of quick, in-person meetups and the power of thorough research, as illustrated by stories of human trafficking schemes and fake personas. With insights from Hilsy’s personal journey and real-life experiences, this episode is a toolkit for maintaining your safety and sanity in the often murky waters of online dating.The digital world can be a minefield, but it doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom. While scams are rampant, genuine connections can still be made, and we arm you with the knowledge to navigate this landscape safely. Learn from a story about a chilling phone scam and discover how keeping your personal information secure can prevent such nightmares. With advice from the FBI and tales of recovery and resilience, we emphasize the importance of support, self-reflection, and self-love in the aftermath of being scammed. This episode is more than just a warning; it’s a guide to empowering yourself in the realm of online connections.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textWhat happens when you stop viewing life through the lens of healing and start embracing higher consciousness and intuition? Join us as Claire Doré shares her incredible story of transformation, sparked by a life-altering car crash that shifted her from victim consciousness to a state of expansion and quantum leaping. Claire's journey not only redefined her own life but also revolutionized her coaching approach, guiding clients toward living in harmony with their highest selves. Throughout our conversation, Claire opens up about the profound daily transformations she experiences, and how her new perspective has led to significant breakthroughs for those she mentors.Dive into the power of intuition and learn how letting go of what no longer serves us can lead to personal growth and new opportunities. We discuss the importance of decluttering both physically and energetically, sharing personal stories that highlight the transformative impact of trusting one's gut instincts. Inspired by insights from Jay Shetty, we explore the dangers of overthinking intuition and how embodying trust can facilitate life-changing quantum leaps. For those ready to embark on a path of substantial personal growth, Claire introduces her new program, The Leap, and shares other ways to engage with her offerings. Don't miss this compelling exploration of growth, intuition, and the art of letting go.Check out  @THEWildWomanceo  Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textUnlock the mystical layers of Kundalini energy and Tantra with our fascinating guest, Tom Bushku, CEO and founder of Primal Divinity Coaching. This episode promises to redefine your understanding of these ancient spiritual philosophies, often shrouded in misconceptions. Tom recounts his captivating journey from a Reiki master to a pioneer in Kundalini activation, revealing how this powerful life force can transcend the physical realm to offer unparalleled ecstasy and consciousness elevation. Together, we unpack the profound nature of Kundalini, not just as a sexual element but as an integral part of our spiritual journey, deeply rooted in ancient Indian traditions.Embark on a path of emotional healing and empowerment as we discuss the significance of self-awareness in recognizing and overcoming personal traumas. With Tom's insights, learn how fully experiencing emotions, even discomfort, can lead to profound healing and deeper connections. We also explore the transformative power of balancing spiritual and sexual energies, enhancing not just personal growth but enriching intimate relationships. As we conclude, we invite you to reflect on these insights and consider sharing this episode with others who may benefit from this enlightening conversation. Join us for more thought-provoking discussions.Support the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic

Send us a textDiscover the transformative power of understanding perimenopause and menopause with our insightful guest, Dr. Sadaf Lodhi, an OBGYN and intimacy coach. We promise you'll gain a deeper appreciation for the impact these stages have on women's sexual health, covering everything from the onset of symptoms like brain fog and hot flashes to the systemic factors that influence the journey for different ethnicities. Dr. Lodhi shares wisdom from her coaching practice and her own podcast, highlighting the importance of self-advocacy and the growing movement for better treatment options.New book out "Dare I Say It: Everything I Wish I'd known about Menopause" by Naomi Watts...highly recommend it! https://amzn.to/3WXc6NFSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic