Why “Just Love Yourself” Is Keeping You Stuck

Snarky relatives. Guilt trips. In-laws who stay a week. Dr. Ray Guarendi is back to help you survive the holidays with your sanity (and your charity) intact.In This Episode:Why you can’t change your family, and what to do insteadHow to defuse dinner table debates with one simple questionHow giving gifts away raised more grateful kidsHow to handle in-laws who treat your home like theirsGetting through grief, aging parents, and your first holiday without a loved oneWhy not reacting makes you the opposite of a doormat⁠⁠CONNECT WITH DR. RAY⁠⁠⁠Get Dr. Ray's NEW book: ⁠⁠Breaking Anxiety's Grip⁠⁠⁠Episode on Clutter⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode on Getting Along with Everyone⁠⁠CONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:Ready to get answers in your health journey? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

What if getting dressed became one of the gentlest ways to make peace with yourself again?In part two of their conversation, Flo and Mary Harper, author of The Liturgical Style Guide, talk about the clothes that feel most like us, why so many of us dress to blend in, and how letting the Holy Spirit into your mornings can restore the truth that you were made good.In This Episode:How your clothing can open the door to being knownThe truth behind repeating outfitsThe signature pieces Mary and Flo would never give up, and the stories behind themWhy clothing can be a safe, roundabout path to loving your body when the mirror still feels hardThe prayer that turns getting dressed into a moment with the LordLeave a comment on Spotify and tell us your saint clothing relic. We read every single one.CONNECT WITH MARY:⁠BOOK⁠⁠INSTAGRAM⁠CONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

In this straight-up advice episode, Flo answers a listener’s question about staying motivated on a weight loss journey. She covers the strategy: what it really takes to lose fat in a healthy, hormone-friendly way. She also covers the mindset: how to fall in love with the process of becoming the woman who can maintain it.In This Episode:What a long runway is and why it is the smartest, most hormonally friendly way to lose fat and keep it offHow to add movement without carving out hoursWhy random targets and cookie-cutter meal plans get you random resultsHow Flo approaches fat loss differentlyWhat before-and-after posts aren’t telling youHow to bring God into your weight loss journeyApply to work with us and find everything mentioned in the links below.CONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:Ready to Go All-In On Your Glow Up? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

If you've ever felt stuck in your cycle, your dating life, your career, or a habit you can't seem to keep, this Q&A episode is for you. Flo takes your Instagram questions one by one and gets to the root of each: what's actually going on, and what to do about it.In This Episode:Missing period after going raw vegan, and how to get it backGaining 40 pounds on antidepressantsHow to flirtHow to start over when you feel like a failure How Flo discerned starting The Catholic NutritionistCONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:Ready to Go All-In On Your Glow Up? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

Flo posted a video that said "just because you're Catholic doesn't mean you have to be ugly." Days later a comment rolled in: look at the saints. Rose of Lima made herself ugly on purpose. Vanity is a sin. Please don't try to normalize it.So this is the full breakdown. Flo is joined by Mary Harper (@theliturgicalstyle), author of The Liturgical Style Guide and the forthcoming What the Saints Wore, who quite literally wrote the book on dressing like the saints. Together they go to Matthew 6, the mystics, the extreme penances, and the question underneath all of it: can a Catholic woman care about her appearance? In This Episode:Why discarding your looks can be its own act of prideThe St. Martin de Porres story about "nice, neat little shoes" that will change how you judge what someone's wearingThe examination of conscience question that makes vanity clearMary's guided prayer with Our Lady in front of your mirrorThe St. Francis detail almost nobody knowsBOOKINSTAGRAMCONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

Imagine waking up on October 1st and instead of thinking "I really need to get back on track," you've got 12 workouts, a cleaned-out closet, better skin, and receipts. In this solo episode, Flo lays out the exact 12 things she'd do if she had 30 days to look and feel noticeably better, no total life overhaul, no becoming a different person, just what actually moves the needle in a month. She sorts them by how fast they pay off, tells you which ones to bust out in an afternoon, and which ones take the longest, so the sooner you start the better. In this episode:Why 12 workouts in one month does more for your brain than for your bodyThe protein question to ask before you plan a single meal, and what it fixes in your energy, hunger, and hormonesThe microwave wins that take an hour and will already show up in photos.What is secretly draining you, and how you can fix it in one afternoonThe 30-Day Glow Up Challenge starts September 1st, which means doors close August 31st.⁠⁠JOIN THE GLOW UP CHALLENGE⁠⁠SKINCARE LINKSFITNESS GOALS EPISODECONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

Somewhere along the way we confused loving ourselves with never expecting anything of ourselves. In this episode, Flo unpacks the one lie that's quietly keeping so many Catholic women stuck, the belief that wanting to change means you don't love yourself, and the one cardinal virtue that can actually get you moving.If you've been circling the same goal for years, afraid that structure and discipline will cost you your freedom or your food peace, this one's for you. Flo makes the case that you can hold two things at once: I am made good and lovable, AND there are things in my health, habits, and life I want to change.In This Episode:Why "radical self-acceptance" can quietly become self-abandonmentHow to tell whether you actually accept where you are, or you're just lying to yourself about itWhy the structure you're avoiding is far less frustrating than six more months of halfway resultsAquinas' three steps to prudence (counsel, judgment, command) and how to use them on your health goals this monthThe trellis and the garden: how to build structure that makes you blossom instead of shrinkThe script to use on yourself when you fall short, and why shame shuts your brain down completelyJoin the September 30-Day Glow Up Challenge — healthy, happy, holy, and even hotter. We start September 1st. Link below.⁠JOIN THE GLOW UP CHALLENGE⁠CONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

What if the thing standing between you and a real prayer life isn't discipline, it's the fact that nobody ever made it simple? Allan Smith, author of The Soul of a Disciple: Fulton Sheen's Meditations on the Cross, the Eucharist, and the Christian Life, joins Florencia for a conversation about Fulton Sheen, the Holy Face, and the very small habits that shape a soul. Allan spent years as a plumber before becoming one of the most published voices on Sheen in the world, and he brings the same practicality to prayer: baby steps work. One page. One scripture line. One honest "I'm here."In this episode:The Holy Face devotion the saints could not stop practicing, and the 1849 Vatican miracle behind the images you've seenA realistic framework for prayer when you work full time or have small childrenThe five-retreat path Allan believes Fulton Sheen would give us todayWhat to do when you've prayed a holy hour before and can't anymore: how to release the shame and start where you actually areThe rule that changed Florencia's prayer in collegeCONNECT ALLAN:Buy the BookGet tickets to the BeatificationCelebrate SheenBishop Sheen TodayCONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:Ready to Go All-In On Your Glow Up? ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

Hey we had some trouble posting this, ignore the Sunday deadline for early bird pricing, the deadline for early bird pricing will be 48 hours after this episode airs. Imagine it's Christmas 2026 and you're looking back at photos from this summer. Will you be proud of where you are? In this episode, Flo lays out exactly how to have an end-of-summer glow up — the mind, body, soul kind — before the year gets away from you. She covers the mistakes that stop most women before they start, the framework behind three years of her own glow ups, and the four categories to organize the whole thing around.In this episode:Why summer beats January for changing your life, and how to use the back-to-school energy of August as your on-ramp into fallThe four mistakes that will stall your glow up, including the one almost everyone makes in the first five minutesHappy, healthy, holy, hotter: the four-pillar audit that shows you exactly what's been slippingThe clothes-shopping mistake Flo made that proves why you need decision frameworks, not willpowerHow community accelerates consistency — and why glowing up in total isolation almost never worksThe honest way to talk about weight loss without shame, extremes, or pretending you don't careFlo also shares what's inside the 30-Day Summer Glow Up Challenge — daily homework, meal plans, live coaching, and yes, earnable patches. Starts August 1st, 2026.JOIN THE GLOW UP CHALLENGECONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.

What does it actually take to find deep, healing feminine friendship? In this episode, Florencia sits down with client and grad Kaelyn to pull back the curtain on the Made Good Retreat — a sold-out weekend where women who'd only ever met online became the kind of friends who want to reunite in France next year. It's a conversation about loneliness, the ache for real Catholic community, and why getting out of your environment can heal what months at home can't.In this episode:Why secular wellness retreats leave you on guard, and how the Made Good retreat is differentThe reason every single guest registered early — and the retreat sold out before the doors openedThe "roller rink" trick for finally getting into the conversation when you're the quieter oneWhat makes a woman easy to approach, safe to open up to, and the person everyone wants nearWhether you're single, married, or somewhere in between, this one is a balm for any heart longing for community. Waitlist and application linked in the show notes.WAITLIST FOR OUR NEXT EVENT:Join the WaitlistCONNECT WITH FLORENCIA:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Apply to The Made Good Method and Work With Our Team⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Follow on Instagram⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Website⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠👉Loved this episode? Share it with a friend, subscribe, and⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ leave us a review on Apple Podcasts!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Your support helps us spread the message of God’s healing and goodness.