72. Refusing Compulsory Sexuality

What does it mean to heal yourself? In this one, Ev’Yan speaks with author Alex Elle about the many layers, pains, and joys of being on a self-healing journey, in celebration of Alex’s new and bestselling book, How We Heal. Alex speaks about what it means to center joy and pleasure within our healing journeys, how to feel the frustration and anger that comes with being the first in our lineage to embark upon this work, and so much about the challenges of healing ourselves while being in relationships with others.Also: Ev’Yan shares some sweet announcements.Click here to get early access to Ev'Yan's end of the year workbookFor transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes, click here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A trip down a sensual memory lane. In this one, Ev'Yan talks about some of their favorite moments of sensuality in 2022—from things that gave them gender euphoria to experiences that inspired full-body pleasure. Also, a little birthday celebration for something special.For transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes, click here.Get the book that inspires this podcast, Sensual Self: Prompts and Practices For Your Getting in Touch with Your Body. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you trying to be someone you're sexually not? In this one, Ev'Yan speaks with asexual storyteller and author of 'Refusing Compulsory Sexuality: A Black Asexual Lens on Our Sex-Obsessed Culture' Sherronda J Brown about the ways compulsory sexuality has shaped and harmed our sexualities. Sherronda talks about how compulsory sexuality shows up in our world, its links to systemic oppression (like ableism, racism, and fatphobia), and how we can see asexuality as a queer identity to radically reject it. Ev'Yan also shares a practice to help you uncover your sexual authenticity outside of stories of "should".For transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes, click here.Get the book that inspires this podcast, Sensual Self: Prompts and Practices For Your Getting in Touch with Your Body. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you in a consensual relationship with your body? In this one, Ev'Yan speaks with Jonathan Mead, a body relationship and movement coach (and also Ev'Yan's partner) about what it means to be in a trusting, respectful relationship with your body. They discuss how fitness culture has helped create toxicity between ourselves and our body's messages, what it looks like to be kind to our nervous systems, and how we can start mending a relationship with our bodies that can help us access more ease, safety, and softness within ourselves.Announcement! Ev'Yan and Jonathan will be doing a workshop together exploring in real-time what it means to trust our bodies and flow with our sensual selves—with movement, breathwork, and gentle curiosity. Go here to register.For transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes, click here.Get the book that inspires this podcast, Sensual Self: Prompts and Practices For Your Getting in Touch with Your Body. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How has your experience of your sexual self been shaped by what you grew up understanding (or not) about sex? In this one, Ev’Yan speaks with Melissa Carnagey (she/they) about what it means + how to raise sex positive kids. Melissa speaks about why “age appropriate” sex ed might not be as useful as you think and what to do instead, why this work is so controversial in culture right now, and where to actually start when approaching sex and body talks with young ones (and it’s not with a particular book). At the end, Ev’Yan shares a sensual practice to help you connect to and reparent your younger self around sex positivity.For transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes, click here.Get the book that inspires this podcast, Sensual Self: Prompts and Practices For Your Getting in Touch with Your Body. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you microdose your pleasure? In this one, Ev’Yan speaks to Euphemia Russell (they/them) about the practice of slow pleasure—which is also the title of their bestselling book. They talk about how to create sustainable pleasure practices, the inseparable link between pleasure and somatics, and what pleasure really means outside of narratives of shame and excess. Euphemia also shares some simple and accessible body-based practices to help us slow down and deepen our connection to feeling good in our bodies.For transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes, click here.Get the book that inspires this podcast, Sensual Self: Prompts and Practices For Your Getting in Touch with Your Body. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Join host Ev'Yan Whitney for a new season filled with thoughtful conversations about sexuality, embodiment, identity, and pleasure.New episodes of Sensual Self start next week! Subscribe and follow so you don't miss anything. For more about Ev'Yan and their work, go to evyanwhitney.com/aboutFor show notes, transcripts, and resources, or to catch up on episodes you might've missed, go to evyanwhitney.com/podcast. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What does the word “wellness” even mean anymore? In this one, Ev'Yan speaks to poet, artist, and author, Fariha Roisin, about self-care, collective healing, wellness culture, and this question, "Who is wellness for?"—also the title of Fariha's soon-to-be-released book. Fariha shines light on the “wellness industrial complex” and how consumerism and capitalism have disconnected us from what it truly means for us to be well. They also speak about messy, non-linear processes of healing, the ways can interrogate our own participation in wellness culture, and the things that keep Fariha feeling well in her own body.Ev’Yan also makes an announcement about the show.For transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes of Sensual Self, click here.W2he2Drr4sp0xQz1zLIo Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What if you’d been taught about sensuality as a child? How different would your relationship to your body and sex be today? In this one, Ev’Yan speaks to sexologist and comprehensive sex educator, Goody Howard, about the importance of sex education, one that includes sensuality, body literacy, and human variance equity during a time when all of those things are being threatened. They also answer some listener questions about healing sexual shame, practices to help you stay sensual while living in an unsensual world, and how to come out to your partner as asexual. For transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes of Sensual Self, click here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sensuality is not just for women and femmes. Men and masc folks are sensual too. In this one, Ev'Yan speaks with artist, writer, and dancer Maceo Paisley about the many things that keep men from accessing and embracing their sensual selves. They also talk about using dance as a way to connect to the body; how Maceo defines sensuality for himself; the pain and pleasure binary; and how to encourage your partner/loved one to access his sensual softness.For transcripts, show notes, and links to previous episodes of Sensual Self, click here. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.