Episode 31: Michael Sugrue

Michael Sugrue is a Retired US Air Force Captain, Retired Police Officer and activist in helping Veterans and First Responders seek treatment for mental health issues, including PTSD.

Jason VanCamp is an Author, a retired Army Ranger and Green Beret, and President of MissionSixZero

Pat Welsh is an author, speaker, trainer and Pat retired as police officer with the rank of major. 0:00 This podcast is brought to you in partnership with AM300 and The Phoenix Project. For more information on both please check out AM300.com/mettle 0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro 02:02 Preston introducing Pat Welsh 03:59 Bigfoot Conversations 04:46 Pat talking about, What is a warrior servant leader? 06:57 What is our responsibility on this earth? 09:01 No greater service than being a parent to children- Preston sharing a day in the life 11:50 Pat sharing his experience of raising 5 kids working night shift. 14:40 Pat looking back into his life and journey 16:39 Absentee Parent- no regrets, have you ever accepted an apology that was never given. Forgiveness is essential to restoring relationships. 17:44 Pat talking about kicking out his son at 18 years old- forgiveness and reconciliation. 19:02 The age at when we stop hugging our kids and stop telling them we love them 20:46 God getting Pat’s attention when his wife got Cancer- Holy Moments- opportunities to get closer to God 21:48 You become what you celebrate 23:00 A word to those who are stuck in their past replaying their failure. CARE: Commit All Resources and Energy to what I say I care about 24:00  What voice are you listening to- there are two competing voices! 25:58 Accepting an apology that was never given 29:15 You will always find what you’re looking for 30:18 Preston talking about freedom he received from forgiveness he gave 33:24 Pat talking about Mother Teresa being a warrior, servant, leader. She defended what she believed. 35:30 Pat talking about being abandoned in an orphanage in Ireland. And then finding his birth mother many years later. 44:06 Don’t hold things in, Apologize, clear the air, don’t carry the burden 48:11 Abandoning the “old” self -recommitting to building a relationship with God, a journey that will never end 50:18 Deliberate decision to make a change Preston references Deliberate Discomfort by Jason Van Camp https://www.audible.com/pd?asin=B08BLRMJYT&source_code=ASSORAP0511160006 51:51 Pat mentions Overcome by Jason Redman https://www.audible.com/pd/Overcome-Audiobook/154915012X 52:34 Matthew 16:24 paraphrased - Daily deny yourself- pick up your cross and follow Christ Every day get up and intentionally choose to follow Christ. 53:59 Gold Star Family - Pat and his wife lost their son 5 years ago. 54:50 Go forward and choose 56:40 Mindset of Obedience- Obedient to what God calls us to and to the life we’re meant to live. Story of Moses. 58:49 I promise if you do the activities in this book your life will never be the same (audio link above) https://www.amazon.com/Deliberate-Discomfort-Operations-Comfortable-Uncomfortable/dp/1733428011 1:01:11 Sun Flowers face the light and if they can’t see the light they face the sun flower that can see the light 1:03:02 If you cannot find the light, look to someone who has the light and follow them until you can get the light. 1:04:40 If you are having a rough time of year- call someone. 1:05:34 Life Sentence “in one sentance what are people going to say at your funeral?” What do you want them to say at your funeral? What are you doing to live that sentence? 1:08:11 Ask for help- I’d rather sit and have a beer rather than go to your funeral 1:11:01 Thank you for spending time with us, please share this podcast, rate us a 5 star review, and make sure to follow Mettle Mentality Podcast on Social Media Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality

Tony Overbay is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Certified Mindful Habit Coach Host of The Virtual Coach Podcast Motivational Speaker Ultra Marathon Runner Author of The Path Back and Online Pornography Recovery Program 0:00 This podcast is brought to you in partnership with AM300 and the phoenix project. For more information on both please check out AM300.com/mettle 0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro 01:50 Preston introduces Tony Overbay 02:51 Tony’s Virtual Couch Podcast was the first self help podcast Preston had listened to, check in out https://www.tonyoverbay.com/?powerpress_pinw=1395-podcast 3:15 Empathy vs Sympathy - it’s what the world needs now!’ 9:24 Acceptance and Commitment Therapy- You are the only person that has been through exactly what you have been through. 12:15 Empathizing with things you can’t understand 14:36 Ego 23:22 Where does Compassion come into play? 30:11 Core Values 32:38 Core Value Authenticity 34:58 Core Value Love 41:03 Acceptance that there’s nothing wrong with you, that you’re not for everyone 43:13 The Origin of the word Should 45:05 The difference between guild and shame 49:00 Victim of Circumstance vs taking responsibility 53:54 Core Values Accountability and Integrity 1:05:39 “80% of success is being present” Woody Allen 1:06:54 Bless your heart brain, and come back to what can I do today? 1:08:01 Progress vs Comparison 1:09:07 Validation external vs internal 1:10:14 Bigfoot Conversations 1:10:55 Tony’s 30 Second Message: work from the angle of “you’re not broken” 1:12:28 Accept yourself, Love Yourself! Move Forward! 1:12:56 Homework assignment:) list the top 5 things that you value most! 1:13:42 Thank you for spending time with us, please share this podcast, rate us a 5 star review, and make sure to follow Mettle Mentality Podcast on Social Media Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality

Bonnie is a mother, real estate negotiator, creative entrepreneur, & life energy coach. Bonnie can be reached at [email protected] 801-462-5455 0:00 This podcast is brought to you in partnership with AM300 and the phoenix project. For more information on both please check out AM300.com/mettle 0:12 Mettle Mentality Intro 02:06 Preston Introduces Bonnie Barber 03:16 Bonnie talking about having courage to be Vulnerable, and growing through it 04:28 What Bonnie does and how she got to where she is 05:05 Talking about being a Personal Trainer 05:24 Talking about being a Body Builder Costume Designer 06:41 Talking about being a Real Estate Agent 07:42 Preston talking about “Got your 6” having each other's back 08:11 Competing in Body Building Competitions 10:54 Seeking validation from an external source 12:40 Are you committed or interested? 13:52 Overcoming that fear of worrying about what people think 16:22 Preston talking about overcoming fear to start this podcast 18:07 Thought creates fear, shifting from being interested to being committed.  Being willing to keep going no matter how hard it gets. 18:39 Enjoying the journey, so focused on the future and held back by the past, we miss this moment 19:26 Being your own coach with your own dreams. 20:30 Living present in the present moment- this moment is all that is promised 23:49 Blessing of the pandemic, teaching us to slow down change priorities 26:16 When we are in the darkest points, the way we get out is, build a foundation, Consistency, fortitude and grit. 27:00 Bonnie talking about her darkest time and how she uses busy-ness as her numbing tool and overcoming it with crying and letting it all out, resetting and doing it again. 30:09 Foundation of Hope, where to find it, create it.  Meditation, asking for a sign, 32:59 Changing your perspective 35:00 Mantras having them and thinking about how we talk to ourselves 36:00 Negative Self Talk- Preston mentions Trever Moawad here is a link to his youtube channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvzYoc4rkqyE6LDKQDseDNg 37:20 How to validate yourself - Making a list of things you Value about yourself 43:12 Get comfortable being uncomfortable 45:12 Realizing that you aren’t where you want to be, consumption vs action of learned information 45:54 Learning to Let go 48:28 Importance of meeting people, making friends and shared missions.  Appreciation people that come in to your life in lots of different ways. 50:06 Seeing more in people than they see in themselves, being that person that brings their greatness to light for the first time 53:20 Bonnie references “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. Link Here for audio book: https://amber-allen-publishing.mykajabi.com/offers/TbEXBXBk/checkout Keeping promises-especially the ones you make yourself. 58:05 The impossibility of insecurity.  What if it was impossible to be insecure, how powerful would you be? 1:02:12 Thank you for spending time with us, please make sure to follow the Mettle Mentality Podcast on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @MettleMentality.  Know you Matter.

Steven Aragón is a recreational therapist and a retired member of the Coast Guard. Show Notes 0.00 Thank you to our sponsor visit am300.com/mettle 0.12  Intro 2:13 Welcome & Introduction of our guest Steven Aragón. 3:31 Big Foot or Extraterrestrial Aliens Conversation. 5:38 Steven Introducing himself, how he got into doing what he's doing. 6:26 Steven talking about Ski Trip for Disabled Veterans, 3 day ski trip. 10:14 Steven talking about his military experience. 13:28 Steven talking about the MWR (Morale Welfare and Recreation) Program a d explaining how it is with in the military for for members and their families.  All honorable discharged military members have access to the program. 16:56 Steven talking about life events that have defined who he is as a person. 19:32 Steven talks about Wild Land fire fighting, going out on Hot Shot Crews, "It was hard but we did it together." 20:15 Preston talking about forming a team and insulating yourself through hard times. 20:46 Steven talking about how having a team has meant to him. 21:09 Camaraderie 22:50 Preston talking about respect he has for all in uniform. 23:51 When you're not alone during sucky times, it makes sucky times a lot easier. 24:17 Talking about suffering and hardship, how it makes you stronger. 25:36 Steven talking about empathy and how it has helped his journey. 26:54 Making the choice to serve others! This is who you are. We need more people like this in life! 28:07 Steve talking about how helping Veterans realize that they are unbroken has impacted his life. 29:48 We aren't tied to our triggers, we can make a different choice. Use what Natures Given US! 31:56 Losing our Purpose when we get out of the Military. 32:40 Purpose of Service even though I can't stand you, I'll be here for you. 33:42 Steven talking about Core Values of having community and giving back to that community 35:30 If I'm not being of service then I'm not being my authentic self. 36:12 Reflection of screwing up and find the ways to grow. 36:30 Letting insecurities get in the way of caring for others. 38:08 Wearing a mask realizing that taking it off is the key. 39:14 People who must serve others, we are not aware of the number of people who just want to help others. 40:20 If you feel Broken, if you feel Hopeless, You are not Alone.  There are people out there who want to help you. 40:56 Preston sharing his story of co-worker soldier that took his own life recently. 42:02 Steven's 30 second message:  I'm here, you don't have to say anything, just know you are not alone. 43:54 To reach Steven contact him [email protected] 45:24 Thank you for being here, please share this podcast with someone you know who could benefit by it. You can find us on Instagram, facebook and twitter @mettlementality

Marco Lopez is a mindset coach, he works with business's and individuals within the U.S. and internationally, to quiet the noise and achieve deeper mindset changes. For more information about what Marco does visit www.mindtunenow.com 0:00 Thank you to our sponsors AM300.com/Mettle 0:12 Opening 2:07 Preston introducing guest Marco Lopez mindset coach at [email protected] 5:10 Marco talks about optimizing minds, optimizing thinking and optimizing time. 7:55 Marco talks about delegating things to the subconscious mind. 10:45 Marco talking about how to use your mind in the right way 13:01 Marco talking about what each mind is really good at. s really good at. 14:26 Preston talking about how the show was named using techniques Marco is talking about 16:58 Marco talking about keeping conscious mind calm. 18:32 Preston asks, “How do we be present in the moment?” Marco answers. 20:10 We all have mental noise, not everyone talks about it, but we all have it. 21:45 Four connections needed to move from noise to S-O-N-G. 31:37 Purpose of life is to help others. 33:10 Preston talking about how finding your WHY, and then moving forward. 39:59 Mental noise is our own insecurities. 35:37 If you want to do something good, you have to go against the force. 39:36 Talking about Victim State of Mind 41:39 Finding the Power in all situations 42:02 Victim V.S. Resistance 42:17 Marco references Victor Frankel’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning. https://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/0807014273/ref=sr_1_2?crid=38LGPO4Q31NGN&dchild=1&keywords=victor+frankel+mans+search+for+meaning&qid=1598850218&sprefix=victor+frankel%2Caps%2C280&sr=8-2 42:56 Preston talking about 80% of success is being present and wherever you go, there you are. 44:54 Mentally free, tiny bit at a time. One day at a time, small successes over time. 48:07 To get in contact with Marco minetunenow.com or email [email protected]. 48:57 Mindset is the invisible factor under the surface. It’s not about What you say, its about Who you Are! 50:47 Marco’s 30 second message: There are two types of thinking, logical and intuitive thinking. Intuitive mind is the Gift, the logical mind does the work. 52:33 Thank you for being here, please share this podcast with someone you know who could benefit by it. You can find us on Instagram, facebook and twitter @mettlementality.

Will Branum is a retired 26 year Navy SEAL. He is the founder of Naked Warrior Recovery, supporting Veterans & first responders' recovery. 0:00 Sponsor Ad https://www.am300.com/mettle 0:12 Podcast Intro 2:07 Preston introducing Will Branum 4:45 Will Talking about his story 8:07 Joining the Navy to become a Navy SEAL 14:01 Will Asking CNO for Opportunity to go to SEALs Training 16:00 Talking about turning “Failure” into Massive Success 17:12 Pointing out how Will never gave up, pushed through “Failing” which made him a stronger SEAL. 19:23 If you put an obstacle in front of me I’m going to overcome it 20:04 Talking about people who said he would never make it, you don’t have what it takes. Use that as fuel or water to put out your fire. “Okay, we’ll see” 23:05 Saying, “I don’t want to be here” never happened. Singularity of FOCUS. 24:40 Will talks about his struggle after leaving the military life to civilian life, is the hardest military mission he has ever been on. 26:34 Lack of elite performer brotherhood-finding them now and becoming teammates with them 27:05 Planning the day before, laying clothes out- getting up and ready to go. Mentally Prepare for tomorrow, Today. 29:35 Will talking about Training, Planning, Contingency Plans for when life doesn’t go as planned which is almost always. 31:00 Non Profit Ad visit https://kirstieennisfoundation.com/ Using what you go through as a catalyst for your better life. See if this is something you could support. 32:45 Preston talking about Mission First. 34:24 Will talking about his mission NOW to help Veterans and First Responders recover from traumatic events.  Physical, Mental, Emotional. 34:54 Talking about using CBD to calm the fire, keep out of the red zone. 36:50 CBD Helped stay out of the red zone 39:35 For more information or to see if this is a fit for you https://nw-recovery.com/ 40:14 Will explains what Naked Warriors were. 44:09 Talking about the armor we wear, because of the intensity of life right now, never letting recovery happen. Becoming naked emotionally to let recovery happen. 46:16 Will talks about how CBD helped him drink significantly less. 46:51 Preston talking about the layers we put on to protect the true authentic self. The fear of people seeing us for who we really are. 47:28 We care too much what other people think about us. Just be a better person tomorrow than we were today. 48:06 Use promotion code “Mettle” for a 20% discount visit https://nw-recovery.com/shop/ 50:55 Finding what YOUR mission is.  What helps you, and sharing that with the world. 51:33 Will talks about his Non-CBD product Super Greens https://nw-recovery.com/product/navy-seal-super-greens-2/ 59:06 Talking about Servant Leadership-Wanting to make a great team, to make everyone around them better. 1:02:11 Overlooked and underappreciated Servant Leaders who need tools to recover, Will serves those who have served. 1:05:37 Final Question: If you had 30 seconds to talk to someone who is operating in the Red what would you say to them?  What makes you happy?  Do that!  Find a way to help other people, doing what you love.  Get good at it. DO more of what you love.  Make that your mission. Focus on what makes you happy, get there-and stay there. 1:08:12 Closing-Please share with someone you know who would benefit.   Find us on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook @mettlementality 

Leah Olszewski (AKA Superwoman) has truly been through Hell and back. As as a domestic violence survivor, she is here to show you her scars and put it all on the line because she has nothing left to lose. Leah will stop at nothing until we all realize that we are meant to to rise above it! Leah Olszewski is Co-Founder at FEMTAC, public speaker, Army Reserves Officer, and an advocate for domestic violence survivors. 0:00 AM300.com/mettle sponsor ad -please check it out 0:10 Intro 2:05 Re-Introducing Leah Olszewski 2:59 Leah talking about getting on Naked and Afraid TV Show 9:33 Preston pointing out abusers make it so that whatever you do, you're wrong. 19:16 Leah talking about how people have ideas of each other and what people close to you say that affects you 21:17 Leah talking about walking off the show  23:42 Leah talking about making a plan when things go bad, your mind is not in a right spot to think in the moment. 24:34 Know your right and left limits 25:42 Preston talking about other's perception of you.  Keeping up appearances.   26:52 Preston talking about putting a Band-aid on when we need surgery. 27:57 Non Profit Ad https://kirstieennisfoundation.com/ Please check it out 29:43 Preston continuing to talk about putting a patch on and reminding that it's the human condition- just get the help that you need-no need to judge 30:55 Grinding through Trauma -patch, solve, fix sometimes its not that way 34:38 Failing v.s. an opportunity to learn and grow 35:46  Leah talking about being "known" for domestic violence - if other's know they're not alone, know they can make it out, they can be stronger on the outside- then she is okay with that. 37:27 Preston talking about being defined by our success and how it will never be enough.  42:03 Leah talking about sticking her neck out  42:32 Leah talks about Anderson Cooper interviewing Steven Colbert -check it out https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YB46h1koicQ 44:27  Being a Victim v.s Staying a Victim. We all go through 45:39 Using your past story, as the background but the main part is what you can do beyond that.  Everybody has a story, but it's what they do with the raging fire inside of them that matters. 47:39 Preston reminding us that we are better than how we are being.  49:12 Pain is necessary for growth- sharing the stories of pain to help others move forward faster. 50:25  Preston talking about how is daughter is the reason he does what he does.  For her he decided to get help, take accountability and get on the path to having this conversation today.   59:29  Thank you for Listening. Please leave a review this podcast and give us a 5 star review, or share this podcast with others find us on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter @mettlementality.  

Leah Olszewski is Co-Founder at FEMTAC, public speaker, Army Reserves Officer, and an advocate for domestic violence survivors. E22. Getting real about domestic violence with Leah Olszewski Part 1 0:00 Sponsor Ad www.AM300.com/Mettle 0:13 Intro 2:12 Preston Introduces Leah Olszewski 2:46 Leah’s opinion on Bigfoot 3:46 Leah talking about her military experience 10:11 Leah’s Story 11:40 Leah talk about Sere School (Survival, Evasion, Resistance, and Escape (SERE) is a training program best known by its military acronym that prepares U.S. military personnel, U.S. Department of Defense civilians, and private military contractors to survive and "return with honor" in varied survival scenarios.) 15:28 Chapter 2 of her story with new relationship and small signs of abuse 16:10 Abuse Starts 18:13 Once they have you trapped abuse amps up 18:45 Threats and Extreme Abuse 19:20 Kicked while she was pregnant then miscarried 19:36 Preston calls out “This Person”  If you are the abuser, get help. Stop. Don’t abuse Kids. 20:43 Leah talking about victims feeling bad about abusers getting in trouble.  “Hey. You committed a crime-You need to pay the price for your choices.” 22:25 Nothing is ever good enough 23:05 Abuse cycle/ taking away phones, reading messages, gets worse 24:00 This is what happens in domestic violence You get roped in 24:20 People who are listening to this right now.  If abuse is happening to- YOU are NOT less because this happened or is happening to you, there is nothing wrong with you. It happens to a lot of different people 26:08 Contact Leah on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/leahmarieolszewski or email Leah@leaholszewski 27:34 Falling in love with Potential V.S. How they actually are/Internal Self Hatred/The Masks we wear 31:04 Hate yourself so much you abuse another person 32:56 Admit to what you have done and move on and be better 37:28 Intermission: Check out Non Profit https://kirstieennisfoundation.com/ 39:14 Leah talks about rebuilding after getting out of abusive relationship 39:40 6-9 Months of Depression 40:13 Action.  Take action about things you don’t like instead of just complaining. Leah mentions https://www.protectourdefenders.com/ Reach Out! 42:01 You’re not going to heal over night 42:19 Preston talks about fortitude and grit to overcome life’s struggles 43:01 Fighting Hopelessness - When Not taking your own Life feels like a victory, you’re right, it is...keep fighting. 45:58 Constant Battle- Never Give up 47:21 Leah talks about her apparel company, https://femtac.com/, performance, safety, and comfort. 49:49 Check out Mettle Mentality Podcast Website www.mettlementality.org Buy one T-Shirt get one FREE to send to someone who is struggling, or could use a pick me up. 51:03 Closing