Ep. 11 Attachment Styles Explained: Breaking Insecure Patterns & Building Healthier Connections

Can two people with different attachment styles build a secure relationship? In Episode 12 of Perspective Matters, Alec and I get vulnerable about our own relationship, exploring how insecure attachments, emotional triggers, and unhealthy patterns can lead to conflict or even a breakup. We discuss healing after heartbreak, recognizing your triggers, taking accountability, and turning insecure patterns into healthier, more secure connections. Because understanding yourself can change the way you love. And perspective matters. 🤍 🎧 Now available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & YouTube!

Episode 11: Attachment Styles Deep Dive is LIVE! Ever wonder why some people crave closeness while others push it away? This week, we're diving deeper into secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles, using familiar movie and TV characters to bring the science to life! 🎬 We'll explore what creates insecure attachment patterns, how to recognize them in yourself and others, and practical ways to build healthier, more secure relationships. Because understanding the why behind someone's behavior can change how we see ourselves, our relationships, and each other. 🤍 🎧 Now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & YouTube!

Episode 10: Attachment Theory is HERE! Why do some people pull closer when they feel disconnected, while others push away? This week, we’re breaking down where attachment theory comes from, why we use it, and how to apply it to your own life. We’ll explore how our earliest experiences can shape the way we bond, communicate, and respond to others — especially in relationships. Sometimes someone’s behavior toward you isn’t really about you at all. Understanding the story behind our patterns can help us take things less personally, communicate differently, and see each other with a new perspective. 🤍 🎧 Now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & YouTube!

Episode 9: ADHD Part 3 is LIVE! We’ve talked about what ADHD is and how it shows up in real life — now let’s talk about what we can actually do about it. This week, we’re breaking down brain waves and how understanding the state your brain is in throughout the day can help you work with it instead of against it. We’re also getting into medications, holistic approaches, nutrition, exercise, supplements, routines, and habits that may help — plus what might be making your ADHD symptoms worse. 🌿💊 Understanding your brain gives you more options for taking care of it — and a new understanding can create a whole new perspective. 🤍 🎧 Now on Spotify, Apple Podcasts & YouTube!

Last episode, we broke down ADHD by the book. This week, we’re taking it into the real world. What does ADHD actually look like in childhood, relationships, work, and everyday life — especially when someone has spent years learning how to hide it? We’re talking masking, why ADHD is often missed in women, and how ADHD symptoms can overlap with other diagnoses like OCD and BPD — while also breaking down why these are very different disorders despite sometimes looking similar on the surface. I’m also sharing more of my own experience with ADHD and how it has shown up throughout different stages of my life. Because a diagnosis can give us a name, but understanding how those symptoms actually show up gives us context — and context can completely change our perspective. Perspective Matters.

Do you actually have ADHD — or has social media just convinced you that you do? In Part 1, we’re taking ADHD off your For You Page and into the therapy room. We’re breaking down the actual diagnostic criteria — what ADHD is, the different ways it can present, what symptoms look like in real life, and what we know about what’s happening in the ADHD brain. Whether you have ADHD, think you might, or love someone who does, this episode is about replacing stereotypes with real mental health education. Next episode, we’ll get into treatment, medications, and how to actually work with an ADHD brain. Because the more accurately we understand someone’s brain, the better we can understand their behavior — and that change in perspective matters.

We’re back for another After Hours! Alec and I sat down for an After Hours follow-up to turn this episode into a real conversation. He asks the questions, I elaborate on the things that might need a little more explaining, and we break down what finding and working with the right therapist can actually look like in real life. If this episode left you with questions, head over to Perspective Matters: After Hours and keep the conversation going with us.

The last two episodes were dense — so now we’re turning the crash course into a conversation. Welcome to After Hours, where we take topics from previous episodes and break them down through real, more relaxed conversations. With the help of my partner, Alec, we’re revisiting brain development, neurotransmitters, hormones, and everything in between. He asks me to elaborate on the things that might be confusing if you don’t spend your life studying the brain. Think of this as a chance to hear the science explained differently, ask the questions you might have been thinking, and make everything we’ve learned a little easier to digest. This is Part 1 — Part 2 drops next week. Because sometimes hearing something a different way is exactly what we need to see it from a new perspective — because, Perspective Matters.

We learned the parts of the brain — now let’s talk about how they actually communicate. In Part 2 of our brain development series, we’re breaking down neurotransmitters, hormones, receptors, and the chemical messages constantly traveling between your brain and body. From dopamine and serotonin to cortisol, GABA, oxytocin, and everything in between, this is your crash course in understanding how brain chemistry can influence the way we think, feel, react, and function. Because sometimes understanding why you feel the way you do can completely change the way you see yourself — and that’s exactly why Perspective Matters.

Welcome to Part 1 of our brain development series! Today we’re taking a crash course through the anatomy of the brain — the different parts, what they do, how they communicate, and how neuroplasticity helps explain why we think, feel, react, and behave the way we do. Your mind is part of your story, but there’s an actual organ underneath it all helping shape your emotions, reactions, habits, and personality. And don’t worry if neuroscience isn’t exactly your thing — next week on Perspective Matters: After Hours, I’ll break this episode down with someone in real time and make all of this information a little more digestible. The more we understand why we are the way we are, the more compassion we can bring to ourselves and others — because knowledge can change our perspective, and Perspective Matters.