The Baffling Behavior Show {Parenting after Trauma} podcast

Ep. 128: My Child Hates Having their Feelings Validated- Friday Q&A

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Why does my child hate having their feelings validated?

In this episode, I talk about the top 5 reasons I see about why kids don’t like their feelings validated:

  1. It feels too vulnerable
  2. It feels intrusive
  3. You’re getting it wrong
  4. You’re on the watchdog or possum pathway
  5. They are too far down the watchdog & possum pathway

This is a Friday Q&A episode, where I answer a listener’s question.

Additional Resources:
Regulated Does Not Mean Calm
Toxic Shame Series
Has Trauma Informed Become another Behavior Modification Technique?

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eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE)
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