Katie’s Pregnancy at 42 After Breast Cancer and Denial of Her Embryos

BE01. This is episode 1 of a 3-party series sharing my story. We are talking about the ECV, when the doctor turned the baby from breech to head down, my expectations of starting labor, my birth plan, ways we tried to turn the baby head down, and how we tried to induce labor. The next episode is the BIRTH STORY, and the last one is postpartum RECOVERY. If this is your first time here, I’m Jamie Massey, 43 and the host of the podcast. It took us 3 years, 5 pregnancies, failed IVF, and a failed embryo transfer to have our first baby using donor eggs. I am so lucky to be sharing my story with my baby sleeping next to me.  If you found this podcast helpful, I would love if you made a donation! I am staying at home with the baby, and I can’t keep the podcast going without your help. If I get 100 people to donate by October 1st, 2024, I’ll start a private FB group. I don’t want to go the ad or sponsorship route, but there are costs to keep the show going. If you receive value from this show, even if it’s as small as the price of a coffee, please consider donating through the link below. THANK YOU for making this podcast successful! https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/donate/Get the full story, resources and more information about this episode: https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/bonus1/

090. We have two returning guests on to discuss pregnancy after loss over 40. The goal of this show is to share our experiences and normalize loss over 40 because loss is a part of so many of our journeys and we are not alone. We have returning guest from episode 48, Jamey. Jamey had a 10-year IVF journey that included two miscarriages and many other losses along the way to her pregnancy at 41 with her daughter using embryo adoption. Jenna, from episode 44 had four daughters with four losses before her fifth daughter at 43. If you are trying to have a baby over 40, I’d love to invite you to 40.40 Society! It’s a 6-week program that teaches you the same tools I used to have a good TTC experience and validate your feelings with bi-weekly small support groups. Join the wait list to be the first to know when the program is open to learn how to handle the ups and downs of TTC and feel supported through your journey:  https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/waitlist Get the transcript, resources and more information about this episode: https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode90/ 

089. Alice Grist lives in the UK with her husband and three children. She was happy with her two daughters who were 12 and 8. She says she wasn't one of those little girls who fantasized about babies. Alice was 44 and assumed she was perimenopause and couldn't have more children, so little precaution was used to prevent it. Join us as Alice shares how babies weren't even something she was thinking about and how this pregnancy ended up being the toughest. If you are trying to have a baby over 40, I’d love to invite you to 40.40 Society! It’s a 6-week program that teaches you the same tools I used to have a good TTC experience and validate your feelings with bi-weekly small support groups. Join the wait list to be the first to know when the program is open to learn how to handle the ups and downs of TTC and feel supported through your journey:  https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/waitlistGet the full story, resources and more information about this episode:https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode89/

088. Kerra lives in small town Graham, Texas with her husband and six boys. Kerra's journey to motherhood started when she was just 18 years old in high school. She went on to have four more boys with a previous marriage. Kerra had no intention of getting married again or having more children until her best friend turned into her husband. He told her he couldn’t have children because he had cancer a few years back. It didn’t matter to her because she already had five children, but in the back of her mind she always thought it might be possible. Join us as Kerra shares her shocking pregnancy at 42 and a delivery at home with a midwife.If you are trying to have a baby over 40, I’d love to invite you to 40.40 Society! It’s a 6-week program that teaches you the same tools I used to have a good TTC experience and validate your feelings with bi-weekly small support groups. Join the wait list to be the first to know when the program is open to learn how to handle the ups and downs of TTC and feel supported through your journey:  https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/waitlistGet the full story, resources and more information about this episode: https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode88/

087. Kristen is from Rochester Hills, Michigan. She moved to Barcelona, Spain, after graduating with a masters in Spanish and met her husband there. They married when she was 27. Her first pregnancy she says was easy and assumed any pregnancy following it would be the same. Baby number two was a rainbow that didn’t come so easy. She wanted a third baby over 40 but wasn’t sure she was ready for the possibility of another loss. Join us as Kristen shares her journey to her natural pregnancy with baby number three, her second rainbow baby.If you are trying to have a baby over 40, I’d love to invite you to 40.40 Society! It’s a 6-week program that teaches you the same tools I used to have a good TTC experience and validate your feelings with bi-weekly small support groups. Join the wait list to be the first to know when the program is open to learn how to handle the ups and downs of TTC and feel supported through your journey:  https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/waitlistGet the full story, resources and more information about this episode:https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode87/

086. Lorraine was born and raised in Azusa, California. She lives there with her 15-month-old healthy boy and husband. At 37, she lost her fiancé to 11-month battle with cancer. At 40, she met her husband and knew they would need fertility treatments. In the middle of her IVF journey and right before her wedding, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. Join us, as she shares her emotional journey to motherhood at 44.If you are trying to have a baby over 40, I’d love to invite you to 40.40 Society! It’s a 6-week program that teaches you the same tools I used to have a good TTC experience and validate your feelings with bi-weekly small support groups. Join the wait list to be the first to know when the program is open to learn how to handle the ups and downs of TTC and feel supported through your journey:  https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/waitlistGet the full story, resources and more information about this episode:https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode86/

085. Judy was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes at 12 years old and PCOS at 16 years old. Doctors told her she could never have children. She tried to have a baby in her 20’s but nothing happened. Judy believes it was a miracle to have a healthy baby at 37 years old and deliver at only 24-weeks of gestation. After a loss at 41, she never thought pregnancy would be an option again for her. Join us as Judy shares her pregnancy to her second baby at 46 and what she believes helped her get pregnant.  If you are trying to have a baby over 40, I’d love to invite you to 40.40 Society! It’s a 6-week program that teaches you the same tools I used to have a good TTC experience and validate your feelings with bi-weekly small support groups. Join the wait list to be the first to know when the program is open to learn how to handle the ups and downs of TTC and feel supported through your journey:  https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/waitlistGet the full story, resources and more information about this episode:https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode85/

084. Erica is a 42 year old single mom in Akron, Ohio with two boys, one ten years old and the other is seven weeks old  during the recording of the show. She is a coordinator at a high school and also teaches teen girls about self-empowerment and self-esteem building. Erica’s journey to motherhood started when she was 33 years old. Join us as she shares her surprise baby after meeting a blast from the past. “I love your podcast!” If that sounds like you, please consider rating and reviewing my show! This helps me support more women— just like you — have a better TTC experience to pregnancy in your 40's. Click here, scroll to the bottom, tap to rate with five stars, and select “Write a Review.” Then be sure to let me know what you loved most about this episode! Get the full story, resources and more information about this episode: https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode84/

083. Katie’s journey started when she was 34 when she had breast cancer and recently gotten back together with an ex-boyfriend. Knowing that chemotherapy was going to affect her fertility, she did one round of IVF and froze two embryos. Her boyfriend told her no matter what happened, he wanted her to have the embryos. Little did she know she would be denied access years later. Join us as Katie shares her story to motherhood with donor eggs.If you are just starting your journey to conception with donor eggs, I have a FREE guide that I promise will make the process that much more easy!  It’s a 10 Q&A that will help you through the process from where to find a donor to how you should talk to you child about donor egg conception: https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/donoreggguideGet the full story, resources and more information about this episode: https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode83/

082. Jen lives in Charlotte, North Carolina with her husband Dave and their three children: Alli, her 11 year-old daughter, Taylor, her 8 year old daughter, Dylan, her 8 month old son. Jen had her first two daughters at 29 and 33. She never felt her family was complete and wanted a third. After a year of trying, she looked at fertility treatment and was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure. Her husband wasn’t willing to go use fertility treatment. It wouldn’t be until five years of trying until she got the surprise of her life. Join us as Jen shares her challenges to have her third baby and the anxiety she felt during her pregnancy.If you are trying to have a baby over 40, I’d love to invite you to 40.40 Society! It’s a 6-week program that teaches you the same tools I used to have a good TTC experience and validate your feelings with bi-weekly small support groups. Join the wait list to be the first to know when the program is open to learn how to handle the ups and downs of TTC and feel supported through your journey:  https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/waitlistGet the full story, resources and more information about this episode: https://over40fabulousandpregnant.com/episode82/