Ep. 109: Stop Trying to Make It Stay

Why does becoming who you want to be sometimes make you miss who you used to be?You’re learning to respond differently, trust yourself, and make room for change. But nobody really prepares you for how unfamiliar it can feel, especially when the people around you are changing, too.This week on Mindless Monday, I’m talking about growing pains through grief, perfectionism, marriage, parenting, and a deeper trust in God. I reflect on commemorating my dad’s death date, what a delayed video brought up about the expectations I put on myself, and learning to take responsibility without tearing myself down.Can you trust God and still feel frustrated with the timing? Can you be growing and grieving at the same time? And how do you give yourself grace while learning a new way?With a gentle grounding moment and some encouragement along the way, this episode is an invitation to acknowledge the effort you’re making, even where you’re still figuring things out.Follow Mindless Monday for more conversations about real life, and share this episode with someone navigating a change of their own.

Can we still be friends if I change? And can I give you that same freedom? Friendship gets complicated when the lives around it change. Someone gets married, someone’s budget shifts, and suddenly the expectations you never discussed become the things you’re falling out over.This week, I’m reflecting on the shift from wondering who liked me to understanding who I wanted in my life, and how receiving a different kind of care challenged me to become a better friend.We’re getting into choosing your circle without looking down on people, disliking your friend’s partner, and what loyalty means when history alone can’t hold a friendship together. There’s room for boundaries, grace, and some honest questions about our own behavior.Plus, I’m sharing why our next sound meditation and candle-making workshop is becoming a Friendsgiving gathering for this community.Friendsgiving Edition: November 21 at 6 PM, Candleporium Fragrance House Reserve your space: [BOOKING LINK]If this conversation gives you something to think about, follow Mindless Monday and share the episode with someone you’d love to talk it through with.

Knowing better and living differently can feel like two very different things. This week, I’m sitting with what happens in between.We’re talking about capacity, the fear that comes with change, and giving ourselves time to adjust when the way we think and move starts shifting. Sometimes I’m asking myself to keep going while I’m still learning how to operate in what I asked for.I’m still a student in all of this, too. And I think there’s something powerful about being able to say that out loud and have the conversation together.What do you know now, and what are you willing to do with it?MIND OVER MIND — LIVE VIRTUAL CLASSJoin me this Thursday, October 29 at 7:30 PM ET for two hours of conversation, reflection, and guided practice. Bring your journal and something you’re navigating. Replay available for 30 days.Register here: https://KiMeishon.as.me/?appointmentType=99320368

How can I always be emotionally evolved if I'm always evolving?I've been thinking about how much pressure we put on ourselves to be the mature one, the understanding one, the one who always knows better. Especially when you've done the healing work and people expect you to have it all figured out.But what happens when being the bigger person starts costing you your own peace?This week on Mindless Monday, we're talking about the mental rules we've created around who we're supposed to be. I'm getting into family dynamics, friendships, emotional capacity, perfectionism, triggers, and why I'm no longer interested in performing healing.Because I can understand something and still be hurt by it. I can recognize a pattern and still be learning how to change it. And sometimes, I still want to clap back. 😂The real work is learning how to question the beliefs running our lives, reconnect with ourselves, and choose differently.MIND OVER MIND — OCTOBER 29 🧠Ready to take these conversations into your own life?Join me at 7:30 PM ET for a live, two-hour masterclass where we'll explore the mental patterns influencing your decisions, work through a visual decision map, and practice choosing differently.Register: https://KiMeishon.as.me/?appointmentType=99320368THIS WEEK'S FOCUS RITUAL 🌿Beta Wave by KM Modern Apothecary is back! Our botanical tincture featuring lion's mane, ginseng, rosemary, and other botanicals traditionally associated with cognitive wellness, created with your daily focus ritual in mind.Shop Beta Wave: https://kimeishon.com/products/beta-wave-wellness-elixir-drops?srsltid=AU7gw4XXo_HhXHEcTfSZFighfBJescJad2NeF1HMnpAfyELhsrxHbdnwFollow @ki.meishon and @shopki.meishon.New Mindless Monday episodes every Monday.

I sat down to record an episode about getting out of your head… while being very much in mine. Sometimes I need the reminder, too.This week on Mindless Monday, we’re talking about overthinking, second-guessing yourself, and the stories your mind creates before anything has even happened.We explore how to recognize familiar thinking patterns, separate what’s happening from what you’re assuming, and return to the present so you can choose your next step with more intention.You don’t have to wait until every thought is quiet to move forward.Want to practice with me?Mind Over Mind — Live Virtual MasterclassOctober 29, 2026 · 7:30–9:30 PM EasternReal-life examples, guided practice and live Q&A, plus a downloadable decision map and 30-day replay access.Reserve your spot: https://KiMeishon.as.me/MindoverMindMasterclassFor personal support, book a one-on-one Alignment Coaching session:https://KiMeishon.as.me/coachingConnect with me on Instagram: @ki.meishonShop everyday rituals for body, mind & mood: kimeishon.comMindless Monday with Ki Meishon · Episode 112

Your mind is ignorant. And no, I don’t mean stupid. Your mind can only work with the information it has, and sometimes the thoughts we’re treating like truth are really old experiences, old identities, assumptions, or simply a lack of exposure to something new.This week, I’m talking about what that looks like in my life in real time, + we’re getting into impostor syndrome, identity, trusting yourself before you feel ready, and recognizing when your mind may be working from an outdated file.Plus, I’m giving you three questions to sit with this week when you catch a thought trying to run the show.Your mind gets a voice. It doesn’t automatically get the vote.

Everybody tells you to trust the journey. But what do you actually need to navigate it?This week on Mindless Monday, I’m sharing 7 things I believe you need when you’re trying to change your life: mindset, a reset, decisiveness, community, magic, protection, and joy.We’re talking about getting out of your own head, building routines that bring you back to yourself, making the damn decision, finding people who expand your world, defining magic for yourself, protecting your energy, and remembering that you don’t have to wait until you arrive somewhere else to enjoy your life.You can change direction. You can choose again. You can create another path.The journey is yours.And the joy is already in it.THIS WEEK’S RITUAL 🕯️Joy Is in the Journey — Blackberry + SageA clean-burning candle created to shift the atmosphere and serve as a visual reminder to find the joy in the life you’re living right now.25% off this week. No code needed.Shop Joy Is in the Journey:https://kimeishon.com/products/the-joy-is-in-the-journey-blackberry-sageALSO MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Boundaries Roller Protection Mist These two products are not included in the 25% off offer.

ome things aren’t meant to be held onto, figured out, or turned into something permanent.Sometimes the lesson is learning how to experience what’s here without immediately deciding what it has to become. A relationship. A friendship. An opportunity. A version of yourself. Even a season of your life.In this episode of Mindless Monday, we’re talking about our attachment to permanence, the stories we create around what happens to us, and what changes when we stop trying to force things to stay and simply let them be what they are.Maybe you don’t need to know what this is yet. Maybe you just need to be here for it.COME CREATE WITH ME 🕯️Pour Your Intention | September 26 at 2 PMCandleporium Fragrance House | Atlanta, GAWe’re getting into creativity, intention + scent through candle pouring, affirmations, breathwork, and sound meditation.RSVP: https://shorturl.at/9UtHpSHOP KI MEISHONThe Glory Is In You candles are currently 25% off.Shop kimeishon.comFollow along:Instagram: @ki.meishonShop: @shopki.meishonIf this episode found you at the right time, subscribe and meet me back here for the next Mindless Monday.

This week I'm talking about letting go: why becoming isn't about adding anything, it's about releasing who you've been attached to being. Every decision that reflects who you're growing into is a portal to a version of you the old you couldn't access.Highlighted this week: an Ashwagandha tincture supporting my nervous system through the process. 25% off this week at kimeishon.com, no code needed.

Being grounded isn't a mood.It's the skill I've had to build in real time, in real life. This episode is everything that's taught me that: mothering my daughter on the spectrum and learning to co-regulate instead of control. My marriage, and what staying present actually does for conflict. And the ex who showed me exactly who I was before I learned any of this at all.This is the throughline of everything I do grounded isn't where you land, it's the rep you build daily.Mentioned in this episode: my Stay Grounded roller — the physical anchor I reach for when I need my body to remember before my mind catches up. Shop it here: kimeishon.com