ASK P: some tough-love advice from your stand-in big sister

#263. Everyone's talking about the oxytocin menu, so this week I'm building mine — with a very honest look at what the research actually supports. Built like the dopamine menu, this episode includes Oxytocin appetizers through specials: the 20-second hug, the long phone call, the standing weekly thing.    FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#262. We’re talking about the realities of Beauty Maxxing, the good & the bad, with Caroline Stern. In this episode, we are sharing procedures we’ve undergone, what we regret, and touch on the emotional side of beauty maxxing and the desire to change yourself. How far is too far? What is worth the price? Where does one draw the line? All in this episode of Note to Self.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.com/paytonWoo: Listeners can get 20% off sitewide at woomoreplay.com with code NOTETOSELF. Coyuchi: Visit coyuchi.com/notetoself for 15% off your first purchase of the most comfortable bedding you’ll ever own (exclusions apply)Produced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#261. Kristen went on a date with her task rabbit. Emon can’t stop talking about 4d movies and her nemesis from 2nd grade. Your favorite girls from the now-defunct 3 Way podcast are back on the mic for a few very important life updates.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsor:ResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#260. The men are not alright in today’s installment of ASK P. We’re talking about relationships, post-college life, guy friends & beyond this week.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#259. A re-release of a favorite, Things I Left Behind to Gain Peace, and some of these may be rather controversial. In every era of my life, whenever I notice I’m a little on-edge, I realize I’m more often in need of releasing what doesn’t suit me rather than adding to my life. What are you releasing in this era?                                                                                                                                                                                                        FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Download the Quince app for app-exclusive offers, or go to Quince.com/paytonResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreIM8 Health: Go toIM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code notetoself for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your orderLola Blankets: Get 40% off select Lola Blankets products at Lolablankets.com by using code NOTETOSELF at checkout. Experience the world’s #1 blanket with LolaBlankets. #lolapartnerWayfair: Head to Wayfair.com to shop all things homeProduced by Dear Media.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#258. Maddy has been one of my favorite people to follow on socials for years, so when I found out we were crossing paths in Los Angeles, I had to have her on NTS. We’re chatting about her fresh (somewhat traumatizing?) start in LA, the parts of going viral nobody posts about, why we’ve both decided we need significantly more whimsy, our correct opinions, and so much more.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Resortpass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreIM8: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code note to self for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your order.Opill: Preventing pregnancy is as easy as OpillRula: Rula patients typically pay $15 per session when using insurance. Connect with quality therapists and mental health experts who specialize in you at https://www.rula.com/notetoself #rulapodSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#257. Why is the party girl suddenly everywhere again? This week I trace the shift from clean girl and tradwife aesthetics to a messier, freer moment — the culture, the politics, the history of partying through hard times — plus the party girl commandments and my hoe theory.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#256. I'm sitting down with brand strategist, angel investor, and Material Interest writer Kira Mackenzie Jackson to talk about building credibility and wealth when your career doesn't follow a straight line. We get into following a "random" interest until it becomes real expertise, the entry-level truth about angel investing, and Kira's rule for balancing consistency with the innovation that keeps you feeling alive — plus honest talk on motherhood and building an ambitious career that still leaves room for a life.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:ResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreOpill: Preventing pregnancy is as easy as OpillTumble: Machine Washable Rugs, Made Better. For a limited time only, our listeners get 10% off + free shipping at tumbleliving.com/NOTETOSELF #Tumble #adSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#255. Am I slowly turning into my mother? I sat down with genetic counselor Natalie Samson to figure out how much of who we are is actually written in our DNA — and how much we get to choose. We get into inheritance, the traits that surprise you, and why your genes are a starting point, not a life sentence.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsResortPass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreIM8 Health: Go to IM8HEALTH.com/notetoself RIGHT NOW or click on the link in the description and use code note to self for a Free Welcome Kit, five free travel sachets, plus ten percent off your order.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

#254. This week's ASK P tackles the questions you've been scared to ask out loud — navigating friendship breakups and having no close friends in your 20s, spending your birthday alone, advocating for your needs in the bedroom, walking away from a situationship, and moving to a big city on your own. It's a little tough love, a lot of validation, and a reminder that you're allowed to want more. Send me your own ASK P questions using the link below. 🤍                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        FOLLOW PAYTON:https://instagram.com/paytonross  https://www.tiktok.com/@paytonsartain https://youtube.com/c/paytonsartainrossSUBMIT TO NOTE TO SELF:→ Ask P: Advice Column: https://forms.gle/avvSu4ibYygZP5rq8 Sponsors:Quince: Go to Quince.com/payton for free shipping on your order and 365-day returnsResortpass: Visit resortpass.com/notetoself to get $20 off your first booking of $100 or moreOlive and June: Visit OliveandJune.com/NOTETOSELF for 20% off your first SystemRula: Visit Rula.com/notetoself to get startedSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.