303. Why Being Nice Isn't Always Kind

What happens when you decide that now is the perfect time to go after something you really want? It's easy to put off your goals, wait for the right circumstances, or let other people's priorities influence your decisions. But sometimes, a shift in how you think about what's possible can change the way you approach your goals and what happens next.       In this episode, I'm joined by Powerful member Katie to talk about her experience of our 30 Day Goal Challenge and how it helped her pursue a sailing qualification she'd wanted for years. We explore the thoughts that helped her take action, how she worked through avoidance and self-doubt, and what she discovered about making intentional decisions and prioritising what matters to her.       Listen in to hear how Katie's experience has influenced other areas of her life, including her approach to leadership, her career, and moving house. You'll discover how being intentional about your goals can help you approach challenges differently, recognise new possibilities, and take the lead in creating the experiences you want.                                                                              Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/305                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful

How do you know when it's time to leave a relationship, and when it's your own thoughts that need some attention? Relationships require work, but there's a difference between working through challenges and repeatedly convincing yourself to stay in a situation that isn't making you happy. And sometimes, the tools you use to manage your thoughts and feelings can actually keep you stuck.       In this episode, I'm exploring how to recognise when you're using coaching tools against yourself, why it's important to pay attention to uncomfortable emotions, and what happens when you avoid addressing the things that aren't working in your relationships. I'm also looking at how to get clear on what you really want, make decisions for your own reasons, and approach the prospect of ending a relationship.                                                                           Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/304                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful

What if being nice isn't always the kindest thing you can do? Many of us have been taught to be pleasant, agreeable, and considerate of others, but constantly trying to be liked and avoiding uncomfortable conversations can come at a cost. In this episode, I'm exploring why being nice can actually be harmful and what makes kindness a more valuable alternative.       I look at the difference between being nice and being kind, and why the two aren't always the same thing. Listen in to discover how to recognise when you're prioritising being liked over being genuinely helpful, and what it takes to start choosing kindness instead.                                                                                      Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/303                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful

Are you genuinely tired, or is your brain trying to convince you to avoid something? Knowing when to push forward and when to slow down isn't always straightforward, especially when you're used to being productive and getting things done. In this episode, I'm exploring why recognising your need for rest is so important and what can happen when you ignore it.        With the change of seasons leaving so many people feeling tired and less motivated than usual, I'm sharing how I distinguish between my body asking for rest and my brain wanting to avoid something uncomfortable. I also look at why doing less can feel so challenging, particularly when you've been conditioned to measure your worth by how much you do for others, and how self-criticism can get in the way of actually resting.      Listen in to discover how to recognise when you need to slow down and make decisions that support your physical and mental wellbeing. You'll learn how to assess your energy, reconsider your commitments, and give yourself the rest you need without turning it into another reason to criticise yourself.                                                                                      Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/302                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful

What if the things you're ready to let go of are also the things that can help you grow? Autumn is a powerful reminder that growth isn't always about adding more or moving forward. Sometimes, it's about recognising what has served its purpose, making space for something new, and appreciating the beauty of what comes next.        In this episode, I'm reflecting on a childhood memory of planting conkers and watching them grow into trees to explore how our beliefs, experiences, and early influences shape who we become. I look at how some of those beliefs continue to support us while others hold us back, and why the natural cycles of growth, decay, and renewal offer such a useful perspective on our own lives.       Listen in to discover how to reflect on the beliefs and narratives you've carried with you, recognise what you're ready to release, and intentionally nurture new ways of thinking. You'll learn how to honour your own pace of growth and use the lessons of your past to influence what happens next.                                                                                  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/301                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful

What shapes the way you connect with the people in your life? For the 300th episode of the podcast, I'm celebrating by sharing some of the teachings from my recent Relationship Skills Workshop and exploring the foundations that influence how we experience our relationships.         In this episode, I'm looking at the thoughts we have about other people, the values we bring to our interactions, and what helps us feel connected. I'll also show you why connection can look very different from person to person and how your stress responses can influence the way you show up with others.       Listen in to better understand the patterns playing out in your relationships and what helps you become more available for connection. You'll come away with greater awareness of what shapes your relationships and where you can start making intentional changes in how you relate to the people in your life.                                                                              Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/300                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful         Get access to the Relationship Skills Workshop replay at maisiehill.com/relationships.

What does it actually mean to be good at relationships? You might think it means getting along with everyone, avoiding conflict, or being the person everyone can rely on. But sometimes those things come at the expense of speaking up, expressing what you need, and letting other people experience the real you.          In this episode, I'm exploring the ideas many of us have absorbed about what good relationships are supposed to look like, particularly when we've been socialised to be agreeable, accommodating, and responsible for keeping everyone else happy. Drawing on my own experiences and years of coaching, I'm sharing seven things I believe it means to be good at relationships and the skills that can help you put them into practice.                                                                         Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/299                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful         Sign up for the Relationship Skills Workshop on the 3rd of October, 2026 at maisiehill.com/relationships.

What thoughts have you repeated so many times that you've stopped questioning whether they're actually true? Some thoughts can sound so reasonable and factual that we barely notice them, yet they can quietly shape how we feel, what we do, and what we believe is possible for us.       In this episode, I'm taking on some of the automatic thoughts I hear most often from my clients and exposing the assumptions underneath them. From believing you're behind or not doing enough to questioning whether you're ready, I'm showing you why these seemingly factual thoughts deserve a closer look and what can happen when you stop automatically believing them.       Listen in to learn how to spot the thoughts that may be holding you back and bring them into the light. You'll discover how to interrogate the stories your brain offers you, recognise when perfectionism and self-worth are shaping your thinking, and decide which thoughts you actually want to keep.                                                                  Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/298                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful

Have you ever achieved something you really wanted, only to wonder why it didn't feel as good as you thought it would? We can spend months or even years working towards a goal, expecting that reaching it will change how we feel about ourselves or our lives. Then we get there, the initial excitement fades, and we're left wondering, is that it?           In this episode, I'm exploring goal disappointment and arrival fallacy, the belief that achieving a particular goal will finally make you feel happy, fulfilled, confident, or enough. I look at why we become so attached to external markers of success, how perfectionism and self-worth can intensify this cycle, and what changes when you start paying attention to who you're becoming along the way.         Listen in to discover how to pursue meaningful goals without relying on the end result to change how you feel about yourself. You'll learn why celebrating your progress matters, how to recognise everything you're gaining through the process, and what it means to arrive within yourself rather than waiting for an achievement to get you there.                                                               Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/297                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful

Do you ever find yourself so focused on what is happening right now that you lose sight of where you are going? In this episode, I'm exploring what it means to be future-focused and how far ahead you need to look in order to stay effective while still responding to what is happening in your life today.        I talk about how stress and overwhelm can pull your attention towards whatever feels most immediate, making it harder to see beyond the problem in front of you. I also explore why having a vision, destination, or goal gives you a sense of direction, and how to hold that bigger picture while bringing your attention back to the next part of the road you actually need to travel.        By the end of this episode, you'll have a clearer sense of where to place your focus when you are working towards something that matters to you. You'll be invited to notice whether you are looking too closely at today's problems or too far into the future, and consider what the right point just ahead of you looks like so you can keep moving forward.                                                               Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://maisiehill.com/296                   Join us in the Powerful membership, or join the waitlist: https://maisiehill.com/powerful