Won't Someone Think of The Children!? | Ep 82

Masculinity seems to be having a moment. But what does it even mean? Sarah & Alex explore positive masc archtypes and how they do or don't manifest in poly relationships and communities.  Mentioned in the episode: Carl Jung | The Will to Change, by bell hooks | King, Warrior, Magician, Lover: Rediscovering the Archetypes of the Mature Masculine, by Robert L. Moore and Douglas Gilette | Masculine Archetypes graphic |  Ep 69: New Models of Masculinity | Myers-Briggs | Enneagram | Abdul El-Sayed | Bronze Age Re-set: De- and Re- Mythologizing the Manosphere, the Emerald Podcast | Sand Talk: How Indigenous Thinking Can Save the World, by Tyson Yunkaporta |  Methow Valley | Postpartum Depression | Joseph Campbell | Khadija  | The Three Ages of Woman, by Gustav Klimt | Optical Illusion: My Wife and My Mother in Law | Peter Pan Syndrome | Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by eroyn franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

Alex and Sarah's kids grab the mic to discuss how being the children of poly parents impacts them -- from having to explain to babysitter what poly is, to their experience of rolling breakups. And their parents explore the uncomfortable possiblity that the polyamory they practice doesn't ever really stop to, well, think of the children.  Mentioned in the episode: Witches (2024 Documentary) | Are the Kids All Right? | Ep 29 | Polyam Parenting (and how to talk to your kids) | Ep 5 | Seattle passes protections for poly families |  Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by eroyn franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

The founder of Seattle's fastest-growing non-monogamous community The Pleasure Suite joins to talk about fostering safe, consent-forward spaces that are fun and sexy af. Mentioned in the episode: The Pleasure Suite | FRIES - 5 Pillars of Consent | RACK - Risk-Aware Consensual Kink |  Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by eroyn franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

Sarah and Alex delve into Jungian analysis and find out that sometimes it's our darker parts that bring us closer together with partners. If you've felt yourself struggling once New Relationship Energy starts to wear off, this might be the episode for you.  CORRECTION: in this episode Sarah and Alex discuss the case of a mother killing her children, but they are using the wrong person's name 🫣😬. They refer to Casey Anthony, who was charged with murdering her young daughter in 2008. In the episode Sarah and Alex meant to name the more recent case of Lindsay Clancy, who admitted to killing her three children while in a postpartum psychosis in 2023. Mentioned in the episode: Shadow (Jungian concept) | Midlife Magic cohort | Marie-Louise von Franze on the Shadow |  Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by eroyn franklin: www.whateverfactory.org  

Sarah and Alex outline how opening a het relationship is experienced differently by men and women... based on meticulously collected and analyzed scientific data, of course :) Mentioned in the episode: When women choose non-monogamy: 'It's an opportunity for more integration' | The Ethical Slut | Is marriage a lousy deal for women? | Empathy - Psychology Today | Men need relationships more than women |  Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

It's Pride, and we're talking about coming out, parenting, and the nature of happiness, with poly psychology researcher Tabitha Kirkland. Mentioned in the episode: Geography of Bliss | Tabi's latest Substack: What do you want when no one is looking? | Tabi's Coming Out post | Sarah's Substack | Barry Schwartz: The Paradox of Choice |  Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

Therapist and 'Crush Coach" Calvin Burnap returns to talk about the dangers of abandoning yourself, the importance of internal boundaries, and why being ice cold in breakups is actually generous.    Mentioned in the episode: The Crush Coach | The Crush Coach on Instagram | Dr. Devon Price | Relationship Anarchy | Gottman Institute | Nonviolent Communication | I thought We'd Never Speak Again | Joanna Macy Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

In this mini episode Sarah and Alex try to figure out who has a tougher time in polyamory. Mentioned in the episode: Melt Music & Mutual Aid Fair | When women choose non-monogamy: 'It's an opportunity for more integration'  Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

Now that we've actually read the book…there's even more to say about Lindy West's Adult Braces. Spoiler alert: it is extremely fucking good. Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org

Sarah and Alex explore the seven stages of playparties, from abject horror to skepticism to curiosity. And then Sarah recouts her first time getting in the mix.  Mentioned in the episode:  Sense8 | Eyes Wide Shut | They Will Kill You | What We Do in the Shadows s1e9 | Mixtape Memoir with Reagan Jackson Follow us: [email protected] | https://www.instagram.com/mistakescast/ Logo design by roy franklin: www.whateverfactory.org