57. Impulsive, rules based or love led. Part 2

In this episode, I am joined by my niece, Taylor Moore Garaguso — homeschool mom, author of the children's book Neil's Treasures, and someone who lives joy-fueled and Jesus-led in the most beautiful, everyday ways. Taylor reached out to me with a story that had me in tears, and I knew immediately we had to record it. What started as a hurtful comment at a 6-year-old's soccer practice became a masterclass in how to stop, sense Jesus, receive what you need from Him, and respond in a way you never could have come up with on your own. This is conflict transformation in real life, no formulas, no rehearsed scripts, just a woman following the whisper of Jesus in a hard moment and watching offense turn into connection. Get the book Jesus Led: Cultivating a Consistent Connection with God (without having to figure it all out) today and begin your journey to turning conflict into connection!

Lk10 trains spiritual moms and dads to form Joy-fueled, Jesus-led communities of practice. In this video podcast they gather together from the US, England, Ireland, and India to share around How LK10 creates spaces for securely attached community to form What practices have been most transformative What pitfalls we should aviod in nurturing hesed community this way.

In this “Struggling to Stay Joy fueled and Jesus Led, Toni and Matt discuss the dangers of believing that God desires us to run fast and far to complete the great commission. What if we are to run when He says run and rest when He says rest and wait when he says wait? How would that change the way we approach ministry and the way we do or do not judge others?

In this “Struggling to Stay Joy fueled and Jesus Led, Toni and Matt discuss the dangers of believing that God desires us to run fast and far to complete the great commission. What if we are to run when He says run and rest when He says rest and wait when he says wait? How would that change the way we approach ministry and the way we do or do not judge others? How did Toni handle herself when she was triggered by this statement recently.

In this “Struggling to Stay Joy fueled and Jesus Led, Toni and Matt finish breaking down Spiral Dynamics and finally have the discussion of how this affects the way people approach expressing gratitude.

In this episode of "Struggling to be Joy Fueled and Jesus Led," Toni asks Matt why some people resist thanking others who have given to them. And why some may feel manipulated when they get a thank you. What goes on in someone that would make them resist sending (or receiving) a thank-you card, or a gratitude text, etc. Matt turns to the human development model of Spiral Dynamics to make sense of our differing attitudes around reciprocity. This is the first of a few podcasts on this topic.

Matt summarizes all that has been talked about regarding addictive structures and stages of moral development. Most of us are “half-baked” so to speak and the beauty of life together is that we can agree on rhythms that lead us into healthy connections with ourselves, each other and God together. Do you have healthy rhythms in your life and community that lead you into relationships? If not, go to LK10.com to learn healthy rhythms that can carry all of the people in your community, no matter what stage of development they are in.

In this episode, Matt and Toni talk honestly and openly about addiction and how the path toward freedom is a path of compassion and relational intimacy within yourself, with God, and with each other. Shame, blame, and disconnection are not helpful, yet for many of us that is the only path that has been modeled for us. Listen in to hear what it look like to walk in Love with ourselves and others when we are struggling. Start training with LK10.com today to form healthy rhythms of attention that lead you and your family into relationship and Love.

How pre-conventional impulsivity looks differently in Toni than in Matt. And ways it be harnessed by Love for our good and God’s glory.

Breaking down Kohlberg's Stages of Moral Development helps Matt and Toni make sense of some of the strong emotions going on inside of her when she comes up against rules-based Christians, why some people are so afraid of the Way of Love and how often our motives (even Toni's) are really about avoiding pain.