The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} podcast

Ep. 144: Enabling vs Low-Demand Parenting

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Parenting a child with a vulnerable nervous system can feel like navigating a maze blindfolded. But what if we told you that understanding the balance between enabling and co-regulation could be your guiding light? This week, we break down this crucial contrast, demystifying the term 'enabling', often misconstrued in the mental health field, and venture into the science behind lowering demands - a strategy that can bolster your child’s stress response system.

In this episode you'll learn:

  • The importance of being self-attuned to whats hard vs. too hard
  • How to determine between lowering demands for your own comfort and doing it because it is genuinely too arduous for your child
  • The difference between enabling/codependent behaviors and co-regulation

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Connection or Protection??? {7}
What to do after We Mess up {80}
Stress Response System {94}

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