Coddling Men & Mustangs

Trigger Warning:This episode starts with our usual barn updates and lighthearted horse banter, but shifts into deeply personal and sensitive territory around the halfway mark. We discuss trauma processing, surviving abusive family dynamics, and Cara shares a candid, vulnerable memory of childhood abuse. If you would prefer to stick strictly to the horse talk and social media stories, check the chapter markers below to listen through the first half and pause when the conversation shifts.What starts as a celebration of internet fame quickly transforms into one of the most raw, honest, and healing conversations Sandy and Cara have ever shared.The gals kick things off with their weekly "pony reports," unpacking Armani’s latest groundwork lesson on the bridge—including Cara’s realization about how shipping boxes mimic obstacles—and Sandy’s successful trail rides and incline work with Kaya. From there, they celebrate their superstar, Armani, whose goofy leaf-blower video completely blew up overnight, racking up over 6.7 million views and gaining the podcast more than 11,000 new followers.However, unexpected viral success brings unexpected emotional hurdles. Cara opens up about the sudden onset of imposter syndrome, the panic of "waiting for the other shoe to drop," and being paralyzed when things go right. Around the halfway mark, the conversation turns vulnerable as Cara processes long-buried memories of an abusive childhood home, the reality of delayed trauma processing in adulthood, and how the safety of the barn was once her only escape. Together, Sandy and Cara explore what true healing looks like—separating memories from reliving fear, letting go of hyper-independence, and realizing the "other shoe" has already fallen.In this episode, we talk about:Pony Reports: Armani’s bridge breakthrough, working from his "right eye", and Kaya’s self-regulating trail progressThe Leaf Blower Phenomenon: How Armani’s play drive garnered 6.7 million views, 11,000+ new followers, and accusations of being "AI"The Weight of Success: Imposter syndrome, feeling paralyzed by good news, and Sandy’s proposal for an Armani calendarTrauma & Healing: How trauma manifests in perfectionism and constant busynessBreaking the Silence: Cara opens up about surviving childhood abuse and navigating family estrangementLetting Go of the Fear: Sandy’s perspective on reframing past trauma, releasing fear, and why the leaky pipes under the house mean the shoe has already droppedBe sure to join the conversation over in the Saddle Talk with Sandy & Cara Facebook Group and be sure to like them Facebook to stay up to date with all things saddle sisterhood!

As if hot flashes, brain fog, and shifting body dynamics weren't enough, menopause has decided to bring an unwelcome guest along for the ride: saddle sores.In this episode, Sandy and Cara get real about the uncomfortable, unvarnished realities of riding through midlife. Between thinning skin, changing bodies, and riding more frequently than ever, the struggle in the saddle is very real. But don't worry—the gals aren't just complaining; they’re sharing their top battlefield remedies, from gel seat savers and padded underwear to pH-balanced cycling chamois cream and Desitin!Beyond the saddle-sore survival guide, Sandy and Cara take you along for updates on their equine family and life on the trail:The Pony Report: Progress with Armani! Step by step (and foot by foot), Parelli natural horsemanship techniques are helping him tackle his fear of back-leg pressure and crossing bridges.Trail & Training Updates: Kaya hits the obstacle course at Raised Right Ranch, Sierra continues her journey with trainer Jason at Paint D Ranch, and Shooter proves why he's becoming the ultimate "steady Eddie."Real-Life Interruptions: Husbands asking for help turning on lights mid-recording (because of course) and navigating the new dynamics of adult kids moving back home.Perspective Shift: Why American horse culture can be overly goal-driven and expensive, and why leaning into non-traditional horse breeds and mares brings unexpected joy.Grab your coffee, settle into a comfortable seat (preferably a soft one!), and join Sandy and Cara for a hilarious, honest, and heartfelt ride.

In this episode of Saddle Talk, hosts Sandy and Cara sit down with Vera V-Abdallah, COO and founder of Love This Horse Equine Rescue in Antelope Valley, California.From growing up in Europe with a German state certification in horse training to earning a law degree and working for the Department of Corrections, Vera brings a rare combination of European classical training, legal rigor, and unwavering passion to equine rescue.Sandy, Cara, and Vera dive deep into what truly makes a successful horse rescue, including:The Reality of Rescue: Why Love This Horse focuses on under-saddle training, health, and behavior so rescue horses can become long-term "good citizens."Busting Mare Stigmas: Why the prejudice against mares is completely unfounded and how building a bond with a mare can change your life.The Business of Saving Horses: Balancing a full-time career, managing 100 acres, and providing lifelong sanctuary for 70+ non-rideable horses.Cara’s Personal Story: How adopting her horse, Armani (a secret Lusitano!), from Vera completely changed her perspective on rescue animals.How You Can Help: The real math behind hay bills, veterinary costs, and why becoming a monthly sustaining donor makes all the difference.Resources & How to Support:Website & Donations: Visit lovethishorse.org to make a one-time donation or sign up as a monthly sustaining member.Follow the Rescue: Keep up with available horses, trail rides, and updates on Facebook.Enjoying Saddle Talk? Don't forget to follow, rate, leave a review, and share this episode with a friend! Keep your boots dusty and your hard hats on—we'll see you out on the trail!

In this episode of Saddle Talk with Sandy & Cara, the hosts share updates on physical recovery, equine training breakthroughs, and navigating fear on the trail.Connect with Sandy and Cara on Facebook!Episode OverviewInjury & Recovery: Cara shares an update on her fractured pelvis, detailing the balance between physical therapy, avoiding "stupid" setbacks like steep stairs, and letting pain act as a natural gauge for healing.Training & Groundwork Updates: Sandy details bringing her horse Kaia home after two months of professional training with Jason, reflecting on foundational groundwork, building confidence with young mares, and using body language instead of forceful correction.Body Energy & Horsemanship Techniques: Inspired by trainers like Chris Irwin, their trainer Jessica, Ryan Rose, and Monty Roberts, the duo explores the concepts of "blocking," "drawing," and "pushing" energy, emphasizing how subtle seat and leg cues create a better connection than pulling on the reins.Overcoming Trail Anxiety & Rider Confidence: A discussion on navigating environmental triggers like strong winds, managing lack of confidence versus gut instincts, and learning when to push through fear or safely dismount.Looking Ahead: The hosts share future plans for trail rides, ponying horses together, introducing obstacle challenges, and progressing with Cara's horse, Armani.

In this episode of Saddle Talk, hosts Cara and Sandy dive into the real-life mental and physical challenges of horse ownership—from recovering from injuries and navigating rider anxiety to understanding key horse behavior. Sandy shares updates on her broken pelvis recovery and her milestone transition into menopause, while Cara opens up about her personal tendency to "perseverate" on training goals with her horse, Armani.The hosts then break down the concept of the "lick and chew" response. Learn how horses release jaw tension and switch from panic/flight mode back to their "thinking brain"—and why humans need to apply this exact same self-regulation technique when stress strikes around horses.Connect with Sandy and Cara on Facebook!Key Topics Covered in This Episode:Injury Recovery & Reality for Equestrians: Navigating physical therapy, broken bones, and the struggle of taking rest when you have horses to care for.Decoding Horse Body Language: What the "lick and chew" reflex means biologically, how adrenaline causes dry mouth in horses, and why jaw-clenching happens during stress.Overcoming Rider Anxiety & Traumatic Scenarios: Strategies for handling worst-case scenario thinking during trailer loading, groundwork, and riding sessions.Proactive Safety & Body Positioning: Essential safety tips for saddling (facing the rear vs. the head), grabbing cinches with your left hand, using fly boots, and avoiding dangerous kick and bite zones.Preventing Food Aggression: How walking away while a horse pins its ears at feed time can unintentionally teach resource guarding—and how to set clear boundaries using a carrot stick.Whether you are starting a young horse, preparing for trailer loading, or managing your own anxiety in the barn, this episode offers practical horsemanship advice, safety tips, and insightful perspective. Tune in to discover how positioning, patience, and giving yourself grace can change your relationship with your horse!Keywords: Horsemanship, Horse Body Language, Equestrian Podcast, Rider Anxiety, Lick and Chew Horse, Horse Safety Tips, Trailer Loading Horses, Horse Training Hacks, Parelli Natural Horsemanship, Equine Safety, Menopause and Riding.

In the second half of the conversation, Jessica goes deeper into the philosophy behind teaching horses and riders. She explains why good horsemanship starts with the human, why rapport matters more than speed, and how patience, structure, and clear communication create better outcomes for both horse and rider.Connect with Sandy and Cara on Facebook!Key Topics Covered:The importance of understanding horse behaviorWhy “the process does not look like the product”Breaking training into small, achievable stepsChoosing credentialed instructors and sticking with one methodWhy video and feedback matter in trainingHow horses respond to human impatience and pressureThe 15-minute learning window for horses and humansWhy rapport is the foundation of every good partnershipJessica’s future goals in teaching and continued growthHow building a strong foundation supports every disciplineClosing Thought:Part 2 centers on Jessica’s teaching philosophy: that true horsemanship is built on relationship, patience, and the willingness to keep learning. It’s a reminder that the goal is not just better training — it’s better understanding.Resources & Links:Pat Parelli - Official WebsiteParelli Levels and Certification infoDressage Basics Explained - USDFSeven Games of ParelliThe Process, Not the Product - Pat ParelliConnect with Jessica:Jessica's FacebookJessica's Website

In this first half of the conversation, Jessica shares how her lifelong connection to horses began, the early influences that shaped her horsemanship, and the path that eventually led her into the Parelli program. She talks about learning through experience, building skills gradually, and discovering the value of foundation, patience, and trust in horse training.Connect with Sandy and Cara on Facebook!Key Topics Covered:Jessica’s early horse memories and family influenceHow recreational riding shaped her approach to horsemanshipThe Reno Parelli conference that changed her perspectiveHer transition from casual rider to committed student of ParelliEarly experiences with wild horses and the Stagecoach horse communityHow she balanced school, work, and horse ownershipThe role of her first horses in deepening her training journeyWhy the process of horsemanship takes time and repetitionClosing Thought:Jessica’s first half of the story is really about laying the groundwork — in horses, in learning, and in life. It sets up the mindset that later makes the deeper training conversations possible.Resources & Links:Pat Parelli - Official WebsiteParelli Levels and Certification infoDressage Basics Explained - USDFSeven Games of ParelliThe Process, Not the Product - Pat ParelliConnect with Jessica:Jessica's FacebookJessica's Website

Are you coddling your horse—or your partner? In this episode of Saddle Talk with Sandy & Cara, we dive deep into the unexpected parallels between wild mustang gentling and human relationships, focusing on why setting clear boundaries is essential for both.Connect with Sandy and Cara on Facebook!

In this episode of Saddle Talk, we’re taking you along on an our video adventure of the high-stakes mustang rescue mission! What started as a chaotic brainstorming session in Part 1 has officially turned into reality: we are inheriting two homeless Mustangs to save them from a grim fate at the meat market.Join us as we break down the logistics of the rescue, share the funny (and slightly manipulative) way we convinced our husbands to let us bring more horses home, and discuss why we believe breeding wild range horses is highly unethical.From navigating the gorgeous Nevada range to pulling off a flawless trailer loading on the very first try, this episode is a raw, real, and heartwarming look at what it means to step up for horses and human "saddle sisters" in need.

In this special, first-ever video episode, hosts Cara and Sandy are hitting the open road! Tag along on their road trip as they venture out to check on two mustangs in need of a good home.While on the move, they dive deep into the raw, emotional world of animal care, horse training, and the lifelong commitment it takes to rescue and rehabilitate. They also open up about what it really means to "co-parent" an animal (trust us, it’ll all make sense once you tune in!). Will these mustangs come home with Cara & Sandy? Be sure to subscribe to this podcast to find out, with part two coming out July 30th!Connect with the hosts!