After Action Report #53

Meet Nick, who went to Berlin for a bachelor party, and had his very first Folsom experience. What happens at Folsom Berlin? What happens at Lab.Oratory?Have a listen, and you’ll get an inkling. “It’s a little overwhelming” says Dan Savage. Did you travel for an erotic adventure? YOU HAVE TO TELL US ABOUT IT.Send an email to [email protected] and spill it. This episode is brought to you by Ikea. Just kidding! This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

A bisexual woman has started dating a lady for the first time. She doesn't feel much sexual spark. Is it because of the baggy, unflattering clothes her girlfriend wears? Is it ever appropriate to ask your doctor out? Your nurse? A woman wrings her hands over the ethics of leaving a thank-you note with her phone number on it for Max, the hot radiologist. On the Magnum, it's everybody's favorite gay former Mormon humor writer, Eli McCann! His new novel "Stitched" is on the NYT bestsellers list. And because there's Mormonism in the air, we got two calls from listeners about the Latter Day Saints. One is from a woman in her late 20s, newly divorced and free from the church. She wants to know how to embrace her sexuality. And another is from a mother whose daughter has Mormon friends, and they are trying to woo her into the hive. The mother is horrified. Should she be? A non-binary AFAB person has no desire to try to pass as a man. But they like pretending they have a small dick, and then have their boyfriend degrade and insult them.They both like it when he uses transphobic slurs as part of their dirty talk and role play. Cool? [email protected] ⁠Click me! ⁠ 206-302-2064 This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. This episode is brought to you by the Toler Financial Group. For money advice that thinks outside the closet, schedule a judgement free consultation with the team at Toler Financial Group today at ⁠tolerfinancialgroup.com/savage⁠ This episode is brought to you by Mack Weldon: timeless, innovative menswear to help you move throughthe day with confidence. Get 20% off your first order of $125 or more, with promo code SAVAGE at ⁠MackWeldon.com⁠

Deep in rural Sweden, the tantric kinksters are getting FREAKY. At the “Sexsibility Festival” a 5-day erotic gathering where you can explore tantra, contact improv, and eye gazing along with impact play workshops, there’s a lot to do and see. But everybody’s still gotta eat, right? Enter Pearse, who cooked breakfast for over 500 participants. He says it looks similar to Midsommar but without the murder. Hear what he did there, and most importantly, what he learned about… himself. What did YOU do at summer camp?Write about every little thing, and send it to [email protected] Read Pearse’s Playboy article ⁠here⁠. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage.

A 25 year-old queer, plus-size woman has never been in a relationship or had sex. Both her size and virginity make it hard to connect with people through the apps. How can she break through these barriers and get some lovin' already? A married woman for 18 years with kids is sick to death of her life. She wants to chuck the family, move to another town and have a ton of new sex. But she loves her family! How can she scratch this dangerous itch? On the Magnum, meet the Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute! Dan and Dr. Justin Garcia have a wide-ranging conversation about what the Kinsey Institute is, evolutionary biology, the cause of the sex recession and more. When asked what's the most expensive service one can buy at a legal brothel in Las Vegas, Dr. Garcia's answer may ...shock you. A cuckquean wants to figure out a way to get evidence of the hook-ups her boyfriend is enjoying while traveling. Can she ask for video without intruding too much? Record and email your question: [email protected] Call or text: 206-302-2064 Click this here handy LINK. This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at Squarespace.com/Savage and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.  This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 20% off site wide exclusively for Lovecast listeners. Go to HelixSleep.com/Savage. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage. Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project. From cuckqueans to compersion, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.

What’s it like to be a bearded, 6’4″, 250 pounc fella getting his nails done in preparation for the first crossdressing session with his wife? Dust off your gender studies 101 textbook and find out. Tell us about your…[email protected] This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

A divorced father of adult children understood himself to be bisexual later in life. He digs men in an aromantic, casual sex kind of way. Is he obligated to tell his family? Does his connections with men fall under private sex life or public identity? A woman went to a sex party and met a hot female bouncer who throws out misbehaving guests. The caller wants to ask her to be her dom. Should she? How? On the Magnum, Dan and sex researcher Niki Davis-Fainbloom do a deep dive on fetishes. What's the difference between kinks and fetishes? What causes people to get into them- is it cultural or biological? Is the destigmatization of kink making it less hot? Listen in. And, a straight man matched with the woman who works at his local dry cleaners. He thinks she might be trouble- texting him from the bar at 1:30, maybe driving drunk. Should he avoid her or get a little hanky-panky from a hot, messy lady? Call us, text us, don't be afraid. 206-302-2064 Or record your question and send it to [email protected] Or just click ⁠HERE⁠. This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit ⁠VB.Health⁠ when you use the code Savage. Foria is an all natural health & sexual wellness company with product lines using the power of plant actives & CBD to effectively enhance intimacy, sexual pleasure, daily wellbeing, and relief from discomfort. Right now get 20% off your 1st order by going to ⁠ForiaWellness.com/SAVAGE⁠ or use code SAVAGE at checkout. Beducated brings pleasure-based sex education right to your bedroom. Kick off your best sex life with Beducated’s awesome, five-minute quiz at ⁠https://beducate.me/savage ⁠

Imogen was a seasoned Burning Man pro. But she’d never done a threeway with whippets there before… Hear all about her dusty experience. What have YOU done lately? Hmmmm?Write up your experience (good or bad) and send it to [email protected]. This episode is brought to you by Dipsea: an app full of hundreds of short, sexy audio stories designed by women for women. Get an extended 30 day free trial plus 25% off an annual subscription when you go to dipseastories.com/savage. 

A gay man in his 60s is perplexed about foot fetishes, and what is so damn sexy about his feet. A man is frustrated by the concept of "false positives" when he tests for herpes. What on earth is going on here? Dan brings on the delightful and calming Dr. Ina Park to explain the whole testing situation. On the Magnum, it's a bisexuality brawl with sex therapist Claire Perelman! Dan and Claire talk about the bisexual's plight in dating, and how to overcome the stigma. And a gay man and his boyfriend are moving in together. The boyfriend owns his apartment and asks the caller to pitch in toward a vacation fund in lieu of paying rent. Is this equitable? Your question: Call or text to: 206-302-2064 Record and send to: [email protected] This episode is brought to you by Squarespace. They make it easy to build a website or blog. Give it a whirl at ⁠Squarespace.com/Savage⁠ and if you want to buy it, use the code Savage for a 10% off your first purchase.  This episode is brought to you by Helix Sleep. Right now, Helix is offering 27% off site wide exclusively for Lovecast listeners. Go to ⁠HelixSleep.com/Savage⁠. With Helix, better sleep starts now.  This episode is brought to you by Quince, high quality essential clothing, at radically low prices. Refresh your everyday with luxury you’ll actually use. Head to ⁠Quince.com/SAVAGE⁠ for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns.

What's in the duffel bag? On her vacation to Bali, she hooked up with a hot, rich dude with a glass house in the jungle. But, what tricks did he have up his sleeve? After a bad experience at home, Julia had a re-discovery of her best sexual self. Have a listen. And then send us your story! [email protected] This episode is brought to you by VB Health, Doctor-formulated supplements that work . To learn more about Load Boost, Drive Boost and Soaking Wet and to get 10% off, visit VB.Health when you use the code Savage.

We begin the show...drunkenly. A lit lady enjoys the sensation of touching ears. Room temperature, or slightly chilled. Not too cold. But "ear porn?" Is that a thing? A lucky fella won a three-month free entry to his local bathhouse. Whatever should he do when he's in there? Our guest this week is Allen Sulkin, creator of the new podcast "Gerbil." He and Dan analyze the persistence of the insane sex myth that you've probably heard about. Do people still believe it? They go into the dark motivations that allowed such a preposterous rumor to live on and on. Gerbil is out now, and you should drop everything to listen to it. And, should a woman demand her fiancé continue the painful, expensive tattoo removal from a previous marriage? People. Make good choices. Call or text your questions to: 206-302-2064 Or send to [email protected] This episode is brought to you by the Toler Financial Group. For money advice that thinks outside the closet, schedule a judgement free consultation with the team at Toler Financial Group today at ⁠tolerfinancialgroup.com/savage⁠ This episode is brought to you by Forkful – Seed oil free, chef cooked meals, delivered to your door. Go to ⁠ForkfulMeals.com/Savage⁠ and use code SAVAGE to get 50% OFF your first order. Today’s show is sponsored by AseeksB: free, text-first app for personal ads. Kink and ENM friendly, no swiping. Search what other people are looking for, or post what you seek and choose who sees it. ⁠aseeksb.com/savage.⁠