Can Couples Heal After Cheating? Where Therapy Gets It Wrong with Rebecca Stone

Today we cover everything from fantasy to communication to compromise in the bedroom. This episode is brought to you by Jane App: https://janesoftware.partnerlinks.io/sleepingaroundpodcast - you can get your first month on me with the code ALAYNA1MOFOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoyIn this episode, Alayna is joined by AASECT Certified sex educator and intimacy expert Shan Boodram. They cover everything from discovering fantasy to sexual communication to whether compromise belongs in the bedroom… enjoy!Connect with Shan:https://www.loversbyshan.com/https://www.instagram.com/shanboodram/?hl=enhttps://www.tiktok.com/@shanboodySee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How can we break the cycle of conflict in our relationships without sacrificing our own boundaries? This episode is brought to you by Jane App: https://janesoftware.partnerlinks.io/sleepingaroundpodcast - you can get your first month on me with the code ALAYNA1MOFOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoyIn this episode, Alayna is joined by compassion-focused couples therapist and educator Michelle Becker to explore how compassion can transform the way we navigate conflict in relationships. They discuss why we get caught in cycles of conflict, how compassion can help, and why practicing compassionate communication doesn't mean giving up your own boundaries.Connect with Michelle:https://wisecompassion.com/compassion-for-couples/https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/well-connected-relationships-podcast/id1521963731See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How does your attachment style show up in the bedroom? This episode is brought to you by Jane App: https://janesoftware.partnerlinks.io/sleepingaround - you can get your first month on me with the code ALAYNA1MO!FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE where we answer audience questions join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/c/alaynajoy/membership In this first episode of Season 2, Alayna is joined by Certified Sex Therapist Casey Tanner to explore how attachment shapes the way we experience sex, desire, and intimacy. They talk about what happens when your partner doesn’t want sex, the shame that can come up around desire and rejection, and how to have sexual attachment conversations with your partner.Find Casey here:www.theexpansivegroup.comRelationship Reset: https://www.casey-tanner.com/resetIG : https://www.instagram.com/queersextherapy/?hl=enTikTok : https://www.tiktok.com/@queersextherapy?lang=enYoutube : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzc5AZM4o2LVF7iUmw92OHASee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What do your fantasies really say about you? Go to https://regain.us/alaynajoy to get 10% off your first month of couples therapy! In this season finale, Dr. Justin Lehmiller— social psychologist, Kinsey Institute researcher, and author of Tell Me What You Want joins Alayna to unpack the science of sexual fantasies: why we have them, what they mean (or don’t), and how they can actually strengthen relationships. FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoy Connect with Justin: Sex and Psychology Podcast: https://sexandpsychology.com/podcasts Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justinjlehmiller/ Tell Me What You Want: https://amzn.to/4bSVT2j Upcoming study abroad courses in Iceland: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/2025-reykjavik-study-abroad-with-sha Spain: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/2025-barcelona-study-abroad-sha Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

After infidelity, is healing even possible? In this episode, Alayna Joy sits down with somatic and couples therapist Rebecca Stone to explore betrayal trauma, what causes people to cheat, and how couples can move forward after an affair. This week’s full extended cut (normally for Patreon members-only) is free for everyone. To get ALL the other extended cuts, join here: patreon.com/alaynajoy Connect with Rebecca: Website: affairrecoverycoach.com Group Practice: brooklynsomatictherapy.com https://www.instagram.com/affairrecoverycoach/ Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this inspiring conversation, Alayna sits down with Abby and Bhupie—therapists and co-creators of Prospect Counselling + Training—to unpack the big, messy questions around trauma and healing. Are we all traumatized? What does healing actually look like, beyond the therapy room? And how do we unlearn harmful beliefs about what healing “should” be? Whether you're in therapy, offering therapy, or dreaming of new models for care and community, this episode is for you. Check out Prospect Counselling + Training : https://www.prospectcounselling.ca/ https://www.instagram.com/reflectingonjustice/?hl=enhttps://www.instagram.com/prospectcounselling/?hl=en Email : [email protected] Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Sex therapist and author Stefani Goerlich joins us to break down the basics: What is kink? What is BDSM? How do you know if you’re “vanilla”—and is that a bad thing? We talk red flags, green flags, and what to keep in mind if you're just starting to explore. Whether you're curious, cautious, or ready to dive in, this episode is your judgment-free guide to kink! FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoy Connect with Stefani: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/ https://www.instagram.com/boundtogethercounseling/?hl=en Get Her Books: https://www.stefanigoerlich.com/books-by-stefani Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Check out Dossier Perfumes: https://dossier.co/ #dossier #dossierperfumes @dossierperfumes “It’s better late than never—because it’s never too late.” – Robin Douglass In this heartfelt conversation, Alayna is joined by Robin Douglass, an educator and coach who helps people come out later in life. Together, they explore what it means to question your identity as an adult, how to move forward without regret, and what to actually DO once you realize you yourself are a “late bloomer". It’s a tender, empowering reminder that your truth is still yours—no matter when you find it. This one’s for anyone figuring it out a little later. 💛 Connect with Robin: Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/209443717714063/ Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3Gx7Yk9ZofJZWGzUZGDGgU Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/late.blooming.lesbian/?hl=en Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Why do even the best relationships get stuck in cycles of conflict? FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoy In this episode, Alayna is joined by compassion-focused therapist and educator Michelle Becker to explore what really happens when we're triggered in relationships—and how we can bring more mindfulness, kindness, and connection into the moments that test us most. From the science of the threat-defense system (a.k.a. fight, flight, freeze) to the emotional skills we wish we learned in school, Michelle shares clear, compassionate tools to help you move from reaction to repair. Whether you're struggling to set boundaries, communicate clearly, or just want to argue better, this conversation is for you. And don’t miss Michelle’s unexpected answer to how much conflict is too much—it might just change how you think about your relationship. Check out her book Compassion for Couples: Building the Skills of Loving Connection Well Connected Relationships podcast https://wisecompassion.com/ Don’t forget to follow the podcast on social media: https://www.instagram.com/sleepingaroundpod and subscribe for more episodes. If you found this episode helpful, please leave a comment and share it with someone who might benefit from our discussion! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ever wonder why you get super anxious—or totally shut down—in relationships? FOR THE EXTENDED EPISODE join the Patreon community here ✨: https://www.patreon.com/AlaynaJoy In this episode, Alayna is joined by writer, speaker, and attachment theory expert Heidi Priebe for a deep dive into the world of attachment styles: what they are, where they come from, and how they quietly (or not so quietly) shape the way we show up in relationship. Together, they break down the basics of attachment theory in a way that’s actually relatable, and explore how to use this knowledge to build more secure, flexible, and connected relationships. Connect with Heidi here: YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@HeidiPriebe1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.