"Avoidance” (Compass of Shame)

In this episode we uncover how to break free from shame’s grip by facing it with truth instead of avoidance. You’ll learn practical steps to pause, name the lie, and replace it with God’s promises—so you can live from a secure identity in Christ and walk in true freedom.Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

Ever find yourself beating yourself up, unable to receive a compliment, or stuck replaying past mistakes? In this episode we name the voice of self-attack, trace where those thoughts come from, and share practical psychology + Gospel-centered steps (questioning lies, building self-compassion, and inviting Jesus in) to loosen shame’s grip and live freer.Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

This week, Dr. Megan introduces the “Compass of Shame,” a concept developed by Donald Nathanson in 1992 to explain the four common ways people respond to shame: withdrawal, attacking the self, avoidance, and attacking others. This episode focuses on withdrawal—pulling back, shutting down, or isolating when shame feels overwhelming and true. Through real-life examples, we look at how withdrawal creates distance and fuels cycles of disconnection, even leading to depression. Scripture warns against isolation, reminding us that shame thrives in the dark but loses power in the light of community and Christ. The episode encourages listeners to resist shame’s pull to withdraw and instead remain present, engage honestly, and embrace the truth of being fully loved and accepted.Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

Self-care isn’t selfish—it’s essential. Shame often convinces us that tending to our needs either means we don’t matter or that we’re being self-centered, but neither is true. Jesus Himself modeled boundaries, rest, prayer, and solitude as a way of stewarding His life and ministry, showing us that caring for ourselves enables us to love and serve others more fully. Choosing self-care is choosing stewardship of the life, relationships, and calling entrusted to us—because when we are healthy, everyone around us benefits.Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

Pain, in all its forms, can shape how live - sometimes in ways we don't even realize. It's deeply human to hurt, to have pain, to face suffering. But "getting past it" isn't even possible. Join this week as we look at what working around your pain can begin to look like.Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

Welcome to season three! Too often we do not own who we are. We allow others, external circumstances, or our past to own who we are, but we were made for more! "I can make it through anything in the One who makes me who I am” (Philippians 4:13)Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

Shame says you must earn your dignity by chasing the next, or, don't move because you better not do something that will lose your dignity, value, or worth. But, here's the thing, you can't earn it and can't lose it because it's already yours! Jesus has already declared all of that over you. Shame doesn't have to drive you, you're free from listening to it. So, what's driving you? Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

Living free of shame can start in childhood. Parents, you and I have a great ability and responsibility when it comes to parenting our children into this freedom. Join today's podcast to learn how we can do this with our kids.Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

Last podcast we talked about how shame looks in marriage and how it’s cultivated. Now, we need to talk about how to deal with it.Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel

This episode kicks off the discussion of the impact of shame on the family. How it looks, how it’s cultivated and how we can get rid of it. Join today to learn how shame too often impacts the most foundational level of the family, marriage.Instagram: @nomoreshame_podcast Music by Ryan Kastel