127. Ditch the lectures - try this instead

In this episode I share a technique I tried with my very defensive, strong-willed ADHD son when he was caught crossing a screen boundary. After attempting traditional talking and getting ABSOLUTELY NO WHERE I tried something different. What came out of it was nothing short of remarkable. He opened up and was totally vulnerable. He shared what was really going on and we were able to address the ROOT of the issue, not just the surface level unwanted behavior.  🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

In this episode I break down my top 12 physical and breath work exercises that I find to be the absolute most helpful. From a tiny space packed in an airplane with nowhere to go and people screaming all around you, to enough space you could freely move about. And yes, I set this to the holiday song "The 12 Days of Christmas." Don't hate me :) I really did try not to sing! 12 running arms 11 wall pushups10 swaying slaps 9 box breaths8 ear massages 7 hums of regulation 6 physiological sighs5 senses scans4 dance breaks 3  towel twists and squeezes2 self hugsAnd 1 regulated parent modeling calm 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call 

In this episode I share POWERFUL physical regulators for your kids that will help you dump out dysregulation during holiday travel days.  Feel free to take a screenshot of this list so you remember while traveling. I will also have a reel breaking them down so make sure to keep an eye out!  Pushing hands  Spinning Hanging Balancing Swinging  Bouncing  Bear crawls Games: freeze tag, simon says, red light / green light 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call  

Dr. Bethany Bilodeau, behaviorist, sensory specialist, and author of Ease the Pain in the Classroom joins us for an incredible conversation around nervous-system regulation, sensory-informed strategies, body-language awareness and more. All of what she shares empowers parents, especially those raising children who are strong-willed, emotionally intense, or neurodivergent. I am thrilled for you to tune into this discussion. You'll walk away with tangible strategies on how to approach those fiery moments in a totally different way! 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call  

In this episode I get the pleasure of speaking with the OG Instagram Toddler Expert and founder of Transforming Toddlerhood, Devon Kuntzman. Devon debunks toddler myths, hello "terrible 2s," shares a shift on how we discipline and how to start working WITH your toddler vs. managing their every move.  You can find Devon at https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/  🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

This episode is for the parents of very impulsive kiddos. Who tends to be the common denominator when injuries or broken items happen. I share how I'm leaning into the risky / not allowed word "shit" to activate my son's brain and help him through a safety checklist before acting. This isn't a complete solution for impulsivity! But it's helping my son grow his situational awareness and the more reps he takes, the better he'll be able to manage impulsive urges! 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call   

In this episode I share how to approach the holidays from a nervous system perspective. When there is prediction there is less friction. So we are not leaving the days up to chance. We are creating focused blocks of time that engage our children in activities they like and want to do. We are prioritizing what they want to have happen and we are creating a little mystery with some special time blocks as well.  Additionally, with extended family, let's get them on board by creating a menu to choose from where they get their 1:1 time, but with things that are predictable and accepted.  And finally, the main key to making this all work is the regulation breaks that help us transition out of one activity into the next.  I hope this serves you very well this holiday and I can't wait to hear how you implement this strategy!   🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call   

In this episode I have the pleasure of interviewing Julie Rainer on the topic of relational aggression in schools. Julie is a school counselor and founder of IMPACT Kids Coach. Julie helps children and parents navigate tricky friendships, relational aggression, and the hidden side of bullying. She's spent years working with kids from early childhood through high school, and has developed a practical framework that teaches kids how to recognize harm, respond with confidence, and repair relationships. She's also a mom of four, so she brings both professional insight and real-life parenting perspective.  You can find Julie at https://impactkidscoach.com 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/call

In this episode I share my DECK OF CARDS idea that has gone viral on Instagram. I am using this deck of cards to help my son learn "in the moment" how to behave inside our family values vs. having yet another challenging conversation. These cards are customizable and a huge asset to any parent who wants to bring positive consequences to the table! 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Tired of repeating yourself over the same behaviors? Try this VALUES DECK OF CARDS! You can customize the cards to your family values and instead of dishing out yet another punishment, you can instill positive consequences through the actions on the back! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/cards Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play  Book a call with me to connect on areas of your parenting that are causing pain, struggle, or frustration. https://calendly.com/responseableparenting/ca

In this episode I break down a common triggering moment we experience in parenting. You give your child something routine like breakfast. And you're blindsided by a huge reaction and demand for something different.  I dive into the reaction cycle and how to get out of it.  If this resonates with you, and you want my eyes on your trigger loops, grab the training in the show notes and book your free call!  🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find yourself in day in and day out with your kids. Goodbye to power struggles, defiance, transition battles, and more. With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent.  From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again.  The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! START HERE! Grab this exclusive free training and book your free call! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire  BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5  ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play