Best Holiday Sex Tips for Playfulness

This week's quickie is from J Parker about focusing on intimacy during the holidays. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage! If you're looking for Christmas ideas for you and your sweetie, check out our 2025 Christmas gift episode!

It's our annual holiday gift guide for wives! We've got great gift ideas to enhance intimacy in every room of your house: kitchen, living room, bathroom, and bedroom.  Sponsor Married Dance – a Christian sex toy store with discreet shipping, great customer service, and marriage-focused product information From the Bible Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows. James 1:17 Resources To Romance, With Love: A Cookbook for Lovers and Those Who Want to Be Date Night Cookbook and Activities for Couples: Recipes and Games for a Romantic Night In The Date Night Cookbook Cooking Aprons for Couple Mr./Mrs. Aprons, Dish Towels, Oven Mitts, and Pot Holders Set Set of 3 Gold Candle Holders Chirstmas Green Taper Candles Dinnerware Dishes Set - Green, Service for 4 Wine Glass Set of 2, Modern Stemless Golden Edge Sony Wireless Portable Bluetooth Speaker Throw Blanket Liberator Fascinator Waterproof Throw Twister (classic midcentury game!) Retro Jacks Game (perfect for two) To Catch a Thief Movie (smart midcentury romance) Crayola Take Note Dry Erase Markers or Chalkola Dry Erase Marker Chalk Pens (vintage colors) Post-it Heart Shape Notes OR Cute Animal Appreciation Sticky Notes Aqua Love Notes Shower Note Pad "Disco" Shower Head Gorilla Grip Extra Thick Kneeling Pad Face & Body Crayons Mr. Bubble Bubble Bath Share the Soap Assorted Half-dozen Goat Milk Bath Soaks or Bath Soak Powders Sex Furniture - Married Dance Liberator Sex Bean Bag Sex Loungers Liberator Wedge Pillow Song of Solomon 3:4 Wall Decal Sex Position Cards Lingerie from Honoring Intimates or Mentionables 60-Day Risk-Free Air Pulse Clitoral Stimulator Pilot Program - Married Dance 60-Day Risk-Free Bullet Vibrator Pilot Program - Married Dance 60-Day Risk-Free Vibrating Ring Pilot Program - Married Dance Brut Splash-On Original Fragrance for Men Prince Matchabelli Wind Song Fragrance for Women La Jolie Muse Sandalwood Rose Natural Soy Candle Vintage Peignoir Set (one size) Peignoir Set (plus-size) Feathered Slipper Heels Feathered Slippers Without Heels Donate to Our Ministry! Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Chris Taylor with four ways to be fully present during sex. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

When it comes to making time for sexual intimacy during the holiday rush, it can be wonderfully stressful or wonderfully playful or anything in between. We discuss how to navigate the busy-ness and stress of the holidays so that you can create a time of playfulness with your spouse and give you some ideas to build playfulness in your relationship and sex life. Sponsor Share the Soap provides skin care products with natural and carefully curated ingredients. With the Sensual Senses Set, Share the Soap is offering an additional bonus for our listeners: FREE lip balm for kissable lips when using code FCWDATENIGHT. Add the set and the lip balm to the cart, then apply the code, and the lip balm will show FREE. From the Bible Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6–7 Resources Season of Joy or Season of Stress? | The Forgiven Wife Pare Christmas Down to Four Priorities • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Weathering the Holiday Storm | The Forgiven Wife The Pop-Up Christmas Tree J. Parker Owns Video of Pop-Up Christmas Tree Set-Up Purchase Your Own Easy-Peasy, Pop-Up Tree Pine-Scented Candle (Amazon) 7 Tips for Having Sex at the Parents' House - Hot, Holy & Humorous Make Your Home Sex-Friendly for Holiday Guests - Hot, Holy & Humorous 10 Intimate Things to Enjoy for Christmas - Hot, Holy & Humorous Elaine Dancing (Seinfeld) Mentionables Lingerie (use code 4CHRISTIANWIVES for 10% off!) Honoring Intimates Lingerie Bow-Dazzle! and 10 Other Ways to Keep Your Sex Life Alive During the Holidays | The Forgiven Wife String Lights (Amazon) Hallmark Christmas Bows (Amazon) Donate to Our Ministry HERE Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

What do women want to know about sex when we're face to faced with them? While we have regular listener question episodes, we wanted to address FAQs we get when speaking to a group or working with individuals or small groups. So get ready for six common questions and our answers. Sponsor Better Help can match you with a licensed, trained, experienced, and accredited therapist who shares your faith foundation. Access care through messaging, live chats, phone, and/or video conferencing. Check them out HERE. Our episode is also sponsored in part by Married Dance, a marriage-focused Christian sex toy store. From the Bible Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.1 Corinthians 6:9–11 Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, the new creation has come: The old has gone, the new is here! 2 Corinthians 5:17 For as high as the heavens are above the earth,     so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west,     so far has he removed our transgressions from us.Psalm 103:11–12 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8 (not Acts 2:38 or John 3:16...though those are great too!) But that is not the way you learned Christ!— assuming that you have heard about him and were taught in him, as the truth is in Jesus, to put off your old self, which belongs to your former manner of life and is corrupt through deceitful desires, and to be renewed in the spirit of your minds, and to put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. Ephesians 4:20–24 You turned my wailing into dancing;     you removed my sackcloth and clothed me with joy, that my heart may sing your praises and not be silent.     Lord my God, I will praise you forever.Psalm 30:11–12 Resources Episode 194: Creative Timing (Quickie) - Sex Chat for Christian Wives 5 Times of Day to Make Love - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why She's Too Busy to Have Sex - Knowing Her Sexually (for husbands) Episode 122: Self-Care for Wives - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 191: What Is Sexual Betrayal and How Can You Address It? - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Episode 18: How Will I Ever Trust My Partner, Again? - Hope For Wives Rebuilding Intimacy in Marriage (When Trust Has Been Damaged) - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 185: Women's Freedom from Porn, with Juli Slattery & Joy Skarka - Sex Chat for Christian Wives The Intimacy Pyramid Approach Your Sex Life Like It’s a Jigsaw Puzzle - Honeycomb & Spice Episode 141: How to Do Oral Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Is It Okay to Say No? - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Back Door (my take on anal sex) • Bonny's Oysterbed7 Is Anal Sex Okay? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Why Don't Men Fess Up About Having the Lower Drive? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 133: How to Talk to Your Husband About Sex - Sex Chat for Christian Wives Our Speaking, Coaching & Communities Learn more about J Speaking to Your Group J's Higher Desire Wife Community Contact Bonny about Speaking Learn more about Coaching with Bonny Chris's Intimacy Mentoring Preorder THE HIGHER DESIRE WIFE (J. Parker's upcoming release) at 40% off or purchase from Amazon. Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from Bonny Logsdon Burns about how to have a conversation about mismatched sex drives. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

This week's quickie is from Bonny Logsdon Burns about things to consider when you and your spouse have mismatched sex drives. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

Chris and J answer listener questions about sex after a vasectomy, competing with his phone for attention, plus-sized lovemaking, and how to use lube without losing the mood. Sponsor Thanks to Share the Soap, our favorite skin-care shop, for sponsoring this episode. Check them out: Share the Soap online store From the Bible Let the wise hear and increase in learning, and the one who understands obtain guidance. Proverbs 1:5 (ESV) Resources What's So Great about "Shooting Blanks"? - Hot, Holy & Humorous Get Off Your Screen & Have Sex with Your Wife - Hot, Holy & Humorous The Higher Desire Wife: Understanding and Help for Christian Women Navigating Mismatched Sex Drives (Available for preorder now!) Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 1 - Honeycomb & Spice Enjoy a Plus-Size Sex Life, Part 2 - Honeycomb & Spice Episode 111: Accepting Your Body Liberator Wedge Sex Pillow Positioning Aid – Married Dance Full Chart of Over 300 Different Sex Positions (christianfriendlysexpositions.com) Q&A with J: A Guide to Using Personal Lubricant - Hot, Holy & Humorous Ask Us a Question KHS (Knowing Her Sexually) Ministry Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker

This week's quickie is from J Parker about the importance of prioritizing sexual intimacy in your marriage. Follow-up with our webinars and/or stay tuned for more full episodes and quick tips about sex in marriage!

We welcome Christian sex therapist Karissa Curtis to discuss talking to kids—our own and others in our church—about sex. Sponsor Thanks to Married Dance for sponsoring this episode. From the Bible I have given them your word and the world has hated them, for they are not of the world any more than I am of the world. My prayer is not that you take them out of the world but that you protect them from the evil one. They are not of the world, even as I am not of it. Sanctify them by the truth; your word is truth. As you sent me into the world, I have sent them into the world. John 17:14–18 So God created mankind in his own image, in the image of God he created them; male and female he created them. Genesis 1:27 Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:5–9 Resources Karissa Curtis's website, Freedom Counseling Talking to Your Kids about Sex: No More One & Done - Hot, Holy & Humorous Healing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation by Dan B. Allender Authentic Intimacy - Juli Slattery's site Teach Your Kids the Correct Words for Body Parts - Hot, Holy & Humorous How to Talk to a Teen about Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Top 10 Things To Teach Teens About Sex - Hot, Holy & Humorous Episode 181: Your Sexual Story, with Dr. Carol Tanksley Creating an Intimacy Timeline - Hot, Holy & Humorous Before The Sex Talk: A Theology of the Body Approach for Parents and Mentors by Linda Noble and Linda Stewart 5 Times You Teach Holy and Healthy Sex to Your Kids - Hot, Holy & Humorous Parent Resources Recommended by Karissa Curtis (downloadable PDF) Thanks for joining us at the virtual kitchen table for another great chat! If you could, we’d appreciate you leaving a rating and/or review so that others can find the show. Please be sure to check out our website and webinars at forchristianwives.com. And visit our individual ministry pages for more resources as well: Strong Wives - Bonny Burns Honeycomb & Spice - Chris Taylor Hot, Holy & Humorous - J. Parker