241. Heartshare: Don’t Be a Fixer

In this solocast I talk about how being a fixer can be detrimental in some relationship dynamics. The idea of “stop being a fixer” in relationships refers to avoiding the role of trying to change, rescue, or “fix” your partner’s behaviors, emotions, or life circumstances. The mindset often stems from a well-meaning desire to help but can lead to unhealthy dynamics. Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes HeartShare: Making Your Relationship a Priority HeartShare: Are You Hiding Your True Self? HeartShare: How To Be The Partner You Want To Be Managing Expectations in Relationships HeartShare: Expressing Needs Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations, and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

Megan Hearne is the owner of Vitality Coaching and provides neurofeedback and integrative nutrition health coaching in Asheville, NC. Her training was through the Institute for Applied Neuroscience, EEG Education and Research, New Mind Academy, and the Institute for Integrative Nutrition. Megan has been a neurofeedback practitioner for over 6 years. She is currently accepting new clients who are ready to ignite their vitality.  In this episode, Megan and I discuss the importance of focusing and knowing how to self-regulate and the crucial role it plays in enabling individuals to manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively, leading to better decision-making, improved relationships, and personal growth. It helps maintain focus, resist impulses, and adapt to challenges, fostering resilience and productivity in both personal and professional settings. Megan also presents how neurofeedback and nutrition can be vital tools in increasing our capacity to self-regulate.   Related episodes: Emotional Regulation HeartShare: Increase Your Emotional Intelligence Connect with Megan Hearne: www.vitalityneuro.com [email protected] Ph: 828-273-3272 Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

In this solocast I talk about how focusing on your primary relationship to create a ripple effect of thriving in other areas of your life is about nurturing that bond with intention, presence, and care. By tending to your primary relationship with intentional acts, you're building a foundation of love and trust that makes everything else feel possible. That is why relationships can be viewed as a spiritual path. It can be a beautiful, messy, and deeply transformative journey—one that mirrors a quest for meaning, connection, and growth at the heart of spirituality.   Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes HeartShare: Making Your Relationship a Priority HeartShare: Are You Hiding Your True Self? HeartShare: How To Be The Partner You Want To Be Managing Expectations in Relationships HeartShare: Expressing Needs   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations, and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

Emma Olyff is passionate about artistry, personal development, and spiritual practices. Eight years ago, she founded Emwa Jewelry, a high-end brand where she creates collections, custom designs, and leads workshops. Alongside her work as a jewelry artist, she has also become a business coach. In both fields, she weaves together embodiment, practical tools, and spiritual wisdom—offering a grounded, holistic approach to creation and growth. I am so so grateful to have her in my life as my Daughter-in-love. In this episode, Emma and I have a conversation about emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EI) in relationships refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one's own emotions while also being attuned to and empathetic toward a partner's feelings. It’s a critical factor in building and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships. Some of the key factors of emotional intelligence that we discuss are self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, social skills, motivation, trust, and safety, to name a few.   Emotional Attunement Emotional Regulation HeartShare: Increase Your Emotional Intelligence   Connect with Emma Olyff: Emwa Jewelry on Instagram Emwajewelry.com Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson    

Emma Olyff is passionate about artistry, personal development, and spiritual practices. Eight years ago, she founded Emwa Jewelry, a high-end brand where she creates collections, custom designs, and leads workshops. Alongside her work as a jewelry artist, she has also become a business coach. In both fields, she weaves together embodiment, practical tools, and spiritual wisdom—offering a grounded, holistic approach to creation and growth. I am so so grateful to have her in my life as my Daughter-in-love. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EI) in relationships refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one's own emotions while also being attuned to and empathetic toward a partner's feelings. It’s a critical factor in building and maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships. Some of the key factors of emotional intelligence that we discuss are self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, social skills, motivation, trust, and safety, to name a few.   Emotional Attunement Emotional Regulation HeartShare: Increase Your Emotional Intelligence   Connect with Emma Olyff: Emwa Jewelry on Instagram Emwajewelry.com Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson    

In this solocast I talk about how you get what you expect in relationships. Expectations in relationships are a double-edged sword because they can both guide and undermine connection. On one hand, clear expectations set standards for respect, communication, and mutual effort, creating a framework for trust and stability. For example, expecting honesty or support fosters accountability and helps partners align their actions. On the other hand, unrealistic or unspoken expectations can breed resentment and misunderstanding. I emphasize how having positive expectations of your partner and relationship is actually a good thing!   Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes Managing Expectations in Relationships HeartShare: Expressing Needs   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations, and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

Corey Costanzo is the Co-Owner of Asheville’s Still Point Wellness Spa, a licensed addiction counselor, trauma specialist, licensed massage therapist, master didgeridoo player, colleague, and my good friend. In this episode, Corey and I have a conversation about mind reading. Mind reading is a cognitive distortion where individuals believe they can accurately guess or know what others are thinking or feeling without direct communication. In relationships, this often involves making assumptions about a partner's thoughts, feelings, or intentions based on minimal or ambiguous cues. Attunement is different than mind reading, which we elaborate on. Codependency Codependency: Ways to Overcome Emotional Attunement Aftermath of a Fight of a Regrettable Incident Control Issues Understanding the Shame Cycle Allowing Influence from Your Partner Emotional Regulation Connect with Corey Costanzo: Still Point Wellness Still Point Wellness on Instagram Still Point Wellness on Facebook Still Point Wellness on Pinterest Corey Costanzo on LinkedIn Email: [email protected] Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson  

Yvonne Rainbow Teplitsky is the founder of Artsy Goddess Studio, where she actively carries out her role in helping others and the planet heal. Rainbow is passionate about art, as seen in the upcycled clothing she creates from second-hand materials, as well as the visual arts she creates, such as murals, paintings, and tapestries. She also helps women transform through voice-empowering workshops, and she co-facilitates couples retreats and workshops with me. Not losing yourself in a relationship is about maintaining your autonomy, self-worth, and unique identity while building a shared life with someone. It’s the art of “we” without letting the “me” fade away. Staying true to yourself ensures you remain a whole, fulfilled person, which ultimately strengthens the relationship by fostering mutual respect and authenticity.   Rainbow’s upcoming workshops: https://urlight.org/events/world-labyrinth-event-walking-and-toning-peace-meditation-with-rainbow-teplitsky/ https://urlight.org/events/toning-and-drumming-our-prayers-with-yvonne-rainbow-teplitsky-and-janice-doochin/   Related Podcasts: Couples Appreciation Feeling Seen and Heard Aftermath of a Fight or a Regrettable Incident  The Importance of Apologies The Art of Apology Maintaining Connection Through Conflict   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices and Meditations at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson

In this solocast I talk about asking for what we want and need in our relationships. It can be tricky, but it’s about clear communication and mutual respect. It’s also about building a dynamic where both of you feel safe, heard, and willing to stretch for each other. The deep wants always have a “root,” and it is very good to identify it. So, what’s the toughest thing you’ve held back from asking?   Related Content: Other Podcast Episodes HeartShare: Expressing Needs Asking for Help Shedding People Pleasing into Authentic Relationships People Pleasing Encourage Your Partner’s Authenticity Encourage Your Partner’s “Deeper” Authenticity Part 2 Let’s Talk About It! Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  Check out our Guided Audio Practices, Meditations and Workshops at Relationships! Let’s Learn About It. You can check out the original songs I have sung on my podcast at  Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page! Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson    

Mana Vermeulen-McLeod has been an Earthaven Ecovillage (Black Mountain, NC) resident and member since 2007. She believes in the potential of transformation in each present moment. She is a Tantric life coach, mother, natural builder, hairdresser, and conflict mediator in her village. A social activist committed to anti-oppression work in areas of race, gender, and class differences. She enjoys supporting herself and others in embodied resilience and everyday courage.   In this episode, Mana and I have a conversation about radical unification as a way to heal the political divide in the country and the world. How do we have curiosity and interest for those we disagree with on issues instead of contempt, anger, or outright canceling others views and opinions? We discuss that radical unification is part of our spiritual path.  Related podcasts with Mana: The Householder’s Path: Sacred Practice for Everyday Life  Women Working in Male Dominated Jobs Exploring Our Racial Biases   Connect with Mana: www.mana-v-mcleod.com Instagram: @tantramom   Let’s Talk About It!   Thanks for tuning into this week’s episode of Relationships! Let’s Talk About It - the show to help you forge deeper, more meaningful connections and relationships with those around you. If you enjoyed this week’s episode, please head over to Apple Podcasts, subscribe to the show, and leave us a rating and review.  You can check out the original songs I have sung in my podcast at Pripo’s Podcast Songs. Don’t forget to visit our website and follow us on Twitter and Instagram. Share your favorite episodes on social media to help others build better, more meaningful relationships. And if our content has helped you forge deeper connections and more meaningful relationships, be sure to help support the show by visiting our Support the Podcast page!   Theme music “These Streets” provided by Adi the Monk Sound Production by Matt Carlson