043 | All These Damn Beauty Standards: The Lies, Pressures And Truths

Before we take a holiday break, we’re gifting you with a list of easy to implement life hacks for making peace with the everyday challenges of contemporary adulting. From birthday overwhelm, to hyper-consumerism, to body count bullshit, and so much more.Join us as we get into:(03:00) What we’ve been affirming in therapy lately(08:00) So what exactly is a life hack?(11:00) Life hacks for content creators & phone addicts(29:30) Life hacks for connecting deeper with the humans we love(43:00) Life hacks for dealing with humans who annoy or hurt us(51:15) “When is the best time for me to follow up with you?”(55:00) Life hacks for surviving capitalism(61:00) What’s good with this holiday pause for the podcast(65:00) Life hacks for saving time and embracing agingLINKS📲 @ITSTRACYG📲 @GUERDLEY📲 @GLOINTHEDARK💻 GLO IN THE DARKRESOURCESThe Age Game: When Getting Older Feels Like A LossMeditation For Surrendering To The Present | Tracy G. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What happens when your best friend’s pregnancy causes you to feel both happy and horrified? Well on this episode, Tracy’s sharing her experience to answer just that.Guerdley’s becoming a first time mom (!!!) and while the journey is an incredible blessing it also sparks unexpected fears, childhood sore spots and quiet tension amongst friends.Join us as we get into:(6:00) Tracy’s fears around Guerdley becoming a mom(10:30) The negatives stories we can tell ourselves around friendship and parenthood(23:00) Shadow work(35:30) Exploring your new role after your friends have kids(43:00) How to approach conflict with your friends(55:00) Taking space to understand discomfort during a time of joy(1:00:10) How grief and celebration can coexist(1:08:00) Practicing empathy for oneself and othersLINKS📲 @ITSTRACYG📲 @GUERDLEY📲 @GLOINTHEDARK💻 GLO IN THE DARK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Transparently, a lot of us are emotionally constipated. Our unprocessed stories, feelings and traumas are locked in our bodies, impacting us in both insidious and intense ways.But there’s always another option for us. Guerdley is an SEL (Social + Emotional Learning) educator, doula, dancer, certified yoga instructor, somatic practitioner and the ideal person to explore this topic with. So let’s talk about it.Join us for a big ole hug as we get into:(3:00) Reintroducing ourselves(12:00) Defining trauma(15:00) The difference between trauma & unprocessed emotions(22:20) Somatic healing practices(26:00) Identifying where feelings live in our bodies(35:45) What part social media plays in triggering us & healing us(42:10) Cultivating the resilience to endure discomfort(47:40) Changing your story through the power of touch(51:00) Limbic imprinting & disassociation(56:30) 📚 Recommended Reading: The Body Keeps the Score, My Grandmother’s Hands & The Emotion CodeLINKS📲 @ITSTRACYG📲 @GUERDLEY📲 @GLOINTHEDARK💻 GLO IN THE DARK💻 BODY WORK SYSTEM Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Transparently, Guerdley and I are now closer in age to forty than thirty… Which is mind-boggling because it feels like time is speeding by with no regard for our feelings, yet it also feels like we’ve lived so many lives, we should probably be in our eighties?!So in this episode we’re in the mood for throwing it back to that one-of-a-kind period known as our twenties. A unique decade full of important and overrated moments that shaped us for the better. Let’s get into some reflection shall we?Pull up for conversation on:(2:00) How we’re currently feeling — finding the sweet spot between ease & effort(8:30) The astrology of your twenties(11:00) Honoring our past selves as ancestors(17:00) The most overrated parts of our twenties(18:00) Why we will never get a Brazilian wax ever again(24:30) Why living & working in Manhattan is overrated(35:00) When Tracy had to drop a college class due to a particular someone’s presence lol(39:10) The time Guerdley thought hoteps were so sexy(43:50) The yummiest Thai restaurant in BrooklynLINKS📲 @ITSTRACYG📲 @GUERDLEY📲 @GLOINTHEDARK💻 GLO IN THE DARK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week, Guerdley and I are unpacking our ever-shifting body and beauty “standards.” We’re talking about being bullied into loving our bodies, pinpointing where our obsession with appearance even came from, and so much more.We get into:(3:00) Hair as a tool of hierarchy(12:10) Tracy + Guerdley’s personal definitions of beauty(15:00) Social media’s role in pretty privilege(34:45) Embracing aging + challenging the pressure to look young forever(43:30) Toxic positivity + being bullied into self-love(49:15) Embracing filters for self-expression(55:45) The ebbs and flows of body imageLINKS📲 @ITSTRACYG📲 @GUERDLEY📲 @GLOINTHEDARK💻 GLO IN THE DARK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to Glo in the Dark! It’s been a while since Guerdley and I have been on the mic so not only is this episode a cute (re)introduction to us as individuals and friends…. WE ALSO explore sh*t like how our view of friendship has shifted from middle school to now, what our parents didn’t teach us about friendships, forming a friendship with ourselves etc.Join us for some platonic PDA, as we get into:(4:30) Loving your friends like a significant other(12:30) Me + Guerdley’s definitions of friendship(19:40) Friendship pre-requisites(27:10) How to become friends with yourself first(39:20) Finding your voice + understanding your needs(46:30) Social media + what to do when friendship feels transactional(52:45) Navigating friendships as you get olderLINKS📲 @ITSTRACYG📲 @GUERDLEY📲 @GLOINTHEDARK💻 GLO IN THE DARK Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What's going on with She's Beauty And The Beast? Evolution. Pull up for a few and let's talk! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This episode is coming to you from December 2020, the closing chapter of an unusual, significant and soul-rattling year.And of course, GOD hit me with a MOMENT that I swear is the equivalent of like 10 therapy sessions lolol. Here's that lesson dear listener, in the raw, stream of consciousness style, off the dome, from the heart. A lesson on exalting your present self. I hope you enjoy. Per usual, if you rocked with this episode please share it! Tag me on twitter.com/itstracyg + instagram/itstracygIf you're down to support further please SUBSCRIBE + LEAVE A RATING + REVIEW! of the She's Beauty And The Beast podcast! Those are the best compliments you could ever share with me, because they help me build awareness of this podcast. Thank you for your ears and attention all throughout the year. Can't wait to further invest in our bond come 2021! xx TG Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The first time I heard Jessamyn Stanley speak in 2019, I immediately felt like I could trust this woman to hold it dowwwwwwn when it came to representing some of my most important beliefs, no matter who was or wasn't in the room. She’s an award-winning yoga instructor and intersectional activist with a heavy PASSION for diversity + inclusion in the self-care space. There’s so much laughter and memorable dialogue in this episode about why yoga in the west was initially more embraced by white folks, why in her words "self-hatred is such a boring distraction," advice for those uncomfortable with the word 'fat' and hella more.  I hope you enjoy this convo as much as I did. Per usual, I’m very thankful for your support! If you loved this episode please consider leaving a rating, review and sharing with your people!  You can also hit me up on social media, I’m @itstracyg everywhere and Jessica can be found @mynameisjessamyn. Appreciation overload! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Celebrated tarot practitioner, Jessica Dore is a woman who reminds me on the daily that the internet can be a soulful place. In her words she’s “interested in using tarot cards to help people understand the interplay between internal and external life and to behave flexibly and in alignment with what is most precious.” In my words: she’s a psychology / mysticism appreciator’s wet dream.  We talk about why tarot has had such a profound comeback during modern day times, her very unique morning routine, what the energy of lust, anger and grief have taught her and so much more. Jess has delighted my heart and stretched my brain and you need some of that. Enjoy.  If you love what you hear, please consider rating and sharing this podcast if you haven’t already. I can be found everywhere on social @itstracyg and send Jess some love! She’s @thejessicadore everywhere as well.  Per usual, I’m very thankful for your support! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.