Relationships (Part 6) - More Marriage

During this episode of Ruby Slipper Syndrome, Charity and Toni simply check-in and check-up with one another while discussing their current state of mind and how they’ve seen growth in their spiritual walk and everyday lives, while navigating through the recent trials of life with a commitment to keeping a positive mindset.

Toni might be missing in action this week, but in this episode Charity interviews Jared Crowley about his past dating history and the proactive steps he's currently taking to break the cycle of running to relationships for affirmation... straight up Ruby Slipper Syndrome stuff.  Jared gives us hope that their are good men out there, willing to do the tough business of addressing their destructive dating habits. 

Before Charity and Toni met the men of their dreams they participated in what their dad calls "divorce practice", or more commonly known as dating.  They had some really interesting relationships that taught them A LOT.  In this multiple episode series they  discuss three specific types of dating relationships - Destructos,  Good Not Greats, and the ONE(s).  In covering this topic we're hoping that someone, somewhere can learn from our mistakes and find some wisdom in navigating the mental and emotional mind-field of dating. In this episode  Charity and Toni recall the relationships that were good, but not God.  And though these relationships may not have bee obviously wrong, these were the ones the could have sneakily destroyed God's destiny and promise for their lives. 

WE'RE BACK!!!!!  And we got a good one for you!  Before we met the men of our dreams we participated in what our dad calls "divorce practice", or more commonly known as dating.  We had some really interesting relationships that taught us A LOT.  In this multiple episode series we will discuss three specific types of dating relationships - Destructos,  Good Not Greats, and the ONE(s).  In covering this topic we're hoping that someone, somewhere can learn from our mistakes and find some wisdom in navigating the mental and emotional mind-field of dating.  

Today we interview one of our favorites, Barbara Benigno.  Yes, she's a few years older than us, but so what?!?!  It's good to have friends in all age ranges, as it widens your gaze and gives you greater perspective.  And boy we can learn a lot from Barb.  She's been through the Ruby Slipper Syndrome a time or two, but she keeps on trucking.  She's proof that to stay forever young you just gotta keep on growing.  #goals

No one likes to talk about sin, but honestly it's what defines the state of humanity.  We are a bunch of broken beings in desperate need of help.  Sometimes sin is a hard one to pin down, as it's a slippery slope that starts out as fun and games and eventually turns to terrible. But, the good news is that there is a way of redemption for us all.  In this episode we talk about some of the sin that has been problematic for us and the root sources of that sinful actions.  Sounds like fun, right? 1 John 1:9 |  Romans 3:23-24 | Matthew 7:3 | Psalm 51:1-2 | Luke 6:45 | 1 John 1:6 | 1 Peter 2:24

Everyone needs a check up from time to time. You know... to see where you're at, how much progress you've made, and to investigate alternate treatment plans if necessary.  Well, this is our check up. We’ve come to realize we don't have this whole Ruby Slipper Syndrome thing figured out yet, despite having made great progress.  So it's good to check and let you all know where we are at.  And while discussing our progress we decided to take a look at one of our favorite Biblical examples for trail and error - Joshua and the people of Isreal making their way in the promise land.  They had some major victories and some set backs while working there way into their promise, so why wouldn't we look to them as a source of information.  So much to glean from them - Joshua 3-8.  

One of the Prime Ruby Slipper Syndrome “symptoms” is adding and adding and adding to your life when what you already had was plenty, maybe even too much already.  Whether that addition is people, projects, or possessions RSS makes us believe we need more.  So we stack on, until we can't manage and we collapse under the weight of it.  Don't get us wrong, there are times when doing extra is necessary but that extra, better lead to a time of rest and peace.  Toni and Charity discuss how they are CURRENTLY dealing with this, as this might just be one of the symptoms that will never leave them.   ***And in the spirit of doing too much... if you'd like to contact us and possibly be featured on the show leave us a Voicemail at (913) 717-6140.  Or shoot us an email - [email protected].  We want to hear from you about possible episodes and how the Ruby Slipper Syndrome has effected you (the actual syndrome not the show).  

When dealing with the Ruby Slipper Syndrome, one can find that negativity seems to rule.  It rules the heart, mind, thoughts, and eventually that negative comes oozing out somehow and that somehow is usually through words.  And despite the initial relief of a good “word vomit” eventually those words come back to bite! Charity & Toni are by no means master tongue tamers, but they are trying their best.  And in their effort, they've learned some things that you might just find helpful. So let's tackle this ugly symptom together.  Book Reference - The Bait of Satan: Living Free from the Deadly Trap of Offense by John Bevere Proverbs 18:21 | Romans 1:28-31 | 1 Peter 3:10 | Colossians 4:6 | Ephesians 4:29 | Proverbs 10:19 | Proverbs 15:28 | James 1:19-26 | James  3:5-10 | Proverbs 15:1-2

Let's be real, marriage is too important to only have one episode, so yeah we're talking Marriage again.  This time we're talking about some of best practices - like prayer and devotion time as a couple, knowing your spouses love language, practicing love and respect and everyone's favorite topic... SEX.  I know!  So if you're married, plan on getting married, wish you were married, or just want to hear about this topic from a married person’s perspective, this is the episode for you! Book References: The 5 Love Languages:  The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman Love & Respect:  The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs by Emerson Eggerichs Sheet Music:  Uncovering the Secrets of Sexual Intimacy in Marriage by Kevin Leman (Haven't read this yet, but we've heard great things). 1 Corinthians 7:5 | 1 Corinthians 7:9 | Ephesians 5:22-17 | Matthew 19:4-6