Why You Can’t Quit Drinking Alone

Join Coach Kevin and Coach Eric for a conversation about the words we use when talking about drinking, and how quietly they shape what we believe is possible. This episode unpacks some of the most common ones: "functioning" and why getting by isn't the same as thriving, "normal" and whose definition we're really living by, "problem" and why other people don't get a vote on what's right for you, and "just one," including why that one drink can still matter so much. It also looks at why taking a break doesn't automatically make it easier to drink again, and what changes once alcohol is reintroduced.From there, the conversation turns to "control" and "willpower," with a look at why untangling a habit works better than forcing it, and how a thought can be treated as a suggestion rather than an instruction. You'll also hear a fresh take on "I deserve a drink": what you actually deserve, and how to build rewards, goals, and a calendar that make saying no to alcohol a way of saying yes to something better. Whether you're cutting back, alcohol-free, or just curious, this episode is an invitation to notice the words that show up for you and whether they're moving you forward or holding you back.Please note: nothing in this podcast is medical or mental health advice. Always consult your healthcare provider about what's right for you.The Reframeable podcast is brought to you by the Reframe app. Reframe is the #1 app to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. If you're enjoying this podcast, please like, subscribe, and share with those that you feel may benefit from it. If you have a topic you'd like us to cover on the podcast, send an email to [email protected] or, if you're on the Reframe app, give it a shake and let us know what you want to hear.

Join Coach Kevin, Coach Frank, and fellow Reframer Tyler Hickok, an ultra marathon runner from Seattle, for a conversation about why changing your relationship with alcohol works better when you stop going it alone. This episode explores how a healthy-looking life can hide a habit that’s getting out of hand, from “I have a job and I run marathons, so it can’t be that bad” to the push-pull of wanting to be healthy while still wanting to drink. It also looks at what makes community different from going through the motions: hearing your own thoughts in someone else’s share, finding a sense of belonging in newcomer and men’s meetings, and seeing that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.From there, the conversation turns to the messy middle of change: stepping away when you feel “fine,” coming back after a slip without shame, and why there’s no such thing as a bad share or a day count too low to speak up. You’ll also hear practical ways to connect, like leaving breadcrumbs for others to find you, choosing the least scary way to open up, and remembering that holding back robs others of the chance to support you. Plus, how change can strengthen a marriage, what loved ones can do when someone isn’t ready yet, and why choosing hard things on purpose builds the resilience to keep going. Whether you’re cutting back, alcohol-free, or simply curious, this episode is a reminder that small, repeatable steps add up.Please note: nothing in this podcast is medical or mental health advice. Always consult your healthcare provider about what’s right for you.The Reframeable podcast is brought to you by the Reframe app. Reframe is the #1 app to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. If you’re enjoying this podcast, please like, subscribe, and share with those that you feel may benefit from it. If you have a topic you’d like us to cover on the podcast, send an email to [email protected] or, if you’re on the Reframe app, give it a shake and let us know what you want to hear.

Join Coach Frank and Coach Eric for a conversation about boundaries, and the skill that makes them work: discernment. If boundaries are the fences, discernment is the gatekeeper that decides who gets in, how close they get, and when to close the gate. This episode looks at why changing your relationship with alcohol can feel lonely at first, how to tell intentional disrespect from simple cluelessness, and what someone’s reaction to a small boundary says about how they’ll treat a bigger one. It also covers the difference between explicit and implicit boundaries, why people-pleasing keeps us externally focused, and why you might prefer a quiet room to a crowded one that leaves you feeling alone.From there, the conversation turns to building a life worth protecting: stripping things back to what you actually need, asking “if I say no to alcohol, what do I get to say yes to?”, and treating slip-ups as data rather than a reset to zero. It wraps up with practical Sober October tips, like telling people close to you, keeping a journal of what you’re gaining, and staying curious about what you want after the month ends. Whether you’re cutting back, alcohol-free, or simply curious, this episode is a reminder that clear boundaries help make room for the people and goals that fit where you’re headed.Please note: nothing in this podcast is medical or mental health advice. Always consult your healthcare provider about what’s right for you.The Reframeable podcast is brought to you by the Reframe app. Reframe is the #1 app to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. If you’re enjoying this podcast, please like, subscribe, and share with those that you feel may benefit from it. If you have a topic you’d like us to cover on the podcast, send an email to [email protected] or, if you’re on the Reframe app, give it a shake and let us know what you want to hear.

Join Coach Kevin and fellow Reframer Chennelle Miller for a conversation about noticing when alcohol starts making decisions for you, and deciding you're done with that.This episode looks at the "do I even qualify?" question, how a habit can grow quietly alongside a fit, responsible life, and why no one needs to wait for a crisis point to change. It also covers practical ways to handle social situations alcohol-free: bringing your own drinks, answering with confidence, and not over-explaining.From there, the focus turns to what keeps change going long-term: community as a daily anchor, the power of repetition, and the shift from "I can't do that anymore" to "what can I do?" You'll also hear how the pull toward drinking fades over time, from needing something in your hand to simply not wanting it, and why those quiet wins are worth celebrating. Whether you're cutting back, alcohol-free, or just curious, this episode is a reminder to meet yourself where you are and keep showing up.Please note: nothing in this podcast is medical or mental health advice. Always consult your healthcare provider about what's right for you.The Reframeable podcast is brought to you by the Reframe app. Reframe is the #1 app to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. If you're enjoying this podcast, please like, subscribe, and share with those that you feel may benefit from it. If you have a topic you'd like us to cover on the podcast, send an email to [email protected] or, if you're on the Reframe app, give it a shake and let us know what you want to hear.

Join Coach Kevin and Coach Frank as they sit down with fellow coach Veronica Rockwitz for a powerful conversation about shame, self-compassion, and the long road to healing. Together they explore how early trauma and loss can shape the survival patterns we carry into adulthood—people-pleasing, staying small, shame spirals—and what it takes to finally loosen their grip.This episode digs into the tools that make lasting change possible: therapy as a consistent, safe presence; yoga and breathwork as a bridge back to the body; and daily practices like gratitude, forgiveness, and service that help regulate the nervous system and quiet the undercurrent of shame. It's an honest look at how we move from simply surviving toward a more intentional, self-aware, and connected life—and a reminder that the "inner light" is there in everyone, waiting for the right support to bring it out.The information provided in this podcast is intended for general informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice or a substitute for professional medical treatment. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider before making any changes to your health regimen.Reframe is the #1 iOS and Android app scientifically proven to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to help you reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. Questions or feedback? Reach us at [email protected].

Changing your relationship with alcohol is rarely a straight line, and it almost never happens alone. This episode explores why "white knuckling" through sobriety in isolation so often leads back to old patterns, and what changes when we finally reach out for support. Coach Kevin and this week's guest dig into the connection between unresolved trauma and problematic drinking, the difference between simply putting down the glass and doing the deeper emotional work, and why lasting change depends on the community, tools, and self-compassion we build around ourselves.At the heart of the conversation is the idea of emotional sobriety—learning to pause, sit with hard feelings, and respond in ways aligned with our values rather than numbing what hurts. From EMDR and yoga to visual reminders like the "hula hoop" of control and a "one shift at a time" mindset, this episode is full of practical, neuroscience-informed strategies for staying grounded through life's hardest moments. It's a reminder that change is possible at any stage, that our past shapes us without defining our future, and that finding your people is worth the work it takes.The information provided in this podcast is intended for general informational purposes only and should not be considered medical advice or a substitute for professional medical treatment. Always consult with a qualified healthcare provider before making any changes to your health regimen.Reframe is the #1 iOS and Android app scientifically proven to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to help you reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you.If you're enjoying the Reframeable Podcast, please subscribe, rate, and review to help us reach more people on their journey to change their relationship with alcohol.Questions or feedback? Reach us at [email protected].

Join Coach Melinda and Coach Frank for a conversation about what healing really asks of us — and what it doesn't. This episode explores generational trauma and how the patterns handed down to us can be understood, interrupted, and repaired. We dig into the practice of holding two opposing truths at once — love and resentment, gratitude and anger — without collapsing into shame, and why that kind of honesty keeps us grounded.At its heart, this conversation is about connection as the engine of change. From recovery communities and sponsors to forums and accountability partners, we look at how moving out of isolation and into relationship makes lasting change possible — and why you don't need more proof, more pain, or a rock-bottom moment to deserve support and start now.Please note: nothing in this podcast is medical or mental health advice. Always consult your healthcare provider about what's right for you.The Reframeable podcast is brought to you by the Reframe app. Reframe is the #1 app to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. If you're enjoying this podcast, please like, subscribe, and share with those that you feel may benefit from it. If you have a topic you'd like us to cover on the podcast, send an email to [email protected] or, if you're on the Reframe app, give it a shake and let us know what you want to hear.

What happens when hitting rock bottom becomes the turning point? This episode explores the raw reality of a suicidal blackout and a night in a cell, and how that lowest moment sparked a decision to get and stay alcohol-free. The conversation digs into the belief that some people are simply "born to drink and die drinking" — and why that story can be rewritten. It's an honest look at the isolation that active addiction breeds, the terror of facing yourself sober for the first time, and the quiet moment of choosing to live differently.From there, the focus turns to what actually rebuilds a life in recovery: leaning on community instead of reaching for a drink, showing up to meetings with the courage to speak your truth, and learning that healing happens when you're seen and heard. The episode also touches on reshaping negative self-talk, reconnecting with identity and heritage, and turning old pain and resentment into purpose. Whether you're cutting back, alcohol-free, or supporting someone who's struggling, this is a reminder that connection — not willpower alone — is what carries you through.Please note: nothing in this podcast is medical or mental health advice. Always consult your healthcare provider about what's right for you.The Reframeable podcast is brought to you by the Reframe app. Reframe is the #1 app to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. If you're enjoying this podcast, please like, subscribe, and share with those that you feel may benefit from it. If you have a topic you'd like us to cover on the podcast, send an email to [email protected] or, if you're on the Reframe app, give it a shake and let us know what you want to hear.

Join Coach Kevin and Coach Eric Fischer for a conversation about vision — setting an intentional aim for your life instead of drifting into one you never chose. This episode explores why the brain is a goal-seeking machine that reverts to whatever's safe, familiar, or novel — alcohol and other escapes included — when it has no clear direction. The discussion digs into how identity shifts throughout our lives, why the "midlife crisis" is really a vision you never signed up for, and how we inherit our roles and self-image without asking what we actually want.You'll also get practical tools for getting started: writing down every idea without judging it, starting absurdly small, and noticing what stands out day to day. Whether you're cutting back, alcohol-free, or just curious, this episode is an invitation to get curious, stay open to change, and start defining the life you actually want.Please note: nothing in this podcast is medical or mental health advice. Always consult your healthcare provider about what's right for you.The Reframeable podcast is brought to you by the Reframe app. Reframe is the #1 app to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. If you're enjoying this podcast, please like, subscribe, and share with those that you feel may benefit from it. If you have a topic you'd like us to cover on the podcast, send an email to [email protected] or, if you're on the Reframe app, give it a shake and let us know what you want to hear.

Join Coach Eric Fischer and Dr. Frank Spinelli—physician, certified health and trauma-informed coach, and author of The Shame Compass—for a deep conversation about the emotion most of us spend our lives trying to outrun.This episode unpacks the crucial difference between guilt and shame: guilt says "I did something bad" and can move us toward repair, while shame whispers "I am bad" and attaches itself to our identity. You'll learn why that inner voice isn't truly your own, how it gets installed in childhood or through later trauma, and why running from shame never works—because the goal isn't to eliminate it, but to build the literacy to understand what it's trying to tell you.Along the way, you'll get practical, usable tools: the four P's for staying grounded when you're activated (pause, present, ponder, possibilities), the practice of separating the intellectual voice from the impulsive, childlike one instead of staying fused with both, and the difference between toxic shame and healthy shame that points you back toward your core values. The conversation explores how shame breeds in isolation, why community and service dilute its power, and how naming what we feel—out loud, in the moment—can free us. You'll also hear an honest look at how shame shows up differently around our bodies, our roles, our sexuality, and our sense of provision, and how much of it was handed to us by institutions, families, and culture rather than chosen.Whether you're working to change your relationship with alcohol or simply want to live with less armor and more authenticity, this episode offers a compassionate, science-informed framework for getting back up after you've been knocked down.The Reframeable podcast is brought to you by the Reframe app. Reframe is the #1 app to help you cut back or quit drinking alcohol. It uses neuroscience to reframe your relationship with alcohol and unlock the healthiest, happiest you. If you're enjoying this podcast, please like, subscribe, and share with those that you feel may benefit from it. If you have a topic you'd like us to cover on the podcast, send an email to [email protected] or, if you're on the Reframe app, give it a shake and let us know what you want to hear.