Ep 411: Toxic AF

So this episode didn't go as planned... and I loved it! The best conversations come from moments like this! Shera the Goddess and I chop it up about how important it is to protect black women.

In this episode, I have a special guest come in to continue our last conversation on how important it is to create a safe space when it comes to pleasing your partner. As I often say, it's about the experience!

We dive headfirst into a conversation that too many men avoid — the importance of actually pleasing your partner in the bedroom. No more quickies and ego-driven performances. We’re unpacking the emotional and physical work it takes to create real intimacy, prioritize her pleasure, and stop treating sex like a selfish sprint. Fellas, if you think you’re putting in work… this might be your wake-up call.

We’re talking first date do’s, don’ts, and straight-up disasters. From phones at the table to the infamous “ghost ‘em after” exit plan, your poll responses sparked a whole convo.

It’s been damn near 2 years, but guess what? We’re back and the block is under construction! In this episode, I’m breaking down the art (and chaos) of “spinning the block” on past relationships—especially in the poly world. Buckle up, because we’re talking growth, second chances, and why some streets you just shouldn’t drive down twice. Let’s get into it!

We all know relationships have ups and downs. And we have either seen or been in a relationship thats become toxic. It seem that nowadays, relationship toxicity has not only become a source of entertainment, but its totally normalized and not taken seriously...Until it's too late. Let's talk about it.

So Im sure we all can agree that these new kids ain't shit... from a lack of respect for adults, to their total disregard for life in general.. lets talk about it. Oh yeah, those trash ass hobosexuals too!

Remember playing the game of telephone as a kid? When a group of friends gathered in a circle, to whisper a sentence to one another, and pass it along to laugh at how ridiculous the sentence gets by the time it's gone through several rounds of the group. In the end, the sentence/message is completely misunderstood. That's what happened to Kue recently and it wasn't nearly as fun as it was when we played telephone as kids. Join us this week to discuss how we dealt with it and how you can avoid experiencing something similar.

Do you think you would allow your ex to pick your next partner? Not on any malicious, get-back ish, really taking what they learned from being in a relationship you, and seeking that in a new partner for you. Interesting concept right?! We happened upon a show with this premise called After Happily Ever After. Their are many different relationship dynamics and an so much drama. Hell, they had Iyanla Vanzant come through to help the new and former couples unpack some issues. Overall, we really enjoyed it and highly recommend it! Join us this week to discuss this show in detail and find out if this form of dating could work.

Fifty percent of marriages in the US end in divorce, and finances has proven to be the number one reason for divorce. If money is the main issue for divorce in monogamous relationships, it can arguably be a bigger issue in polyamorous relationships. Join us this week to discuss some things we do to help us maintain financial stability while dating.