The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} podcast

Ep. 135: You Aren't Doing it Wrong

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You aren’t parenting wrong. It’s not your fault. Asking “What am I doing wrong?” is the wrong question! Here’s what be curious about instead.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • That you’re not doing it wrong (well, not any more wrong than anyone else)
  • A more helpful to question to ask ourselves when our kids are struggling
  • Why having kids who are never dysregulated isn’t the goal

Resources mentioned in this podcast:
Robyn's book:
Influence Behaviors, Not Control

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